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Qualities I Admire Most In A Person: A Moment With Bill Reflection

Updated on December 26, 2013

Are You Perfect?

Really? You are? Well then take your act down the road because I really don’t want to hang with you. Why you ask? Simply because perfection is unattainable in a human being, and if you think you have attained it then you are a bit, shall we say, OFF YOUR ROCKER!

The other problem I have with perfection is that I find it a bit dull. I love flaws in people. Flaws are interesting. Flaws add flair. Flaws add bling. Flaws are so very cool. Flaws are very human, and I have no desire to rub shoulders with “less than human.”

Seven point two billion human beings on this planet, a veritable sea of emotions; sometimes calm and peaceful; sometimes a raging cauldron of illogic, fear and self-centered egotism, but always interesting.

Let me state for the record that people fascinate me. I would love to say that I love everyone I meet but that simply would not be the truth. I love mankind, and I treat everyone I meet with respect, but it just is not within me to love every person I am in contact with. Some people just annoy the hell out of me, and I have no doubt that I annoy others as well. Oh well!

There are a great many, however, that I do admire and respect. They have exhibited certain qualities that make them honorary members of the Bill Holland Human Hall of Fame, and until the day comes when they forfeit their membership by acting inhuman, they can kick back in my clubhouse any old time they want.

What are those qualities you ask?

I know some animals that have more compassion than some people I have met
I know some animals that have more compassion than some people I have met | Source

COMPASSION

Our task must be to free ourselves by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature and its beauty.

Albert Einstein

A feeling of distress for the suffering and misfortune of another; that, my friends, is compassion in a nutshell.

Do you have it?

Do you have it when you see the homeless in the world? Do you have it when you witness injustice? Do you have it when your next door neighbor loses his job, or when that mother of four down the street has a house fire and all possessions are lost?

I know for a fact that the polar opposite of compassion is apathy, and never during my lifetime have I seen more apathy than I witness in today’s society. One would have to be an ostrich not to notice the suffering happening in the world today and yet there are those who are seemingly unaffected by it. Those people need not apply for membership into my Hall of Fame.

EMPATHY

The struggle of my life created empathy - I could relate to pain, being abandoned, having people not love me.

Oprah Winfrey

Yes indeed, the ability to relate to the pain of others…to have empathy for them.

How can I tell someone I know how they feel if I have never experienced what they are experiencing? How can anyone understand loss if they have never lost? How can they understand and relate to emotional pain so acute as to seem like a million knives rammed into your heart, if they have never lived it?

Life is about struggle, and life is about enduring and overcoming that struggle. The people I am closest to…the people who have had the most profound effect on my life…are people who have suffered and risen above it. They understand what it means to be overwhelmed by an emptiness of the soul. They understand the courage and determination it takes just to climb out of bed when your entire being is screaming to hide under the covers.

And because they understand it, they are able, in turn, to provide comfort to those who are in dire need of a sympathetic ear or an understanding hug. Those are the people I hang with and proudly call my brothers and sisters.

HUMILITY

I claim to be a simple individual liable to err like any other fellow mortal. I own, however, that I have humility enough to confess my errors and to retrace my steps.

Mahatma Gandhi

Humility is freedom from excessive pride and arrogance. It is to have a realistic opinion of one’s worth in this world. It is the hero that battles the anti-hero, ego, for most of our lifetimes.

How many of you know a loudmouth who dominates every conversation? How many of you know a person who is blinded by the light of their imagined greatness?

St. Augustine once told us that in order to rise to the level of the angels we must first build a foundation of humility. St. Augustine can hang out in my clubhouse any old day. What would the world be like if there were less ego and more humility? Can you imagine?

Leo Buscaglia On Being Human

This lady is the personification of love
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LOVE

Love always creates, it never destroys. In this lie's man's only promise.

Leo Buscaglia

I don’t know any other way to say this: without love we are doomed as a species. Do you live love?

I am an observer of life. I grab a comfortable chair and I sit back and take notes while watching humanity parade before me. Perhaps all writers are like that, observers of the life game. As an observer, I wonder how many on this planet profess to be Christians? I’m just curious. Wikipedia tells me that Christianity is the world’s largest religion with an estimated 2.2 billion Christians roaming this planet. Although I rarely use Wikipedia as the know-all source of knowledge, I suspect in this case that they are fairly accurate in their claim.

Now I am left with this question: I wonder how many Christians live their faith? I wonder that because Christianity is based on the principle of love, and if that is the case then how is it possible that there are so many acts of hate in this world? How can there be so much bigotry? How can there be so much intolerance? If 2.2 billion Christians lived the faith they profess, then this world would see much less turmoil, would it not? And yet daily we see hundreds of thousands of examples of un-Christian behavior. How is that possible?

Well the answer is obvious, isn’t it?

Imagine tomorrow if 2.2 billion people lived lives based on love. What would the world look like?

Love has no qualifications. It has no limits based on creed. It has no limits based on race. Love is all-encompassing and all-inclusive. We are all capable of it and we are all capable of rejecting it.

The choice is ours.

The people I hang with have made the choice of love.

There You Have It

Those are the qualifications that my Hall of Fame members all have in common. You know already if you are a member and to you I say welcome and I’m glad you are here. If, however, you are lacking in one or more of these qualifications, but you wish to become a member, then you have some work to do. It really isn’t hard. All you have to do is what comes natural and become a human being. All you have to do is embrace your finer qualities and reject those qualities that hinder you in your search for human greatness.

Once you become a member you will receive no secret decoder ring. You will receive no plaque or ribbons, and there will be no parades in your honor. All you will receive…all that you will receive….is the knowledge that you have lived your life as you were meant to live it from the moment you were born…soaring with the angels and exhibiting the finest qualities of humanity.

The choice is yours.

2013 William D. Holland (aka billybuc)

“Helping writers to spread their wings and fly.”

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      SkySlave, that is the nicest thing you could have told me. That is exactly what I want my writer's voice to feel like to the reader. Thank you for that.

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      Skyler DeCristoforo 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I love your sense of humor in your writings. I feel like i'm having a conversation with you when i read your words and that to me is awesome!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Dianna, I love it, the gift of a smile for the day. I am smiling myself now. Thank you!

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      Dianna Mendez 3 years ago

      If a person only follows these virtures, they will live well and bless others. What a great post and it has me smiling for the day.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Evan, welcome to HubPages. Thanks for commenting; it helps me to know who is really following me so I can return the favor.

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      Evan Smiley 3 years ago from Oklahoma City

      I feel like everyone should take the time to read this. Thanks for the hub!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      drbj, thank you kind friend. Happy holidays to you and I am quite happy they are behind us. :) They disrupt my schedule; how dare they? LOL

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      drbj and sherry 3 years ago from south Florida

      Dear Bill, in your last comment, you summed up the entire message of this thoughtful hub. You may not be perfect but you 'keep trying to improve.' If every human on the face of this earth could follow that adage, our world would be a much nicer, loving place.

      Thank you for continually reminding us. A belated happy holiday wish to you and Bev.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      DDE, I am about as far from perfect as one can get, but I keep trying to improve.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Everyone seeks perfection to please others but nobody is perfect and you said it all here.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Me too, Mary; me too! So many tears shed and so many still to go. Thank you my kindred spirit.

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      Mary Craig 3 years ago from New York

      Well it's easy to see why you like me! "I love flaws in people."... Well, you've come to the right place ;)

      Compassion and empathy to the point of tears, I strive for humility and hope I radiate the love I feel.

      As always Bill, a great hub by a great person!

      Voted up, useful, awesome, and interesting.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Good night Anna!

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      Anna Haven 3 years ago from Scotland

      Yes 345am. I am just going. Sometimes night is the only spare time to write, so I have adjusted to occasional sparse sleep.

      Night Bill. :)

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Anna, it's just not in me to love everyone. I try to at least respect those I meet, but that's the best I can do. :) It just dawned on me what time it is in Scotland. Go to bed my friend and thanks for the visits.

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      Anna Haven 3 years ago from Scotland

      Without flaws we would be flat and wooden with no path to work towards.

      Like you I hate injustice and I would always feel for my fellow human and I would always give help when they were needed it, but also like you I can't profess to love or even like everyone.

      An honest, well rounded hub. :)

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Carol. It's nice to know I'm not the only one who feels that way. :) Have a great weekend.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Oh mathira, you stated that perfectly. I love your words and I thank you for them.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Wiccan, there sure is. I would be a hypocrite if I said I love everyone...I simply can't do it. :) Thank you for visiting again; I'll be by to visit you shortly.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Kirsa, thank you for your kind words and I'll check your site out shortly....as for the flaw, thanks...I'll get to them shortly.

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      Mackenzie Sage Wright 3 years ago

      Aww, that's so sweet. I love the quotes, they're so fitting. I'm also in the club that thinks you just can't love everyone. There's a difference between caring about your fellow human being and loving someone.

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      carol stanley 3 years ago from Arizona

      This hub gave us a chance to examine ourselves and how we are in this world. Lots of good traits...I think I have a lot of empathy and sympathy..Loving everyone..no way. Despite the fact that the world is full of good people...there are some not so good..As always a great write.

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      mathira 3 years ago from chennai

      When we are too focused on perfection, finding happiness becomes impossible. You have done an incredibly good job, billy. Very true and very inspiring!

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      kirsa whitley 3 years ago from Charlotte

      I just want to say I was very moved by your paper and I would love to be part of your club! I agree with the mass majority of what you had to say, by the way speaking of flaws, you had 2 typos I caught ....if you would like to read some of my work I welcome you.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      vkwok, you raised an interesting question; perhaps food for thought and another hub down the road. Thank you!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Bill and we did have a nice Christmas. I hope you did as well, and have a great weekend as we bring down the curtain on 2013.

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      Victor W. Kwok 3 years ago from Hawaii

      Perfection is close to a myth, but whether it's wrong or right to pursue it, depends.

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      Bill De Giulio 3 years ago from Massachusetts

      This was beautiful Bill. I totally agree with you, imperfection is what I find so fascinating in mankind. I am always telling my wife, if we were all perfect it would be a pretty boring life. Hope you had a nice Christmas.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Hello Debbie and Happy Holidays to you. Thank you for the visit my friend. Hope 2014 is a year of wonder for you.

      bill

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      Deborah Brooks Langford 3 years ago from Brownsville,TX

      Well hello and happy almost new year dear billy.. I love your hub. So much truth.. Wish I could be perfect but boy oh boy I am so far from being perfect.. As we all know.. Nice to see you

      Debbie

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Ahh, Doc, thanks for the visit. I don't know why ego turns me off so quickly but I have a tendency to instantly dislike someone who has a need to try and impress me. Anyway, I enjoy being imperfect. It certainly makes life interesting. :)

      Thank you my dear and blessings to you always.

      bill

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      ChitrangadaSharan, thank you so much for the visit and your thoughts. Blessings this weekend and beyond.

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      Chitrangada Sharan 3 years ago from New Delhi, India

      This is very inspirational and interesting one! I believe, no one is perfect, but the desire and thought to improve ourselves , always for the better is a good quality.

      Great hub as always, which makes us Introspect. Thanks!

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      lovedoctor926 3 years ago

      Hi Billy, Hope you and Bev had a wonderful Christmas. I read this hub several times this week and I must say that I love it. Compassion, humility, empathy, the ability to feel other people's pain and misfortune and honesty are good virtues. Nothing turns me off more about a person than arrogance and pride. There are too many people in this world who think they're perfect & all that. Just like you, I have yet to meet one because in my opinion, only God represents perfection. Everyone has flaws and weaknesses, nothing wrong with admitting them. There are personality traits in people that I find annoying and just like you pointed out, I'm sure that there are traits in me that other people find annoying. A very good hub.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Michael my friend, good morning. Sorry I didn't get to you last night but sleep called before I was finished with comments.

      Your words and thoughts are accurate and beautiful as always. There is no need for me to add to the truths you have written here.

      I wish you a beautiful and love-filled weekend my friend and thank you.

      blessings always

      bill

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Nadine, those are true words. I, too, believe we all want to be loved...and it begins with me. :) Thank you for your beautiful thoughts.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Theresa, I had a mentor once who told me that we all have built-in forgetters. LOL I love that phrase and it is true. No matter how wonderful out intentions, there are days when life just gets in our way. I would have you in my corner any old day my friend.

      blessings and thanks always

      bill

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Minnetonka, I did have a wonderful holiday and I hope you had the same. Thank you my "work in progress" friend. :)

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      Nadine May 3 years ago from Cape Town, Western Cape, South Africa

      Loved your article Billy. I know in my heart that everybody, all human beings want the same thing, to be treated with love and respect, so my intent is to treat others the way I want to be treated. For me that means: to inspire others to be the best they can be. To awaking people's full soul potential with understanding, love and respect.

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      Theresa Ast 3 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia

      Four such necessary qualities if we are to help and nurture our friends and family...and when we are at our best, we can even extend ourselves to strangers, occasionally enemies.

      Like most of us I suppose I have good days and bad days, but long ago I decided that I could and should act/be "loving" even to those that I frankly found quite unlovable.

      Sometimes I forget that I made a "decision" many years ago, but usually there is somebody around (sometimes it is you, thank you) to remind me of my commitment. And I try to remember that there are surely people who choose to love me when I am quite unlovable. A good day after Christmas reminder for us all. Blessings. Theresa

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      Linda Rogers 3 years ago from Minnesota

      Dear Bill-what a fitting article for this holy season. I love the saying that we are all a work in progress. I hope you had a beautiful Christmas with your family. Thanks for the gift of this meaningful hub.

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      Michael-Milec 3 years ago

      Hello billibuc.

      Perhaps everyone's choice of virtues you are listing, compulsory for people to act as human beings. Answering your question , 99% yes. On one % remaining I'm working hard all my life. Who is setting standard for perfection, anyway.? Doing my best, meeting standard of requirement, it is " MY PERFECT. " Debatable.? Agree.

      Sine we have here Mr. William Dale Holland, who is dealing with us sincerely , allow me to talk to you on the subject of your question :" I wonder how many Christians live their faith !?" - because christianity is based on the principle of love.( Playing on this " christianity"playground over seventy years - first hand experience. )

      Frankly as your question deserves best possible answer, than seems true, "christianity" is nothing more than any other religious tradition whatsoever ( Based on evidences ). IF, again IF christianity- "CHRISTIANS" would live to the principles of their " originator '" which is "Christ " the Anointed One , - there in their movement wouldn't be any room for divorce, abortion, cheating. badmouthing, laziness , and such because they would strictly follow-obey the ONE who told to His followers "So then you must be perfect as your heavenly Father is perfect." (Gospel ) .One more thing : These same followers were taught to pray " Our Father…" Presumably some of the Christians -followers- believers - "faith " people "WE " who are making those two plus billion population of the world, have all ingrediences available to have ' COMPASSION', 'EMPATHY', 'HUMILITY',

      'LOVE',- to be "perfect ". Wouldn't this correspond with applying ALL we know and doing our best?! In my humble opinion, many 'neighborhoods' would be makingking headlines…

      In this case, your "Bill Holland Human Hall of Fame "- would be humongous.

      Voting up, useful and interesting.

      (Please, spare me of reprehension.)

      Good night and God bless you.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Ruby, I hang with the retreads and the imperfections....those are my kind of people and always will be. :) And I'm glad you are one of them. Thank you!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Barbara, I am a lucky man. Much luckier than I probably deserve to be, but I'm not complaining.

      Thank you!

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 3 years ago from Southern Illinois

      Well..let me say that i am glad you are not perfect and can bond with others who are afflicted with the same qualities. At one period in my life i was a perfectionist and was miserable if everything was not perfect. I feel sorry for anyone who is seeking perfection, it AIN'T ' gonna happen...Great message/ write. Thank you...

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      Barbara Badder 3 years ago from USA

      I agree with you that these are the special people. If you have them in your life, you need to cherish them. Thanks for another great hub.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I know they got married in 2001, but I don't know when her plastic surgery was. From what I've read they seem to be a very happy couple.

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      Shauna L Bowling 3 years ago from Central Florida

      I wonder if they got married before or after her cosmetic surgery?

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      LOL...that's exactly what happened, Sha!

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      Shauna L Bowling 3 years ago from Central Florida

      Ah, that explains it. Baby wasn't pretty at all but she had grace and finesse (once she was urged to let it out). I didn't want to say it, but it seems Jennifer Grey grew into her nose. I surmise it was the other way around!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      One other thing about her, Sha...she had extensive plastic surgery. She really doesn't even look like the Jennifer Grey of Dirty Dancing. I was blown away when I found out who she was. :)

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      Donna Kay Bryan 3 years ago

      Bill, what a beautiful hub! I wish that I could print it out and make a gazillion copies. I would then stand on a street corner and hand it out to everyone I meet, and visit every church and Wal-Mart parking lot to place it on the windshield of every vehicle in the lots. People just don't seem to care about the world around them anymore. In this fast-paced world too many don't WANT to take the time to try to understand what might be going on in someone's life, or to try to find a way to help that person. They just don't seem to realize how we are all connected. Your big heart and wise words, I believe, could change many hearts. Blessings to you, Donna

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      Shauna L Bowling 3 years ago from Central Florida

      Bill, I was unaware of either. I commented to Christopher that the woman was pretty and had such beautiful skin. Talk about an ugly duckling turning into a swan!

      I'm a sucker for love stories and this one had a happy ending on all fronts!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      DrBill, talk about an unattainable goal! That's is a one way ticket to permanent frustration and I don't need it. :) Thank you Sir!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      LK, thank you so much. I love your spirit and kind heart, so you also inspire me. Kindred spirits my friend.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Flourish and obviously I agree, tolerance is a wonderful virtue.

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      William Leverne Smith 3 years ago from Hollister, MO

      The last thing I wanted to hear from one my students was: "I'm a perfectionist!" Oh, boy... don't get me started.

      Thanks for the reflections! Very useful, as always! ;-)

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      LKMore01 3 years ago

      Bill,

      You have selected truly amazing role models for humankind to aspire. You inspire me. We share an admiration for the same qualities and virtues. Peace to you and you family always. Beautiful HUB.

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      FlourishAnyway 3 years ago from USA

      Those are wonderful qualities in anyone. I enjoy tolerance as well, tolerance for beliefs, traditions, habits, and all things human that just don't happen to be one's own.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Lea, you are such a bright light in this sometimes dark world. Thank you my dear. You, too, are such a ripple, and those who see you daily understand that very well. Blessings to you always my dear friend.

      bill

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      Sparklea 3 years ago from Upstate New York

      Compassion, Empathy, Humility &LOVE. wonderful piece about these exceptional traits in a human being. I hope this hub opens the eyes of many readers. In this day and age it is so easy to be judgmental, angry, and...always in a hurry! oh, if we could learn to embrace each moment and being thankful that we are even breathing! And discard all the pettiness and nonsense we allow ourselves to get upset about. Oh, that everyone could possess compassion, empathy, humility and love, and spread it like a ripple throughout our planet. The good news is that even ONE person can get the ripple started until it becomes a wave of millions of others...and you, my friend, are that ripple. Voted up, useful and awesome...and THANK YOU and GOD BLESS, Sparklea :)

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Paula my dear, Merry Christmas although a bit late. Love everyone? I don't think I have it in me, but I can work on tolerance and that's the best I can hope for. I'm getting closer on the humility thing as long as I keep my ego in check....like you, compassion and empathy come naturally...or come from experience...or both.

      Thanks for being here my dear Sister.

      bill

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Sha, I'm laughing...I watched the same movie. Did you know those two are married in real life? did you know that the actress was Jennifer Grey from "Dirty Dancing" fame? LOL..I love that you were watching the same movie.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Sam! I appreciate you stopping by.

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      Paula 3 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      bill......Since we're half-siblings, I don't suppose I need to mention the familial flaws...(and I'll pay you not to).......

      There you go again....always making sense and offering wise words to ponder. As I read, I interrogated myself. As usual, I think I end up somewhat "half-assed."

      Not a single doubt I have the empathy and compassion thing, down to (as I'm often told) a fault. So be it. Should I be ashamed to admit that I do not LOVE everyone? Hope not, because I do not love everyone. The best I can do there, is refrain from despising them. For now, until I evolve into some Supreme Being, that's gonna have to do, in the love dept.

      Humility? Depends on who you ask................LMAO!! Great hub as always, bro...UP+++ tweeted.

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      Shauna L Bowling 3 years ago from Central Florida

      Our flaws make us beautiful and characterize us as humans.

      I was watching a Christmas movie yesterday in which the male lead was an artist who quit his craft when his wife died. The female lead, who was hitching a ride with him and his daughter ventured into his mother's barn (they had to stop for the night) and saw his beautiful sculptures made from metal. He showed her one piece that he deemed his favorite because he almost didn't complete it due to a flaw in the metal. He then realized that that very flaw was what drove the character of the piece.

      And so it is with us humans. Our flaws drive our character and hopefully make us compassionate, tolerant, loving people.

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      SAM ELDER 3 years ago from Home

      Awesome one

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Mark, that is a truth that is hard to accept but is very true. Thanks for mentioning that my friend.

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      Mark G Weller 3 years ago from Lake Charles, LA.

      Well said Bill,

      The struggle goes on to love and support humanity. Sometimes people just refuse to be loved, and helped.

      Mark

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Yes you do, Eric, and I would disagree that you do it quite well.

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 3 years ago from The Caribbean

      Bill, the qualities you admire come with maturity. So often, we think we are deeply entrenched in them, only to find that we only have them on the surface. I hear your appeal to come clean, admit our lack (our flaws) and practice genuine love etc. A great challenge for all of us. Thank you.

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      I do not do it well but by golly jingles I try.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      The perfect story, Eric, and I thank you for sharing it daily.

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      I am going to tell you a story.

      Love love love love love.

      that is it, have a great day

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Alex, I'm as ugly as a mud fence but man alive I have a beautiful interior. LOL I can say that today and laugh, but like you it took a very long time tor each that point.

      Blessings my friend and thank you!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      manatita, good to see you my friend. I will pray for you during Sadhana. Best wishes to you and as always, thank you for being here.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      John, this is the type of writing I did here at HP for my first year....now I do it twice a week and dispense writing advice three days a week. Constantly changing and adjusting. This is the kind of writing that I love to do, but it takes a lot out of me to write it and it requires much more time than writing tip hubs.

      I suspect you might be right about the Muslims. :)

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      SilverGenes 3 years ago

      If beauty lies in imperfection, I must be absolutely gorgeous by now. I mean stunning. You know, Bill, it has taken me six decades to figure out that it's okay to be me and I'm still working on it. You are so right about love being the answer! That's it. Simple, honest, and unconditional. As always, your hubs are inspiring and this is a great way to begin a new year. Thank you!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Carol, I figured you were busy with that business. I hope it is doing well. It was nice of you to stop by; thank you and Merry Christmas to you and your husband.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Jackie, for sure that is what friends are for. Hey, I just noticed your new avatar....love it!

      Thank you and enjoy the heck out of your day.

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      manatita44 3 years ago from london

      "soaring with the angels and exhibiting the finest qualities of humanity."

      By the Mother's Grace I am working on this my brother, and I hope to progress in what some would call an ever-transcending universe.

      You highlight some deep truths and pretty interesting people. As always, pray for me or keep me in your thoughts during Sadhana. (spiritual practices).

      I commend you and Bev to that Perennial Source also. Much peace.

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      John Hansen 3 years ago from Queensland Australia

      Wonderful hub Bill. A little different, discussing character traits you admire and not giving writing advice. But one's character definitely affects one's writing so it is still connected. I hope you had a wonderful Christmas. (I think if you calculated the number of 'practicing' Christians in the world you would find the number less than 'practicing' Muslims.)

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      carol stanley 3 years ago from Arizona

      I haven't been around for a while...Enjoyed reading this and it is so true. Struggling with my new biz and it takes a lot of time and energy..But I wanted to drop in to let you know I am here ....Hope all is going well for you Bill, and a wonderful new year.

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      Jackie Lynnley 3 years ago from The Beautiful South

      I think we are in a wonderful group of people Bill, and I see that when they reach out to hug a complete stranger and make so much difference in their lives, even here at little ol HP! That's what friends are for. Love your article today especially!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Poolman, you said it perfectly. No need for me to say anything more. Merry Christmas to you my friend.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Harishprasad, I agree completely my friend. Now it is your turn. :) Thank you!

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      Old Poolman 3 years ago

      Trying to be perfect will always spoil your day. It is far better to let others know the real you, then they can take it or leave it. Admitting to yourself you are not perfect opens up a whole new world of friendship's and enjoyment.

      Hope you had a great Christmas Bill.

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      Harish Mamgain 3 years ago from India

      Bill, this is the kind of stuff the world needs so badly. Loved reading it.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you as always Faith. You are stopping by early; must be a day off for you. Well enjoy it and know that you are greatly appreciated by little old me.

      blessings always

      bill

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Lizzy, that explains why you love me. :) I'm full of them.

      Thanks dear one....enjoy your day with family.

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      You are so right, dear Bill, for there is not one perfect person on this planet! What a beautiful hub to give one pause to think on what virtues are a blessing to have to bless others. Peace and blessings to you and yours, Faith Reaper

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      Liz Davis 3 years ago from Hudson, FL

      You love flaws? No wonder we're buddies. :)

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Happy Boxing Day Ann and thank you for visiting me first thing this morning. :) A lovely, foggy day has greeted us as the year winds down. I am so happy that you are surrounded by love, as am I. All I can do is give love daily and hope that it makes a difference in someone's life.

      Thank you my friend. I hope your day has been rewarding so far.

      bill

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Joelle, indeed, you have a heart, and that heart is capable of so much love. Imagine all the people you are in contact with...remarkable how much kindness you spread during your lifetime.

      Thank you my friend.

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      Ann Carr 3 years ago from SW England

      What a great philosophy! You are so right but then you know that, why am I telling you?! Greed, envy and bigotry overshadow love but love is still stronger.

      You always have a good message to impart and we all need a reminder of things like this from time to time.

      You obviously have a loving family and you obviously return their love. I'm lucky enough to have that too. I wish that many more were blessed with such things.

      Happy Boxing Day! Ann

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      kidscrafts 3 years ago from Ottawa, Canada

      For a long while I tried to be perfect because I was never good enough for my parents... and than I realized that I could never reach that goal. I think that finally when I realized that will never be perfect, it's when I realized I was just human and I could start to accept myself with all my flaws. But I realized also that I had qualities and one of them is to have a heart.

      Thanks for this beautiful hub!

      Have a great day!