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Self Worth Increase Personal Value

Updated on April 2, 2012

We are all important but sometimes we need a little help feeling worthwhile. Self esteem is not always easy for everyone but with a little work you can feel better about yourself.

Your personal worth is up to you. Change what you can and improve your outlook about the things of which you can do nothing.


Why do you feel low?


There are various reasons we might not feel important enough: income problems, problems of employment, relationship problems.

Change what you can and accept what you cannot change.

Sometimes we look in the mirror and see only our flaws. Instead look for your assets. We are who we are. You can improve behavior you need to work on such as negativity, bad habits or the way you say things.

If you aren’t happy with your weight you can exercise and change the foods you eat. Cut back on carbohydrates and sugar. Find ways to move more to increase your metabolism.

Learn to love yourself, you will be together the rest of your life so if you aren’t happy with the person you are today see what you can do to change that. There are good things you have done, dwell on those attributes and don’t concentrate on the mistakes you have made. We have all done things we are not proud of and beating ourselves up over it does us no good. If you learned from them then they are life lessons and should be viewed as such.


Income


If you cannot do anything about your current job or education then perhaps you can work on your budget.

Cut back on the things you don’t have to have. When we save those things for special occasions they become more special.

Birthday presents everyday are no longer a treat.

Expensive coffee drinks are not a necessity. See what else you can do without.

Start small. Instead of depriving yourself of Starbucks everyday maybe only on Monday, Wednesdays and Fridays. The other two days of the week drink office coffee. On the weekends drink green tea or whatever works for you.

Your personal worth is not attached to how much money you make. Feel better about what you have and appreciate the things you do have.


When we lower our expectations we don’t feel as deprived when we do without things. Live a simple lifestyle. Less is more.

The more belongings we have the more space we need to store them.

Enjoy the simple things in life: flowers at the park, birds singing, a fountain, a sunset or sunrise. You'll get more exercise too which is good for your mood.


Employment


Perception of our current situation makes us satisfied or dissatisfied.

Those who do not have a job would be happy to be a janitor or hamburger cook. Anything is better than nothing. When you put it into perspective you realize how fortunate you are to have a job.

If you can improve your situation by finding another job that is great but often people just trade one set of problems for another. Making the best of where you are is usually the best solution.


Moving from one department to another doesn’t usually effect your years of service but when you move to another company you have to start all over again. You are the new guy, low man on the totem pole. Even if you are over a department you are still at a lower level than the other supervisors who have similar positions and have been there longer.

Employers frown on those that move often so try to find your spot and make the best of it. The longer you work for a company the more valuable you are as an employee.

Our perception of our surroundings and attitude about our situation is the key. Find what is good about where you work, how is it better than other places you've worked in the past or compared to other jobs you've seen?



Relationship


Maybe you don’t have a significant other or you would like a better one than the one you have.

People are pack animals and require the company of other people. We are meant to take care of and be taken care of; it’s in our nature.

Do what you can to be around other people, volunteer, help a neighbor or be a part of a cause.

The more we are around other people the more we enhance our self worth and also the likelihood you’ll find a close partner.

Re-evaluate your current relationship. If you are married find the love you once had. Work on the problems and look for the good in your significant other. Why did you fall in love with them to begin with? Those traits are still there somewhere deep down.


What are you thankful for?

Each morning make a list of things you are thankful for.

It's easy to look for the what's wrong with our lives but when we sit down and think about it we have a lot to be thankful for. Putting them down on paper or even just making a mental note of a few each day can help us feel better about our lives.


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    • Pamela N Red profile imageAUTHOR

      Pamela N Red 

      6 years ago from Oklahoma

      Thanks, Pandula.

    • pandula77 profile image

      Dr Pandula 

      6 years ago from Norway

      Great analysis of life and some useful tips to keep going.. thanks for the info..

    • Pamela N Red profile imageAUTHOR

      Pamela N Red 

      6 years ago from Oklahoma

      Flora, good luck in your search for employment.

      Bill and Teaches, sometimes we have to reevaluate our life and make the most of it.

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      Dianna Mendez 

      6 years ago

      Self Worth is an important detail in feeling complete and able to face life with success. You pointed out some ideas that do make a difference on how self worth is evaulated. As you said, keeping things simple makes life a bit more achievable than if you fill it with material things, multiple relationships and jobs that do not add to progressive success. Enjoyed the postive outlook of this hub.

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      Bill Holland 

      6 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Great hub! The best part was at the end in finding things to be thankful for. Bravo on this one Pamela!

    • FloraBreenRobison profile image

      FloraBreenRobison 

      6 years ago

      As someone who has been laid off for a long time and have come to the end of the program I was on, I agree with all of your article, although I am more interested in friends than a romantic relationship. At this point, I would be happy with any job that paid my basic bills, even if it bored me. I can always do what I love to do a as hobby only, if necessary. I need to feed my soul too, but that doesn't need to be what I do for a living. Self-worth is essential.

    • Pamela N Red profile imageAUTHOR

      Pamela N Red 

      6 years ago from Oklahoma

      Cagsil, being thankful does add to our self esteem and self worth. Sometimes we need to remind ourselves of what we have which is a reflection of our abilities and hopefully will also help with our mood.

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      Cagsil 

      6 years ago from USA or America

      Hey Pamela, I was on the same page with you for most of your article, up to the end of it. I can understand being thankful for some things, however, I would like to point out that there are some things which you are or have no need to be thankful for, because you received them through your own actions. Are you insinuating that people should be thankful to themselves for receiving them? And, if that's the case, then doesn't knowing they did it to begin with add to their self-esteem and self-confidence, which adds to their self worth(value) anyways? So, in essence, there's no need to be thankful. Otherwise, pretty great hub with solid advice. :) Voted up! :)

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