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I Do Not Feel Old!

Updated on August 19, 2013
80 years young
80 years young

I Don't Know About You But I Don't Feel Old

When I was younger (not so long ago) I thought 50 was about as old as a person could get. Then, as I entered my 30s and 40s and saw how quickly 50 was approaching me, I considered 60 to be the ‘old age’ mark. Then the inevitable happened—I started to creep very close to 60! I had to recognize that retirement was around the corner.

What is happening? I am still so young!

Being called a ‘senior’ was bad enough! But being called an ‘elderly’ person was just outrageous! So I started saying I was “North of 55.”

Now don’t get me wrong. Now that I am over 60, I don’t mind receiving ‘concession’ rates on buses or receiving seniors’ discounts at stores (although they no longer ask me to prove I am a senior), I just don’t want to be considered ‘old’.

Functional Age vs. Chronological Age

I soon learned that chronological age does not correlate perfectly with functional age. For example, two people may be the same age but differ in their mental and physical capacities. And it is functional age that can make the difference in where we live and how we live.

In order to live in a world dedicated to the young, beautiful and active, I had to learn what it is that makes a person feel young no matter what their age.


Photo of Anna Pavlova 1881-1931 - Prima ballerina of the St. Petersburg Imperial Theatres - in the title role of the ballet Giselle
Photo of Anna Pavlova 1881-1931 - Prima ballerina of the St. Petersburg Imperial Theatres - in the title role of the ballet Giselle

Living Independently, Living Successfully

Part of feeling young as a senior today is maintaining your sense of independence. Being able to continue to do many, if not most, of the things you used to do and enjoyed doing is one of the best ways to continue to feel young.

If your greatest joy in life was being a prima ballerina, you may find you can not keep up this activity to the same extent as you used to. What if, however, you also enjoyed photography. Why not photograph young ballerinas just beginning their dancing career? Or if you enjoy writing or teaching, why not write about your experiences or teach, at least some aspect of being a great ballerina, to young aspiring dancers.

Although I was never a prima ballerina, I was used to being involved in many creative activities while balancing studying for a master’s degree, while traveling extensively for work, while getting married, and while managing a large house and garden. It took a great deal of energy, good physical and emotional health, as well as the ability to coordinate tasks and priorities.


I have some assistance at home now, so I have the time to go out and enjoy a cup of tea.
I have some assistance at home now, so I have the time to go out and enjoy a cup of tea.

Oh No! I Can’t Do All the Things I Used to Do!

I found I could no longer weed the garden for as long as I used to. I could no longer get all my housework done in a whirlwind of frenetic activity. And I found that I could not prepare a holiday dinner for family and friends, decorate, and clean-up afterwards without help.

And, that is the key. I found I could not do all the things I used to do without help!

Regaining a Sense of Independence

Part of feeling young (for me) was regaining and maintaining my earlier sense of independence. I realized I couldn’t do all the things I used to do, but, I also realized that if I had some help in some areas of my life then I could do more of the things I enjoyed.

It wasn’t easy asking for help, but I soon got over that!


If I want the best quality of life I can have now and in the future then I need information and resources.

There are many sources of information on what kinds of assistance are available to seniors: financial, in-home help, mobility devices, etc. This is the topic of my next hub/article. In this article I would like to mention a few types of Assistive Devices that are relatively inexpensive and can help a senior live longer in their home.

Types of Assistive Devices

When the everyday activities of living start to become burdensome or when a senior could use some help with daily routines, assistive devices can be the difference between home-bound isolation and actively engaging in life. It is not easy to call someone every time you need to open a jar, button a shirt, or make a hot meal. I did not realize how many people face this dilemma every day. It saddens me to think that my neighbor could use the tiniest bit of attention from me to make her life significantly better and I do not even know this small need exists.


Assistive Devices for Seniors

Grab bars around tub.  Notice tub is a walk-in tub.
Grab bars around tub. Notice tub is a walk-in tub.
Grab bars around toilet.
Grab bars around toilet.
Pill organizer for daily use
Pill organizer for daily use
Reaching device - strong and sturdy.
Reaching device - strong and sturdy.

Bathing Devices:

- Bathtub bench or chair

- Grab bars

- Soap and lotion applicators that reach to the back

- Handheld showers with on/off spigot

Dressing Devices:

- Button hook

- Long handle shoehorn

- Device for pulling on socks without having to bend

- Long handled combs and brushes

Drug Management Devices:

- Daily and weekly pill organizers

- Timer for when to take medications

- Pill splitters and pill crushers

Daily Living Devices:

- Jar opener

- Multi purpose knob turner

- Key holder for use when unlocking a door

- Night light

- Rope ladder for rising from a prone position on bed

- Reaching devices

These devices are just a few of the many (inexpensive) devices that are available today to help seniors cope with every day chores.


Grandson helps grandma with a few extra Assistive Devices - making life easier and safer
Grandson helps grandma with a few extra Assistive Devices - making life easier and safer | Source
Here's to Feeling Young at Any Age!
Here's to Feeling Young at Any Age!

Here’s to Successful Living at any age!

These simple kinds of assistive devices can make all the difference in a senior’s life. This made me realize that living independently was more a matter of maintaining the best health I can (mentally, physically, emotionally), finding out what kinds of assistance may be available to me to make my life easier, and keeping a positive attitude.


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      Marilyn Alexander 2 years ago from Vancouver, Canada and San Jose del Cabo, Mexico

      Thanks, Kathleen for your comments. Your categories are well thought-out. But here I am between 60 and 80 and although I am a senior citizen, I don't feel like one! emotionally, physically, intellectually. I still feel middle-aged. And it's only now that I realize there are so many devices and ways that I can get help in my life. It seems to me that the older elderly say, over 80 may have a different attitude about getting help to make their life easier. It will be easier for me when I do need some help to ask for it. Or to just go out and buy it!

      In the meantime, I'm going to look a little closer at the elderly around me.

      Thanks for your comments, most appreciated. Marilyn

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      Kathleen Cochran 2 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia

      Good for you. Somebody finally said what needs to be said. My mother in law is 80 and I don't know what she expected old age to be. Yes, life changes, but if you have loving family/friends who want to help, why would you make it so difficult for them to help? Technically, I think until 20 you are a child; until 40 you are a young adult; until 60 you are middle aged; until 80 you are a senior citizen; and beyond 80 you are elderly. Every 20 years your abilities and privileges are altered by your age - for better and worse. Facing reality makes each 20 years a joy of its own. Blessings to you.

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      Marilyn Alexander 2 years ago from Vancouver, Canada and San Jose del Cabo, Mexico

      Aren't grandmothers wonderful! One that can say age is "mind over matter... if you don't mind, it don't matter." I agree with her - I also feel like a young girl in an old body. It does get me in trouble sometimes when I'm trying to climb over rocks to get to the third beach at Chileno Bay. But my age doesn't keep me from going for it!

      Thanks for your comments, Shyron E Shenko.

      Marilyn

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      Marilyn Alexander 2 years ago from Vancouver, Canada and San Jose del Cabo, Mexico

      Not using a walker all the time could mean the walker doesn't fit her. pstraubie, look at the "Sidekick", it's strong, small enough for apartments, comfortable, safe (I'm not selling, just suggesting). It even looks sporty, if that makes a difference to your sister.

      I know that using a walker is not always something we want to do. To many people, a walker looks like we are weak and "handicapped". If we can see that all a walker does is help us move around more and, most importantly, enjoy life more.

      Thank you for your comments.

      Blessings, Marilyn.

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      Patricia Scott 2 years ago from sunny Florida

      Age is such a relative thing. And I do think it is very much how we view aging. Your point that you cannot do the things you used to without help is important. Those who are north of 55 as you say need to be willing to ask for help when needed.

      At this point I am still blessed with being able to do most of everything myself My elder sister (18 years older than I am) has had numerous strokes and now should use a walker. She does not always do so and has fallen several times.

      Knowing when to use such devices and doing so is important.

      Thank you for sharing this with us.

      Angels are on the way. ps

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      Shyron E Shenko 2 years ago from Texas

      Maralexa, I love reading this, it brings back two memories, first when I was a little girl and I lived with my Mammaw, I wanted to be a ballerina and would walk around on the tips of my toes, Mammaw would say "child you are going to break your toes," but they just got stronger.

      Second memory was also Mammaw, she always said she was a young girl trapped in an old body.

      I say age is mind over matter, if you don't mind, it don't matter.

      Voted up, UABI and shared.

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      Marilyn Alexander 2 years ago from Vancouver, Canada and San Jose del Cabo, Mexico

      "Keep moving" - great advice Au fait! Don't just sit and watch the world go by, get up and join the activities "to the extent you are able". And have some fun, smile, laugh, share.

      Thanks for your comments, Au fait.

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      C E Clark 2 years ago from North Texas

      Time goes by so quickly once we hit that magical 21 doesn't it? One thing everyone should take to heart is that if one doesn't keep moving, one day s/he will discover they can't. What an awful turn of events! So get up and move regularly to the extent you're able.

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      Marilyn Alexander 5 years ago from Vancouver, Canada and San Jose del Cabo, Mexico

      Great comment, Glenn! I too am over 60 and feel like 40. Boomer to Zoomer -- not yet a senior. Maybe when I'm 80 I will feel like a senior!

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      Glenn Stok 5 years ago from Long Island, NY

      It sure is interesting how we don't feel old as we age. I'm 62 and I still feel like I'm 40.

      The only problem is that my body continues to age and I have not been aware of that. So as I get older I tend to do damage to myself. I tore my rotator cuff (shoulder tendons) and snapped a tendon in one finger.

      If I were more aware ahead of time that tendons lose their elasticity as we age, I would have been more careful, instead of doing what I did 20 years ago.

      Being there myself, I really enjoyed reading to your Hub. Well done. Voted up.

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      Marilyn Alexander 5 years ago from Vancouver, Canada and San Jose del Cabo, Mexico

      Hi Peggy! Living healthily and elegantly - the best part of aging. Using assistive devices is smart. And keeping a positive attitude pays off in bonuses.

      Thanks for your comments. Good to see you again.

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      Peggy Woods 5 years ago from Houston, Texas

      As part of the "baby boomer" generation, I really liked this hub. It is nice to know about all of the devices that can make life easier, but it is even better to have a great and upbeat attitude about aging. After all, it will happen to everyone sooner or later. Nice getting those senior citizen discounts. Ha! Voted up and useful.

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      Marilyn Alexander 5 years ago from Vancouver, Canada and San Jose del Cabo, Mexico

      Wonderful examples, Sid! Thanks for sharing your valuable comments. I wish your father in law continued success in his recovery! I agree, exercise is sooooo valuable to improve our health, mood and independence.

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      Sid Kemp 5 years ago from Boca Raton, Florida (near Miami and Palm Beach)

      I would add that we are never too old, or too injured, to resume exercise and improve our care for our bodies. Just north of 50, I'm healthier than I've ever been in my life. My health coach is 75, and a bouncy martial arts master. My father in law continues to recover from a serious head injury and become healthier, 2 1/2 years after his fall.

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      Marilyn Alexander 5 years ago from Vancouver, Canada and San Jose del Cabo, Mexico

      Your term "outsourcing" is a good one. Sometimes young people who really care for parents and grandparents, just don't think of the many little things a senior could use to make their life easier. And, as you say, when a person can make time for the creative things in life they are usually happier and healthier.

      Thanks for your comments. I appreciate your taking the time to read and leave remarks.

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      Anusha Jain 5 years ago from Delhi, India

      A wonderful hub. You've brought up so many important aspects about mental and physical age. The tips you've shared are great. Specially about asking for help - I fondly call it outsourcing. Not only for old people, but for people of any age, there can be a few things which could be more time consuming and less exciting. Outsourcing these allows you to be more focused - more creative - it allows you to do things which you enjoy to do. Once again, really great hub.

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      Marilyn Alexander 6 years ago from Vancouver, Canada and San Jose del Cabo, Mexico

      You are truly amazing -- your whole family must be. Thank you for taking the time to read my article and to comment. I appreciate it very much. Congratulations on going to college as an adult. Isn't it wonderful! I did some graduate studies as an adult (not straight out of school) so I know some of the challenges (not enough time in the day) you must face.

      Thanks, Becky.

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      Becky Katz 6 years ago from Hereford, AZ

      I started college at 50. I didn't have the time or the money when I was younger. My parents were both disabled and needed some help. Then I got married and had children, my husband was disabled and I had to support them. Now I am my husbands caregiver and have to depend on our children to help us. The boys are good about it though, and my daughter is also. She is 14 and being homeschooled. How can you feel old when you have a 14 year old and going to college?

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      Marilyn Alexander 6 years ago from Vancouver, Canada and San Jose del Cabo, Mexico

      Thanks Amez, I appreciate your comments. One of the things I am trying to do is put together a guide for the seniors where I volunteer. Many of them like to read something light, not too heavy into disease and such. So this article, I hope, will appeal to them and perhaps spark some further discussion.

      Thanks again, your comments are truly appreciated.

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      Marilyn Alexander 6 years ago from Vancouver, Canada and San Jose del Cabo, Mexico

      Hi neighborhoodtools! Nice hearing from you. Thank you for your kind comments. Isn't it true about parents being fit and healthy and really enjoying retirement. We need to take that to heart and 'pretend' we are in retirement too.

      Really great meeting you. Thanks for reading my hub.

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      Amez 6 years ago from Houston, Texas

      This is a Great Hub. A Testimony that many Senior Citizens should here, from someone that knows what there experiencing and have so many guest ions about. You should visit those in your area and share this experiences and what you learned as u traveled these roads of fret unknown

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      neighborhoodtools 6 years ago from United States

      A wonderful topic to write about! My parents are in their mid-70s and I swear they are more socially and physically active than me! =)

      Instead of me worrying about them, they worry more about me sitting on the computer almost all day and having an aching back and poor posture, while they are fit and healthy!

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      Marilyn Alexander 6 years ago from Vancouver, Canada and San Jose del Cabo, Mexico

      Thank you, Rosemay50 for your wonderful comments! And congratulations to you! I know what you mean about not feeling old at 60+. I have been told that 60 is the new 40s. I know that I feel better than many people do at this age. Thanks for sharing, and thanks for reading my hubs.

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      Rosemary Sadler 6 years ago from Hawkes Bay - NewZealand

      This is a very good hub and I’m it will help the elderly to be positive and also help those younger ones to realize that they are not going to wake up on their 60th birthday and find they are old and feeble.

      A wonderful job.

      I am in my sixties, but I certainly don't feel old, I'm not old.

      Admittedly I can't do the things I used to do, my Asthma prevents me. But I do a little and rest a little and do a bit more. I have not yet reached the stage of needing aides thankfully.

      Although retirement age in New Zealand is not until the age of 65, I retired from work at 57 and enjoy my life and the extra time I now have to do the things I want and am able to do.

      I had an 84 year old neighbor not so long ago and was flabbergasted to watch her climb up a ladder to fix her own roof.

      You’re just as old as you feel; it’s all a matter of attitude.

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      Marilyn Alexander 6 years ago from Vancouver, Canada and San Jose del Cabo, Mexico

      Rose you are so right! "Youthful enthusiasm and purpose" the only way to live our senior years! Thanks so much for stopping by and reading my hub.

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      Rose Kolowinski 6 years ago

      Being a Baby Boomer, I also do not think that I am old! I will never believe that I am old! Thanks for a great hub and useful information. Here's to living our "senior" years with youthful enthusiasm and purpose!

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      Marilyn Alexander 6 years ago from Vancouver, Canada and San Jose del Cabo, Mexico

      Thanks for your wonderful comments JamaGenee. Those of us who have relatives that lived a long and healthy life are fortunate for the example and motivation! Two of my best friends are in their 80s and they, too, are 'younger' than people 20 and 30 years their junior!

      Thanks for dropping by!

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      Joanna McKenna 6 years ago from Central Oklahoma

      I only feel "old" when I look in the mirror and a thirty-something me isn't looking back. I actually looked forward to 50 so I'd qualify for the discounts one gets with an AARP card! (Not as many as one gets at 60, btw.) My hair started going gray in my late twenties, so I colored it for several decades. Then in my early 50s, to find out if it had turned a gorgeous silver yet, I chopped it off and went "natural". What fun that was! I got 60+ discounts without being asked for proof of age!

      I *hate* to exercise, so I often opted for jobs that involved physical activity. (Get paid to exercise? What's not to like.)

      Two of my best friends are in their 70s and another is 86 going on 30, but on any given day it'll be me, the "youngster", who'll yell "Nap!" first. Their energy, I've decided, comes from acknowledging they ARE "old" chronologically but are determined to cram plenty of living into their remaining years.

      I personally have no patience with people my age (and younger) in *otherwise in perfect physical health* who've decided "life" is over and are simply waiting to be carted off to a home. But then my maternal grandmother reluctantly died at 103 and her mother at 97 (she, btw, *started* college in her 80s), and most of my other direct ancestors lived on their own into their 90s.

      But it's nice to know about devices and services that are available when/if the day comes I need assistance to remain independent. Thanks! ;D

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      Marilyn Alexander 6 years ago from Vancouver, Canada and San Jose del Cabo, Mexico

      Thank you so much, sholland10. I sure can relate to your grandmother saying she felt like a 16 year old in an old body! Someone mentioned the other day, I think on HubPages, that 60 is the new 40. Now, that is promising. Thanks for following and thanks for your comments.

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      Susan Holland 6 years ago from Southwest Missouri

      Wonderful Hub! Age sneaks up on us, but there are ways of handling it. When my grandmother was 93, she told me she felt like a 16 year old girl trapped in an old body. I think many of us can relate. So many things we used to be able to do that become difficult and eventually unattainable. My grandmother and mother were great inspirations. Your hub made me think about them and the stages they went through and the stages I am going through. Up, useful, and awesome!

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      Marilyn Alexander 6 years ago from Vancouver, Canada and San Jose del Cabo, Mexico

      Mid thirties has to be one of the best times in life -- hope it is for you! Take a moment or two to think about what you might like to be doing when you are in your mid 60s and 70s. Then put a few things in place now so you can actually reach your goals. Not just money, I mean attitudes and beliefs too.

      Thanks for taking the time to read and comment, I really appreciate it.

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      Pete Fanning 6 years ago from Virginia

      Very Inspiring, I'm about to turn 36 but it seems that time flies now.

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      Marilyn Alexander 6 years ago from Vancouver, Canada and San Jose del Cabo, Mexico

      Thank You James. I am honoured to have you take the time to read and comment on my hub! I respect the research you do on your own hubs. And I learn from the way you present your topic and your views. Many thanks.

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      James A Watkins 6 years ago from Chicago

      I enjoyed reading your excellent article. I agree with your point of view. Well done!

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      Marilyn Alexander 6 years ago from Vancouver, Canada and San Jose del Cabo, Mexico

      My dear Lucky Cats, I am so blessed to have you as a friend on hubpages! Thank you for your encouraging and understanding comments. I think the term I will adopt is 'interdependent' rather than independent! Having interdependent relationships indicates we assist each other. Much like what we do here on hubpages. Thanks again!

      PS: your photo is really flattering, I like it!

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      Kathy 6 years ago from The beautiful Napa Valley, California

      Hi there my friend, Maralexa! Such a wonderful hub with so much respect and reverence for the fact of aging. If we're 'lucky,' most of us will experience this natural occurance! Attitude is everything! No matter what age or circumstance; most of the obstacles we face and feel we must deal with are of our own making...we accept the cliche's and stereotypical images/definition of what it is to 'age.' To grow 'old.' Though our physical selves may not be quite 'up to the task' as we once were; nonetheless, we can choose to adopt and adapt different approaches to this new reality. The devices you've included in this wonderful article are perfect examples of aides which can make our senior years much better and easier to deal with.

      Alternatives to 'the way it used to be,' and adjustments may be challenging and emotionally difficult but, again, I believe it is, mostly...attitude! We ARE only as old as we feel (unless, realistically; we find ourselves severely disabled and unable to help ourselves or enjoy independence...but...)!

      Perfectly written and so very encouraging and helpful, Maralexa. ALL your writing is extremely intelligent and very reasoned! UP Awesome, Beautiful Useful and Interesting!!!

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      Marilyn Alexander 6 years ago from Vancouver, Canada and San Jose del Cabo, Mexico

      Isn't it marvellous that we have the devices to use! It is amazing to me how uncomfortable I feel to be seen using some of these devices, yet how other people barely notice them. It truly humbles me and makes me realize just how blessed I am to be alive and able to enjoy friends and family.

      Thank you for taking the time to stop by and comment.

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      Erin LeFey 6 years ago from Maryland

      Maralexa, what a wonderful hub. I'm 43 and while I'm not there yet, the years have flown by since my 30th birthday! Actually, in April of 2010 I became disabled so a lot of these things do apply to me now; I never expected it - I was so independent and flying through everything so quickly. I had to learn to ask for help - that was the hardest for me, and in order to live independently again, I had to learn to use some of those very same devices you mentioned.

      Thank you for the excellent information and the positive way you presented it!Take care.

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      Nellieanna Hay 6 years ago from TEXAS

      Ah - Yes, - Of course! With your good attitude about life, you WILL be around, too! And since you'll be only about the age I am now, indeed you will be the young'un in the crowd! See you at the celebration, then! Whoo hoo!

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      Marilyn Alexander 6 years ago from Vancouver, Canada and San Jose del Cabo, Mexico

      I intend to be around to celebrate with you! I'll be the 'young' woman in the corner with my track suit, runners, and a sweatband! Let's see if I can keep up with you then!!

      Thanks so much for reading my hub and commenting. I really appreciate it!

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      Nellieanna Hay 6 years ago from TEXAS

      An excellent hub, Maralexa! People should value every moment of life. I certainly do, mine; - and I have every intention of continuing as an independent, active, vital woman till at least age 100! (why stop there, though? It's not that far off and I'm going strong!)

      Feb. 2, 1932 was the day of my birth. Do the math! ;])

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      Marilyn Alexander 6 years ago from Vancouver, Canada and San Jose del Cabo, Mexico

      Thank you again, Marisa. Bellydancing sound like a great idea! Although I have to admit, flamenco dancing is so gorgeous and sexy. Also, thank you for your very helpful forum posts. Greatly appreciated.

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      Marisa Wright 6 years ago from Sydney

      I think a lot of us "baby boomers" are getting into our fifties and sixties and thinking, "but I still feel young!". Nobody warns you that as your age physically, your mind still feels like it's 18, so it's confronting to deal with a body that won't do what it's told any more.

      Good advice about finding new, modified ways to keep doing what you love! I used to dance ballet and flamenco, but one needs flexibility and the other needs speed. In the last few years I've discovered bellydancing, which I'm hoping to keep dancing till I die, because it's a very gentle form of dance. We have regular community events and I know a few bellydancers who perform there, who are in their 70's and 80's!

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      Brenda Durham 6 years ago

      Thanks for the suggestion. I have a friend who's a senior, in her 70's. I've accompanied her for the last few years to the local Senior Expo. Been thinking of visiting the Senior Center with her too. It breaks my heart these days 'cause I see her feeling old; she recently lost her daughter to illness, and today she was reminiscing about the activities she and her husband used to take their kids to.

      I miss my Mom too; she's disabled and out-of-State, but being well-cared-for. I think....that's one reason I keep putting off going to visit the Senior Center---I'm afraid I'll miss my Mom so much that I won't be able to handle it....Yet I feel like that's being selfish, and I'm trying to resolve my emotions...

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      Marilyn Alexander 6 years ago from Vancouver, Canada and San Jose del Cabo, Mexico

      Thanks, Brenda. I appreciate your taking the time to read my hub and make a comment. I also appreciate your following me -- thank you. And...one of the best ways to feel younger than you are is to go to a seniors complex and talk to some of the people. An easy way to do that is to take a loose bunch of flowers and pass one out to a few of them. It will break your heart how much these wonderful people will appreciate you!

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      Brenda Durham 6 years ago

      Beautiful hub.

      I dunno about feeling young anymore....I do feel my age a lot of times. Half a century old is....half a century old! Am I being too realistic? Hopefully there's some wisdom that has come with age.

      You've supplied great information here about how to make life easier and happier for seniors; I love it. Most of all, you're getting involved in helping them, literally. Awesome heart you have.

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      amymarie_5 6 years ago from Chicago IL

      I really love this hub. My mom will be turning 60 next year and you'd never know it. She loves life and tells everyone she feels like a kid. I'm so glad I have her as a role model. Now I'm in my mid 30s and I get so annoyed when people my age complain about how 'old' we are getting. We live in such a youth obsessed society and I think what a lot of people don't realize is that it's attitude that ages you, not time.

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      Marilyn Alexander 6 years ago from Vancouver, Canada and San Jose del Cabo, Mexico

      What a wonderful relationship you and your husband have had. Thanks for the comment. And thanks for reading my hubs.

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      sweethearts2 6 years ago from Northwest Indiana

      Enjoyed your hub and looking forward to reading your others. My husband would always say "Age is just a number" and wouldn't dwell on the quantity of years but the quality of his years. We had a difference of 25 yrs in our ages, and I never thought him old.

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      Marilyn Alexander 6 years ago from Vancouver, Canada and San Jose del Cabo, Mexico

      Hi Nspeel, thanks so much for reading my hub. If you think your life is flying by now, just wait until you are approaching 60! You won't believe how fast it goes. Just remember to keep that great attitude of yours.

      Thanks for your very kind comments.

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      Marilyn Alexander 6 years ago from Vancouver, Canada and San Jose del Cabo, Mexico

      Hi Victoria Lynn. Thanks so much for your beautiful comment. Isn't it wonderful to have a young mom who is your best friend! It is hard to see wonderful people go downhill. But you are very right, a good attitude does make all the difference in the world.

      Thanks again.

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      Marilyn Alexander 6 years ago from Vancouver, Canada and San Jose del Cabo, Mexico

      Thank you arksys. I appreciate your taking the time to read my hub. I'm not quite as old as the beautiful woman in the image I used to open my hub, I'm not yet 'officially' a senior. But I volunteer with many seniors. What I have learned from them is, if you laugh and sing and dance (if only in your mind) you feel much better. When you feel better you don't feel so old. One of the hardest things for some seniors is comparing themselves now to how they were in their 20s and 30s. They can't do all the things they did then, so they loose a bit of their identity. When they get some help with the day-to-day things they can often free up some time to do new things in the areas they used love.

      I like to help seniors find little ways to free up their time (and energy) so they can write, paint, sing, take photos, work in their small plot of garden........

      Thank you for your good wishes.

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      Marilyn Alexander 6 years ago from Vancouver, Canada and San Jose del Cabo, Mexico

      What a beautiful testament to life, SheiliaKay. It is true that one of the hardest things to contend with as we age is having to rely on others, especially when we were so independent. Your near fatal illness and how it has left you is tragic. But you have given me renewed inspiration just by what you say here. Thank you sincerely for that.

      Keep staying young in your mind and, may I add, keep a sense of humour.

      thank you for reading and leaving a truly inspiring comment.

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      SheliaKay 6 years ago from Marietta, Ohio..... but born and raised in Northern Ohio on Lake Erie

      I really enjoyed your hub. I am approaching my 50th birthday in a few months so getting old has been on my mind quite a bit lately. When did I get so old? I ask myself the same question. I have recently regained some of my independence back lately after a near fatal illness took me by surprise a few years ago. The hardest thing for me was having to depend on others for my care during my recovery. Quality of life is what living is all about. No longer can I do most of the things I use to love doing but I have discovered new things that I can do. My body may be broken but my mind is still going and as long as I have that, age is just a number. You've got my vote, great hub, and great subject.

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      oldcoincollector 6 years ago

      For the most part age is all about attitude. They say "You are only as old as you feel" and there is a lot of truth to that.

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      Jools99 6 years ago from North-East UK

      Great hub, my mam, a long time sufferer of rheuatoid arthiritis makes the most of every day, sometimes with a little bit of help. But she's very young at heart. She once called me at work and said "I'm down at the coast, looking out at the sea, the sky is blue and the sun is shining, I just thought I'd ring you to tell you, what a wonderful day to be alive!". I try to remember that call when I'm whingeing about absolutely nothing.

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      Irfan 6 years ago from Adelaide, Australia

      its amazing to see you are enjoying your senior years .. there is no senior i know who thinks as positively as you do. very refreshing hub for me. :)

      i'll definitely use your advice if/when i get there.

      I wish you all the best in health/wealth/contentment.

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      Marilyn Alexander 6 years ago from Vancouver, Canada and San Jose del Cabo, Mexico

      Sunnie! How good to hear from you. I respect your comments. Thanks for your support!

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      Marilyn Alexander 6 years ago from Vancouver, Canada and San Jose del Cabo, Mexico

      Thanks so much bwhite, nice of you to drop by. Good motto to live by. You may be surprised just how much you enjoy getting older and changing your activities.

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      Marilyn Alexander 6 years ago from Vancouver, Canada and San Jose del Cabo, Mexico

      Hi Flora, thanks for reading my hub. Please know that retirement homes and complexes for seniors are wonderful places to live. I am not talking about care homes or nursing homes, I'm talking about independent living in apartment/condo complexes. They are safe and very comfortable places where seniors can share activities (if they wish to) with others who have similar backgrounds.

      Thanks again I appreciate your comments.

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      FloraBreenRobison 6 years ago

      Living independently is vitally important in my family. None of us are interested in outliving our independence or wits. My parents are in their sixties. I want them around for a long time, but I don't want them to live so long that they end up in a nursing home.

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      David Sproull 6 years ago from Toronto

      I hope you enjoy! :-)

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      Marilyn Alexander 6 years ago from Vancouver, Canada and San Jose del Cabo, Mexico

      Thanks for the comment, DDS. and Congratulations to your mom. You have a number of interesting hubs yourself. I'm heading over there now.

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      David Sproull 6 years ago from Toronto

      My mom is 79 and I think other than her knees giving her some grief that she doesn't feel old either. heck she goes out to more concerts than I do!

      Voted up!

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      Brianna 6 years ago from East Coast

      Great Hub! Glad you are enjoying life. My motto has always been to enjoy life while I can and take everything in. I feel as long as I live it up now and accomplish all that I want to, I won't mind anything as I get older.

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      Marilyn Alexander 6 years ago from Vancouver, Canada and San Jose del Cabo, Mexico

      Thanks PhD candidate Legendary! Stay healthy, stay happy, stay truly interested in other people and life itself. Choose your activities and go, go, go! Boomers are now Zoomers!

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      LegendaryN8 6 years ago from USA

      I gotta tell you, there was a point not too long ago where I was deathly afraid of becoming older. I saw people barely into their 50s acting like death was around the corner. It's inspiring to see someone who has taken the meaning of age to indeed be more than just a number. I know when I become older, I may have to slow down a bit, but that does not mean I have to stop!

      Great stuff.

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      Marilyn Alexander 6 years ago from Vancouver, Canada and San Jose del Cabo, Mexico

      Sure do appreciate your comments Arlene. And, I certainly agree with you. I would bet the women in the images I used also feel just great, thank you very much! But I stick to my point. Use all the assistance and assistive devices you can. They help free up your time to get back out there and enjoy life!

      Thanks again, Arlene.

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      Arlene V. Poma 6 years ago

      Ah, Maralexa, very well done and illustrated. The only time I feel old is when I fall flat on my face, curl up in a ball and wait until I am ready to get up. I retired at 44, so other than a local Indian casino near Sacramento, I cannot use my senior citizen's discount (they lowered the discount to people who are "50 years young"). I would rather be "old" with my wisdom than go back to being a young and dumb girl. I love being in my 50s. Thanks so much for the upbeat piece on aging. Voted up all across the board.

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      Victoria Lynn 6 years ago from Arkansas, USA

      Great hub! My mom is in her mid 60's, and she is the youngest person I know! She's my hero. I work at a retirement facility, and much of it is depressing, to see people go downhill.... but I do think that a positive attitude makes a positive attitude. Bless you for writing this hub. I voted it up, useful, beautiful, awesome, and interesting!

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      Marilyn Alexander 6 years ago from Vancouver, Canada and San Jose del Cabo, Mexico

      As a young person "flying through life", thank you for taking the time to read about seniors. I very much appreciate your comments. Do not worry about getting older. It is amazing what a fine place it is!

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      Sunnie Day 6 years ago

      This was such a wonderful hub..You touched on so many things that we all need to hear young and old alike..thank you for a well written hub.

      Sunnie

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      Nspeel 6 years ago from Myrtle Beach

      One of the bet articles I have read in a long time. Nor do many people write on this topic making me enjoy it even more. I am only 21 and my last 5 years has flown by. This makes me very sad because I too will be 50 in no time. Grat article voted up high!!!