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How to Get Her to Lose Weight

Updated on May 27, 2009

Sex appeal matters, and anyone who says otherwise is either lying or self-delusional. That being said, sex appeal is totally in the eye of the beholder and one's man's chubbette is another man's goddess. This article is not intended to label any size as preferable, but rather to make the point that sex appeal really does matter when it comes to keeping people happy and content in relationships -- if sex appeal didn't matter, y'all would just be friends, right? Right. Therefore, maintaining your original size is significant, as putting on more weight would alter whatever it is that your partner originally found attractive (unless, of course, they have a BBW preference). This applies to both men and women, but this article will be addressing only one perspective; that of a man who wants to get his woman's weight back down to where it was when they first got involved.

1. Be encouraging!

If you want her to respond well to the following tips, you need to make sure you positively reinforce her changes in behavior. Do not give her disapproving glances, do not try to make her feel uncomfortable about her weight, do not make fun of her -- even if you think it's only gentle teasing -- as this could make her head straight for the fridge!

2. Suggest a mutual training schedule.

If you want to get your point across without pointing fingers or pissing her off, make this a joint effort. You want to approach this from the angle of just having something fun to do together -- do not make it sound like you think she can't lose weight without your help. Tell her you'd like to get more buff and you'd like a companion to train with. If you can motivate her and act as cheerleader for a bit, it shouldn't be long before you have a new and improved girlfriend or wife. If she resists going to gym, come up with something you can do at home.

3. Get her some good exercise DVDs for home use.

If she doesn't want to go to the gym, that's fine -- get her some DVDs and you'll save a ton on gym membership fees. Personally, I recommend Salsacise Workouts and Walk Away the Pounds for fun and effective weight-loss. Once she's had some weight-loss success, she can take it up a notch at the gym.

4. Cook for her.

Does she eat Krispy Creme for breakfast, lunch and dinner? Is your bed full of cookie crumbs? Does she always eat fast food because she's too lazy to cook? If you want to stop her binging at McDonalds and other such places, or if you simply want to control her portions, start cooking for her. Not only do women love it when their man cooks for them, they will sing your praises if you serve up something delicious and healthy.

5. Buy her sexy lingerie.

Buy her something fabulous that doesn't hide anything; a teddy, for example. Tell her how sexy she would look in it and ask her to try it on for you. Knowing that you want to see her in this, but also knowing that she'd like to be a bit more fit before she models it, may help to motivate her get fit more quickly.

6. Offer to take her on holiday when she's bikini-ready.

Once she's started a fitness routine (hopefully in conjunction with yours) offer to take her somewhere exciting. Somewhere she can show off her sexy body when she reaches a size she's happy with. It needn't be an exotic location, just somewhere fun and exciting.


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    • nikitha p profile image

      nikitha p 

      8 years ago from India

      Interesting hub! I like it.

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      Black sheep 

      8 years ago

      Paper Moon you are an idiot! Love has nothing to do with sex appeal. I love my wife more than anything,and have been happily married to her for 5 years. She is 70lbs heavier now than when we met.Do I love her? HELL YEAH! I could not ask or want a better wife. Do I find her as attractive as when we met? No I don't. She is a beautiful woman but the weight needs to go. Society has not dictaed anything to me.I know what I like and what I don't and it has NOTHING to do with society or anything else other than the ability to get an erection when my wife gets naked.

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      9 years ago

      Say it like it is, Isabella! Ladies, when the man suggests you lose a few pounds he's not being an ass, just honest! And if he notices it then you can be sure everyone else you are close with does too but is probably too kind to tell you... Do some exercise! Put that burger down! Hell, have more sex! Call me crazy but I want to keep my man thinking I am attractive...

    • Isabella Snow profile imageAUTHOR

      Isabella Snow 

      9 years ago

      In the first paragraph I state pretty clearly that this has nothing to do with being a specific size and has nothing to do with being "slim". Love is important but it's very little to do with sex appeal at the biological level.

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      Paper Moon 

      9 years ago from In the clouds

      If he loves her, he will find her sexy. Thick thin or whatever. Society places such an importance on slim, that guys are gullible to expecting it out of what is supposed to be sexy. What should be sexy is what you see in her eyes, her reactions to you. One perspective be damned, most women are not Twiggy, and if they are, great. But too many guys expect Twiggy out of their relationship. Then after the baby and she gets bigger, they start having issues. These issues lead all sorts of unhealthy places.

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      sabu singh 

      9 years ago

      Interesting hub Isabella. Another perspective is society pressure at different points in time. It could be the slim look today and the plump look tomorrow


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