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How to Get Over a Fear of Death

Updated on June 19, 2013

What are Life and Death and how are they Related?

Life and Death are two words that go together. They are like the 2 sides of a coin. When we experience life, cells within us are always multiplying, growing and eventually dying off but then the cells follow the same cycle umpteen times.

The same way, life and death, follow the same journey as the cells in our body.

Life is such a beautiful creation, we rejoice at it, and we celebrate it but, unfortunately; when death comes, we do not part with the person's body in a happy way...The attachment to the person and the memories make us sad.

Life and Death have a similar meaning but in a different context. When we get a life, we get a body with a soul and get to experience all the joys and sorrows of our previous karma's.

When death comes, our body is given away in the fire or buried and, our soul is liberated. Once the soul is liberated, we are accountable for our deeds. And depending on our Karma's, we get another birth.

A Hub, "What happens to our soul, when we die" explains what happens once our soul is accounted for its' actions.

What happens to the Soul after the Judgement Day?

Once the Soul has been accounted for it's deeds with the past body, a new body is given to us depending on what grade we passed out. We could get the body of an animal or bird or another human being depending on our previous deeds.

What is Soul Connection?

This soul has a new body now and will make new friends and family. I believe this soul will make friends, which were of his acquaintance of his previous lives. So, when a body dies, we should not feel sad since this soul is going to meet us with another body and will undoubtedly interact with us in lifetimes to come. The soul connection is an extremely strong bond and even though the bodies will keep changing, our souls will not fail to meet up.

We should realize that just as Life is a part of nature so, is Death. We have no option of deleting that part from our lives. We have to be at peace when we realize that our time has come to say Adios to our loved ones and be at peace within our self.

I believe that the number of lives we live will help us clean out our previous karma's, which will eventually put us in a better state of consciousness, and our soul will be in a much better state or should I say that our soul will have seasoned out, and that will help our soul to unify with the Almighty and thus liberate us from the cycle of life and death.

My earlier belief on death was to mourn over the loss, but recently when I saw my Dad suffer to Cancer and while seeing him in so much pain and suffering. It made me realize that life is better at the other junction i.e. the after life where he will be pain free and will be able to move around easily. I had no alternative but to think of that and embracing Death was the only way that he will get solace and peace since these cancerous cells had spread all over the body and there was no way to kill them.

I realized that fearing over Death is not an option and just as we feel overjoyed when we see a new life emerge; the same way we ought to embrace Death as a beginning to a new journey since a new body will be given which will be so pure and soft and that I will have my soul connection with all my loved ones.

However, the above example made me mentally prepare for the journey beyond Death, and I could accept it with open arms.

A sudden loss of someone you love

Sure, there will be shock and dismay and one would question such as WHY? But then, we all know that life is a journey, and maybe our journey with that person was only till that point.

Being unattached to the particular situation will help us heal faster, and get up and get moving.

Ponder on this...

In this hustle bustle of our daily life we should not forget the core of our happiness and contentment.

We have to accept Death and be prepared for it since; it cannot be avoided and Yama (the Lord of Death) does not come with a knock on the door.

Let us open our arms to the word Death and discuss it as openly as we discuss our plans for the weekend. This will only help us prepare well and enlighten us.

Let us be prepared with all the necessary paperwork for our families to fall back upon when we are not around. Death and Birth are the inevitable.


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    • Ruchira profile imageAUTHOR


      5 years ago from United States

      Thanks for your elaborate comment Anshul.

      When I mentioned, "justice to it" I had no intention of nailing it in anyways since there is no proof about our existence before and after our birth/death. All this while, man has been speculating about it, and I think I also tried to "scratch the surface of it" more so cause the research presented by our brethren has not been convincible enough for me to dig deep and make sense out of it.

      This was just a mild read and apologize if "justice" word made you wanna dig deep into this article since I still have a long way to go to answer any of your queries, which incidentally is all theory without any actual proof.

      However, with respect to losing a soul, and the reassurance to meet that soul in some form or the other is convincing. I also feel that the souls that we touched in a +ve/_ve way will also be interacting with us based on our deeds, where karma comes into action. This soul can take the form of any body depending on his karmas!

      Once again, thanks for an enlightening response. Wishing you well!

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      Blasphemous Aesthete 

      5 years ago

      This theory is very intriguing indeed, you see, and I could easily conjecture from it a theory which did gain certain momentum in the field of science - the strings theory.

      You say "This soul has a new body now and will make new friends and family. I believe this soul will make friends, which were of his acquaintance of his previous lives. So, when a body dies, we should not feel sad since this soul is going to meet us with another body and will undoubtedly interact with us in lifetimes to come. The soul connection is an extremely strong bond and even though the bodies will keep changing, our souls will not fail to meet up."

      If this means that we ONLY meet with the souls we met first, that would be a hopeless situation, by the sheer monotonic aspect of it, and going by the theory that it all started with 'Manu' or 'Adam and Eve' or 'Adam aur Hauuwa', it is worth noting that either the rest of the souls were in Animals (a few of them were Adam and Eve's acquaintances, but not all), and two of them initially transcended into human forms. Thereafter, more and more animals got to be humans, which must have been a result of their good 'Karma'.

      If that were so, there could be at least two conclusions - the sum total of all souls is constant and that souls are indivisible (excluding the theory of the Parbrahma which essentially means all in one, one in all). But given that humans have grown substantially, it would be funny that all animals be promoted to being humans (thus more and more species becoming extinct by the same amount more and more human population rises), and commit such atrocities that no other animal is known to have, and suddenly, the human form is demoted to a lower rank, such that you've to do good Karma to be born, say, a Lion, and must cleanse yourself in the Human form in the next cycle, by paying for your misdeeds in the previous life. Anyhow, this would mean that we are essentially meeting the same people, nothing NEW is happening given that we started with an incomplete state in the first place.

      If we also make new connections in our lifetimes, then the situation is more benign, and it might be said that, given the number of times our souls have taken a body form and made new connections, we should now be connected to most of the other souls.

      Maybe THAT is the aim of all this conundrum, to be connected to everybody, every soul - which is one of the interpretations of the 'String Theory' as far as I know. Everything is connected, everything affects everything in this world. And that is why we say that the flapping of wings by a newly formed butterfly is causing Tsunamis in some other parts of the universe (which is a philosophical statement and not given by the String Theory people).

      Then, isn't such a pursuit worth in the living self, to consciously KNOW that we are connected, and to be able to communicate using that connection? Wouldn't that be fascinating? Then tell me, why would one die, once one has understood the meaning of it all? Perhaps that person wouldn't.

      If you ask for my honest opinion, of 'did justice to it', I'd say you didn't even scratch the surface. It is eloquent, and it does explain how YOU became friends with death, by embracing a flowery picture of the other side, the Karma theory. But I suspect that no one, me included, can do justice to it. It is a body of philosophy, one believes what one grows, it cannot be transferred, not at least to the discerning, but to those who want someone else to do the thinking on their part, who don't reason, but just believe blindly. So, I didn't do justice to it either, fortunately, justice was never my forte, or my intention, so I am okay with that.


      Blasphemous Aesthete

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      Gary Eby 

      6 years ago from Cave Junction, Oregon

      Thank you for your comments about my Hub: Positive Beliefs Heal. Near Death Experiences support the positive belief that consciousness is eternal; therefore we have nothing to fear. Peace and Light...Gary.

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      6 years ago

      Very well written hub Ruchira, I definitely believe that we should treat others as we wish to be treated. I believe in the resurrection hope which takes the sting out of death. I don't know how people cope that don't have a faith. Heading towards nothingness forever.

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      Rajan Singh Jolly 

      6 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar, INDIA.

      Very interesting analysis Ruchira! I agree life and death are inevitable and the more acceptable we are to this fact the more easy it will be bearing the loss of a loved one. More so, in the realization that all of us connect with our loved ones in the next life.

      Great job!

      Voted up.

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      Dianna Mendez 

      6 years ago

      I do believe death is just a door to a new beginning. My Christian faith holds that all life is a spiritual journey and it does not stop with our earthly death. Your words are very enriching and also encourage many to know that death is not the end.

    • Ruchira profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from United States

      Well said, Lipnancy. It sure is a very difficult battle of emotions, but humans are strong to overcome it. Time is a big healer. Wishing you the best!

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      6 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      Ruchira..this is a beautifully written and profoundly Spiritual look at death. I have much the same belief and faith in the afterlife as you do. May I ask if your connection is with the Buddhist Faith? Such comforting visions are so necessary for the loved ones left behind to grieve the loss of someone they held so dearly.

      Thank you for this, Ruchira. Your hubs are always inspirational...UP+++

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      Ruby Jean Richert 

      6 years ago from Southern Illinois

      I used to fear death until i became a believer in a life after death, call it reincarnation or whatever one believes. The thought of seeing my mother and two sisters again fills me with anticipation and joy. I in no way want to leave this earth but i am not afraid. I love life, my son and grandchildren and friends make living a joy. I throughly enjoyed this Ruchira. Thank you for sharing.

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      Linda Bilyeu 

      6 years ago from Orlando, FL

      "Death and Birth are the inevitable" ... Amen to that Ruchira. We have no choice to accept both. Yet, birth is always exciting while death isn't.

      By the way...cancer sucks.

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      Nancy Yager 

      6 years ago from Hamburg, New York

      In my own case, I think that I used to fear death of loved ones so much, that I was missing out on their life. What I did not understand was, after your love ones dies, they are then with you every moment, therefore it really is not to be feared.

    • Ruchira profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from United States

      Thanks Audrey. Appreciate it coming from you.

      Thanks tillsontitan.

      Thanks Kelly. Yes, I matured a lot after his demise.

      Thanks Nithya. Gotta die to get a new body since this body is dying every second (cells multiply and we age) unless the birth is halted or else it will be very very crowded on this planet.

      Thanks Tim. Yes, this kinda topic does require a beer and a warm seat to discuss many things in life :) cheers!

      thanks Mhatter99. Wishing you the best!

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      Martin Kloess 

      6 years ago from San Francisco

      Thank you for sharing this insight.

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      Tim Mitchell 

      6 years ago from Escondido, CA

      Nice in my comment lingo means 'speechless.' This is 'nice.' I offer my respect for your loss and happiness shared for your discovery. Sharing this causes pondering to say courageous or is natural more in tune.

      I remember when in my twenties I planned my funeral. There was none. Instead I shared with my brother how to spend the insurance money. A picnic with volley ball, bar-b-que, kegs, sodas, and horseshoe pitching of course. At least one band that could play rock-n-roll straight or southern, blues, and jazz. I asked only a picnic table be marked here is where sharing with tim occurs. Grab a brew, have a seat, and let's talk . . . I think this hub shared, Ruchira, revived that attitude, so again, I say - nice!


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      Nithya Venkat 

      6 years ago from Dubai

      Great hub an wise words. Yes, we have to learn to accept the realities of life. I sometimes wonder why one has to die? I also wonder what GOD is doing up in heaven when all awful things happen on earth? No answers yet. Great up once again and voted up.

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      Kelly Umphenour 

      6 years ago from St. Louis, MO

      So sorry about the loss of your father Ruchira. I have seen some really young people pass away so no matter how long I live, I remeber that I am so lucky because I have had so many great years.

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      Mary Craig 

      6 years ago from New York

      I just finished Deborah's piece about death...yours and hers are very similar. We cannot avoid death and no matter what our religions or beliefs are, our faith will see us through. I like how you said we should be prepared for death...we can do that by living a good life.

      Voted up and interesting.

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      Audrey Howitt 

      6 years ago from California

      Such a valuable lesson here Ruchira! Sharing this!


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