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Personal Growth: The Scars of a Lifetime

Updated on January 17, 2013

Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.
Viktor E. Frankl

THE PHYSICAL MAP

Sixty-four years will put some wear and tear on a body. I imagine it is possible to live that long and not experience any damage or scars, but for the life of me I cannot fathom it. How does one do that? How does one stumble and tumble, run, leap and fall, without adding a scar or two?

In many ways, a person’s life can be told if one can see the scars and read their individual story.

Are you doubtful? Well then allow me to give you a quick tour of my personal map and we will see if my words are true.

A lifetime of scars
A lifetime of scars | Source

THE EYES SEE

See that scar below my left eye? It’s very feint now, but if you look closely you can see it in the proper light. I got that one in a fight with Todd Mullen in the 4th grade. I have no idea what became of Todd over the years, but I can tell you that back in 1957 he was a pain in the ass. Todd was what is now called a bully; heck, he was called that back then too, and it was well-deserved. Todd was the guy who went around at recess taking lunch money from smaller kids, and if he wasn’t paid he would rub their faces in the cement playground until payment was received.

I became the object of Todd’s attention one sunny day in April of that year; I was informed that I would be expected to pay him fifty cents the next day….or else. Now since Todd was a good six inches taller and thirty pounds heavier, the “or else” phrase was one worth considering.

I went home that day and told my dad about the threat and impending doom, and my dad told me not to pay. But Dad, I said, if I don’t pay I’m going to get the stuffing kicked out of me….yes, he said, but if you do pay you will never see yourself in the same way when you look in the mirror.

Today I look at that scar and I smile; I’m also happy to report that Todd had a similar scar on his right cheek the last time I saw him. I wonder if he smiles when he looks at his scar?

Early on in the collection of my scars
Early on in the collection of my scars | Source

NEXT WE TRAVEL TO MY FINGER

Middle finger, left hand….see it? See that thin line an inch below the fingernail? Almost cut my finger off I did, trimming a hedge while drunk back in 1989. Silly-assed thing to do, and it hurt like a son-of-a-gun, but it happened one month before I declared to myself and the world that I was an alcoholic and my life was unmanageable.

Today I look at that scar as the beginning of the end. Today I look at that scar and realize that it takes what it takes for all of us. Self-destructive behavior will never end without a defining moment where we realize it is time to stop or die. For me that moment came with the tip of my finger hanging on by a sliver of skin, and blood pooling at my feet.

I have no feeling in that finger tip today, but I have a great deal of feeling in my heart. Today I am alive, in part because of that foolish stunt back in 1989.

TO THE SMALL OF MY BACK WE GO

Again to 1989 we go. I had just been served divorce papers, and I was drinking heavily. I needed a job, and a friend of mine had an opening at his lumber yard. I knew nothing about working in a lumber yard, but I was hungry and in need, so I took it.

Six months of tossing lumber around and my back started experiencing pain. I ignored it and kept working; what choice did I have. You suck it up and do whatever you need to do to survive, especially when you have no medical benefits.

One day I couldn’t suck it up any longer; I simply could not get out of bed. Off to the doctor’s office, where we discovered I had a ruptured disk. An operation followed, as did six months of recovery, as did the decision to return to teaching, one of the best decisions I have made.

Sober and without pain I found a teaching position that lasted twelve years; during those twelve years I was chosen three times as one of America’s outstanding teachers.

Today the small incision scar is barely noticeable, but it signifies so much to me. You do what you have to do. You always move forward and you do not give up…..you never give up!

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AN ASSORTMENT OF OTHERS

Yes, there are more. The ragged scar on my right arm from falling through the roof of a rusted car when I was a kid is white and still ugly. The two-incher on the same arm from falling on a beer bottle; the lesson that one taught me is quite obvious.

And then there are the scars nobody can see, for they reside on my heart. Two divorces left some ugly scar tissue, as did the times I hurt others with my words and actions. The scars left by others who found me to be an easy target, or who took my love and tossed it away like so much refuse. So many accumulated during a lifetime, but in truth I hardly notice those any longer.

I have come to realize that we all have scars. They are a part of living, and we can either mourn the disfigurement that they cause, or we can learn lessons from them, for if we listen closely we will hear them speaking to us each and every day.

I find no shame in scars. I find no ugliness in them. Today I can look at my scars and reflect upon a life well-lived. There have been mistakes, but then we all make mistakes. There has been pain, but then we all suffer pain. The body will eventually heal itself. The heart will heal, but it takes a conscious effort to allow it to heal, and I have made that effort.

Yes, my youth has passed, and that is as it should be. I make no effort to hold onto my youth for in truth, life is much better today. I have the scars to prove it.

2013 William D. Holland (aka billybuc)

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Lizzie, you are a doll! Thank you and good luck with those community projects.

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      LaThing 4 years ago from From a World Within, USA

      Doing well, thanks for asking! Been busy with some community projects.

      I hope you continue to reach for the stars for years to come, and keep on inspiring us. We are all here for you :)

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Lizzie, how are you my friend? Thank you for the visit! The day I stop reaching for the stars is the day they will put a sheet over my head. The day I stop learning is the day I stop growing.

      Thank you as always!

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      LaThing 4 years ago from From a World Within, USA

      Very valuable hub... Scars of a lifetime makes us who we are and reminds us of what we went through, be it physical scars or emotional ones. Thanks for this reminder, Billy. As always, I am continually being inspires!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Dianna, I often wonder how I survived. LOL I'm just grateful that I did my friend.

      Thank you and I hope your week is a positive one!

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Bill, you were quite a character in your youthful days and live to tell us how those scars made you the man of honor today. Yes, I have scars that have made me a better person. When I look at them they remind me of how much I learned as a result.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Deb, I obviously agree. Until I was willing to learn I had no hope of growing as a human being. :) Thank you!

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      Deb Hirt 4 years ago from Stillwater, OK

      Lessons learned are the most valuable things that we can ever hope to achieve. Followed by that is honesty and integrity. Beyond that, comes everything else. Beautifully done with a clear message in the forefront. Awesome and up!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Leslie, I swear to God, I have to hear the story behind the ironing shoulder scar. If you have any feelings for me at all you will share that story. LOL

      Thank you my dear; yes, truth and humor for sure.

      bill

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      Karen Silverman 4 years ago

      ah, yes, scars...i know them well...lol..

      honestly, to list the physical scars would take...volumes..lol - considering i should be dead a few times over..

      my fav scar tho - yes, i have a fav..lol..is my 'ironing scar' on the shoulder of my right arm...

      yes - ironing, yes, shoulder scar that looks like a tat - and NO - i was not ironing my shirt whilst on..

      I'm just a very graceful klutz..

      The internal scars are something completely different, eh, Bill?

      I found both truth and humor here...thank you

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Kindred, you know as well as I do that our experiences must teach us lessons or we will not grow as human beings.....you have lived this Hub.

      Thank you my dear friend; one day we really must meet as friends. :)

      bill

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      Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

      Kindred, I am four days behind and just starting to catch up with your wonderful self. I'm so glad I started with this one. A man who can look at his scars and see them as a road map of his lessons in life is a man who has character and substance. I always knew you did but it was really fun to get a glimpse into the road you have traveled. Thanks for sharing your scars with your fans. I love how you turn the personal stories into lessons for all of us.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Rajan! I truly do not know where my ideas come from, but I'm glad they do come. :)

      Have a wonderful weekend my friend!

      bill

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      Rajan Singh Jolly 4 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

      Who but you could have thought of writing about scars and connecting them to some sort of personal milestones reached. It is amazing to realize that each scar has a story to tell.

      Wonderfully interesting. Voted up my friend.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Sha, Paula is one of a kind for sure.

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      Shauna L Bowling 4 years ago from Central Florida

      Leave it to Paula to come up with a witty, yet oh-so-appropos term!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Vinaya, we are only human. Accepting our imperfections and shortcomings is only natural. :) Thank you my friend!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Hey Sha...Paula called them road maps that lead us to our final destination....I love that description. I'm just sad I didn't think of it first. LOL

      Thanks Sha!

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      Shauna L Bowling 4 years ago from Central Florida

      Bill, I imagine you really looking at one of your scars, remembering the day you 'earned' it and pondering on what you have learned. That, I would imagine is what instigated this hub. I, too have scars that represent different times in my life. Some are just simple scars such as the one I still have to this day on my right knee from falling off my bike when I was eight. Others are the result of more detrimental, self-destructive causes, but hold reminders for me to never return.

      I think we all carry maps of our lives on our skin, and most definitely in our hearts. They too are building blocks and learning tools - hopefully.....

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      Vinaya Ghimire 4 years ago from Nepal

      Billy,you share a wonderful life's lesson. We must accept our shortcomings and mistakes, and always be ready to learn form our past. This is how we nurture our soul for the benefit of the society.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you DDE! These are the lessons I have learned during my life. Some were hard to learn but they were, and are, very valuable.

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      One learns the best from past experiences, emotionally a remembering allows you to hurt even more. You have shared a wonderful write up thanks

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Eddy, I agree with your thoughts. There are some writers, such as yourself, who I identify with immediately....those are the one I follow daily and always will.

      Blessings and love to you, in Wales, from Olympia

      billy

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Gypsy! What a strange occurrence for father and daughter. Life is filled with odd happening like that. Thank you for sharing and for the visit. Have a great weekend.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you ntmarketing; I appreciate you stopping by.

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      Eiddwen 4 years ago from Wales

      Thank you again for a great read and a time to ponder.

      I relate so much to your work Billy that I usually end up leaving a comment longer than some hubs but today with GREAT SELF CONTROL I will not be doing so .Instead I have the opening of another hub for your H.O.W.

      I don't need to this as I have said it goodness knows how many times but you are inspiration itself my dear friend ;here's to so many more adventure's; experiences and thoughts for us to share on here.

      Lots of love from my little corner of Wales.

      Eddy.

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      Gypsy Rose Lee 4 years ago from Riga, Latvia

      Voted up and interesting. Thanks for sharing Bill. I have an interesting one for you. Back in high school I was over at my boyfriend's and we were getting ready to bring his mom to the hospital. We had gone up to talk to a neighbor of his and the apartment doors were heavy steel and had nasty looking locks. Well there I was closing the door when my grip slipped and my finger found it's way in between the jagged lock. I didn't know how bad it was but it was bloody. At the hospital they stuck me up with needles and sewed back the tip of my finger. Middle finger left hand. At least it was the right finger to stick out for the doc. lol Anyway small scars on both side of the finger. Afterwards discovered an interesting bit of history - traveling to America with my mother in 1951 my dad caught his finger don't know how to explain the finger between the thumb and third finger in the ship's door. So like father like daughter except different finger. lol Life goes on. Hugs. Passing this on.

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      ntmarketing 4 years ago from Elon, NC

      This was really neat to read, great post!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Martin, that's an interesting question; I could ask myself the same. Thanks for the food for thought. :)

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      Martin Kloess 4 years ago from San Francisco

      Thank you for sharing this. I sometimes wonder: Would I have done so much good had my past been more sunny.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Well stated, Rich! Thanks, buddy, and I hope you are well.

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      Rich 4 years ago from Kentucky

      Bill - Sometimes being able to look at a physical scar and remember is much easier than dealing with the mental ones. I think of the abuse of the youngsters of the world that is occurring daily, and can only pray their lives can find a path that takes them far away from the scars it creates. Great job, my friend!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Oh Paula, I love that....that could have been a great hub if I hadn't already written this. Dammit! LOL

      I gave Todd as much as I received....my dad was right as always!

      Thanks buddy!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Reba, it is always a pleasure having you stop by. Have you ever met anyone who seemingly never learns lessons? I can think of a few who seem to miss them quite often....and I find that amazing. Where is the self-awareness? I love that I've made mistakes, and had hard times....it led me to where I am now, and I love my life.

      Blessings coming your way my dear,

      bill

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Rosemay, they will heal if we allow them too. :) Thank you for your kind words!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Always moving forward, Ruby! I have no time for regrets; all I want to do is learn. :) Thank you Ruby!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Freeze, I agree completely. Who I am today is at least in part because of my scars. Wouldn't have it any other way. :) Thank you!

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      Paula 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      bil.....Maybe "scars" on our body and soul are like a road map, showing points of interest. If we fantasize them this way, it's fairly easy to see that they can show us the way.....Give our life direction?

      See? See that place right there? Been there.....not going back and I suggest you don't go either.......Oh , but that scar....that's a fun and crazy place. Might decide to visit there again, but this time, a bit more carefully.

      Hope you taught terrible Todd a good damned lesson!

      I think this hub is a winner, Bill.....Who would we be without our scars? I honestly don't want to think about it!...UP+++

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      Dancing Water 4 years ago

      Bill, I love the way you intertwine your physical scars with what was happening in your life at the time__and the emotional scars that resulted as well. Life is such an eloquent teacher, and we can take so much from each and every thing that happens to us. True, the lessons prove to be painful on many occasions, but if we are willing to examine what happened and why, we can grow and evolve emotionally and spiritually. Then when the lesson is learned, the pain dissipates, and sometimes, even exhilaration ensues. Beautiful hub chock full of wisdom and insight, dear friend. Thank you so much.

      Blessings,

      Reba

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      Rosemary Sadler 4 years ago from Hawkes Bay - NewZealand

      Always such a positive outlook Bill. Enjoyed reading this. Yes we all have scars both physical and emotional, some take longer than others to heal but they all do eventually.

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 4 years ago from Southern Illinois

      Great, honest hub Bill..We all have some sort of scars, not always visable, yet, there as a reminder of past mistakes. I do not dwell on the past any more, such a waste of time and energy. As you re-entered, " move forward. " Thank's for the share...

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      FreezeFrame34 4 years ago from Charleston SC

      Great hub, billybuc!

      Way to turn something that can be negative into a positive!

      There is definitely a difference between sores, wounds, and scars- scars are proof that we healed!

      I've got plenty- physically and emotionally- but I'm a better person because of them.

      Thanks for the great read!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Rosika! I appreciate your kind words my friend.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Donnah, thanks for the visit. I'm not sure I've ever been called 'calming' before. I kind of like it. :)

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you English...very nice to have you visit my site.

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      rosika 4 years ago

      A very positive way of looking at life billybuc...we all have scars and pain but we can't dwell on them, rather, as you said, we learn from them, learn things that are valuable to our inner self, to our soul.

      Great writing here!

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      Donna Hilbrandt 4 years ago from Upstate New York

      Lovely. There is something calming about this piece that inspires self reflection and 'centering'. Voted up!

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      english-zone 4 years ago

      From this hub I learned that my scars will be my reflections of my valuable life. Great hub!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Peggy! I think we can all relate to this one. :)

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      Peggy Woods 4 years ago from Houston, Texas

      Hi Bill,

      We all get scars if we live long enough. Some are visible on the outside and others are in our hearts. We can learn from them and that is good if done right. This is a well written hub and makes one think. Up, useful and beautiful votes...for the lesson told is indeed beautiful.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Mark, life has been a great teacher. At least we were teachable! :) Thanks buddy! Sending positive vibes your way.

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      Mark G Weller 4 years ago from Lake Charles, LA.

      I probably have a long list of scars too. A similar bully in the 6th grade, the time I sliced myself practicing with my Japanese sword etc. Yes the inner scars from relationships and from experiencing the pain in the world.

      But as you say, the lessons are attached to those scars, and the value of those is immeasurable.

      Mark

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you loyalsudz!

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      loyalsudz 4 years ago from East Coast

      Thank you for sharing! Great perspective!!!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Time, who would have thought long ago, while we were collecting those scars, that they would signify character. LOL I'm glad I lived long enough to realize that.

      Thank you for the visit and the great comment.

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      TIMETRAVELER2 4 years ago

      I learned long ago that what develops character is not how many times life knocks you down, but how many times you get back up. You apparently are loaded with character, Bill. Bravo!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Liz....LOL...one kid is enough for sure!

      Live in the moment....I like that....and scars and tattoos do allow us that reflections. Thanks as always;

      Bev is slightly better today; thank you for asking.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Pickles, those scars are no fun when we get them, but they do serve a purpose later on in life. Thank you for the visit. You are always welcome!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Pamela! I love writing hubs like this one; they make me no money but I feel better when I am done. :)

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Glimmer, it is so true...thank you! Some lessons we never forget....gratefully!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Rosie, that was a lovely comment. I'm so happy that you are happy and contented. What a great gift that is.

      Thank you for the visit, and Happy New Year to you as well.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Ruby, I agree that age is a matter of mind...I feel fantastic and it's all because of my attitude towards life.

      Thank you my friend!

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      Liz Davis 4 years ago from Hudson, FL

      I have a scar about six inches below my belly button to remind me that one kid is enough for me! LOL

      It's so interesting to look at scars and remember the stories behind them. I think that's why people are so into tattoos today--the marks left behind continue to force you into the moment in this fast-paced world.

      I hope Bev is feeling better today.

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      picklesandrufus 4 years ago from Virginia Beach, Va

      great hub Billybuc! Scars, many times represent lessons learned. I have a few of them myself!!

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      Pamela Oglesby 4 years ago from United States

      I really think this may be one of your best hubs. Sure, we all have scars and we sometimes learn tough lessons. I had to repeat a couple of those painful lessons, but over time we learn. I love the way you went about writing this hub and the message is powerful.

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      Glimmer Twin Fan 4 years ago

      Great hub and the very best part is what your dad said to you. That should be on a poster....that scar is a badge of courage.

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      Rosie Rose 4 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Hiya Billy, I enjoyed reading your very interesting and touching story. As everyone else, I too have many scars (mostly invisible), and I wear them proudly. These scars are part of me, of what I have become... a happy and content person. Voted up. Cheers!

      I wish you a happy, healthy and prosperous new year.

      Rosie

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      Maree Michael Martin 4 years ago from Northwest Washington on an Island

      I have always tried proud of my scars, they help me explain who I am. Thankfully, I am learning to do it positively! What a great way to connect all of who we are with who we want to be.

      Age is a matter of mind, for sure. My scars define me too.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      They do indeed, Stephanie! Thanks for the visit; you are always welcome in my neighborhood. :)

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      stephanieb27 4 years ago from United States

      Awesome hub!! Got me thinking about my scars, they definitely make for interesting stories. :)

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Carol, that's the hope, that the scars get thinner as time passes. I'm glad yours are; it definitely shows growth. Thank you my friend; I hope it's warmer in Arizona than it is here in Olympia.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Jaye, we must, indeed, make peace with our scars. Learning from them helps us grow as human beings, and that can never be a bad thing. :) Thank you my friend! Sending you blessings this day and always.

      bill

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      David, thank you, and I wish for you a great day as well. What are you waiting for? Get out there and shake things up!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      xstatic, if I did that with my writing then I succeeded as a writer, and that makes me happy. Thank you Sir!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Mary, Todd's probably busy extorting money somewhere. LOL I'm so glad you liked this hub. This is the kind of writing I'm comfortable with; I still try to write evergreen hubs about mundane stuff, but this is the kind of writing that really moves me and challenges me to be a better writer. Your kind words are music to my ears. Thank you!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Awww, Pearl, thank you! What good are experiences if we can't learn from them and share them with others? I no longer have secrets; nothing to hide, and I am so much healthier because of it.

      Thank you for validating my decision to be an open book on HP.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      healthylife, I love comments like this one. Thank you for sharing your experience, and I am so happy that my writing helped you. That humbles me and it is a gift that you have given me. I greatly appreciate that my friend.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      onegreenparachute, it is a great reminder indeed. Thank you for the visit and kind words.

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      Jaye Denman 4 years ago from Deep South, USA

      Your introspective hubs are "learning adventures" for your readers, Bill. This is an excellent one. I have a lot of scars from surgeries, and most of them never bothered me. The only one that caused angst is now just a part of the "me" that currently exists. We must make peace with our scars, both physical and emotional.

      Another great hub! Voted Up+++ and shared.

      Jaye

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      carol stanley 4 years ago from Arizona

      yes we do have scars and some are inside and don't show. I have a scar under my bottom lip and I got when I was 9 years old..Playing rough in the school playground. I was sure having fun though. I have broken a few bones and actually have a few small scars..but some of mine as I said are inside..a little harder to see. We all make mistakes and get a scar or two that stays with us. Great hub and those scars are getting thinner each day.

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      David Warren 4 years ago from Nevada

      Honest and from the heart. After checking "Some I have; some I haven't" made me think. What am I waiting for? Useful and beautiful, voted up. Hope you have a great day!

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      Jim Higgins 4 years ago from Eugene, Oregon

      One of the best, Bill. As I read about your scars, I thought about my own, and the lessons learned.

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      Mary Craig 4 years ago from New York

      Over and over you hit us right in the heart. Everyone's got a scar of some size, shape or form...right again Bill. What we learn from it and what we do from that point on is what matters. Most of my physical scars are from surgery, except for the small ones I got from cutting off warts when I was a kid .... brilliant ay? But, like everyone else I have emotional scars, left by people with no emotions.

      Great hub with lots of statements that make us stop and think. (I wonder if Todd read this hub?)

      Voted up, useful, interesting, and shared.

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      Connie Smith 4 years ago from Southern Tier New York State

      Billy, I keep saying that you've done it again, but this time you've really done it!! This has to be one of my very favorites. I can't imagine how many people you have helped with your willingness to open up all those old wounds and reveal the scars. I'm just glad you got the message with that finger scar before anything worse happened! Voted Up, Useful and Awesome, my friend.

      Pearl

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      Healthy Life 4 years ago from Connecticut, USA

      Thanks Bill! I needed to read this today. A few days ago I was feeling upset about a scar from a port that was installed during chemotherapy that is a constant reminder of a challenging time. Although a child size port had to be used it still left a huge scar but did serve its purpose and saved my veins. I love the way you showed that scars can tell a story about a person's life and was fascinated reading your story. Even if one day I can afford a plastic surgeon to remove my scars I don't think I will. Voted up and shared!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Poolman, can you even imagine not having scars? I certainly can't and I agree...talk about a boring life! LOL Thank you my friend!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Beckie, you and Bev....cut from the same cloth. LOL Love to you too, and I'll tell Bev you send best wishes.

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      Carol 4 years ago from Greenwood, B.C., Canada

      This is a great piece with an easy flow to it. Nice work Mr. Billy - and I'm really glad you can easily see that scar on your finger. One very good reminder!

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      Shining Irish Eyes 4 years ago from Upstate, New York

      Already your wishes come far to late my friend. I think my brain moves faster than my feet...or my dog.

      Seriously - great hub Billy.

      I love you and hope Bev is on the mend as well.

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      Old Poolman 4 years ago

      Bill, an over 60 body with no scars has led a very boring life, or at least a charmed life. I just hit 75 and my scars bring back lots of memories, some good and some bad. Great hub my friend.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Crystal my young, beautiful friend....how nice to have you visit again. I hope you are well and I'm very happy that you liked this hub. Thank you for your friendship and your kind words.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Pooja, you bring up a good point; it takes time to learn the lessons of scars. Thank you for mentioning that valid point.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Beckie, even on a serious subject you manage to have me laughing out loud. Fitted pants? Not letting go of the mower? My God, girl, how have you survived these years? LOL Thank you my dear friend; try to stay safe today, okay?

      love,

      billy

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      Crystal Tatum 4 years ago from Georgia

      Absolutely beautiful, my favorite of your hubs. This reminds me of a song I heard Marie Osmond sing - " My Reflection" - about the stories behind our scars and our appearances. On another note, I really hope Todd Mullen stumbles across this! Voting up, beautiful and shared. Congrats for all your hard work and all the benefits you've reaped.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Eric, I hate violence, so it's a little surprising I've been involved in my share of it. I never look for it, but there are times it needs to happen.....bullies cannot be tolerated; nor can abusers.

      Thank you Sir!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      slacker, I would imagine most people can relate to this hub. We have all learned lessons, haven't we? What would it be like to learn no lessons? How weird and empty would that be?

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      poojasd7 4 years ago from India

      Being a young person, I am still struggling to live with some of my scars. But, I have let go of others. It takes a lot of effort to deal with those scars.

      Loved this poignant subject and hub. :-)

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Doc.....LOL...I have actually talked with people like Todd, who have changed over the years. Often we joke about the way we once were. I would never hold bitterness over the actions of a child, but if that person were still the same, I do believe I might point out a few things. I may be more mellow but I still have a threshold that should not be crossed. :) Thank you so much; you are special my friend.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Janine! In truth I can't imagine not having scars. How can you live life if you don't learn lessons along the way? I think those scars are very important for personal growth.

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      Eric Dierker 4 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Praise the Lord for your dad. A beautiful lesson that allows you now to put all in perspective. Thanks for a great hub. My dad told me; "never throw the first punch and do your best to throw the last one" My favorite physical scars are the ones I got showing off for Love.