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Self Improvement: 101 Questions toward Personal Growth

Updated on August 24, 2015
Take a good personal assessment of who you are in order to build a healthy relationship with someone else.
Take a good personal assessment of who you are in order to build a healthy relationship with someone else. | Source

Knowing your true identity is crucial for many reasons. For one, if you are seeking out a potential life partner, you want to find someone compatible with who you really are. Also, if you don’t know your tastes in life, you may tend to “blend” or “mesh” with the person you are around the most. This can be a temporary smoke screen, hiding who you really are behind another person’s interests.

Finally, if you have built your self image around what society wants you to be, you may be denying your true nature. It will in time reveal itself. If it doesn’t, you will stay bottled up and later be unhappy with whom you have turned out to be.

Ask yourself these questions and get to know yourself so that you can be confident in whom you are.

How to Get to Know Yourself

 
 
Step One
Get out a notepad and pen or pencil.
Step Two
Answer the 101 questions as honestly as possible.
Step Three
Do not beat yourself up if you have trouble answering the questions. Take your time.
If you struggle answering the questions, realize that you may not know your preferences very well. This will give you an opportunity to study some self help books on self esteem or self identity.

How well do you think you know yourself?

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Your Future

1. What is your dream job?

2. If you had one wish, what would it be?

3. What do you think your eulogy and/or obituary will be like?

4. What do you think your future husband or wife will be like?

5. What do you think your future children will be like and/or look like?

6. How long do you think you will live?

7. What do you plan to do when you retire?

8. What dream have you not accomplished but hope to yet?

Do you play the piano? Would you like to?
Do you play the piano? Would you like to? | Source
Do you like cats or dogs? Are you allergic to either?
Do you like cats or dogs? Are you allergic to either? | Source

Your Interests

9. Do you play any instruments?

10. What are your hobbies?

11. Can you do any arts and crafts?

12. Do you like pets?

13. What is your favorite sport?

14. Who is your favorite athlete?

15. What is your favorite color?

16. What is your favorite number and why?

17. What is your favorite shape and why?

18. What is your favorite brand of cell phone?

19. Who is your favorite celebrity?

20. What makes you laugh the most?

21. What would you say are your top five interests?

22. What was your favorite subject in High School and/or College?

23. What do you spend most of your free time doing?

24. What is your favorite genre of movies?

25. What is your favorite genre of books?

26. What is your favorite genre of music?

27. What is your favorite city and why?

28. What kind of television shows do you watch?

29. What is your favorite food?

30. What is your favorite drink?

31. What is your favorite smell?

32. What is your favorite type of flower or plant?

What do you love to eat? Do you have any dislikes? Are you allergic to any food products or medications?
What do you love to eat? Do you have any dislikes? Are you allergic to any food products or medications? | Source

Handbook of Self and Identity

Handbook of Self and Identity, Second Edition
Handbook of Self and Identity, Second Edition

This book covers theory and research on self. It also handles social and cultural dynamics. A reader can gain self awareness and a new sense of identity. The self motivation and emotional advice provided by this book helps readers develop interpersonal behavior, self development, self esteem, health issues, and mindfulness.

 

Your Identity

33. Do you go to church regularly?

34. Can you swim?

35. What is your favorite exercise?

36. Do you have people in your life that you frequently argue with?

37. What is the most important thing to you?

38. Do you still ask your parents for advice and obey them?

39. In one word, how would you describe yourself?

40. Are you a spiritual person?

41. What are you the most well known for?

42. Which holiday is your favorite?

43. What is your favorite outfit?

44. How do you think your hair looks the best?

45. What is your biggest fear?

46. Who do you trust the most?

47. Do you have any addictions?

48. How would your friends describe you?

49. How would your exes describe you?

50. How would your bosses and co-workers (past and current) describe you?

51. Do you feel like you are ready for a serious relationship?

52. Do you enjoy domestic activities such as cooking or cleaning?

Do you decorate for the holidays? What is your favorite holiday?
Do you decorate for the holidays? What is your favorite holiday? | Source
When do you want to get married?
When do you want to get married? | Source

Your Values

53. Who is the most important person in your life?

54. How important is money to you?

55. Are you looking forward to marriage?

56. Who makes you the most happy in your life?

57. Who makes you the most upset in your life?

58. What political party do you associate yourself with?

59. Do you believe in God?

60. How close are you to your family?

61. How important are family values to you?

62. Do you want a traditional family someday?

63. Do you have traditional or modern values?

64. Do you value holidays?

65. How important is God to you?

Your Feelings

66. When do you feel happiest?

67. When were you the most excited?

68. When did you feel your best?

69. When do you feel saddest?

70. What motivates you?

71. When do you feel most bored?

72. Do you feel attractive or are there things you wish to change about yourself?

73. When do you feel the loneliest?

74. When do you feel the most confident?

75. When do you feel the most afraid?

The Self Esteem Journal: A 10 Week Program

The Self-Esteem Guided Journal: A 10-Week Program (New Harbinger Guided Journal)
The Self-Esteem Guided Journal: A 10-Week Program (New Harbinger Guided Journal)

This project provides readers with simple exercises that they can learn and use when and wherever they need them. The program teaches the reader to vocalize their feelings, conquer any self doubt, discover their strengths and weaknesses, and change the way they think if needed.

 

Your Experiences

76. What was your most traumatic experience?

77. Have you ever been to a catered party?

78. Have you ever been ballroom dancing?

79. When were you the happiest?

80. When did you feel the most loved in your life?

81. When were you the sickest in your life?

82. Have you ever been hospitalized?

83. When were you the most embarrassed?

84. When were you the most in love?

85. Have you ever been in a long term relationship?

86. Have you ever been known as a “player” to others?

87. What was your worst relationship like?

88. What was your best relationship like?

89. When did you fight the most with your parents?

90. How many states have you visited?

Have you ever been in love? Have you ever been engaged? Have you already met your soul mate?
Have you ever been in love? Have you ever been engaged? Have you already met your soul mate? | Source

Self Esteem

Self-Esteem: A Proven Program of Cognitive Techniques for Assessing, Improving, and Maintaining Your Self-Esteem
Self-Esteem: A Proven Program of Cognitive Techniques for Assessing, Improving, and Maintaining Your Self-Esteem

Self esteem is essential for our survival. This book discusses self worth, self awareness, self values, and the forms self identity takes. This book helps you define who you are, analyze who you are, and judge who you are. You must accept yourself or change into someone you love.

 

Your Past

91. When do you think you looked your best?

92. Why did your best relationship end?

93. Why did your worst relationship end?

94. What was it like for you in grade school?

95. What type of person were you as a teenager?

96. Did you do well in school?

97. Did you have any enemies as a kid?

98. Who was your best friend as a child?

99. Who impressed you the most in your life?

100. Who have you admired the most in your life?

101. Who have you admired the least in your life?

Conclusion

If you have trouble answering these questions, consider keeping a journal. As you go about your week, write down things you are confident you like and dislike. Get to know yourself. Don’t turn into a society drone. Be well-rounded, and you will find that many more opportunities will knock on your door.

For example, title the journal "My Preferences" and write down things such as:

  • I love sushi.
  • I hate onions.
  • I think Die Hard is my favorite movie.
  • My favorite color is blue.
  • I would like to read 10 books this year.

Write down anything you can think of, so that you can later study it and make sure you like yourself. It is emotionally and mentally challenging to love yourself when you don't even know who you really are. Take the time to get to know yourself well, so that you don't "mesh" with someone else. Be independent, which will make you confident.

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    Michele Kelsey 2 years ago from Edmond, Oklahoma

    I agree. So many people won't even do that let alone do something easy like answer questions about themselves in order to get to know themselves better. I hope this will give people a step in the direction of self enlightenment and encourage them to do even more.

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    Disillusioned 2 years ago from Kerala, India

    Interesting questions. But how to firm up our life and its expectations based on this requires some intelligence coupled with better common sense. Lots of honest soul searching will be needed. We should be prepared to see and digest our own ugliness by standing nude in front of the mirror!

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    Michele Kelsey 3 years ago from Edmond, Oklahoma

    You are welcome. I think at any age people forget to make that oh so important bucket list. I don't have one. Perhaps we should both put that on our to do list! Lol

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    Dora Weithers 3 years ago from The Caribbean

    So many good questions and well organized. "What dream have you not accomplished but hope to yet?" This one is so important to me even in my old age. It helps me decide who I'd like or not like to keep company with. Thanks for a great article.

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    Michele Kelsey 3 years ago from Edmond, Oklahoma

    I very much agree. Until you know who you are, how can you know what is best for you? I hope this hub does help others find out more about themselves in a fun and unique manner.

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    Michele Kelsey 3 years ago from Edmond, Oklahoma

    Thank you. Some are short and easy, and some are more thought provoking, as you say. I put a mixture, because believe it or not, even the easy ones can be hard for some people. They may just "mesh" (become like) with whoever they are with.

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    Michele Kelsey 3 years ago from Edmond, Oklahoma

    Thanks! I hope so. I think there is some value in learning who you are before trying to mate with another person who is either similar or the opposite of you. Confidence can soar if you know who you really are.

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    Michele Kelsey 3 years ago from Edmond, Oklahoma

    Thank you. Yes, I wish when I got divorced over a decade ago, I had this advice. It would have taught me who I am and what kind of person would best suite me.

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    Michele Kelsey 3 years ago from Edmond, Oklahoma

    Thank you. I think it's so important to know yourself as much as possible before considering dating or marriage. Too often those things end in misery, because you are with someone you are not compatible with.

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    Michele Kelsey 3 years ago from Edmond, Oklahoma

    schoolgirlforreal, I am so thankful that you learned something about yourself. It is a bit time consuming, but I think it's worth it. Thanks for doing it! :)

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    Dianna Mendez 3 years ago

    It is so important for people to know who they are, and without this kowledge they will struggle through life's journey. Great way to find out one's path and I am sure your suggestions will help so many to find who they are.

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    buddhaanalysis 3 years ago

    Really interesting thought provoking and really enlightening if tried to answer this questions.

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    Ryem 3 years ago from Maryland

    This is a very interesting hub and the questions are awesome. I'm sure many people will learn from this!

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    Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

    After six decades I sure as hell better have some idea of who I am. LOL It's been a struggle, though; I probably could have used this guidance about forty years ago. Interesting approach here, Michele, and I can see the value in it.

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    Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

    Interesting questions mentioned here and can get one thinking about themselves. A way for one to get to know themselves even better a well approached hub.

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    schoolgirlforreal 3 years ago from USA

    Great list! Thank fully, I was able to answer each one quickly and honestly, I did learn a little more about myself.

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    Michele Kelsey 3 years ago from Edmond, Oklahoma

    Thank you. I tried to think up some questions to make the reader think hard and other simple questions but also important in learning who you are.

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    mts1098 3 years ago from InsideTheManCave

    I think you got it all covered - One should certainly have their own identity after this. For me, I replace the husband with wife ;) but a good list indeed. Cheers and Thanks

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    Michele Kelsey 3 years ago from Edmond, Oklahoma

    I agree. Too often we pretend to be someone we aren't. A person can only keep that up for so long. The real you must be discovered.

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    Mahaveer Sanglikar 3 years ago from Pune, India

    Great questions. The questions are easy, but for many of the people it is not easy to answer all of them as they are not serious about knowing who are they.