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Random Musings From a Writer Who Needs to Write

Updated on April 07, 2013
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I suppose all writers have those moments (or days) when they really have nothing to say but something within them still craves the experience of writing. Maybe. Maybe not.

Life has been hectic lately and there hasn’t been enough time to sit and contemplate writing something meaningful or creative. I miss writing. Even admitting that makes me feel a bit strange. Some will think I am one egg short of a dozen for writing this but I need to write and so I will.

For this writer, writing is a tool; a form of expressing myself and discovering things about life in the process. As I sit here now, I don’t know what the subject of my writing will be but I am certain that I need to write. And so I will write and I will write about whatever comes to mind. And as I do, I am certain that I will discover what it is that is urging me to write. You’re welcome to come along for the ride.

Life is precious.

Each and every day we have an opportunity to touch someone or, to be touched by someone in a way that will change us forever. This was the day, 63 years ago. that my parents got married. We celebrated with them and spent much of the afternoon remembering stories from their youth and mine. There was a lot of laughter and love in the room and I find myself holding on to this day as if it were a fragile flower. All too soon these feelings will vanish and in their place, will be a memory.

Memories fade.

Sometimes they fade slowly and become mere remnants of the original. For some, they become lost in a kaleidoscope of partial memories and for others, they completely disappear in a fog that cannot be penetrated with even the deepest desire. Perhaps that is why writing has become so important. It is a means of capturing memories for those dark days when they elude us.

Laughter is a great healer.

Every now and then the challenges of life seem enormous. Worry replaces comfort and tears take the place of a smile. Thinking back on my childhood, I remember my Dad (who loved a practical joke), using humor to distract me from turmoil. When it seemed like the world was ending because someone hid or borrowed my toys, Dad would intervene with his humor and in an instant, all was right with the world again. When a love interest lost interest, Dad would find something funny in its demise to share with me. It was his signature and with age I have learned to appreciate the skill in which he applied it. Laughter has sustained us in the past and it will continue to do so in the days ahead.

Relief comes in many forms.

There comes a time in life when the little worries seem to be just as significant as the big ones. There were times in my life when I worried about things that now seem so small. I worried about acquiring material things that would make me fit in with a certain social circle or about saving enough money to buy a new car. The weight of the world lifted when I had the little house in a decent neighborhood and a reliable car in the driveway. But now, relief has new meaning. It comes at the end of the day when I realize that all of my family is safe and warm, fed and clothed, and, knows I love them.

Love is what really matters.

No challenge is too great where there is love. When answers are elusive or the shadows dark and foreboding, love will bring out the best in us and chase away the shadows to reveal the answers. Love soothes a troubled soul and calms a rapidly beating heart. Love wraps its arms around us and gently reminds us that we are never alone. Yes, love is all that matters and it will fill all the empty places within us if we open our hearts and let it in.

There are no guarantees.

This moment, right now, may be our last and what we do with it is up to us. We are not guaranteed tomorrow so we must make “now” matter. We must say what needs to be said and do what needs to be done. Regret can last forever but now, this moment, is our chance to extinguish the flame of regret.

We write our own story in life.

What stories will be told when your journey here is over? Will they be stories of compassion? Did you help others along the way? Will they say you were kind? Will they say you loved your family, your God, your country? Could you be counted on to fulfill a promise? The story is yours to write. Write it well.

We can be someone’s hero.

Most of us have someone we look up to; someone who was always there for us. Stop for a moment and think about them. Do you remember the times they held your hand as you walked fearlessly through the fire? Did they listen while you talked yourself through the questions to find the answer? Maybe they showed you by example how to stand tall in the face of adversity or to reach out to those less fortunate than you. Now, it’s your turn. Will you be the hero for someone else?

The finale.

And there it is, a journey through the musings of a writer who needed to write. You may be asking yourself what this was all about. I wouldn’t blame you.

There was no mission here, just a need to write. And now that it’s done, I understand the need. The emotions of the past few days are bigger than any I’ve ever faced. I could have written about the pain of watching the light in my Dad’s eyes go out from Alzheimer’s or about how much I miss the vitality of my Mom before her stroke. I didn’t want to go there. I didn’t want to write about sad things. Instead, I opened my mind to the many positive things this journey is teaching me. This is my road map now. These are the lessons of a lifetime that could easily get lost in the day-to-day.

I am a product of loving parents who knew the value of time, who taught compassion and kindness, who are and will remain my heroes. Through their love and lessons, I have become me, and now it is my mission to make them proud. And when I lose my way or forget to laugh, love, and live, I will return to this page and I will remember.

© 2013 Linda Crist, All rights reserved.

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    Jim Higgins 3 years ago from Eugene, Oregon

    Linda, this is a really nice essay about a lot of really important things. Your need to write has reminded me, like your headlines, that love it what really matters, love is a great healer and most of all, there are no guarantees. Your emphasis on the positive was an excellent idea.

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    Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

    And when I lose my way I will return to this beautiful piece of writing and I will be reminded of all that is important in life.

    love,

    bill

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    Shauna L Bowling 3 years ago from Central Florida

    Linda, this prose from the heart is awesome. I need (want) you to read my latest hub, "Alzheimer's Disease and Coconut Oil...". I wrote it with you and your dad in mind and Ghost and his wife in mind. Please read it. It may give you more days together than you have at the moment. I wrote it out of love and excitement of a natural discovery.

    I love you. Meet me in the Witch's Tower after you've read it.

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    Linda Crist 3 years ago from Central Virginia

    Jim, thank you so much. This was therapy today but the lessons are so important.

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    Linda Crist 3 years ago from Central Virginia

    Bill, you are so my kindred spirit. My prayer is that you will never lose your way because you are so often my inspiration to write and be a better person. Love to you.

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    Linda Crist 3 years ago from Central Virginia

    Shauna, my precious friend, I'm heading there now and you will find me in your comments. Hugs!!!

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    Maria Jordan 3 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

    Dear Linda,

    I am admittedly overdue in catching up with my favorite writers.

    This is such a wise and contemplative piece. I am forever in appreciation of the way you focus on the positive and keep your priorities in proper perspective.

    You are your parents remain in my thoughts and prayers. Love, Maria

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    Lisa Kroulik 3 years ago from Minnesota

    I can certainly relate. Sometimes I feel absolutely driven to write, even when I feel I have nothing new or interesting to say. Your love for your parents shines through in this article and I'm sure they know how blessed you feel to have them.

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    Jackie Lynnley 3 years ago from The Beautiful South

    Writing is the best thing you can do I think. It certainly has helped me and really some days when I don't know what to write I do my best, or most read. You are right though, looking back these will be the days you will wished you had cherished. Make the very most of them without putting pressure on yourself. Take time for yourself.

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    Martin Kloess 3 years ago from San Francisco

    You write of many valuable truths. A person who lives your advise can die happy.

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    Linda Crist 3 years ago from Central Virginia

    Oh Maria, I am behind as well and keep thinking I'll set aside a day to catch up on my reading. Easier said than done though. Thanks for stopping by. I miss you. You shine like a bright star wherever you go and it is appreciated. Hugs to you!

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    Linda Crist 3 years ago from Central Virginia

    nybride - hello! Thanks for the visit and sharing your thoughts.

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    Linda Crist 3 years ago from Central Virginia

    Jackie, you are always so supportive and encouraging. I appreciate you my friend.

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    Linda Crist 3 years ago from Central Virginia

    Thanks MH, you are always so kind and generous with your praise and I always appreciate the time you spend with my "stuff". Hope you are doing okay. I am behind in my reading of your creative work but I will catch up soon.

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    Janis Leslie Evans 3 years ago from Washington, DC

    Linda, thank you for this unintended lesson on wisdom. I enjoyed the ride with you. I, too, need to return here and re-read this hub when I become overwhelmed.

    This was a priceless lesson on several levels teaching us to:

    -be in the moment and express out of it,

    -let our writings flow within the moment,

    -be grateful for all we take for granted, and

    -know how to make emotional shifts to the positive side of our thoughts when there is nowhere else to go.

    Brilliant and touching; voted up, useful, and beautiful.

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    Linda Crist 3 years ago from Central Virginia

    Janshares - your comment renders me speechless. I thank you so much. I did not expect to get a lot of feedback from this piece and certainly not such a positive response. It was written purely for me and my need to write. Once again I am amazed at how things work the world, where one little peson canexpress themselves and touch others and ultimately have the positive return full circle. I think they call it love. :-)

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    Janis Leslie Evans 3 years ago from Washington, DC

    Love you, too, moved to a teary eye :-)

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    MizBejabbers 3 years ago

    Linda, what the heck was that all about? Just teasing you. You are so fortunate to have grown up in a loving family who supported you emotionally. It is really difficult to make one's own way alone, or sometimes I think it's even worse, having everyone else use you for a crutch. I wish you and your father the very best. These are beautiful musings. Voted you up and beautiful.

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    Connie Smith 3 years ago from Southern Tier New York State

    Linda, I love your attitude. Such a wonderful exercise: put your positive feelings into words to revisit when nothing else helps. You have inspired me to do the same. The number of my relatives and support system has continually dwindled lately. Now I am thinking I want to write down just how much my family members have influenced me and the person I have become. I want to remember all the fun family picnics when they were energetic and excited about life; all the good stuff. Thanks for reminding me that this is very important!

    Voted Up++++

    Pearl

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    Joanne M Olivieri 3 years ago

    So wonderfully expressed. You needed to write from you heart and share with others. Some great advice here as well. I thoroughly enjoyed it. Thank you

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    picklesandrufus 3 years ago from Virginia Beach, Va

    Excellent! Loved reading your hub....so very touching.

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    CrisSp 3 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

    Beautiful, touching and heart warming at the same time.

    It is here, it is now....no pre-requisite, simply write it straight from the heart and you did it so well in this hub. I'm bookmarking this, so I could return and re-read it again and just like what you've said, "when I lose my way I will return to this beautiful piece of writing and I will be reminded of all that is important in life." ~

    Thank you.

    Love from the sky~

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    Cat 3 years ago from New York

    It was almost as if I were reading your virtual diary. While I'm sure it was soothing for you it was also relieving for me. It was such a breath of fresh air. I try so hard to be conscious of focusing on the good but some days with so much negative going on it can be quite a challenge. It's almost like you need a slap in the face to get out of that mode. Thank you for the gentlest slap I've ever had. :-)

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    Linda Crist 3 years ago from Central Virginia

    Miz B!!!! Where have you been? I've missed you. I don't know what this was but I am more than satisfied that it did what it came to do. I am very blessed with the family I have and we share the load quite evenly. That doesn't happen in a lot of families so we do know how blessed we are. It's so good to hear from you. My best to you and Mr. B.

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    Linda Crist 3 years ago from Central Virginia

    Pearl, hi stranger. Thanks for reading this erratic piece. As for your desire to write about the good times, I cannot say it more clearly than...DO IT. This was a wonderful exercise for me and will definitely serve to guide me as we travel this rather unpredictable road. I will keep an eye out for your stories. Hugs!

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    Linda Crist 3 years ago from Central Virginia

    Hi Joanne. Welcome to my little spqace here on HP. I'm glad you enjoyed this piece and I appreciate your visit.

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    Linda Crist 3 years ago from Central Virginia

    Hi picklesandrufus (giggle) Thanks for the stopping by. I know this one was a bit strange but it had to be done. lol

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    Linda Crist 3 years ago from Central Virginia

    Hello CrisSp. Your comment makes my heart swell and I am touched deeply. I hope you will always find some comfort here when you return. Sending you my best thoughts and energy.

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    Linda Crist 3 years ago from Central Virginia

    Hey Cantuhearmescream! I always enjoy your honest and heartfelt comments. Consider it a gentle tap on the shoulder rather than a gentle slap. Trust me, I understand, and some days I have to work at it too.

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    Cat 3 years ago from New York

    Ic7815,

    See there you go with that positive attitude; a gentle tap it is then. :-)

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    Gypsy Rose Lee 3 years ago from Riga, Latvia

    Voted up and awesome. Every writer has a story to tell real or fictional. I sit at my PC and I have a large notebook in front of me in which I continually jot down things to remember, things to look up, even random thoughts and so on. Then there is another smaller notebook in which I quickly jot down some thoughts about poems which come to mind so that I won't forget. Some days ideas come fast some days it takes time. Passing this on.

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    deergha 3 years ago from ...... a place beyond now and beyond here !!!

    Very brilliantly done. Liked to read this. Voted up and shared.

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    Jake Brannen 3 years ago from Canada

    Very nice. I enjoyed this quite thoroughly. You are proof that some of us just need to write. You have inspired me to continue exploring myself with words. Things are quite hectic on my side right now, but I will soon be ready to take off again in the ecstasy of expressing myself with language.

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    Linda Crist 3 years ago from Central Virginia

    Hi Gypsy. Thanks for the visit. I'm the queen of notebooks too. lol Once I started writing, it seemed like my mind never stops and I see almost everything as a subject to explore. The notebooks are a great way to capture those moments for the future. Thanks so much!

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    Linda Crist 3 years ago from Central Virginia

    Hello dghbrh. I appreciate your praise so much. I don't know about "brilliant" but it was certainly necessary. :-)

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    Linda Crist 3 years ago from Central Virginia

    Hi Spongy0llama. I am so happy that you enjoyed this rather odd writing. I hope you will find your schedule easing a bit in the very near future.

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    Jools99 3 years ago from North-East UK

    Really enjoyed it and found it very moving. I haven't written anything except a blog page about getting angry about a dead ancestor I was researching in my family tree and I think I wrote that because it was important for me to get it out there. Your article was cathartic maybe for you? It is so positive though, you dwell on the good things in your life, writing is only one of them, you seem to have many others :o)

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    Linda Crist 3 years ago from Central Virginia

    Hi Jools99. You are so right about this being cathartic. Writing does that for me quite often. It is a very healing way to look within ourselves and I find it really helpful in maintaining a positive attitude. I frequently discover things I have to be grateful for that are easily overlooked. Glad you enjoyed this ne.

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    Karen Silverman 3 years ago

    Linda...one persons 'musings' are anothers inspiration! i read your words and i find tears in my eyes - sometimes from sadness.." a fog that cannot be penetrated with even the deepest desire", sometimes from happiness " There was a lot of laughter and love in the room..", and to be honest - sometimes from envy: "I am a product of loving parents who knew the value of time, who taught compassion and kindness, who are and will remain my heroes."

    You know you'll always have 'buoys' to hang onto when life's waters get dark and rough.

    Treading water can be a real bitch! LOL..

    I don't need to tell you how lucky you were - and are - because you have the rare gift of appreciation - a beautiful thing to see these days...

    ps..i love the idea of writing for memories sake..

    Girl - you simply shine like a diamond amongst coal!

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    Linda Crist 3 years ago from Central Virginia

    Leslie, you an have amazing gift too. Your comment made me feel worthy of the air I breathe. LOL It always amazes me when my friends quote my words back to me because there are those moments when I think - "gee, did I say that?" Some pieces write themselves and this was one of them. I needed some "normal" in my life after several days of chaos and writing is the perfect place for me to find it, even when the writing turns out a little less than normal. Yes, I am lucky; lucky to have the family I have AND the friends I have. You my friend, are a treasure and another one of my very special heroes. Thank you so much for making my day brighter.

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    Theresa Ast 3 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia

    Dear Linda - A thoughtful, beautiful, and comforting Hub. My parents are both gone now, but you have reminded me to draw strength and joy from the years of memories. I think writing when you are not sure what you are going to write about is a great idea. :) Blessings. Theresa

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    Linda Crist 3 years ago from Central Virginia

    Theresa, it makes me happy that my message here has served to remind even one of the precious moments we have in this lifetime and ften lose sight of. Some of the writing I do when I don't have a destination brings me more joy than all the rest. They may not be the most technically correct but they mean more to me. Give it a try. I appreciate your spending time with my musings.

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    CrisSp 3 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

    Hello Linda! I told you I've bookmarked this one and I came back to read it again. If I may, I'd like to link it in my forthcoming hub. Please and thank you. :) Criss~

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    Linda Crist 3 years ago from Central Virginia

    Hi Criss. Welcome back. lol Feel free to link as you see fit. I'm happy you think it worthy of a link. :-)

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    dy0pxa 2 years ago

    Nice post.

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