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Preparing For Your Sobriety

Updated on August 12, 2013
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When we have something in our mind that we want to do or get accomplished, many times we need to prepare for what has to be done and the sequence in which it should be done.

For example, taking that family vacation. Look at all we have to do just to get ready for our vacation. In many cases, we have to line up our transportation, whether it be by air, train or boat. We need to reserve the place in which we will be staying and make sure we have all necessary clothing and everything that goes along with a family vacation. It is a lot of work and a lot of preparing to make sure that your family vacation is a great one with lots of memories when returning.

This brings me to say, taking that family vacation could be only be for a few days, a week or two or possibly even months, but whatever the case may be you will be returning to your home and the place that you live.

When we prepare for our sobriety hopefully we will not be returning to the horror of alcohol addiction. We need to know that once we leave on our journey to sobriety there is no turning back and coming home to the addiction that could of ruined your life.

Preparing for your sobriety is somewhat different in a sense that this is something you have to do, but not necessary want to do deep down inside. Many of us alcoholics are afraid to make that decision to get clean and sober even though we know we have to do it to save our families and possibly save our own lives. It's a scary thing to prepare for, at least it was for me.


What Helped Me Prepare For My Sobriety

Preparing for my own sobriety was a bit of a challenge for me. One reason was that I loved my drink, mostly beer, but lots of it. The alcohol was part of my everyday life as it is to all alcoholics and saying goodbye to something that has been part of you and unfortunately, part of your whole family is a tough thing to leave behind. Surrendering to an addiction may be the hardest thing you may ever have to do in your life

I found out that yes, it was the toughest thing I had ever done, but the payoff of sobriety is the best thing that could of ever happened to me and to all alcoholics when they get clean and sober.

First and foremost, the alcoholic needs to want to quit drinking alcohol. Without this huge want to stop drinking alcohol the alcoholic will never achieve long term sobriety or any sobriety at all.

In my quest to become clean and sober I had some real heavy duty decisions that had to be made before I took that first and most important step of my life. The first step away from my addiction to alcohol and the first step towards my new world of sobriety.

I prepared my mind for what was going to be the biggest step forward in my life. I had to promise myself that if I become clean and sober forever, I will not be able to pick up another alcoholic drink for the rest of my life and when I was okay with that promise to myself is then I chose the start date for my sobriety and my new life to begin.

I had to change my outlook on life from the negative thoughts and negative things in general I thought of and start thinking Positive and changing negativity into a positive attitude. Thinking with this positive attitude helped me in so many ways to get through those first weeks and months of my sobriety.

Positivity in your life will guide you in the right direction if you believe in yourself and tell yourself continuously that you will conquer your addiction and you will get clean and sober and stay clean and sober. Keep telling yourself just how proud you are of your own self and you should be proud, as I am, for something many alcoholics think will never happen in their lifetime and that is to be clean and sober.

I keep telling myself that all this hard work and determination will pay off in the long run when I can totally forget about my past addiction to alcohol and it has happened.  I never think about or have the urge to drink alcohol.  The only reminder of my addiction to alcohol is when I write my articles on this addiction.  Other than that, Alcohol is out of my life forever.

Each and everyday I stayed sober it became easier and easier to deal with my new life of sobriety and it will be the same for all those that want sobriety back into their lives.

Always remember these important words, "IF THERE IS A WILL THERE IS A WAY" and "BELIEVE AND YOU WILL ACHIEVE" and that also goes for everything you do in life, not just becoming clean and sober.

God Bless all those that are trying to change their lives and become clean and sober! Think positive and positive results will come into your life!

© 2011 Mark Bruno

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    • the clean life profile imageAUTHOR

      Mark Bruno 

      7 years ago from New Jersey Shore

      sholland10 I will put a few of these on Traffup and I want to thank you again for sharing these and thank you for letting all of us know about Traffup. It is the first I heard of it and I am excited to try it out.

      God Bless you and yours!!

      Mark

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      Susan Holland 

      7 years ago from Southwest Missouri

      I have already shared two of your hubs and sent your profile link to a loved one. I hope you put these on Traffup. Hopefully, someone will see them and stop long enough while they are clicking for points to read and/or share. Take Care and GOD BLESS! :-)

    • the clean life profile imageAUTHOR

      Mark Bruno 

      7 years ago from New Jersey Shore

      sholland10, I am thrilled to write my life as an alcoholic and just how I surrendered with no AA or 12 step program. I did it all my own and I want everyone to know that is always hope to get clean and sober. All you have to do is to want it bad enough to take that first step towards sobriety. Thanks so much !! :) I hope one of these hubs touches someone life and it does it will make me very happy to know I helped someone like myself.

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      Susan Holland 

      7 years ago from Southwest Missouri

      I have to share this one, too! UP AND AWESOME!! Thanks for your honesty. I know it is reaching people.

    • the clean life profile imageAUTHOR

      Mark Bruno 

      7 years ago from New Jersey Shore

      Denise - Your words really touched my heart as they always do. As they say, the older we get the wiser we are. Just glad I saw the light before it was too late.

      Thanks so much Denise for your comment and for being a great friend! :)

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      Elena@LessIsHealthy 

      7 years ago

      awesome hub!

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      Denise Handlon 

      7 years ago from North Carolina

      Beautiful words to live by, Marky. You are a wonderful example of following those words. Absolutely true: preparing is meeting the challenge with a warrier's attitude-'I will conquer and thus succeed'. It is also true that one must be aware of what he or she is giving up and grieve, grieve, grieve. This allows the heart to open to a new life-new and fresh. It allows for a healing. Without this awareness and mourning resentment is built. You may not have been the most astute kid in the classroom growing up, but you are a heck of a wiser old man, LOL Take care.

    • the clean life profile imageAUTHOR

      Mark Bruno 

      7 years ago from New Jersey Shore

      @ Holly- Thanks so much for your kind words and for the Facebook Like. Means a lot to me. I really try to get he word out in hopes that it will help someone suffering with an addiction to get sober.

      Mark

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      Holly 

      7 years ago from Lone Star State

      Such a great Hub and the advice is right on, not just for alcoholism, but addiction as a disease. Thanks for sharing- Rated Uo! Awesome! and Useful...and I will like it on Facebook as well :)

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