ArtsAutosBooksBusinessEducationEntertainmentFamilyFashionFoodGamesGenderHealthHolidaysHomeHubPagesPersonal FinancePetsPoliticsReligionSportsTechnologyTravel

Relationship Cord Healing

Updated on February 14, 2013
SaraGardner profile image

Sara lives in Finland creating a new lifestyle after stage 3 cancer, and is now researching alternative approaches to recovery from trauma

Balancing Rock
Balancing Rock | Source


We have a relationship with everything that exists. As I sit here on this chair I am in relationship to it, I am upon it and it is beneath me.

Everything about the relationship is defined by my beliefs, I believe the chair is holding me up and that without it I would fall to the floor and so that is how my life is shaped. That is of course a very simple example of a relationship and the belief system that we hold but the same pattern is there for every relationship we have.

It's said that 'we create our own reality' and this is what it's referring to. Our belief systems shape our world. When we leap out of bed in the morning and stub our toe and think to ourselves, oh no it's going to be one of those days, then that is most likely what we will get. We become a self fulfilling prophecy.

We may think that we are just getting it right because we are so smart about these things but our thoughts are what created our day. Of course not all thought manifests so quickly into physical reality so we don't always make the association between the two at a conscious level.

Sometimes we recognise that no matter how hard we try and how well we direct our thoughts that we don't seem to get the outcomes we thought we would. This is often be due to hidden beliefs that have been around for so long and become so habitual that we don't actually consciously remember that we hold them. They have literally become part of our basic wiring or programming. Relational healing is very useful for uncovering and changing these beliefs.

Sitting On A Rock
Sitting On A Rock | Source

Cleansing Cords

A little like the Inner Child healing, the recipient, with the assistance of the healer goes back to the time or place or person that they hold the belief about and from there the cords connecting the two are cleaned.

This cleansing allows the truth of the relationship to be seen and felt by the recipient. It is in this space of truth and light that new and more appropriate beliefs are formed.

With inner Child healing we think of it as re parenting and with relationship cords we think of it as reprogramming. With both it is about allowing the old stuck energy to be revealed and express itself in a safe loving environment which will lead to the stuck energy lifting away to reveal the beautiful light energy of truth and essence.

From this place of truth and light we have more freedom to live our lives more fully in each unfolding moment. Each unfolding moment of freedom from old limiting and inappropriate beliefs takes us closing to the recognition and enlightenment of Who We Really Are.

Water Filtration System
Water Filtration System | Source

Example of Relational Healing

Someone presented with these core beliefs:

All men are bad and therefore I should avoid them

All women are weak and therefore I should be a man!

This person was stuck in a never ending bind and had huge issues with really trusting and letting go especially in the area of relationships with her partners. Although giving the illusion of being open and trusting she would only ever go so far with letting people in and was in fact running a huge control centre from her solar plexus, which would explain why she was always so tired!

She associated the openness and vulnerability of the feminine aspect with weakness and therefore totally denied her femininity because it made her feel vulnerable to being taken over. To counter this she encouraged the masculine aspect to its extreme making her rigid through an over adherence to masculine logic and strength.

The strength of the feminine is actually in the openness of vulnerability therefore once the old belief about vulnerablity was exposed and released she could embrace her inner goddess.

There is no right or wrong about the masculine or feminine aspects, they are just different aspects performing different tasks.

The Strength Of The Pine
The Strength Of The Pine | Source

Here in the forest we have the tall, strong pine trees which represent the masculine aspect and the graceful birch trees representing the feminine aspect. If the pine tree took on a completely masculine aspect of strength through power then it would become too rigid and the smallest breeze would cause it to snap, therefore it requires an element of the feminine aspect of grace and flexibility so that it can bend with the wind.

Likewise if the birch tree took on a completely feminine aspect of flexibility then it would merely trail along the floor, therefore it requires an element of the masculine aspect of strength so that it can stand up. Our mix of masculine or feminine aspects is relevant to our purpose and intention rather than any preconceived absolutes of right or wrong.

This lady had been plagued by lower back problems from an early age (12) mostly caused by rigidity of the muscles as they held in all her fears and vulnerabilities. This resulted in large amounts of muscular tension and spasms. She fully subscribed to a world where you must appear to be strong and in control therefore any weakness made her feel extremely vulnerable and terrified. Her belief system held that if she relented one inch and let somebody in, if she allowed someone to see the real person they would take over control of her, that she would be swallowed up as a person and cease to be.

The fear of ceasing to exist is a core human belief that we all hold in our centre. it is this belief which keeps us separate from each other and away from the wholeness of the divine. We believe that if we become One then we will lose our identity and cease to exist.

As you can see from this brief example the potential for self limiting belief systems is enormous but the good news is that you don't have to do this work alone and the more you travel down the path of unravelling old beliefs the easier it becomes to spot the beliefs at work.

Meditation is a very useful tool for enhancing self awareness and it is self awareness that will lead us to our own truth.


This website uses cookies

As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at:

Show Details
HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the or domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)
ClickscoThis is a data management platform studying reader behavior (Privacy Policy)