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Unpack Your Bags - It's Water Over The Dam

Updated on February 26, 2013

As humans, we all have our baggage that we'd like to leave behind. As a society, we are communicators who talk too much without thinking about the meaning of our words. Take the phrase “water over the dam”. We use it a lot but do we ever think about the significance of what it means?

Okay, we’re headed for the on-line dictionaries again.

Your Online Dictionary:

"Something that is over and done with, especially an unfortunate occurrence. For example, Last year's problems with delivery are water over the dam, or Never mind that old quarrel; that's water under the bridge. These metaphoric phrases allude to water that has flowed over a spillway or under a bridge and thus is gone forever. The first term was first recorded in 1797; the variant dates from the late 1800s."

Think about it. No matter how badly you want to, you cannot reverse the flow of living water. Well, that's not exactly true. You could build another dam and force the water to back up. But that's cheating.

For our purposes here, let's just deal with the natural flow of things. Water will not stop, reverse its direction, and jump back up on top of that dam. Agreed?

It's All Good

It's a good thing, to recognize that there are some things you just can't change. Some things are better if we think of them as "water over the dam". They belong in the past. So why do we, as human beings, drag them around with us? Why is it that we use all these words without taking their meaning to heart. Why do we say "it's water over the dam" and still beat that dead horse and drag it around behind us. It's time to start listening to the words we use.

How many failed relationships have you had? Wait, you don't have to answer that out loud. Just think about it. Did you explain your pain away by saying "it's water over the dam"? Yeah, I think we all have. So why are you still crying? Why are you still trashing your partner to your friends? Let it go. Move on.

How about the job you lost? When you had to tell your family, did you help them handle it by saying "it's water over the dam". Yep, me too. So why am I still worrying about how it looked? Because I'm human and no matter how big I talk, I do the same thing. I drag some stuff around. But it's all good because for today, I'm thinking about it and it's time to let it go and move on.


The Lesson

It doesn't matter whether you say it's water over the damn or water under the bridge, the truth is, you can't change it. It's done. Gone. Let it go. Learn the lesson. Move on.

The past is the past. And that's where it belongs.

The future is something you can change. It is within the power of each of us to create a better future for ourselves and for future generations. And the power to create that change is also in our words. Think about those past mistakes and say to yourself with commitment - it's water over the dam and then, start your next sentence with the same commitment and the words - I can. I will.

The Power of Words

When a painter paints a picture, he or she chooses the colors with care. The finished product can be dark or light, negative or positive, depending on the colors chosen by the painter. It is the same for writers. We can write using positive or negative words and the finished piece will represent us as the canvas represents the painter. As human beings, we have the same power in our spoken word. We can remain stuck in the past, playing the victim with words like "I can't" or "I'm afraid" or "It's impossible". And that is exactly what life will bring us. It's the Law of Attraction and you can learn how to use it by clicking here.

If we start thinking about the power of words, and choosing our words carefully, we can attract the best things in life and they are the fuel for positive change. We can unpack our bags; unload the baggage, and leave it behind. Words give us the energy and incentive to reverse negative stereotypes, turn sadness into joy, and make the impossible - probable. Listen to your words and then harness their power.

© 2012 Linda Crist, All rights reserved.

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