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How to Move Past a Broken Childhood
It is happening all around the world
Neglect, physical abuse, sexual abuse, mental torture and other types of child abuse are high in occurrence around the globe as we can see in the figures shown.
More than 5 children die every day due to various types of abuse faced by them at the hands of
Relatives: Hard to believe but relatives like uncles and distant siblings often arise in numerous cases
School Bullies, sometimes teachers and staff
And so many other situations
To your surprise as you finish reading this article, one child would already have suffered abuse of some sort!
Me as a child suffered a unique form of abuse! I saw my parents fight for more than over ten years; they loved me individually but not as whole; I developed communication gaps with my father due to his excessive controlling nature. The abuse I suffered was mental but I was blessed to realize that I have one precious life and have to make the most of it for my sake, My life’s sake!
What I Did and What I Recommend
You have survived somehow, and you can think more.Now I center your attention friends to some ways regarding hoe to move over such a broken past! Most of them are derived from personal experience and observation:
1. Find a way to move out
One thing which will help you is that you move out of that atmosphere and go on your own. It might be difficult, but it will be better than the torture. By moving out you eliminate the entire evil environment which was around you. It is just like breathing loads of fresh air after recovering from an asthma attack!
When I was ready for college, I did not listen to anyone and just moved a 1000 miles away from my home. It is far better. It feels good to pay my college fee myself and moreover I got rid of the torture.
2. Observe and Realize it was not your fault
It is very important to realize that it was never your fault. All the crappy things shouted and gushed into your brains were words of cowardice and deceit. Do not fall for them. Do not feel bad. People were responsible for what happened, not you!
Don’t feel that you were a bad son/ daughter, you were too good, and it is them who were bad!
3. Gain strength from what happened
Man has always gained strength from the pain he has suffered. Why leave yourself behind. Use your pain as your strength. You are big now. Use the pain to generate anger and stop such an event, create awareness. Use your pain to heal yourself by developing it as a personality trait.
For me Pain became my best friend, it taught me how to handle work pressure, peer pressure, emotional pressure and trust me, if you utilize your pain regarding these skills, there will be no manager better than you.
4. Do not isolate yourself
The first people you met in your life were bad. This does not mean all of them are! Meet new people. Make new friends. Some of them will be really good. Trust me, god has connections always ready for us. I have met some fantastic people in my life and made best of friends.
Having company distracts your mind from the haunts and trauma of the past, boosts your confidence and makes you a better individual. Not necessarily, you will find all good people, but you will find a few and you will cherish them for sure.
5. Motivate Yourself
There are many methods of self-motivation. Many books and movies I indulged in on moving out helped me know myself better and motivate myself towards greater goals in my life rather than sticking on to the trauma and nightmares. Such self motivational stuff not only distracts you but develops you in a holistic manner.
Some Books you may try:
Some Movies you may watch
6. Don’t go to Drugs, Smoke and Booze! It’s Abuse all over gain
Especially recommended! I have tried it and suffered! It will take you to deeper sides of hell and trauma you have never seen. Drinking and drugs can just end you, destroy your inner self and make you an animal. You will be filled with all the more guilt and frustration.
For all those who wish to move out ( everybody does) , party but don’t drug, It will again be the tyrant abusing your soul!
7. Find Skills in your pain
Your pain can give you the passion, motivation and skill for various arts or just about anything! I bring out my pain in poetry and singing, so could you… and trust me… with the world going global on everything, you could be a success story.
Pain can bring the inspiration of achieving various goals, both long term and short term.
You can always join Hubpages and write and share anything you want! Trust me you will be mesmerized and rejuvenated by the response you get
8. The Past is always to learn from and move on
History and happenings are always meant to show us THEIR flaws , observe by the power of observation given to us by god and move over them, not to repeat the mistakes again!
Being a responsible human learn from the sins you suffered and vow not to commit such deeds of evil. Just do this and throw the past in the bin. It is not worth keeping after all.
Drugs Kill You... And they Increase your Pain
9. Your Life is a Gift, Don’t Disrespect it like they did
If you stick to the trauma and pain, you do as much injustice to your life as they did. You were blessed with human life, so make the most of it! You have got only one life, live it as hard as you can, at least just to please yourself
10. You are A free man/ woman
Lastly, you are bestowed with the most fundamental right, you are free. You need to remember that no one and nobody have direct control over your life and your activities, so do not succumb to any one! If someone forces you to something, complain to the authorities right away.
It is your life and you have been provided facilities to make it secure. Use them when you need them!
Getting abused as a child is not easy to forget, trust me, I know the feeling. The dark painful images, the nightmares, the painful unheard cries, it is too much to bear and can haunt you for a lifetime!
But God has bestowed upon us the power to survive, adapt and observe from what happens around us and with us! Remember that friends.
The points mentioned above really helped me fight my nightmares and move towards a better existence. I hope they help you too!
An Earnest Request
Last but not the least, I would like all the readers to spare a thought for the abused and tortured and take a step to support them and create awareness about the ongoing and persisting menace of child abuse.
May God give peace to all those souls of children who suffered at the hands of evil
Every Child is Special…..
Have you ever experienced Child Abuse
If Yes then What Kind of Abuse
© 2012 Jessee R