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The Open Door Policy: A Moment With Bill Essay

Updated on April 4, 2013

AN INVITATION TO YOU ALL


In my early professional years I was asking the question: How can I treat, or cure, or change this person? Now I would phrase the question in this way: How can I provide a relationship which this person may use for his own personal growth?
Carl Rogers

If you have read any of my articles you have probably seen, from time to time, an open invitation to look me up if you are ever in Olympia, Washington. That invitation is genuine. There is nothing more important to me than family, loved ones and friends. My better half and the love of my life, Bev, feels the same way.

We live a simple life. Our door is always open to our friends. Drop us an email, tell us you are in the area, and we will give you instructions on how to find us. The door will be open and we will welcome you with smiles and handshakes. It is a genuine offer and it has no time limit. We are serious about it and we hope you take us up on our offer because we would love to meet you.

Why?

What a silly question!

The Simple Life is a frame of mind. It is a way of living that we embrace completely. We love meeting new people because we believe that every such meeting is a way of bridging gaps and coming closer to true brotherhood. We do not shy away from contact but rather we race towards it with open arms.

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A Moment With Bill About Simplicity

THE MANY DOORS OF OUR LIVES


I have written often about my trials and tribulations. There was a time, not that long ago, when I shied away from people. I did not trust them. I was convinced that all of you were out to hurt me, and the only way to avoid pain was to avoid you. I constructed walls around my heart and I did not allow anyone inside of those walls.

It was a safe existence and it was oh so empty.

The transition from that former life to today’s attitude of brotherhood did not come quickly. There was no burning bush of awakening. There was no single moment that served as a watershed for me. Rather, it was a realization that I could not make it in this life alone, and if that were true then I needed to change.

I needed to change.

I needed to risk the pain that would surely come in hopes that I would find companionship and love. I had to open my personal doors and allow all of you in.

It was a frightening process but it was one I had to undertake in order to find happiness. I had to push aside my distrust. I had to push aside my fear and ignorance and I had to welcome you through those doors and into my life.

How many doors do we close and lock during our lifetime?

All of you who have loved and lost, did you lock that door? The divorces, the broken relationships, the pain, anguish and tears that followed, were they enough to lock away your heart?

All of you who have suffered the horrors of abuse, did you lock that door? The physical, emotional, sexual or psychological pain you have endured, was it enough to lock away your psyche?

All of you who have been the victims of greed, did you lock that door? The dirty deals, the scams, the broken promises by employees or business partners, were they enough to lock away your trust?

All of you who have suffered from bias and prejudice, cut deep by words of hate and trampled by the actions of ignorance, was it all enough to lock away your compassion and empathy for others?

HERE IS THE KEY TO PERSONAL FREEDOM


Today is a new day. As trite as it may sound, today is the first day of a better life, but you must take the key and unlock those doors.

It begins with the realization that not all people are bad. Not all people mean you harm. There are seven billion human beings on this planet and not all are unworthy of your trust. There will be future pain. That is the undeniable truth of relationships with our fellow man. However, what I have found, in unlocking my doors, is that for every person who would hurt me there are countless others who want the same things that I want, namely acceptance and love.

As I become more and more willing to unlock my doors, I am freeing the way for wonders and joys I could only dream about back in the dark days. The same can happen to you, but it takes willingness and courage. I understand pain. I understand heartbreak and loneliness. They are crippling and they are the great Robber Barons of our heart, and today I reject them all.

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THE INVITATION LASTS A LIFETIME


Olympia, Washington, sitting at the tail end of Puget Sound in the shadow of Mt. Rainier. Our home can be found in the Northeast Neighborhood of Olympia, about a half-mile from the San Francisco Bakery. Give us a call, tell us you are stopping by, and if you feel like it, stop by the bakery and pick up some fresh donuts.

All are welcome at the home of Bev and Bill. Don’t be too enamored with our willingness to entertain. We are really being selfish in offering this invitation. You see, we are given gifts by every person that we meet and every person we take the time to get to know on a personal level. When you stop by and share a part of yourselves with us, we become better people because of the experience. That’s how this thing called brotherhood works.

Our doors are open and waiting. Come visit, day or night. We’ll leave the light on for you.

2013 William D. Holland (aka billybuc)

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      carol stanley 4 years ago from Arizona

      Loved this hub and I would love to visit ..too bad I didn't know you when we lived in Oregon. I was thinking about the shut doors you mentioned..what is even sadder when someone else shuts those doors..and doesn't seem to want them opened again. As I have shared before. There is one thing that is an enigma about you BIll..it is not a bad thing ...I may share it at some time.. Curious..It is nothing big or bad..but I do wonder. Voting up and sharing this around to the writing group that is.

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      Tirralan Watkins 4 years ago from Los Angeles, CA

      Billy, thank you and Bev for the warm invite. If we are ever in your area I will look you up. You seem like a very genuine and kind person. I'm sure your students enjoyed being in your class.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Carol, that's no fair!!!!! LOL Leave me hanging and then not tell me why I am an enigma. :) Oh well, I will be patient....hopefully.

      Thanks for the loyalty and have a great Thursday in Arizona.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Career, we did have some fun in class. :) I'm just a big kid who loves life, and we would love to have you visit and join us for lunch. :) Thank you!

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      Shauna L Bowling 4 years ago from Central Florida

      I would love to come visit you and Bev and go on a nature hike to take in your breathtaking views. I don't know if I'll ever make it way over yonder, but you know what they say: never say never!

      Now, as for doors. I, too once had walls built up and perhaps I still do, but I've let down the walls in order to open the door to the good in the world and the good people in the world. Some doors I'll leave shut. The doors to the rat race remain shut. The doors to prejudice remain shut. The doors to judgement remain shut.

      Oh, and my heart? You'll find it proudly displayed on my sleeve!

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      Catherine Taylor 4 years ago from Canada

      bb, you so know the secret to life and thank the Universe that you are willing to share. You are absolutely right, being open to each other and open to love is the key. The second I let my barriers down and opened myself up to love my life changed. My husband and I love to hit the open road and just see where it takes us. We spent two months driving Route 66 when we first got married. We're longing to do another road trip, perhaps it will have us heading your way.

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      SweetiePie 4 years ago from Southern California, USA

      You are a real person and friend Bill. I can tell you want to help others, and are genuine.

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      Janine Huldie 4 years ago from New York, New York

      I say this often, but seriously Bill you are just such a wonderful man and this was beautiful. Loved your invitation to the masses and hope someday to be able to take you up on this one!! Thanks as always Bill for just being you!! :)

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      WillStarr 4 years ago from Phoenix, Arizona

      We may all come, and have a party, Bill!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Sha, anyone who knows you knows that is true. Keep opening those doors my friend, and come visit any old time. We would love to have you visit us.

      love you,

      bill

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      Hawaiian Odysseus 4 years ago from Southeast Washington state

      Hi, Bill!

      You and Bev are exceptionally warm and hospitable people, and your life philosophy is so reminiscent of the aloha spirit back in the islands. Thank you for your invitation, and if my wife and I are ever in the neighborhood (we will have contacted you in advance, of course), we'd love to drop by with a dozen doughnuts and paint the hours with joy and fellowship.

      Because I'm just now beginning to read your work, I feel that I'm missing important facets of your particular journey. It will be an interesting project for me to indulge in this beautiful literary garden you're maintaining here in Hubsville. Mahalo, Bill, for your very refreshing and compassionate acceptance of others.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thunder, we would be thrilled if your next road trip was out west. I'll be looking for your car in our driveway...and thank you for the kind words.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Sweetie, I do want to help others....and thank you for those words of praise. The next time you travel north.......you know where to find us.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Awwww, Janine...thanks so much. I love life and I love my friends....I'm just spreading that love.

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      Liz Davis 4 years ago from Hudson, FL

      I love that big tree.

      I probably won't pick up donuts, but I'll bring ingredients. I'll need to use your kitchen and a couple utensils. ;-)

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Will, that would be one hell of a party and I'd love it. Get on your horse and head on up my friend.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Hawaii, I have saved your latest hub to read later today when I am done with customers. Like a fine wine I want it to breathe before I open it. Occasionally I come across a writer who I instantly connect with....yesterday that writer was you.

      I'll see you down the road my friend. Have a wonderful day in Walla Walla.

      Aloha,

      bill

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Lizzy, that big tree is a weeping willow and you can take over the kitchen if you promise to make me some of those great dishes and sweets you keep tempting me with online. :) I would love to have you visit so we could laugh together.

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      poetvix 4 years ago from Gone from Texas but still in the south. Surrounded by God's country.

      Thank you, Bill, for the warm feeling I got here. I'm behind this morning and as a result was getting mighty grumpy. This chilled me right out. It reminded me so much of the way things were years ago. At Granny's, the door was always open. People came and went all day everyday. It was a different time, a much happier time. While that's true, I wonder if I don't use it as an excuse. I keep all the doors locked now. We hear so much about the bad, on the news, TV, everywhere. Thanks for being the voice of reason in a world of doom and gloom. I doubt I'll ever make it to Washington, but if I do, I'm bringing cupcakes. Regardless of who ever makes it where, you are making one heck of a difference right here. God bless you and Bev.

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      Maria Jordan 4 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      Dear Bill,

      In my virtual neighborhood, I just know you are my next door neighbor.

      You are truly always available for support, guidance and friendship.

      I will take you up on your offer if you remember that you and Bev have a lunch date and place to visit, if you are near Philadelphia, PA.

      Love, Maria

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Maria, in this virtual world I love you. In this real world I love you. Remarkable? I don't know...I just know I connected with your warm and loving spirit very early on and now, even though we haven't met, I love you.

      And you can take that to the bank. :)

      love,

      bill

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Good morning Vix!

      I have your latest hub sitting and waiting for me to finish my customers this morning. Your hubs need to be savored. I don't like to rush through them, but I promise I will be there shortly.

      As for the old days....it is a more dangerous world today, and leaving door unlocked is dangerous.....now, if we are talking about our own personal doors, inside of us....dangerous to leave them locked. :)

      Sending your the warmth of friendship this Thursday, and thank you!

      bill

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      Vickiw 4 years ago

      Dear Bill, this is pretty exciting. I am almost sure that I will be moving to somewhere closer to you, in another part of BC. If so, I will definitely make a point of visiting! Just hope your Border guys won't have a wait of something like 3 hours, now that they have cut 5000 more jobs from them. Oh dear, how politics always interferes! You friendly man, hope you visit up here too, and you are always welcome.

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      Carol 4 years ago from Greenwood, B.C., Canada

      Hi Bill and thanks to you and Bev for the invite! We have been through Olympia many times and who knows, we may go through there again. It would be fun talking program and writing - two of my favourite things. And is that a weeping willow I see in your yard?

      I must admit, I have shut that door in the past. After peeling that 'ol onion I was pretty raw and still am at times and, almost 24 years later, there may be a few layers left. Who knows! I'm willing tho' and that's what counts.

      Big Hugs, Carol

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      Kristen Mazzola 4 years ago from South Florida

      This was awesome and heartfelt! Thank you for sharing it and writing it! I love reading your work and feeling such a great energy from you! :)

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      Natasha 4 years ago from Hawaii

      I can think of one door I'd love to shut and keep shut in my life, but it keeps struggling to get back open. Oh, well.

      I may be in Washington sometime, so keep an eye on the door about two years from now!

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      Eiddwen 4 years ago from Wales

      I don't know how many times I have said this but I will carry on saying that it would be amazing if we did meet up one day .

      I know that you are sincerity through and through and this I know for sure.

      I truly believe in one little quote :- 'Never say never '!!!!

      Thanks again for another great read and here's to many many mre. Enjoy your day.

      Lots of love

      Eddy.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Vicki, that is exciting news. Where will you be moving to? I hope one day we are able to sit as friends....I would love that experience. Thank you and good luck at the border. :)

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Carol, there is no time limit on peeling that onion. :) As for the visit. you are always welcome my friend. It would be great fun to meet you.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      khmazz, I'm running out of years so make the trip in the near future. :) Thank you for your kind words. If what you say is true then I am a grateful writer.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Natasha, two years??? That's exciting! What brings you out here? I hope you make it. We would be thrilled to meet you in person.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Eddy, it won't be easy but I refuse to give up. I could meet you half way....that would still be New York. LOL Thank you my dear and I'll keep holding onto that dream of me seeing Wales in person one day.

      love,

      billy

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      Sheri Dusseault 4 years ago from Chemainus. BC, Canada

      Bill, this warms my heart! How many people would put out an open invite on the internet!? I am curious, have any hubbers ever taken you up on it? As I've said before, if ever you and Bev make it up my way I would love to meet you.

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      Victor W. Kwok 4 years ago from Hawaii

      So true. Great hub!

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      sunflowerforests 4 years ago from The light in the forest of doubt.

      I like the quote you started your article out with. Isn't that the truth too. We do learn from relationships. You've written another inspiring piece here. It can't help but make everyone who reads this want to breakdown their own barriers, or at least try harder to. The sweetest joys of life sometimes arrive unexpectedly. Keeping an open heart will allow us to appreciate and enjoy them. Thanks for this. :)

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Sheri, I met one last summer....but there are a couple due here this summer and I am very excited about that. And in two years Bev and I will go on a roadtrip and meet many more Hubbers, and I am very, very excited about that.

      Hopefully we can get up to BC one of these days.

      Thank you, Sheri!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you vkwok...it is always nice having your visit my site.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      sunflower, you said that beautifully. You must be a writer! :) Thank you for a wonderful comment, one I completely agree with.

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      Amy Becherer 4 years ago from St. Louis, MO

      I used to trust everyone, Bill. I looked at everyone as innocent until proven otherwise. At my former workplace, the president of the company called me "family". He wanted to see the pictures and showed enthusiastic interest in the places I was investigating for my new digs following my divorce. I was leveled, when two weeks after the finalization of my divorce and 13 dedicated years to my employer, after just signing my lease for an apt close to the workplace, I was laid off due to the economy. I doubt he would have treated any member of his 'family' in this manner. I learned that words are easily thrown around, but it's actions that tell the truth. Though I lost my naivete, I've gained wisdom born of experience. I am smarter, more cautious, and not likely to trust until I feel certain the other deserves such. That said, though we've never met, I trust your sincerity, Bill. Someday, I would love to meet you and Bev. Thank you for the invitation, my friend. Love from St. Lou to you.

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      poojasd7 4 years ago from India

      Just Awesome, Bill! You and Bev are such a warm human-beings. I would love to meet you all at your home one day. Hope it really happens! Amen! :)

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      Lurana Brown 4 years ago from Chicagoland, Illinois

      I love your door theme very much (doors and stairs and gates are themes that are meaningful to me) and greatly appreciate your deeper message of unlocking trust after difficulty. It speaks to me personally; I'm in that damaged psyche place and just barely peeking out of the door. :-)

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Pooja, I hope so too. Until then, we will continue our friendship online and get to know each other better. :) Thank you for your loyalty my friend.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Amy, only a fool trusts blindly nowadays and you ain't no fool. I understand...truly...I was burned in similar fashion back in 2002 and I will not forget that lesson. I am a trusting person by nature, but now there is a good degree of cynicism as I approach any trust situation. I hope, in the future, that I can regain that natural trust again, and not have to worry about the consequences.

      I guess part of what you see online with me is an attempt to tell people that there are still folks out there who are as good as their word. Come on out and I'll make you a believer.

      love from Oly

      bill

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Lurana, I know you are. It takes a great amount of time to open those doors after so much pain. I feel for you young lady. Thank you for your honesty. Don't ever lose the qualities that make you who you are.

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      Dancing Water 4 years ago

      Thank you, Bill, for your generous invitation! You and Bev are remarkable in your openness and kindness.

      I recall during the Vietnam war that Joan Baez was asked what she would do if the Chinese "invaded" California. She replied, "Offer them a cup of tea." I think that is what you and Bev would do as well.

      Sending warm thoughts and blessings your way, as always,

      Reba

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      Deonne Anderson 4 years ago from Florence, SC

      “The ornament of a house is the friends who frequent it.”

      ― Ralph Waldo Emerson

      billybuc,

      Your life experiences have truly caused you to evolve as a human being. You have achieved "enlightenment." It is evident that you are happy and content with your life and your self. LOVE conquers and encompasses all. It is your willingness and gift of love that touches all that cross your path. I'm honored to have done so. Thanks for the invite. Wish I'd known you and Bev when my daughter lived in Puyallup. I spent lots o time in WA. We could have visited with each other.

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      Patricia Scott 4 years ago from sunny Florida

      If I ever get to the area, you know I will stop by with or without donuts. For sure, opening the door to your heart does open it up to bruising and worse, battering. However, as we have heard for eons, nothing ventured, nothing gained. Think of all the lovelies we would miss if we remained closed to others because tragedy came to our door.

      This is one of your best, Bill.

      Voted up up and away .....many Angels are flocking to your doorstep ....:) ps

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Reba, I love that quote. Thanks for reminding me of it. I'll always start proceedings with an offer of friendship...it is then up to the next person to accept it or not. I am always hopeful that they will accept.

      Thanks as always for stopping by and sharing your loving spirit. You are welcome anytime.

      blessings always

      bill

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Ladydeonne, say it isn't so? You used to visit Puyallup? Oh, the irony of the situation! Now we have become online friends and peers and you are 3000 miles away. Sigh!

      Your words are incredibly kind. Evolve as a human being? I would hope so my friend...I certainly would hope so. Thank you!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      PS...all the lovelies...I love that! Bring on the pain. I'm willing to deal with it if it means having more friends like you my dear lady. Keep those angels coming. They bring a smile to my face daily.

      Blessings and a big old hug coming your way,

      bill

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      Jim Higgins 4 years ago from Eugene, Oregon

      According to the mileage chart I checked, it is about 3.5 hours to Olympia from Eugene. I am not sure when yet, but one day this year I plan on making the trip. It would be great to meet you and Bev, and I know my wife, a former English teacher, would love it too.

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      Bill De Giulio 4 years ago from Massachusetts

      Hi Bill. I have no doubt that you and I will meet at some point. I don't know when our next trip out to Washington will be but rest assured that we will come knocking when we are there. I sincerely appreciate the offer and Terry and I look forward to that day.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Jim, I'm going to hold you to that promise. We will be elated to meet you. We should organize a west coast HP convention. :)

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Bill, you are one I am expecting to meet. As much time as you have spent out here, and as much as you love it here, I just know you will come back eventually. Looking forward to meeting you buddy.

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      Jackie Lynnley 4 years ago from The Beautiful South

      What a kind and loving offer. You are a wonderful person and I hope life gives you all you deserve. I had a very close friend that lived and died there so there is no reason now I would be clear across the country from the east coast but I do believe if I ever would meet a stranger it couldn't be a dearer heart than yours. Thank you!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Jackie, you had me blushing my friend. What a kind thing for you to say. Jackie, I can't write about making this world a better place unless I'm willing to walk my talk. Somehow, someway, we have to learn to trust one another in this country....so it starts with me. :)

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      Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

      Reading this it was as though you were talking to me. I have shut of myself, mentally, for a few years now. Back in the 90s and recently I have had so much pain and grief that I gave up. turned of my heart and mind and just stayed with my family. its easier when someone can't hurt you. but recently I have opened up a bit more, take yesterday for example, I was asked to meet the descendants of lady hoby a woman who was living in a nearby abbey just over the bridge from me. they read my hub about it and emailed me. you saw the photo. I sat for ages wondering whether to go or just shut myself up here again, but I made myself go, and guess what? I had a great time! so yes you are totally right. And thanks for the invite, wonder if donuts stay fresh on an eight hour flight? darn it, too far! lol! but thanks I would love to visit, nell

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      Linda Bilyeu 4 years ago from Orlando, FL

      I just might take you up on that offer one day! I don't do well in the rainy seasons, bad allergies...need lots of sunshine! :)

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Nell, I think your story is one we can all relate to. This is too much hurt in all of us. Too many times we have trusted and had our hearts handed back to us with a piece missing....and yet, when we do get out and become a reluctant participant in life, we discover why we missed it so much.

      Skip the donuts. I'll supply them if you come. :)

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Linda, if you come in August I can almost guarantee sunshine. :) I'll be looking for you, and thank you.

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 4 years ago from Southern Illinois

      I feel like i know you and i would drop by to see you and Bev if i were ever in your neck of the woods. That's what i like the most about our HP community, the guidance, the helpfulness, the friendships are wonderful. Thank's Bill.....

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      Rajan Singh Jolly 4 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

      I'd love to meet you and Bev but at the moment I'm across the other part of this world. But I'm keeping hope in the adage "where there's a will there's a way.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Ruby, it's a date! We'll meet some day, and I look forward to it. Thank you!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Rajan, I believe in that old adage too, so I look forward to meeting you soon my friend. Thank you and blessings to you.

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      Kathryn 4 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      If I am ever in your neck of the woods, I would drop by in a heartbeat! Andy is also really friendly and likes to meet new friends, so maybe someday we'll end up dropping by! You sure make your state sound pretty.

      If you are ever in my neck of the woods, feel free to give a holler, as well!

      I like your whole article about locking up and opening doors. It is very easy to feel so hurt by others that you let your guard up, but it is also liberating to let other people in your heart.

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      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Oh, I would love to come to your beautiful state and meet your beautiful wife, Bev!!! But, guess what, we have already been visiting with you, Bev and your beautiful state right here! What a blessing. We can share, care, love and learn together. I try to look for the good in people, as it seems we are always hearing about all the bad, but there are many good folks, like you and Bev.

      Hugs and love, Faith Reaper

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Kathryn, we'll make a point of meeting you and Andy one day. In the meantime, we will enjoy each other's friendship from afar. Thank you my friend. Have a wonderful weekend.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Faith, you are so very correct. I have made such incredible friends on HP, and you are certainly one of them. Let us rejoice in our friendship and enjoy every minute of it.

      blessings and love,

      bill

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      Maria Magdalena Ruiz O'Farrill 4 years ago from Borikén the great land of the valiant and noble Lord

      Wow! I have send cybernetic hugs and wireless blessings, but you my dear friend touched my heart. This was so nice, so emotionally true. Matthew 12:36 says: "But I tell you that everyone will have to give account on the day of judgment for every empty word they have spoken." I just know what you will be said, because by the fruits we will be known.

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      Greg Boudonck 4 years ago from On A Mountain In Puerto Rico

      My wonderful wife who commented above made me stay away from going to bed to read this amazing hub. I am so glad I did. As someone who has also closed and locked some doors, I just learned a valuable lesson, and you my friend, was the vessel that God used to teach me. Thanks, and the doors here in Puerto Rico are always open to you too.

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      beingwell 4 years ago from Bangkok

      Thanks for the invite billybuc! It's really heart-warming. Voted up and shared.

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      Martin Kloess 4 years ago from San Francisco

      Thank you for the invitation.

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      agapsikap 4 years ago from Philippines

      Dearest Bill, you are truly a person who is humble in spirit. Many people seldom seen one who will open his door to strangers. Just today after reading your hub, I found out that real world is not far from cyber world. That if there are bad guys out there, there are still good guys that counter.We often distrust people because were afraid of 'fake', thieves and swindlers, etc. But you give chance for others to see what it was like to be different from the others. And best of all you give each a chance to show their own kindness and humility. To many, you are such an inspiration,billybuc.

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      Zulma Burgos-Dudgeon 4 years ago from United Kingdom

      I would love to come and visit; on one condition. Please tell me NorthWest Airlines is out of business. Terrible airlines and if that's the only way to fly out there...well, I guess I'll have to walk. lol (Seriously thought, they were awful.)

      Until such time as circumstances favour a short return to the States, we can still chat in cyberspace.

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      Jo Alexis-Hagues 4 years ago from Bedfordshire, U.K

      Billy, you and Bev are two very special people, but most of us already knew that. Your open door policy is admirable, I would love to visit Olympia one day, so it's definitely on my bucket list. :)

      There are times in our live when we're so hurt, we just batten down the hatches, and it takes courage to throw the doors and windows open again. I do believe that the good you do in life, comes back to you tenfold.

      Bless you and Bev for caring so much.

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      livingsta 4 years ago from United Kingdom

      This is awesome and beautiful! We do not see beautiful people like you that much anymore Bill. You both have a big heart to welcome people. Let the love spread! Thank you so much for this Bill. Sending you both love, hugs and smiles!

      Votes up and sharing!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Maria, how sweet of you. Thank you so much for your kind words. I hope one day you and Greg will come visit us. We would love to sit with you as friends do and enjoy each other.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Greg, thank you my friend. If we are ever in your neighborhood you can be sure that we will stop and visit.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      beingwell, you are very welcome my friend. Thank you!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      My pleasure, Martin! Thank you my friend.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      agapsikap, thank you! If I am an inspiration then I am grateful. I hope one day you have the chance to come to my part of the world where we can enjoy each other's company.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Phoenix, I assure you that there are more airlines than just Northwest that arrive here daily. Seattle is a major airline hub and it is only one hour away from us. Now that that is settled, I expect to see you soon. :) Thank you and have a wonderful weekend.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Jo, I believe that as well. The rewards may not come to us in this lifetime, although for me they have. Thank you and I hope one day we can meet.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      livingsta, thank you so much. You are kind and good as well. One day Bev and I will go to the UK and I hope to meet you then. Love and blessings to you!

      bill

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      agapsikap 4 years ago from Philippines

      I would love to,bill. I am very much pleased by your sincere invitation. Thank you so much.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      My pleasure, agapsikap! See you soon! :)

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      Crystal Tatum 4 years ago from Georgia

      I'm taking you up on your offer if I'm ever in the neighborhood, Bill. I'd love to come spend some time living the simple life. I've had a fear of people all my life, and I have to say that my profession has created quite a bit of cynicism in me as well. I've shifted from the attitude of trust until it's broken to you have to earn it, and even then, it's more of a "The only people I trust are me and you and I'm not so sure about you" philosophy. I think it's hard for me to take a middle of the road approach and realize that just because I feel let down by someone doesn't mean that person isn't trustworthy or a good friend. We're all just human, after all.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Crystal, I have been there. There was a time when I trusted nobody. It was lonely for me and eventually I had to be willing to get hurt for the prize of finding friendship. It's a big risk for sure but I'm glad I did it.

      Anyway, you are always welcome in our home. :) Thank you!

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      livingsta 4 years ago from United Kingdom

      Wow, that would be great. Thank you so much! It will be a privilege to meet you both :-) You're always welcome!!!!

      Have a great weekend Bill!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you livingsta. I hope your weekend is wonderful as well.

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      Connie Smith 4 years ago from Southern Tier New York State

      Billy, If I ever get to Olympia, Washington, I'll let you and Bev know when you can meet my plane! I did visit my sister in California many, many years ago. So it isn't outside the realm of possibility. And thank you for opening your door and your heart to share your life and wisdom. You are a very special person, my friend!

      ;) Pearl

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Pearl, you are too and I mean that from the bottom of my heart. You are always welcome here and you bet I'll meet your plane. You'll love Bev and we'll make you feel right at home. :) Have a great weekend.

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      Bill,

      One thing I can say with certainty is there aren't many like you around. You are so warm and caring, supportive and compassionate. I have always loved the way in which you refer to your wife. Where I come from people either bash their wives and marriages or they are simply quiet about them. You love and you scream it from the roof tops. Boy, I wish you people didn't live so far away, I'd love to spend an afternoon in your company, sipping some lemonade and listening to the breeze all while enjoying some great conversation. :-)

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      Zulma Burgos-Dudgeon 4 years ago from United Kingdom

      Cool. See you soon. :) BTW, I've started reading your book. It's such a good read and I like the theories you introduced. Can't wait to get back to it.

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      Deb Hirt 4 years ago from Stillwater, OK

      I will get there eventually, but you'll have to pick me up and return me to the airport when it is time. We can stop at the donut shop on the way, if that works for you.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Cat, that is my biggest problem with HP....there are so many Hubbers I want to meet, some central location where I could go on a Saturday and sit down and just enjoy your company. Sigh! Thank you so much for your kind words. I am a lucky man and I want everyone to know how good it feels to be blessed as I am. :)

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Phoenix, thank you so much....truly....you warmed my heart this morning. I hope the book continues to give you pleasure, and I hope you have a great weekend.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Deb, you tell me when that plane lands and I'm there, and we can stop anywhere you want on the way to Olympia....except a bar of course. :) Thanks buddy! Enjoy your weekend.

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      Billy,

      Aw, you're a heck of a guy, really. Perhaps we should have some kind of "Billybuc Convention"; I would help develop a fundraiser for it. :-)

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Cat, you are a doll, and I mean that in the best way. If I understand correctly, HP once held conventions when they first started out. I think we need another one...I would definitely find a way to attend that.

      Have a great weekend my friend. Keep those doors open.

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      Karen Silverman 4 years ago

      ya never know Bill - i may be near your hood! My son works for microsoft and their head office is in redding washington - is that in the near vicinity?

      if they hire him on directly - he may be moving..

      sigh..

      and btw - the invite is a 2 way street - i'd LOVE to hear what BEV has to say..

      LOL

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      Bill,

      Aw shucks ;-) Really though, I wish there were more like you and I wish I could keep up with your hubs. I have 2 of them open at any given point on my "must get to" list. I think a centralized convention would be awesome. Like ImKarn23, my door is open too, but I'm sure you'd run out it faster than you came in :-0

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Leslie, you are talking, I think, about Redmond, WA, and it is an hour away from us, and I'll meet you there, or halfway, or in our living room. You are always welcome and yes, Bev feels the same way. She has heard so much about you and trust me, you are her kind of people.

      love always,

      bill

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Cat, don't be on me running away. I have always gravitated towards those who follow the beat of their own drummer. I'm not big on "Stepford" people. I look forward to the day when I can meet so many of you. Until then, it's a kick getting to know so many of you and to call you friends.

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      drbj and sherry 4 years ago from south Florida

      Hi, Bill. Would love to meet you and Bev one day, in person. But I want to be prepared. What flavor doughnuts? Cake or glazed? Chocolate, vanilla, maple or strawberry frosted? Round or twisty? Lemme know.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      drbj, now there is a guest I can respect. LOL I'll take any kind as long as it isn't healthy for me. :)

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      Connie Smith 4 years ago from Southern Tier New York State

      Thank you Billy, for the very warm and wonderful offer to actually meet me at the plane! You never know what a day will bring. I'm sure we'd have a fantastic time, and I would very much enjoy visiting your 'neck of the woods'. By the way, the invitation works both ways. If you and Bev ever find yourselves in New York State, I'll be here!

      ;) Pearl

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Pearl. If we ever go to New York we will have a great many Hubbers to visit. :) And I love that thought.

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      picklesandrufus 4 years ago from Virginia Beach, Va

      what a thoughtful offer from you and Bev. If I ever make it to your coast, you shall hear from me. Always enjoy your hubs.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Pickles, I would love it if we do hear from you. Come in July or August when the heat in Virginia is too much to bare. :) We would love to have you.

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      Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

      Awwww...you're just so damn lovable. You have learned your lessons and wear them so well. This was beautifully introspective and yes, the walls are gone. I am so happy that you found your real and lasting love (Bev) and that you have learned to trust. My life would be so much less colorful and meaningful if you had not been willing to take the risk. I...am grateful. Sending you big ol' warm hugs!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Kindred, what a nice thing for you to say. You know that we just must meet one day...our place or yours, but we really do have to share a hub and a ton of laughs. :)

      Thank you my dear...aren't you working today?

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      Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

      Agreed! Yes, I am working but I was starving for some of your creative work so am going in late. I NEEDED to read today. LOL

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I'm glad you did, Kindred....now get to work!!!! LOL

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      If I ever get you your way, Bill, I will stop in and visit with you and Bev. Would be great to chat about humanity and it's views, but also to take a tour of your farm. Doors are the pathways to adventure, but, as you mention, some should remain shut. Blessings.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Dianna, what a lovely comment. Yes, some doors should stay shut....ours will always be open to you.

      Thank you my friend. I hope all is well with you and blessings to you and your family.

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