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The reverse of the medal of our habits instituted
Many of our routines are sedimented in our lives for us to be useful for us to serve and facilitate the amount of things we do. We feel comfortable doing what you've always done, what we are easy to do without having to pay attention. We call this process, our habits established.
So far, so great! But if some of these habits began to be unsuitable, harm us, incapacitate or hinders us we feel as well, to be appreciated by others, to be accepted in society, or prevent us from achieving our dreams and goals? If we clouded creativity, ingenuity, willingness to learn, to look at life from other perspectives and alternatives?
Our established habits can now be our biggest headache. We have become used to them by a process of repetition until we get to the point that we are to judge anyway, that's part of our personality. But nothing could be more wrong. Only be so because judges closed the window of possibilities, alternatives, of consciousness, of thinking about things, their things, of what you want and do not want. If we continue to cover the tracks of life in a "dormant", most likely we will reach a point of crystallization of our thinking, we lose the flexibility of thought and create mental umainclinação inadequate.
Consider the following example: Let's say a person with a mental inclination towards pessimism arose on a Saturday morning and put on his idea that he had to pack up and clean out the garage. Addresses to the garage, open the door and is shocked to see the amount of trash and clutter. "Forget it," says the pessimist the greatest laments. "Nobody could clean this garage in one day!" In this situation and in a state of mental incapacity, closes the garage door and back to another room to do something else.
Pessimists have a thought of "all or nothing". Have a catastrophic thinking and absolutist. Or do things perfectly or not do. Let's see how the optimistic face the same problem. Let's assume that by saying the same thing: "Forget it." Nobody could clean this garage in one day!
"However, a large difference between the pessimistic and optimistic leap in sight. Instead of returning home, the optimist would continue to think. "Okay, I cannot clean the entire garage, but still, what can I do?" He thinks for a bit, and got the idea to divide the garage into 4 sections and clean only one that day. "Sure you can clean up a section, and clean up one part per week, certainly by the end of the month I can clean the entire garage." After one month, the scenarios will be different: The pessimist will doom the garage in a garage clean and optimistic.
The internal saboteur
The pessimist has a mental inclination to think so discouraged or do not do anything, that things are not worth it, quit thinking positive very quickly. In the vast majority of times the pessimist is a chronic quitter, focuses on worst-case scenarios and does not believe that things can go right.
These negative aspects of the program's mental pessimist might call internal saboteur. It's a self-perpetuating system of connections between brain cells, a presence that seems to be neurological as intrinsic to us, we generally lack awareness of their influence. The internal saboteur is a result of how you think about things. It can be very difficult to unlearn what you have learned and thought to be part of you, but it is possible.
We know that a muscle develops through repeated effort. If you fail to use it, if you stop the exercise, the connections between muscle cells will weaken. Thus, it will happen with the various aspects of your mental inclination, its internal saboteur. Once you identify and inhibit these ideas and behaviors, the connections between brain cells will decrease, losing its strength, weakening its pessimistic bent of mind.
Our brain specializes in a process of repeated behaviors by strengthening groups of neural networks. Childhood as we face the challenges and difficulties of life, we put into action some ways of dealing with situations. Some of these strategies work and are retained. The internal saboteur was born.
For example, if a child is criticized by her parents, the strategy to deal with the situation can act "wrong" as this is the only way to make sense of her situation. She will develop behaviors "wrong" reason to give to their parents. A child who is ignored may find that only take care when sick, well, sickness, somatic complaints or minor accidents will become an unconscious coping mechanism.
The child "learned" to be a loser, accept criticism and have relationships without support. These strategies can be worked up in childhood to reduce the fury of the mother, but certainly will be dysfunctional in adulthood. The hard reality is that these strategies have become its "specialization" designed to handle a particular set of circumstances.
List of self-sabotaging behaviors
If we create a possible list of self-sabotaging behaviors developed through the mechanisms of dealing with situations, would be something like:
- "I assume that I will fail, so do not try."
- "I I behave as if nothing good happens to me."
- "I hardly trust in anyone."
- "I criticize others and think others criticize me."
- "I find it hard to make friends."
- "I reject people who are good to me and I try to help."
- "I avoid confronting me with situations in which people can judge me."
This is just one example of how our internal saboteur developers. These specializations are unfortunately not the only childhood can settle up at any time in our lives. As this child, we too are born with the ability to learn a set of almost unlimited behavioral responses. It should be noted that the neuronal specialization formed by our reactions to situations over which we have no control, severely limited in our options.
Think Positive Tips
Whenever you feel pessimistic or overwhelmed, remind yourself to keep thinking positive. Keep thinking, keep thinking positive.
According to the approach of positive psychology, positive thinking is not limited in any way just positive affirmations or capacity. These can form the basis of the intention of what you want and want it to happen.
But probably the strategy that counts most, is the structuring of a chain of actions supported by affirmations will express the forces, values, goals and beliefs of adaptive person or group of people. People who think optimistically, empowering and positive, choose to make a different use of the human imagination. The imagination that each of us possesses should be used, not to escape reality, but to create.
Do not hesitate to think, do not hesitate to think positive. Wake up, wake up, escape the routine of their mental inclination to withdraw. Resists its stop thinking to the solution, insist finding possibilities and alternative ways, persists in the restructuring of their positive thinking.