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In search of your smile
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Reasons to smile
When we get older, our smiles are becoming very important in communication with others. There are many different reasons to smile and not only because we have fun.
We also smile :
- to greet someone
- as a sign of recognition
- to apologize
- to be polite
- out of shyness or embarressment
- to comfort
- to encourage
- to regulate a conversation
- out of love
- to hide true feelings
We just think too much.
A smile is a sign of joy in life, fun, enthusiasm and optimism. But we all smile too little. A smile is universal, and everyone who sees a smile or hears laughter, almost automatically starts to feel the same positive feelings. Soon after birth we can smile, and how did you experience the smile of your baby? That first smile means a lot for the parents involved. It is the first true contact with people and even humanity.
And what do we notice? How further we come in life, the less we smile. Maybe it's the scientific surrounding that keeps developing, or is it that the older we get, the more rational we start to think, or is it just that we push this emotional expression into a corner.
A child expresses its emotions and feelings easily. The child cries, rolls over laughing and it talks while it's singing a song. Until he or she gets older (gets civilized?) it's learning how to sit still and be quiet and in the mean time it's loaded with knowledge. Consequences: the older the child gets, the more it's influenced by knowledge instead of feelings.
Everyone has a lot of positive energy which can be provoked by smiling and humor. If you like a person very much, you'll start to smile spontaneously and if you smile, you can even be friendly to a difficult person.
Our way of rational thinking blocks the positive flow. If I'm trying to brainstorm with my colleagues, than there will be hardly any good ideas, and sometimes even no ideas at all. And if we have fun first and smile, it's if the ideas come out themselves. Humor and laughing is the magic key for people.
Laughing relaxes and gives you the energy you need. It takes away the barriers and improves the contact between people. Laughing is capable to release pain and is good for healing.
Does this mean that you have to feel good all the time and you need to laugh all the time? No. Be sad once in a while, feel bad sometimes, but accept these moments then. So that you appreciate the good moments more.
Find your smile
It's not always easy, but there's a smile everywhere. You have the capability and the strength to develop and increase the smiles inside you. You can look at the world and only see the bad things, the bad news, or you can try to find the nice things, the fun, and the good news. You can find the beauty on a cloudy day or you can sob about the bad weather.
Try to find time and space to create fun and smiles, use it. The only risk is that you enjoy your life more, you start to feel better. Smile at yourself. Look in the mirror and smile at your hair, at your face, make funny faces, smile at your body, and smile at you. Feel the effect it has on you.
Now you've read this, I just want to send you a smile. Enjoy your life, enjoy the many lovely moments and if you meet someone who has trouble smiling, send them your smile.