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Law of Attraction explained for Skeptics
What is the Law of Attraction really?
The law of attraction states that like will attract like.
Good begets good, bad begets bad; positive energy pulls in more positive energy while negative energy pulls in more negative energy.
It is a very basic concept which has been taught in one way or another in all societies in every era of time since man first learned how to communicate.
- Be careful what you wish for because you just might get it
- You get what you give
- Thought becomes things
- Do onto others as you would have done onto you
- The rich get richer while the poor get poorer
- You have to spend money to make money
- You reap what you sow
And on the list goes...
How does it work?
It isn't just about sitting around visualizing what you want and getting warm fuzzies about it & then POOF a million dollars falls into your lap out of the sky.
Mr. or Mrs. Right isn't just going to come knocking on your door and say "Here I am, the universe got your message and sent me right over."
What it really does is help put you into a new mindset, a positive mindset. This mindset attracts different things into your life because:
- You are looking for the good instead of the bad
- You are reacting to your environment differently
- You are reacting to people differently
- You are more open to possibility
- You are more aware/conscious of what is going on
- You are more appreciative of what you have and of what you get
- You are more understanding, accepting, and patient with others
By changing the way you handle life, you change your life. It is factual and real. No fairy dust or magic spells required. While some teachers, preachers, gurus, or authors may lead one into believing that it is simply a matter of "I want it so I get it." That isn't the case at all.
It drives you into positive action. The action gets you to where you want to be rather than just looking at it from a distance and thinking "Man, that would be great."
How does a positive attitude change anything?
Lets start small. I can give you a very specific, basic example of how a negative attitude leads to negative results and the same situation using a positive attitude changes everything.
A. Sam has a scooter. He complains that all he has is a stupid scooter and that it isn't enough to get him where he wants to go or do the things he wants to do. He doesn't take care of his stupid scooter because he doesn't appreciate it, he resents it. He would rather have a car. As time goes by, the scooter falls into a state of disrepair. It costs Sam $500 over the course of a year to fix one little thing after another on his scooter. He sees an ad in the paper: $500 car for sale. Sam is unable to get this car because he has no money saved up. He spent it all on fixing up his stupid scooter.
B. Sam has a scooter. He appreciates what he has. He would like to have a car someday but is thankful for the transportation that he does have. Sam decides to visualize having a car. He takes steps toward achieving this goal by setting money aside. Since he is grateful for what he does have, he takes good care of his scooter. He washes it, stores it in the garage rather than outside, he maintains it to a point where nothing major goes wrong. When the ad in the paper shows up: $500 car for sale; Sam actually HAS the money so he is able to not only get the car but also is able to sell his "good condition" scooter for a little extra on the side.
In this example we see how being appreciative and grateful helps Sam to respect and care for what he already has so that he will "attract" better things into his life.
What about with people?
Again, very simple and basic; here is an example of how the law of attraction and a positive attitude helps with people:
Jim and Sue have been married for 5 years. Jim works a tough job that he doesn't really like. Sue lost her job when the economy went south and has been home with the kids for the past year. They are sinking further into debt by the day. They are fighting more and more every day. The relationship is growing toxic and they are both ready to give up or strangle the other while they sleep.
A. Jim resents Sue, he sees her as lazy for not trying harder to find a job. It is her fault they are in this mess. If she would only go to work again they could recover some of their financial security that they used to have. Sue resents Jim because he is constantly putting her down for not finding work in an economy that doesn't have any new jobs available. She tries her hardest at home to take care of the kids and keep the house running and looking good. They can't stand the sight of one another. They only speak in blame and accusation toward each other. Every little thing the other one does is just another log on the fire of hate, disgust, and negativity. Finally, Jim and Sue decide to split. Jim ends up paying alimony and child support which cripple him into moving in with his parents. Sue goes on welfare and raises the children in section 8 housing, feeling ashamed of needing as much help as she does because while she still tries to find work, there is just none to be had. They are both miserable, resentful, and bitter.
B. Sue makes a choice without the support of Jim that she is going to turn this relationship around. She uses the law of attraction and other self-help skills to motivate her through this difficult time. Sue changes the way she looks at Jim. She starts appreciating how difficult it is for him to handle all of the financial burden. She starts telling him what a great provider he is and how lucky she and the children are for having such a strong man to look out for them and take care of their needs. Sue makes a point to pack his lunch each morning and put in a little note of encouragement from time to time. A "thank you" or an "I love you", just a little something to let him know he is important and special. Sue starts opening up to her friends and family for some of the emotional support she isn't getting from Jim. They can see the change in her attitude and outlook.
Sue helps teach the children to be more conservative in what they eat, spend, and use. Sue makes a conscious effort to lower the utility and grocery bills to help stretch the money Jim brings in a little further. She starts recycling cans and other items for a little extra money as well as offering to babysit for her friends when they need her.
With the extra effort Sue puts in she regains her confidence and self worth. She still struggles with Jim's negativity but no longer feeds into it or lets it dictate how she feels or reacts. Sue reminds herself that he is lashing out at the situation, not her. Pretty soon, Sue has gotten enough friends that she has babysat for that she has created her own home daycare. She has earned enough money to pay for the licensing requirements and fills out the forms.
In an economy where she had no job and no prospects, Sue has found a way. Her home business thrives and they are able to get out of debt and return to the financial stability that they had before. Jim calms back down and their relationship begins to heal because Sue was understanding, patient, loving, and supportive.
C. Jim makes a decision without Sue that he is going to turn things around through positive thinking and the law of attraction. He changes his thought patterns and behavior. Jim starts to appreciate everything that Sue is doing, even if it isn't bringing money into the home. He sees that she works hard to keep the house clean and care for the kids. He sees that she is the one who runs the errands, makes and keeps the appointments, and takes care of all the meal planning and preparation. Jim begins to tell and show Sue that he sees everything she is doing for the family. He makes sure she feels loved and accepted. He understands that they are just going through a difficult time and that while she is looking, there just aren't any jobs to be had. He does not hold this against her. Jim supports Sue in her efforts while letting her know that she is not a failure. She is successful because she isn't giving up.
This emotional support, recognition, and understanding give Sue the strength and security she needs to feel better about herself. She feels more motivated and alive knowing that Jim supports her no matter what. If she tries and fails, it is okay because he will consider her a valuable no matter what. Sue is so encouraged by his love and understanding that she begins to open back up to her friends and family.
One of Sue's friends is having a graduation party for their oldest child. They ask Sue to help her plan the event. Jim supports her in this, knowing that it is important for her to not only have something to do outside of the home, but to feel accomplished and successful as well as to socialize. Sue finds that she enjoys the responsibilities of planning the event. Her friend pays her a small fee of gratitude. Sue approaches Jim about the idea of turning event planning into a career. Jim supports her enthusiasm and idea.
In no time, Sue is booking events with friends, extended friends, family members, and former co-workers. She is making a name for herself and becoming a successful business owner. In an economy where there wasn't a way, a way was made.
* These are fictitious examples. Starting your own business is not the only way this works. Please remember the context of these examples is to show how the attitude of the person or people affected the events as they unfolded.
*Change the way you treat people & you change the way they respond.
The law of attraction is real. It does affect every aspect of your life and daily living. When you take a deeper look, without the criticism or negativity, you will find the truth of it.
The law of attraction is not about sitting on your butt doing nothing other than wishing for something. It is all about taking action. It is all about making a decision. It is all about your attitude and what you put out there for the world.
The better you are, the better you will get.