- Aging & Longevity
How Elderly Abuse Starts at Yelling
Nobody really wants to abuse their elderly parents. Most people would never dream of abusing their parents. Taking care of someone who has constant needs can where your patients. Most elderly suffer from some form of abuse under someones care. Whether its from their own kids or a nursing home.
Nobody Wants to Abuse There Parents but it Happens
Everyday there are reported cases of elderly abuse. The abuse can occur anywhere in a hospital,
nursing home or even in the home of the elderly. You can be the abuser. Taking care of your elderly parents is never
easy. The frustration gets overwhelming and
Although nobody wants to be abusive toward there elderly parents it happens because you do not get sufficient help. Before you started caring for your parents you could go anywhere without watching your watch. You could just go whenever you wanted too. This can be quite difficult when your elderly parents cannot be left alone.
Just going to the grocery store becomes a problem. Even if you manage to get a nurse you always feel rushed.
Trying to get even the simplest projects around the house completed is near impossible because of having to stop what you're doing several times to help your elderly parent with some sort of need.
The doctor’s appointments over a period of time get overwhelming. You as the caretaker become resentful because you’re finding yourself in the doctors office more then anywhere else.
Convincing an elderly person to bathe or be bathed can be difficult.
Even the simplest things get on your nerves after a period of time. The abuser doesn’t want to yell and scream at there parents but often regrettably do because of the stress and aggravation.
Nursing homes are an alternative. Honestly the ones I personally have had any experience with even the high dollar nursing homes. They appear nice but too often. I have visited only to question why my mother has the same clothes on she had on 4 days ago. Why does she smell of a strong urine odor?
I also see that the nursing home patients just sit around sleeping in there wheel chairs not having any social stimulus.
Visiting nurses are great! The problem with visiting nurses they change often unless you’re lucky enough to get the same nurses. The other problem is they come on a schedule and some times you may not need them or want them that day. Then there are days you’re pulling your hair out and just need to get away for a few hours but it seem when that happens there is no nurse scheduled to come.
Friends and family promise to help at any time but they always have something more important to take care of. People that have never had to take care of someone else are quick to judge.
They can’t see why you need help? All they see is this sweet old man or old lady. They think honestly! How much trouble can they be because there not there 24/7. They usually come for short visits so they don’t understand. Why your sitting there crying and pulling your hair out?
With all that being said you’re not alone although it feels like you are. It’s easy to lose control of your anger when you’re in a situation such as this or worse.
If you find yourself yelling at your elderly parents more then showing them love or forcing them to take a bath when there not willing. It might not be out right abuse but it’s a negative energy that is projected on your loved one.
This is when you should seek extra help. If you keep going like you are you will become very resentful to your elderly parents. This can cause you to hurt the one you love the most.
When you’re feeling overwhelmed, angry and frustrated here is some suggestions to get some temporary relief when you can’t get away or get help.
Call someone you trust. Someone who is a good listener or offers suggestions that will make things easier for you.
Get on the Internet there are a lot of forums and groups that you can join. You will see real quickly you’re not alone. Reading other caregivers or caretakers stories really helps you don’t feel so alone.
Sharing your story helps you a lot and it helps others that can relate to you.
Read the suggestions other caretakers share to make caretaking easier. Share your tips get involved with the people who you relate to the most.
Last but not least take care of yourself. Get plenty of rest eat properly and take care of your hygiene. When you’re a caretaker and your so focus on someone else’s needs you tend to forget your own needs.