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What Do You Really Want Out Of Life - Motivation for Self Improvement

Updated on April 9, 2012

Motivation for Self Improvement - Personal Introspection

"Be all you can be" - but it's not always in the Army. Do you see yourself as somewhat contented with your life the way things are? But, of course, it's difficult to think of anything else when there are real issues to be discussed.

Still don't you aspire for something deeper and more meaningful?

So we're all faced with problems. And even though these problems may hinder our progress, they should never quench the dream. Honestly it shouldn't even bother or slow us from becoming all we ought to be. Aspirations as kids should continue to live within us, even though it would be short-lived or as long as we could hold on to the dream. They say you can't teach an old dog new tricks... or can you?

It may be time to have a serious conversation with yourself. Don't invite any friends or family. This is purely for introspection. You can share the results of your personal conversation with them afterward.

Just a little aside here, Zig Ziglar used to say that it's ok to talk to yourself, In fact, it's even ok to answer yourself. But if you ever catch yourself saying, "Huh?" during your conversation, you may have problems.

So, here are a few questions that you may want to bring up during your personal interview.

What do I really want?
What do I really want?

The BIG Question

What do I really want is the question of the ages. But have you ever seriously asked yourself this question in a way that you considered the answer?

"So many things you want to do with your life and so little time to do them." This cliche is not what we are speaking of here. It may be time to narrow down your "wants" to those that are really meaningful. We are not talking about "wanting" a new iPhone or a really good steak. The answer to this question should be a life shaping goal.

What Motivates Me

What Motivates Me?
What Motivates Me?

Next question in your personal interview should be something like, " What motivates me?"
What are you passionate about? It's an answer you have to find out for yourself. You will not find the answer from your Mom or your spouse.

Don't limit yourself here. Don't be constrained by thoughts of finance or location. Try to think outside the box of conventional counseling.

This is a bit silly, but here is an example from past experience. I was teaching fifth grade a few years back and I asked this question of my students. "What do you really love to do?" The normal responses were football, art, playing on my gameboy, eating pizza, etc. But the one that caught my attention was one young boy who was a kind of loner because he had trouble relating to the other boys. His response was, "I love to climb trees, because I'm really good at it."

Now, I do not know what the eventual outcome was for that young man, however, I met another man several years later who was very successful in the tree trimming business. During a conversation with him I happened to ask how he got into the tree trimming business. His response... "I loved climbing trees as a boy. It was a natural for me."

Of course, I immediately thought of my student.

What about you? What is it that you are passionate about? What motivates you?

Am I Happy With Where I Am Today

Am I happy?
Am I happy?

Next question: "Am I happy with where I am today?"

This is a multifaceted question, even though it seems like a simple one. Sure, the answer could be yes or no, but think about it. You are a complex creature. You have physical, social, emotional, and spiritual needs. Where are you with respect to each of these areas of your life?

We have become a very materialistic society, so your first thought may be whether you are satisfied with how you are doing with your physical wants and desires. Are you meeting the needs of your family. Of course, this is important, but in the big picture, it may not be the most important area you need to consider.

Evaluate each area of your life.

Formulate a Plan

So now you have some answers. What's next?

The answer to this question is the most important one you will ask during your personal conversation. What are you going to do with this new knowledge about yourself?

The only way this interview session with yourself is going to motivate you to change is if you actually take some kind of action. Physical action at this point is a critical part of self motivation. After all, if you do nothing about what you now know, you will be in pretty much the same place a year from now.

One of our modern leaders gave us a definition of insanity. Insanity is doing the same thing you have always done and expecting different results. Think about this. It makes sense. If you keep on doing what you have been doing, guess what? You will keep on getting what you have always gotten.

No, it is time to formulate a plan for change. And today is the right day for that. Putting it off until tomorrow or next week is what you have done already (it does not work).


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      Victoria Stephens 6 years ago from London

      Very useful information, I'm going to spend a bit of time tonight trying to remind myself of what things use to motivate me.x