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The Christmas Shoes by Author Cheryl

Updated on September 5, 2017
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I have been a member of Hub pages going on five years. I have published 8 books and write in many genres. Writing is my passion.


Loving our Families Always

A little boy goes to the store to buy his dieing mother a pretty pair of shoes so that upon her death she will meet Jesus looking beautiful. After the cashier counts all of his pennies he doesn't have enough but insisted he was getting his mother those shoes. A stranger over hears the conversation and agrees to pay for the shoes so that the little boy can give them to his mother.

As the holidays are fast approaching I have reflected back through the year and thought about what I could do for my family this holiday season. Not buy them pretty shoes or fancy clothes but hold them close to my heart and love them.

From Halloween to New Year's life becomes so commercialized that we have to buy the best candy for trick or treators, make the biggest turkey for Thanksgiving, buy the kids and grand children the best and most expensive gifts and then party like it's 1999 on New Year's Eve.

But what we fail to realize that all these material things do nothing to bring our families together. Family units are so broken at this time, that caring about one's feelings seems obsolete.

What do material things bring into our lives?

We get so caught up in our lives that we find ourselves regretting when we hear about friends dieing, or family members leaving us without us even saying goodbye.

My friend Lisa who was a vibrant young woman of 38 passed away suddenly last January a day after she had sent me an email. I never got to say goodbye, spend time with her or even have a conversation with her on the phone because we were both to busy with life. I had moved from Fort Lauderdale to Jacksonville and the last time I talked to her was Halloween when we had planned to get together after the first of the year. It never happened.

This year I don't want to buy expensive gifts for family members or my friends but give them all the love I have inside my heart and let them know every single day that I think about them often. I don't want to take my friends to lunch or dinner but cherish every moment we can spend together laughing and being silly.

When its time for me to part my life I hope that no one wants to buy me Christmas shoes, but will be there to give me love until my time is done. If you have issues with family or friends resolve it before its too late because a pair of shoes can never take the place of someone's heart.

What Does Christmas Mean to You

Do you believe that love certainly out weighs gifts?

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"Anyone Who Has Struggled With Poverty Knows How Extremely Expensive it is To Be Poor." -James Baldwin

There are millions of "impoverished" families in the world and that number is only rising. Of these families there are children that go unclothed and unfed, elderly that go unattended, and a state of general hopelessness. Though many of these families can just get by, there are even more who can not. There are many ways to help needy families.

  • Don't let anonymity bother you. If you truly wish to help someone then you really shouldn't care if you get recognized anyway.
  • Contact an organization. There are countless organizations dedicated to helping less fortunate people all over the world.
  • Be your own unemployment office. If you know someone personally, who is struggling then offer that person a job. It doesn't need to be anything like a secretary or anything. Just casually mention it in passing like, "Hey I'm really busy and I haven't got the time. So could you (mow my lawn, help with my house, etc.) I'll even pay you, please, I really need help." See if they're more likely to accept this offer more than outright giving them the money.
  • Never imply that you think that they need help. It's a huge insult and they will almost definitely refuse.

Helping others

We have heard of people going to different stores paying off lay away items for others on Christmas. After all it is about Jesus birthday not about presents and decorations. Many times you will never realize how much a smile could mean to someone. Sometimes you don't always have to buy someone something to help them. Sometimes they just need encouragement and an ear to bend.

Why do we only spend the holidays to give to people? Life goes fast in the blink of an eye and before my life is over I would surely like to know I have helped many people along this journey called life. Maybe I could never help someone financially but emotionally I can give 100%.

Some people are going through a lot because of the economy, because of unforeseen circumstances, because they just can't get it together and maybe something you said a year ago helped them now to get through it.

Don't always want things, need things, wish for things. Give of your heart and soul so that you can ease the fear of someone else and the problems they are going through. You never know when it will be the best day you gave someone.

Giving from your heart

The picture above expresses one person giving another person a heart. There is one thing about love and that it's free. If you have to pay for love then it is not love. When you give from the heart, a person knows it and will appreciate you more then if you just gave them something out of wanting acknowledgement or wanting the whole world to know that you gave them something. Those that give of the heart, give silently and know just the right time that someone is in need without asking.

If you truly are a real friend, needing help is something you already know. Even if it is your family and you give them help financially always remember it was never a loan. People give loans expecting to be paid back, but most of the time people are asking for financial help and do not have the means to pay you back. Help them out of love and your reward will be double.


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      Cheryl A Whitsett 4 years ago from Jacksonville, Fl

      What a story and a mess. I am totally aware of ice storms as I am from New Jersey and we had a really severe one that caused my car to spin around an ended up on the side of the road that was traffic coming directly at me. Thank God there was no traffic coming that day. I am glad you got home okay. Thanks for stopping by.

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      C E Clark 4 years ago from North Texas

      This article is very much in line with one I recently wrote about The Perfect Gift for Everyone on Your List -- Forever Gifts. Spend time with the people on your gift list. Sometimes just the time and your presence can mean more than presents.

      On Thursday all day and all night we had the worst ice storm I've seen here in North Texas in 25 years. I had to work and got in late due to heavy traffic. More people than usual were out because of the storm, which started that morning. When I got to my car I barely got the door open because it was frozen shut. My entire car had 1/4 inch of ice all over it and only the driver's side window was easily cleared.

      I got my defrosters going and got inside my car after determining that nothing was going to budge the ice on the windshield and other windows. I expected to stay a good half hour before the ice even started to soften up from the defrosters because it was so thick and unyielding.

      All at once coworkers descended on my car! Alice, Beth, Carrie, Clint, and some others whose names I don't know appeared with ice scrapers. Clint had a school bus with him (we all work in transportation) and connected an air hose to the exhaust pipe on the bus and blew hot exhaust onto my windshield. Even with all of them working on my windshield it took a good 20 minutes to clear it -- that's how thick the ice was, and more was falling as they worked. When that was done they partly cleared the front passenger side window.

      My side mirrors were a lost cause and the back window was impossible, meaning my rearview mirror was useless too. Thankfully I don't live far from work and with other people on the road looking out for me (I couldn't see anything behind me), I made it home safely. I thought I would be sitting waiting for my defrosters to work for at least an hour.

      What a help my coworkers were, and what a surprise too! They helped other people that night too, who were in the same predicament as me. Everyone's cars were iced over with the stubbornest of ice.

      Like you said, money isn't the only way you can help people. People need a lot of different things and sometimes just someone to listen, to encourage, or to comfort is what is needed. Helping someone carry their groceries in, shoveling their sidewalk, or any number of things that don't have to cost money can be a blessing.

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      Christine 4 years ago

      Your writing is an absolute blessing to me. I love your hubs and need to comment on more of them. Voted up. Great job.

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      joejagodensky 6 years ago from Milwaukee, Wisconsin

      Well presented and developed. You had a story to tell us and you did it very well. Thanks for the inspiring Christmas message.

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      John 6 years ago

      Cheryl this is a great hub and it made me a little teary eyed as well. So sorry about your friend and I hope you have overcome the sorrow of her loss. We all need to take a lesson about this hub. Great job.

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      Marie 6 years ago

      This is a wonderful hub and it is true so many of us do not tell our families enough that we love them and hold them dear to our hearts. Voted up on all levels.

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      Jackie 6 years ago

      I love this hub it is meaniful and a very good. I hope that everyone reads this hub.

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      Peggy Farmer 6 years ago

      So very well said Cheryl. You can not change the past once the person is gone. You need to say it today for tomorrow may never come. Thanks for sharing this with us.