How to feel content in life?
Count your blessings.
How many times have you felt that you are not as lucky as your friends, colleagues or relatives? ‘He has a big car which I do not have, he owns a swanky bungalow which I can never hope to build, and he is so successful whereas I lead a life of abject drudgery.’ I am sure most of you feel the same way about your life.
Why do you feel lacking? Is your life so deprived that you view the life of others with a sense of loss. When you observe, you will realize that you feel frustrated by the outer show of wealth by others. Cars, bungalows, the richness they show and the respect they get from the society all make you feel completely apprehensive about your life.
‘I do not have a big car’.
‘I do not live in a wealthy neighborhood’.
‘My house is a rat hole’
‘My spouse is plain and ordinary while the spouse of my colleague is gorgeous\handsome’.
All these complaints you have about your life points to the outer aspect of life. Do you think having a latest car, or living in a big bungalow all symbolizes happiness in your life? Then people who own all these things must be the happiest lot. Ask them how they feel about life and they too will spell out their deprived list.
This is the fact about life. Outer wealth is your status symbol and not a pointer to your happiness. When you are not content with what you have , you keep seeking what others have. What do you think the result will be when you want more and more? You will feel more and more depressed and frustrated by the things you do not have and you do it without knowing that it does not have any connection to your inner happiness.
Contentment, like happiness, is a state of mind. You cannot have everything the world has and when you think that you are a lesser person because you have fewer worldly possessions than others, your life will never be fulfilling for you.
Take a piece of paper and write down what are the things you want to make you content in life. I am sure you will write about all the good and wealthy materialistic things that will show you as an affluent person. Well, let us suppose you are able to acquire all that you desire, can you tell me what the ratio of your contentment will be? Are you scratching your head in bewilderment? You know that the materialistic things you crave for can never make you happy.
Now take a paper and write down the things in your life which can give you contentment.
- You have a good and supporting spouse.
- You have good children.
- You are healthy.
- You are mentally alert.
- You have good parents.
Can such things be bought by money? Of course they cannot. They are blessings from God. These are the true things that should mean more for you than anything else in the world. But you never count your blessings to sense contentment, but feel that you are missing something in your life and feel aggravated and frustrated.
Whenever you have small success, you should feel contentment and it will make you work even harder to fulfill your desire for success. The smallest of car you have bought should make you contented as you have bought it with your hard work. Instead if you curse your luck for having to buy such a small car, you will have to wait for a long, long time to feel happy in your life.
Do you read the newspapers? Do you read about the accidents, or the plight of people in the war ridden countries? It is heart rending and you will not want to place yourself in their position. You live in a peaceful country and have a healthy life. Why don’t you feel happy about it?
‘Do you mean to say that I should be content with mediocrity in life?’ you ask with agony.
Your question is noteworthy and does need some thoughtful thinking. Mediocrity in life should never be tolerated and you should not meekly submit to it. You should fight against it and go towards being successful. But to yearn for something you do not have and to overlook the good things in your life is depriving yourself of all happiness in life.
‘To be content you must not focus on what you’re short of, but rather cherish the little on your side and don’t forget to learn how to get what you lack from the little you’ve earned.’ –Pascal Einstein.
You should snuggle up to the blessings God has bestowed on you and feel comfortable and relaxed about life. Everything in life is within your reach and you have just to stretch yourself to get what you sought after. Instead of being totally focused on the outer affluence, you should also seek that inward affluence you always seem to ignore-contentment.
Are you content with your life.
© 2013 mathira