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Taking Chances and Living Without Fear

Updated on May 12, 2013
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She appeared out of no where, or so it seemed. This stranger, a woman of about 45 years of age, approached me in the parking lot while I was loading groceries into my vehicle. She asked matter of factly if I could give her a ride home because her car had broken down and had to be towed. She looked normal enough so there was nothing that visibly appeared to be a threat. Still, that little voice inside me warned me to think twice, to be careful, and to assess the situation before responding. So, I paused.

It was an awkward moment and one that surprised even me. It is my nature to be helpful but this time, well, this time just felt different. After a few moments of silence, I asked this woman where she needed to go and of course it was in the opposite direction of my next destination.I fell silent again. When I could not come up with a good reason not to provide the transportation she needed, I reluctantly agreed.

Confession

Now, I should probably tell you that I behaved rather badly. Before I even started the car I asked the woman for some identification. She promptly provided a driver’s license. I didn’t tell her that I am visually impaired but instead, pretended that I could read the name and address on the small plastic card. She didn’t appear to notice that I didn’t call her by name. How could I? I couldn’t read it.

This woman was more than courteous. She offered to help load my groceries and then, to roll the empty cart back to the store for me. My response was negative and cold. I would do it myself. Surprised at my reaction, the woman again tried to engage me and failed. She made small talk as we settled ourselves in the car and continued while I drove the approximate four miles to where she asked to be dropped off. My responses were monotone and uninviting of more conversation. What on earth was wrong with me, I wondered.

We arrived at the drop off location and the woman thanked me and exited my car. I breathed a sigh of relief and headed home wondering why I had reacted this way. It took quite a bit of self-examination and honesty but I finally understood. This, is the world we live in now and it is a world that makes being kind to strangers more difficult and somewhat risky. Ashamed of my own behavior, I was determined to analyze it, to find some peace about this apparent paranoia I had experienced.

Discovery

I think I understand it and it’s all about the news. We watch too much and are bombarded with messages of how bad our society has become. Local or national, it doesn’t matter. Every day we hear stories of strangers threatening or harming others. We hear that trust is a thing of the past and that every one is a potential threat to our safety and security. Although I didn’t actually attach words to my feelings, I soon understood that I was indeed paranoid about this stranger and I am still wondering if my asking to see her identification could have thwarted some potential scam she might have planned. I am not proud of my behavior but intuitively I couldn't ignore the feelings.

Red Flags

My intuition is generally good enough to protect me and I have learned to trust it. I am not sorry that I was cautious with this stranger but I have certainly been left wondering about the validity of the red flags. There were several oddities about this encounter.

  • The woman appeared from the center of the parking lot. Was she standing there watching for a likely victim or, had the tow truck just left? I remember wondering why she would have her car towed but not arrange transportation for herself. There was no indication that she had a cell phone and I recall thinking – doesn’t everyone have a cell phone these days?
  • She had no groceries with her. Had she just arrived at the store and if so, did her car die on her while she was parking? Or, had she left her groceries in the car being towed? I had many questions and no answers.
  • When she exited the car, the woman barely muttered a thank you and made no offer of gas money or apology for the fact that I had gone out of my way to deliver her. I know that sounds superficial but remember that I was feeling quite paranoid about this entire event.


The Me I Used To Know

Once home, I continued to be critical of my actions. I didn’t recognize this person who hesitated so when asked to help. That’s not who I am. Even as a young girl, I picked up hitchhikers and stray dogs and delivered them to a safe place. It’s what we did back in the 70’s when love was the universal language. Some of my best memories of my youth are of the people I met when a stranger caught my eye or whistled a cat-call in my direction. Somehow those strangers became friends and we partied together in the years to come.

Is it my age? Have I finally grown up or, have I become a victim of the media. Have I heard so many horror stories about scammers and thieves, axe murderers and rapists that I don’t trust anyone anymore? This is not the world I want to live in. I know that much.

"I have learned over the years that when one's mind is made up, this diminishes fear; knowing what must be done does away with fear". - Rosa Parks

The Person I Will Be Now

I grew up in rural America among families that looked after each other. We didn’t have to lock our doors and everyone was considered good until they proved they weren’t. My parents taught that most people are good if you give them a chance and that in general, bad things don’t happen to good people. I learned to trust my instinct and it served me well.

I have shredded the incident at the grocery store into a million pieces, looking for that tiny piece of evidence that I had misjudged the situation and reacted out of an unjustified state of paranoia. My conclusion is this…

Sometimes in life we just have to take chances. The alternative is to live in fear and a state of constant paranoia. I cannot and will not succumb to such negative thoughts. I choose to believe the teachings of my parents and to go on believing that we have a destiny and that even negative events are teachers. I will not take foolish risks but I will not hide from the world either.

Perhaps I needed this lesson, to remind me that the world has changed. Perhaps this woman came to teach me to listen to my intuition but to always do the right thing. That woman could have been me or someone I loved that was stranded without a phone. I would hope that a kind hearted stranger would take a chance on me too.

© 2013 Linda Crist, All rights reserved.

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    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Hello My Cook Book. Thanks so much for the visit and the vote.

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    Dil Vil 4 years ago from India

    An interesting read, i voted it UP

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    Cat 4 years ago from New York

    Irc7815,

    I know that others will gain something from this; it certainly made me think. Also, it's extremely comforting to see someone share their experience even when it might seem "less than noble" in some fashion or another, that allows the rest of us to justify our questioning questionable situations :D

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    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Mr Kemp - hello again! It is nice to see you here. I appreciate the visit, the comment, and the sharing.

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    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Hey Cat! So, you finally got through it huh? lol

    It's all about balance and not being stupid, isn't it? I hope in my sharing this rather odd situation that others will find the balance between helping and endangering their safety. Thanks for the read girlfriend.

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    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Hi Epi-man!!! It's good to see you too. Yellow brick roads... oh if only the world's roads were lined with munchkins and tin men, scarecrows and cowardly lions. But, it isn't so, is it? This experience was a learning experience and I hope that others will find it helpful. We certainly have become a mistrusting world and sadly, I do not think our mistrust is unfounded. The key to bring a good samaritan is to also apply a dose of logic. Thankfuly, i think I did that with the request to see an identification. Otherwise, I'm not sure this would have ended so well. I am grateful.

    I hope you are well and enjoying the warmer days on your long walks. Music has taken a back seat recently but there are brighter days on the horizon. Cheers!

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    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Mary, I have been blessed by the feedback on this one and in hindsight, feel just slightly stupid for doing what I did. I do hope others learn from my irresponsible actions. :-)

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    Sid Kemp 4 years ago from Boca Raton, Florida (near Miami and Palm Beach)

    Listen to our intuition, and always do the right thing. Yes. Thank you for such an honest sharing. Voted up, useful, and shared.

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    Cat 4 years ago from New York

    Irc7815,

    This is absolutely beautiful and much of it's beauty is in its honesty. How humble you are to be so giving of yourself and sharing this experience. From the moment I started reading this, I could relate. I want to do good and I want to help others, but at what expense? It is hard to determine what is safe and what is not. If we turn others away at every chance where help may be needed, we will not be doing justice to those in need or ourselves. But, if we never stop to evaluate the situation, in our efforts of kindness, we could find a counterproductive situation and potentially end up hurt or worse. Yes, we are victims to the media and though I want an awareness of things that go on in the world, I think the media feeds off of fear and it sells. I wish they would be equally compelled to share of the beautiful happenings of daily life as well. I grew up in the same rural America, friendly, safe childhood that you did and it's a shame that I've had to readjust my thinking from what it used to be. I do believe there is a balance and I think you've found it. Beautiful and impressed!

    Up and several other blue buttons :D ...sharing as well!

    Thanks a million,

    Cat

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    epigramman 4 years ago

    Hello Linda and so good to see you once again.

    This was an absorbing and thought provoking read and personally speaking I find it very hard to trust anyone I don't know.

    But that said in a perfect world it would be so lovely to be a good samaritan and just blindly help anyone in need without hesitation - that would be the way God intended it.

    And thank goodness we still have these people who humble us and put our faith back into humanity and it's good people like you (and also a darn good writer too) that will hopefully pave the way back and put us all on the yellow brick road to a better future.

    Sending my sincere warmest wishes to you from Colin and his cats - and have you been listening to good music lately?

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    Mary Craig 4 years ago from New York

    You've got everyone's juices flowing. It is unfortunate but true we cannot trust anyone today. Yes, the media has influenced us but being careful is not a bad thing. I don't know if I would have given her a ride. Maybe offered to call someone for her. You went above and beyond and I think you should put the million pieces back together. This is definitely a piece worth reading and thinking about.

    Voted up, useful, awesome, and interesting.

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    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Hi Carol. I agree totally. My lesson in all this is that although I have always been grateful for that 6th sense, it is useless if I don't listen to it. lol

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    carol stanley 4 years ago from Arizona

    I think each year its more difficult to be trusting. People are very desperate these days...plus you never know who is going to sue you for being a good samaritan. SO caution and that gut instinct.

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    shanmarie 4 years ago

    Haha. It is definitely a good thing to have one. They come in handy for emergencies, and there have certainly been times when I was glad I had mine with me, but I do know people that don't have them or that rarely have them on their person.

    What's the fun in being normal? Oh - wait - my reality is normal :D! If I had a smartphone, I would seem more (ab)normal while talking to myself as I think out loud in public. Heck, I could even answer myself! Or pick up a random hitchhiker and even scare that person when he or she realized I'm not really on the phone. . .hehe. . .

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    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    shanmarie, you're right. It is an assumption and I stand corrected. I have an old dnosaur that I keep in the car for emegencies only. I guess that when I look around at a society that seems to not be able to take their eyes off of their smart phones and speak in 'texting language" that I don't understand, I forget that there are truly some normal people in the wrld. :-)

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    shanmarie 4 years ago

    Why does everyone keep saying everyone has a cell phone? Haha. Mine is a prepaid and does not always have minutes on it. Even when it does, I do not always carry it with me. It's just something taken for granted - that everyone has one.

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    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Macteacher, I completely agree about the combination of compassion and intuition and think I have learned an important lesson with this incident. I appreciate your visit.

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    Wendy Golden 4 years ago from New York

    You are right to be cautious. That woman was definitely a little odd.

    I would have asked the same questions. Everyone does have a cell phone, so where was hers?

    I grew up in NYC - so the mindset is to deal with strangers with extreme caution. We're used to it here. That being said, there are still many opportunities to help others. You are obviously a very compassionate person...I guess a mixture of compassion mixed with intuition is the best way to navigate sticky situations.

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    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    MizB - always wise and full of insight. You are a magnificent storyteller too. I love the story of Mr B clobbering the would-be thief although I am sorry that you were put in that situation. And I completely understand the thoughts you had about your boys when approached with a request for gas money. You're right, this is a tough dilemma to be in ad I cannot explain the choices I made. Thankfully I have learned a valuable lesson and you can rest assured that I won't ignore my intuitiveness again. Thank you for caring!

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    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Hi Gypsy! Thanks for the visit. I think I will make a different decision if put in this situation again. I think...lol

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    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    bac2basics - hello! Hindsight is always so much more clear, isn't it? I cannot explain my choice to ignore my instinct. It was totally out of character for me. It is interesting to me that the more I think about this incident, I wonder if I was not influenced as much by the H.O.W. movement as anything else. I remember thinking repeatedly "good deed" and "random act of kindness". I'm sure that this had a happy ending for no other reason than to teach. I think I have learned my lesson. :-)

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    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Hello SilentReed and thank you for sharing your thoughts. Whatever my reasons for making the decision I made, all turned out okay. I am not sure that would have been the case had I not at least asked for her identification. All is well that ends well, so they say. :-)

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    SilentReed 4 years ago from Philippines

    Even without the constant media focus on the violence in our society, a total stranger suddenly approaching us would have kick in our survival instincts and made us wary of the new situation. Asking for identifications and then going out of your way (4 miles in the opposite direction) to reach her destination seems like your gut feelings wrestling with a guilty conscience over going against parental teachings. One possibility for the red flags is that a person you know may have had a similar incident with unfortunate results in the past. Taking chances does not mean opening ourselves to unnecessary risks which serve no beneficial or practical purpose. I would have said "No". Better safe than sorry from the negative reaction of my wife....THAT would be taking unnecessary risks..:))

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    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Hi Pickles! Thanks for reading and sharing my feelings. I appreciate the support and comment.

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    picklesandrufus 4 years ago from Virginia Beach, Va

    I totally understand your position and am not sure what I would have done. We live in constant threat of something, but like you, I don't want to live in fear of being a good person. Good hub!

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    MizBejabbers 4 years ago

    Oh, boy, Linda, you really posed a hard one there. I think you should listen to that voice when a red flag flares. There are so many emails now about “angels” or Jesus in the form of a person such as this woman, which infer that when you help such a person, you are really helping an angel or Jesus. Since she really didn’t offer much gratitude, I doubt if you gave an angel a ride, and I definitely think Jesus would have been grateful regardless of your attitude. Maybe she really was someone in need, but you really took a chance. Please don’t do that again! I want to see my friend Linda around for a long time.

    Around here the story usually is that they are out of gas and “could you spare a few bucks for a tank of gas” for them to get back to whatever town they came from. They usually haunt the gas stations with their stories. We had two incidents this past week and walked away from them without hesitation.

    Several years ago on a grocery store parking lot a guy actually grabbed Mr. B by the shirt collar and said, “Gimme some money, man!” Mr. B left him writhing on the ground crying with broken ribs. That wasn’t good, but neither was the situation he put my husband in, and it was an act of self-defense. He didn’t report it because he didn’t see any witnesses and Vietnam veterans don’t trust the Powers That Be. We never heard anything from that incident. If the guy had done that to me, I don’t know what I would have done.

    Many years ago when my boys were in high school and gasoline was much cheaper, a teen-age boy asked me for some help to buy gasoline to get home on. I gave him the only $2.00 I had left in my purse and felt good about it because I hoped someone would help my boys if they were in the same situation. That was before scamming became a way of life and I’m not sure I would do it again. Just be careful, please.

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    Gypsy Rose Lee 4 years ago from Riga, Latvia

    I fully understand how you felt. This crazy world has made us even suspicious of our neighbors depending on where we live. I am also the first to reach out a helping hand but I would definitely think twice about the situation today. Glad it all worked out for you.

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    Anne 4 years ago from Spain

    Hi Linda.

    I picked up a couple of hitch hikers with a little dog a few years back and wondered what the heck I had done too, but I used to hitch hike all the time when I was a youngster and this couple were obviously travelers, they had back packs and everything. Even so I breathed a sigh of relief when we reached a village which was only a few miles away and I let them out of the car. The man did ask if I could spare some money so they could buy bread and I gave him just enough to do that. During the ride they explained to me that they were traveling around Europe and had been working on a farm but the owner hadn´t paid them and so they left the area looking for other work. I just stopped for them on the spur of the moment and as I say they did look like genuine travelers, but I now realise it was quite a stupid thing to do and I will never do it again. This also is not in my nature, but sometimes you just have to harden and think of yourself.

    In your case you had doubts from the start and my advice to you would always be to listen to that warning bell, maybe had you not checked her ID, you wouldn´t have written this great hub !!

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    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    truthfornow, hello! Thanks for weighing in on this topic. This is a tough one and I am still somewhat mystified by my actions and reactions to this situation. Even now I wonder if this did not occur simply to serve as a catalyst for a hub as it seems it is providing quite a bit of "food for thought".

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    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Bruce, I am so touched by your wisdom and concern. This is very sage advice and I hear you. You got my attention and you can rest assured that I will heed your advice. You have offered it from the heart and in such a thoughtful, caring way and it speaks to my sense of logic and to my own heart. Thank you!

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    truthfornow 4 years ago from New Orleans, LA

    Tough call. In this situation, I probably wouldn't have wanted to give her a ride. When I broke down and had my car towed, I got a ride to the next town from the tow truck driver. Usually, they do give you a lift so I understand your hesitation. You hear so much bad news these days that it does make you live in fear. You can never be too careful. But, again, maybe it has to do with where I live. 19 people were just shot at in New Orleans at a mother's day parade so it like living in a state of terror. I think we take chances all the time and don't even realize it. You just have to be smart and trust your heart and pray for the best. Wonderful hub to think about.

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    Rev Bruce S Noll HMN 4 years ago from Asheville NC

    Hi Linda!

    What an interesting way to raise my blood pressure! LOL

    This was a tough call and I get your point about the influence of the media on our behavior.

    With all the care and concern I can muster while at the same time encouraging you to listen to your spiritual gifts, I must offer this piece of unsolicited advice.

    I have worked in Law enforcement and corporate safety on and off throughout my career and I applaud your heart, but honestly question your action. Please, hear me out.

    Anyone with a heart, and those with a heart as big as yours, would want to help someone in need. With that I agree and I also agree it's part of our heritage and soul to be of assistance to those in need.

    There are those who prey on the generous actions of people just like you. Am I saying you should live in fear? Heck no! Let me repeat that...Heck No. You should not and do not have to live in fear. The operative word here is LIVE.

    What I am about to tell you I have told my wife because I have seen the seedier side of life often enough to know it really does exist. I too refuse to live in fear, but I do recommend taking safe, appropriate action.

    Beyond the precautions you took, there are a couple others that work but the primary thing I would ask you to remember is in the old days we might have left our doors open, but community cared back then. Community cared, people cared, more that one cared. If something happened on the farm people worked together to fix it and I think the same policy would be appropriate here.

    In this instance, rather than going it alone, call a relative or friend and notify them of your intentions, or call someone to assist you. This could be something as simple as sharing the drivers license with someone in the store. Too much to do to provide help? Maybe!

    Another option if you are one who always finds themselves in this position is to have the non-emergency police number in your phone, available for use for situations just like this. If the person in truly in need and not a scam artist they may be embarrassed, but grateful.

    Your intuition and awareness are your greatest tools but they are not perfect. We humans are so far away from our origins most of us have to work on our spiritual side.

    Please understand that I care and I am not asking you to live in fear, I am asking you not to go these types of things by yourself. Take on a partner, someone you do know and trust. Share the fun!

    Thank you for this wonderful hub and may you receive all of the blessings the Source of All Being can and will dish out to a such a caring soul as you!

    (Besides, we kinda want to keep you around here at Hubpages, ya know!!!)

    Sincerely,

    Bruce

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    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    @ Shauna - Hey girlfriend. I can only agree with you that God was on my side. All the red flags were there and I did what I thought I should do to protect myself. Still, I know this was foolish. Lesson learned. lol

    @ Eddy, I appreciate your stopping by and your comment too.

    @ Leslie... Consider me appropriately scolded. Thanks for caring too.

    @ shanmarie - Good points. Awareness is a good thing and this event will leave me reconsidering next time. Thanks for the visit and comment.

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    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Randi, I don't have the answer either. This event has left me a bit unsettled. I feel foolish in some ways and yet I feel good that I possibly helped where someone else may not have. Retrospectivelly though, I think this may have been more foolish than smart. Thank you so much for your visit and comment. I share your confusion. :-)

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    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Hi MH! Thanks for the visit. I too have required a plethora of teachers. lol

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    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Dear Faith, you always inspire me. You do so much for this human species that is good and admirable. You have apparently learned to listen to that still small voice better than I have. lol I will work on that. Hugs to you my special friend.

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    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Maria, thank you for taking time to read this one. I know how busy you must be. I can't explain why I did this but it certainly has made me rethink my sense of danger. lol

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    shanmarie 4 years ago

    I can totally understand your fear and reluctance, and I can honestly say that I might react the same way. Now, having said that, I can also say that I have been the "stranger", and though I was never the one to ask for assistance, I was grateful when it was offered. Yet, I can also say that even being the stranger, I felt a sense of caution in even accepting assistance from someone I did not know. It's just a ride because you ran out of gas miles from town, right? Well, as you say, the media makes us hyper aware of our surroundings in situations such as those.

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    Karen Silverman 4 years ago

    i dunno, i dunno, i dunno..

    you 'shredded' the incident into a million pieces, but my dear friend - YOU KNEW it from second one! you FELT something was off...

    i am surprised that you DID give her a ride- i'm quite sure you would not have - had it been a man!

    your spidey sense was tingling and yet you let her into your car - and possibly - your life!

    sorry - too big a risk..

    there are a million ways to help people - you KNOW it - you don't have to put yourself at risk..

    this WAS a risk, my friend -i'm sooo glad you asked for her id at least..

    (i can't see either -but i fake it too....lol)

    i love you

    now - stop that nonsense!

    lol

    sharing

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    Eiddwen 4 years ago from Wales

    An interesting hub leaving much food for thought.

    Voted up.

    Eddy.

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    Shauna L Bowling 4 years ago from Central Florida

    Linda, I don't blame you for reacting the way you did. I have never had a car towed without the driver escorting me home or to the repair shop. God was on your side that day; it could have all gone so wrong.

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    Randi Benlulu 4 years ago from Mesa, AZ

    This was a tough call and I'm not sure what I would have done in the same situation. I do know that either way, I would have torn, shredded and gone over and over it in my head and still not have known what would have been the right thing to do. Thank you so much for sharing this! up++

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    Martin Kloess 4 years ago from San Francisco

    Thank you for relating this. To make Martin the Lord sent many teachers.

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    Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

    Hi Linda,

    I can understand just how you feel in today's world and your intuition kicked in too. I remember when I was serving the homeless/downtrodden around the building in which I work in the city, and everyone would always say, when they saw me out and about, "you better watch out!" I would reply that I am very careful, but that I know and trust that my Lord will protect me, and He always did. There was one instance where I notice a man, maybe in his early 30's or late 20's, limping along and then stopping to rest and he had anguish in his face and holding his knee. He was walking in a parking lot of a hotel, and I was driving past the hotel and happened to look in his direction. I thought poor man. So, I cautiously approached and rolled down my window just enough to hand out my normal little brown bag that I give to the homeless with water, etc., and before I could really say anything or give him anything, the man came up to my car really fast and said abruptly that he needed a ride, he was sick! Then he grabbed at my rear door handle and started pulling at it, and said he would just ride in the back! I said, I am sorry, but I cannot give you a ride, but that I would see if I could get someone to give him a ride, and then I heard a small voice telling me to move on, just move on, and I knew it was the Holy Spirit protecting me. I did feel guilty, but just for a moment, as when I started to drive off, the man started yelling all kinds of things at me. I went a little bit down the road and saw a bunch of men standing around with a big truck and told them about the man, as maybe he did need a ride? Then I also saw a police vehicle and went and told the police officer what had happened, as I saw the man in my rear view mirror as I was driving away, approaching another woman who was walking towards her car.

    I do not live my life in fear and choose not to do so, but when your intuition kicks in, there is a reason. I will still lend a hand when I have the opportunity and ask Him and trust Him for protection.

    Thank you for sharing your heart here. You are a beautiful person, and don't think otherwise. Your parents are very wise and taught you well dearest friend.

    Hugs and blessings, Faith Reaper

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    Maria Jordan 4 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

    Dear Linda,

    Oh I do understand, as a similar scenario happened with me. I also went with my gut feeling, while taking some precautions with my cell phone.

    Your message is positive, a reminder to live every day to the fullest without fear. Voted UP and UABI.

    Thinking of you, hoping you had a peaceful weekend. Love, Maria

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    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Hey Kindred. This one surprised me and I had to analyze it. Most of my life I've been just like Bev. Treat her good tonight. I know you will. :-)

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    Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

    A tough call, Kindred....I see nothing wrong with your reactions, and certainly not with your ultimate action.

    Bev is infinitely more trusting than I am. My red flags go up immediately when faced with situations such as the one you detailed. Not Bev by God, she just plows ahead in that trusting nature of hers and consequences be damned.

    I admire her greatly....I admire you greatly.

    Thank you for sharing a valuable lesson for all of us.

    A hug for you...now it's time for Bev's Mother's Day dinner.

    bill