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The Wall: A Moment with Bill Reflection

Updated on September 2, 2015

Fear Silently Enters

From the past it borrows.

Disappointments, lies, emotional abuse, apathy, callousness, physical abuse, sexual abuse, ignorance, abandonment, take your pick, take one or a baker’s dozen, they all add up, they all take their toll, they all lead to….

Fear!

We get hurt we deal with it, right? Lesson learned, move on, get on with your life, but then we get hurt again, and again, and again, again, again, again, and we bandage up the wounds, shift into triage mode, slow the bleeding but never stop it, and even the wounds that don’t bleed hurt like the devil, our psyches oozes trust and faith, and then a reaction as old as time itself kicks in, fight or flight, the only two choices any human being…hell, any animal…has. Fight or flight, whatcha gonna do?

You begin building the wall.

It begins at an early age
It begins at an early age | Source

The Construction Begins

At an early age we lay the first stone. An unkind word from playmates, ignored on the playground, ridiculed, bullied, laughed at, each one is matched by another stone, laying the foundation for what, many years later, will be a grand structure.

All through childhood it continues. The largest stones, of course, correspond to those times our parents broke trust, lied to us, were unkind or, heaven forbid, were abusive. Those stones are whoppers and will support the outer walls quite easily for years to come. Next are the stones of friends who betrayed trust, who ridiculed us, who deserted us, who were not loyal to us. We place those stones atop the larger, fill in gaps so the entire structure is solid and airtight.

And as we grow older our world expands. More people are met. More situations are faced. More pain is endured and more stones added. Broken dates, broken hearts, divorces. Deaths of friends, deaths of loved ones. Lost jobs, lost possessions, lost dreams and lost self-image. Physical pain, emotional pain, psychological pain, small pains and large pains, suck-your-thumb pains and medicated pains.

By the time you reach middle age you have one hell of a wall built, and inside that wall is the fortress, your safety zone, the one place you can find solace from the painful and paralyzing events of life.

The wall is insignificant at first
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And the Pain Continues

Because, after all, this is life and life equals pain, and all those years have taught you to protect, protect, good God Almighty we must protect ourselves, so you dig a moat, and fill it with water, and it is teeming with fierce creatures, and finally, many years have passed, and you sit in your fortress, behind stout walls, behind a moat, safely ensconced within, and you sigh loudly, and you relax, knowing you are finally free of the pain….

And you realize something else…something disturbing…something terribly frightening, something you never guessed possible, you never hoped would happen,

You are alone!

The cost of total protection from harm is complete isolation from life….how does it feel?

Is it a price worth paying?

“Eleanor Rigby, died in a church and was buried along with her name…nobody came.”

Hum that tune as you go about the business of isolation. Hum that tune as you continue to add bricks to the structure, tune out the world, tune out the people and tune out life.

The Alternative

Hell yes there’s an alternative. It’s called living. It’s called acceptance of the fact that life can be painful, but in risking pain we become candidates for intense joy as well, and that intense joy far-outweighs the pain….if we allow it.

This is my story. I suspect many can relate to it.

Almost nine years ago I was in a hotel room in Anchorage, Alaska, completely alone, completely protected and completely miserable. I was slowly drinking myself to death. My wall, my fortress, my moat, all had entombed me. Obviously, what I was doing wasn’t working. My plan was killing me.

Over eight years later I am deliriously happy. The wall has been torn down. The moat has been drained and cemented over. The only protection I have from the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune is a quiet place inside of me where I find peace when the winds are howling and the banshees shriek through my mind’s corridors.

I can’t explain it any better than that. Being willing to be harmed also means being receptive to love.

And being receptive to love means survival.

Go figure!

The past Is Exactly That….the Past

It cannot hurt me if I don’t give it power.

I spend my days now in a state of vulnerability. I do not invite pain but it is possible, and I accept that. I do not invite heartache, but I know it could happen tomorrow and that, too, I accept.

I am vulnerable and yet not afraid.

I am vulnerable and yet excited about the future.

I am vulnerable and yet not defenseless.

True freedom is the absence of fear
True freedom is the absence of fear | Source

The Drawbridge Lowers

And the walls come down.

The wrecking ball of determination smashes into your fortress, rendering it useless from this day forward. The moat is drained and the turrets crumble to the ground, and you open the great door and look out with trepidation, with hesitancy and yes, with fear. You take one step forward. There is wailing in the distance, and in the deep shadows you see gleaming orbs looking back at you.

You take another step forward and the keening screech of life’s victims assault your ears, the lonely and battered, bitter and pained, assault your eyes.

You take another step forward, and another, and another, and slowly the realization arrives that you are still alive, you are still in command of the board, you are still a player with all the tools necessary to build a new structure, an open structure built upon a foundation of trust. The air flows freely through your new windows, a soft, warm breeze that is inviting to all and comfort to you.

Post Those Letters

Send out the invitations for your new house-warming. Invite everyone you know, but don’t limit yourself or you may miss the opportunity to meet someone special. Reach out with welcoming hands and heart, and proclaim to the world there’s a new kid in town, battered and bloody from the past but willing to take one more chance, willing to roll the dice, willing to stick your head into the lion’s mouth, all for a shot at the ultimate payoff……

Love!

2015 William D. Holland (aka billybuc)

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Odd for sure, Flourish. I know I have many new and good friends because of Facebook, people I would love to meet in person one day.

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      FlourishAnyway 2 years ago from USA

      What a terrific message. I have gotten Facebook invitations from some people I knew long, long ago (and maybe didn't know or care for all that much). I wonder why they clicked the invitation button, but you never know. Sometimes, new friendships arise. (Or maybe it was an accident?)

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      It sure is, Dianna. Bring it on. I've faced the worst and I'm still standing. With love I'll make it through anything.

      Thank you dear friend.

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      Dianna Mendez 2 years ago

      This is a powerful message. People feel safe behind the walls they build, it's a fortress protecting them from hurt and pain. It also prevents them from living among others. I agree that living and loving life with your heart wide open invites pain but it's worth the risk.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Lawrence, you are very welcome. Thank you so much for stopping by and commenting.

      bill

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      Lawrence Hebb 2 years ago from Hamilton, New Zealand

      Bill

      This was awesome, and just what I needed to hear, a voice telling me to leave the walls down! We pull them down, but if we're not careful they sometimes start to go back up!

      Thank you for that reminder to keep being 'vulnerable' and open.

      Lawrence

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Oh Ann, you just had to mention France. Sigh! What am I ever going to do with you? LOL

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      Ann Carr 2 years ago from SW England

      Thank you, bill! I'm finally enjoying some 'me' time (in France - had to get that in) after a wonderful but hectic summer. Back to reading, drawing, writing, walking and taking all those photos!

      Hope your Wednesday is wicked too.

      Ann :D

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Ann, thank you! Superb and brilliant? I won the lottery with this wonderful comment.

      Good to have you back again. I hope you have a wonderful Wednesday!

      bill

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Mary! Love that first quote....have a superb Wednesday.

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      Ann Carr 2 years ago from SW England

      How did I miss this one, bill?

      What a powerful article! You're so right, of course; if we surround ourselves with protection then we shut everyone else out. Apart from that, how do we learn what's good and what works and what's valuable and amazing if we don't take risks?

      I've said it before, that you have a way of hard-hitting with your messages and this is one of them - necessary and probing and true. This rolls with the dice and shows us the benefits of this game we play. And that's one hell of an introduction!

      Superb, bill! And... brilliant!

      Ann

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      Mary Craig 2 years ago from New York

      "It's the soul afraid of dying that never learns to live"

      The new kid on the block IS the one who's torn down the walls and opened his heart to life and love. No one said it was easy, but in the end it's the only way to truly live.

      Thanks for the good thoughts on a hot hump day.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Very true, peachpurple...thank you!

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      peachy 2 years ago from Home Sweet Home

      Awesome post, border and security are essential to form good community and relationhip

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I appreciate that Sha. Thank you dear friend.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Max, that is very kind of you to take the time to congratulate a stranger. Thank you so much.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you very much DDE!

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Larry, I honestly think some walls are necessary. We would be totally vulnerable without them and I think that is a risk I'm not willing to take.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you so much, Genna. I really do appreciate it.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Manatita. I am blessed with good friends.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Bill, thank you, and I'm glad this was helpful. I'm like that piece of dog poo that gets stuck on your shoe and you can't shake it...eventually it ends up good fertilizer. LOL

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Michael my friend, toleration is not needed with you. You are a good person. It is very easy to trust you, even though we have never met. You are a true friend and I appreciate you greatly.

      blessings always

      bill

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Manatita, great comment....so distant and yet fresh in my mind...and I really think it's good that it is.

      Blessings to you always, my friend.

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      Shauna L Bowling 2 years ago from Central Florida

      Bill, congratulations on your Hubbie Awards. I meant to mention it in my comment. I guess I ran out of wind! :-)

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      Max Havlick 2 years ago from Villa Park, Illinois

      Hi billybuc. You have far more to say than I can keep up with, and you have even more friends to tell you regularly how wonderful you are, but I just stopped by for a moment to congratulate you on your recent well-deserved awards from HubPages recognizing your outstanding work. Continued best wishes, Max (friend of Kim, aka ocfireflies).

      Chicago west suburbs, Monday 2:30 a.m., Sept. 6-7, 2015.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      You have shared such interesting and well informed hubs hubs and you deserve the best. Always something to think about from you.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Interesting statement you just made, Blossom, and in that context I agree with you. Thanks for your thoughts.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Sha, I'm proud of you, and you know very well that it means a great deal to this recovering alcoholic with nine years behind him. The old saying is true...if this boy could do it then there is no doubt that you can.

      Thank you for sharing that....for tearing down those walls right in front of us. Hugs my friend.

      love,

      bill

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      Larry Rankin 2 years ago from Oklahoma

      Beautifully done. How do we breakdown our walls? Do we need some of them?

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      Genna East 2 years ago from Massachusetts, USA

      One of the most inspirational articles I've ever read. This is why you won those awards, Bill, and why we voted for you, my friend. Richly deserved. Hugs.

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      manatita44 2 years ago from london

      I have commented on your wonderful Hub, Bill, but before I forget, my pranams to you and hearty congratulations for your winning your Hubbie Awards. More than deserving Bro. In Love and Light.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you so much Martie. I appreciate it very much.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Glenn, I'm glad this gave you something to think about. The people I worry about are the ones who say this doesn't apply to them and never has....I have a hard time believing that. Thank you for your kind words.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      That is beautiful Shyron! I love that poem. Thank you for sharing it and for your kind words.

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      Bill De Giulio 2 years ago from Massachusetts

      This is just what I needed Bill. Been in a funk the last week or so and this is the kick in the butt I needed. You always seem to come along at the right time with the right message. Thank you. Enjoy the holiday weekend.

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      Michael-Milec 2 years ago

      How true, my friend and that wall is a natural hedge of protection growing instinctively deep inside of our spirit from early days as we begin accommodation in this earthly life due to naiveness. Should we trust every stranger? or will unknown forbidden fruit taste to my advantage? Perhaps the Ten ancient love-reminders written on the tablets of child's heart would promptly lead to a safety rather then to isolation? I was barely fifteen when thrown into the world away from native culture, language, (religion?) supporting myself, working while learning in the world offering a glitter of free pleasure. I was scared of every new arrow targeted at me. I had need for more wall and fortress before being consumed. See I didn't have money for all toys you are listing the young people gladly share; I was bribed by offered food if I will open myself to fast spreading ideology promising great future of leadership and leading position. I just couldn't do it after being warned by that small inner voice of hedge protection...

      Bringing walls down happen to be slow process remaining in progress. New countries, more languages, and a desire to '' belong" is very hard combination for accepting or extending 'love' hastily... Some " walls" are to stay or even necessary - apparently. Maybe only in my venturous world.

      Thank you for toleration.

      Be blessed and prosperous.

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      manatita44 2 years ago from london

      Ah, Bro. Life ...

      By the way, sometimes your past seem so distant, which is a 'serious' tribute, to your immaculate turnaround. Again, when ever you mention it, it dawns on me that it's frighteningly recent. Talk about amazing Grace!

      Love you, Bro, and yes, there is always an alternative. Love to Bev.

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      Bronwen Scott-Branagan 2 years ago from Victoria, Australia

      Oh, dear! And yet as writers we do need to build a wall around ourselves or we're vulnerable to so many distractions. It's good to come out, though, occasionally and be a regular human being again!

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      Shauna L Bowling 2 years ago from Central Florida

      Hi, Bill! Sorry I'm so late to the party. I'm trying to adjust to the new schedule and find myself too pooped through the week to see what my writer friends are up to.

      For years I had a wall up. I didn't realize it because I was such a social butterfly. But I masked myself with drugs and alcohol. My wall was invisible to others, but it was there. The thing is, my wall didn't keep me safe from the outside world. Instead, it was eating me alive.

      In 1987 I demolished the outer wall created by drugs. It went tumbling down, never to return. However, that mask, that barrier I created by drinking my joys and troubles away was still there and much stronger than the one I'd eradicated. In my mind all was okay. I was okay. I told myself my walls had been removed and I was free.

      I lied. To me and everyone else in my life. I was blind and didn't want to see.

      That was then.

      A miraculous thing happened on June 13, 2015. I decided it was time to quit hiding behind the veil that was held together by alcohol. I decided after 43 years of hiding behind that wall that it was time for it to come down.

      I brought forth the strength of my mind and convictions and threw the demon I'd built inside that wall to the curb - bricks and all.

      I'm surprised that it was as easy as it has been so far. I've been tested to the max in the last few months. I've been stressed, depressed, and worried. All good reasons to pick that bottle back up and make myself feel better. But I made a promise to myself. I'm better than that. I don't need to live in the constant haze of a functional alcoholic. I'm strong. I'm worthy. I need to learn to like myself again.

      I'm proud to say I've been alcohol free since that day. It might not seem like much to anyone else, but for someone whose had a drink or six almost every day since the age of 15, it's huge.

      Now I'm the most vulnerable I've ever been. And that's okay. Everything I see and hear is as if for the first time. Without covering up life with the clouds of booze, I can see clearly now. I'm ready for new adventures and life is even more beautiful.

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      Martie Coetser 2 years ago from South Africa

      Life and human behavior well described! Your advice is precious, thank you, billybuc!

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      Glenn Stok 2 years ago from Long Island, NY

      I like your analogy of adding stones to our wall with each negative experience in early life. It makes a lot of sense and definitely gives one something to think about.

      But more importantly, you provided a means for one to understand what is causing issues that stand in the way of achieving what they think they want, but may not know why they hesitate or avoid certain things that could turn out to be very enjoyable.

      Really a lot to think about. I've got to give consideration to what stones I may have added to my wall. This thought process could open doors to new ventures.

      Congratulations on winning this year's Hubbie award. Well deserved for sure.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Irish, it's always a pleasure when you drop by for coffee and a smile. Thank you my dear. Enjoy your weekend and say hi to the Mickster for me.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Well said, Vellur, and thank you so very much.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Thelma. I appreciate your kind words. The Berlin Wall is a fitting example/metaphor for this article.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Lizzy, I think this rang a bell for quite a few of us. Evidently we all have some work to do. :) And here I thought I was perfect. LOL

      Thank you so much.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Diva! I appreciate that very much.

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      Shyron E Shenko 2 years ago from Texas

      Bill, this is why you won the hubbie award, congratulations! I have no walls.

      This reminds me of the poem I gave my hubby 33 years ago. "Build no roof above my head or walls to keep me in, I will stay by word and kiss within" ---Author unknown.

      Blessings and hugs

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      Suzanne Ridgeway 2 years ago from Dublin, Ireland

      Emotional, motivational and inspirational my friend, love it all! Recognize so much and loved reading every word. Thank you my yoda and have a fantastic weekend!

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      Nithya Venkat 2 years ago from Dubai

      Let the walls break down and let us live life being vulnerable yet strong and ready to face whatever life puts in our way. Positive and inspiring. Congratulations on the hubbie award!

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      Thelma Alberts 2 years ago from Germany

      Congrats on the Hubbie award! You have written again a thought provoking article. I have visited a former wall last Saturday. It was the Berlin Wall. Well, the remnants of the Berlin Wall which started the reunification between the East and the West of Germany. This year is the 25th year of the reunification. I´m glad the wall felt down as I have seen many death and sadness that caused the Berlin Wall in the 80´s, my first year living in Germany. Well, only in the TV. Enjoy your weekend Bill.

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      Liz Elias 2 years ago from Oakley, CA

      Wow, Bill--that was profound.

      Funny, how you seem to have hit quite a few folks, myself included, at 'just the right time.' I don't think I have too many walls built, but I have been struggling with letting go of old hurts about which nothing can be done.

      I was just discussing this today with my counselor, about letting it go, as it's not worth the energy it costs you to keep the anger and resentment alive about things that happened 15, 30, or 50 years ago...

      Oh, and congrats on your Hubbie award!! Well-deserved!

      Shared!

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      ArtDiva 2 years ago

      Hi, again! Forgot to offer a congratulatory acknowledgement to your Hubbies. Well deserved!

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Audrey! I really appreciate your support and friendship.

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      Audrey Howitt 2 years ago from California

      Amen Bill! Time can help, but eventually we all have to find ourselves and our place in the world in relation to others--the other, is just too painful and scary--Congrats Bill!!!!!

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you so much, Ruby! This community of writers is very special for sure.

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 2 years ago from Southern Illinois

      I came back to read your response and am moved by Cat's comment. Thank God for time. Congrats on winning the award. Peace...

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      m abdullah javed, thank you so much. I am humbled and honored, my friend. This community has been very good to me.

      blessings to you and yours always

      bill

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Venkatachari M, thank you so much for the votes and well-wishes. They, and you, and greatly appreciated.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Jackie! I have a good group of friends who insist on voting for me. :)

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Greg. And with Maria you are tearing those walls down.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I'm so happy to hear that, Dora. Thank you for letting others know that this is quite common.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Cat, thank you for sharing your experience. I think it's helpful to many when we share our stories and find out we are not alone. Much-appreciated, my friend.

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      muhammad abdullah javed 2 years ago

      Congratulations Bill Holland Sir on winning “Best All-Rounder Hubber Award” it means you are the best here at HubPages. The Award aptly reflects your passion and interest attached with us and your profession. May God always keep you in good health and shower His abundant blessings on you and your family, in particular your better half, she deserves this too. Wishing many more Awards to come on your way. Take Care.

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      Venkatachari M 2 years ago from Hyderabad, India

      Beautiful article with some wonderful message. You are always there with great messages and useful tips. And, congrats once again for the awards. I am glad that my votes have also counted.

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      Jackie Lynnley 2 years ago from The Beautiful South

      Great message; I have done a little of that.

      Congrats on the Hubbie!

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      Greg Boudonck 2 years ago from In Nebraska After Hurricane Maria

      What a wonderful piece of work my friend!! Yes, I have built walls.

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      Dora Weithers 2 years ago from The Caribbean

      I can relate to both the negatives of the past and the celebration of the present in this piece. We are all vulnerable, but some of us love life enough to enjoy it no matter the past. People like you and articles like this help me move on.

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      Catherine Tally 2 years ago from Los Angeles

      Hi Bill, Important topic and one which I think we all have experienced in one way or another. My isolation came after a bad marriage where trust was shattered. My life and psyche were like a big house with no lights on, empty and alone. I've long since moved on and let the light both in and out. You're so right that nothing is gained through emotional isolation, and each of us has the power within us to tear down the wall. Great write and much wisdom- thanks for the encouragement! Cat:)

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      drbj, how boring would it be if you were perfect 100% of the time. :) I hang with the sometime-sinners and mistake-prone. :) Thanks a ton....I love this community of fine writers and people.

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      drbj and sherry 2 years ago from south Florida

      I have to admit I was more than a little worried, Bill, when I read about your building that wall. But not to worry, I recovered as I read on and learned how you navigated past that treacherous place. Congratulations for being so strong and so smart. And also for that second Hubbie you won. I forgot to mention it in my previous comment.

      Oh, well, I can't be perfekt 100% of the time.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Very cool MizB....have her email me if she has any questions....holland1145@yahoo.com....make sure she puts something in the subject line or it will go to spam.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Rejoicing for sure, Lori! Thank you! I'm so glad you get it and you enjoyed this one.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Awww, Pop, thank you!

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Alan, I was thinking of your castles and moats when I wrote this. Your name actually popped in my head when thinking of castles. See, you have had an influence on me. :)

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      MizBejabbers 2 years ago

      Bill, I have to tell you, she loved the idea of the pallets for chicken coops, and now she is trying to find out where to get them locally. She said to thank you for the idea.

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      Lori Colbo 2 years ago from Pacific Northwest

      I am so moved by this. It's raw and wise. We have a choice in this life - to allow our sufferings and trials to paralyze and isolate us, or to open ourselves to lessons to be learned and character to be shaped.

      Rejoicing in your new life.

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      breakfastpop 2 years ago

      You amaze me....

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      Alan R Lancaster 2 years ago from Forest Gate, London E7, U K (ex-pat Yorkshire)

      Sitting on Bill's couch here, dangling my feet, pressing my hands into the plush leather, wondering if I should unburden myself.

      Naah! If I do that I lose my 'ballast'. Better keep hold of it and watch the world go by yonder side of the crocodile-infested, leech-infested, hippo-filled moat and thank my stars I built that wall when I did. It's a jungle out there. Me and my teddy-bear, who needs anybody else?

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thanks Clive. I actually agree with you.

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      Clive Williams 2 years ago from Nibiru

      very motivational billy. Fear is only a false emotion though. people only fear the outcome.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Billie, I'm so glad you enjoyed this and found something in it for you. Thank you for stopping by.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      MizB, you and me both, my friend. I'm glad I saw the light of day.

      I hope the pic helps your friend with his/her chicken coop. Thank you!

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Cris, I'll settle happily for kick a*s motivational any old day. :) Thank you, and hugs heading your way from rainy Olympia.

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      Billie Kelpin 2 years ago from Newport Beach

      Bill, The thing I like most about this piece is the connection of isolation to FEAR. While the connection now seems obvious, I just never thought of it that way. This puts a whole new spin on that topic. Very helpful and thought-provoking article.

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      MizBejabbers 2 years ago

      I'm glad you've found a way to bring down the walls and find happiness, my friend, you deserve it. Life can be a relentless bitch. Thanks for sharing. Love your chicken coop and must share the photo with a friend who is thinking about building her own.

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      CrisSp 2 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

      "The cost of total protection from harm is complete isolation from life"...must bear in mind.

      Inspirational as always and kick a*s motivational.

      Love from the sky~

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Faith, I firmly believe the degree of our healthy life is directly proportional to the amount of love we allow in and show. Thank you for seeing this truth.

      blessings to you always, dear friend

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Ruby, I'm not sure what I'm called to do. I'm just trying to be the best writer I can be, and to connect with people. I'm happy this reached you in ways needed. Thank you dear friend.

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      Faith Reaper 2 years ago from southern USA

      Yes, dear Bill, let's taking a wrecking ball to those dang walls of fear and knock right through them to live!

      What an inspirational message here for all. I've had my share of walls in my lifetime, and I am slowly crashing them all down ...

      Love is the answer.

      Peace, hugs and much love to you dear Bill

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 2 years ago from Southern Illinois

      OMG, I needed this message more than you will ever know. When you write with your heart, you move me in a wonderful way. Are you sure you are not called to minister to others. Billy G. move over!

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      You are very welcome, Linda, and thank you for your thoughts.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thanks, anyway, Bill, for the visit. Much-appreciated.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      You do the same, mabdullah javed.

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      Linda Lum 2 years ago from Washington State, USA

      All of those stones--they come in many sizes; it doesn't matter how large or small they are. Even the little ones add up. Sometimes it's those little ones that mesh together so well--they create a rigid wall that is pretty hard to tear down. Thank you for another beautiful hub.

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      William Leverne Smith 2 years ago from Hollister, MO

      Not my cup of tea, but, thanks for sharing anyway... obviously touches many people.

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      muhammad abdullah javed 2 years ago

      Very True, well said Bill Sir, take care.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Very true Denise. Very true. Thank you my friend. I hope all is well in North Dakota.

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      Denise W Anderson 2 years ago from Bismarck, North Dakota

      It is amazing what love can do for us! When we realize that everyone around us is experiencing pain just like we are, the world becomes our oyster. We fling open our doors and look at others through different eyes. All of sudden, life is worth living again!

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      m abdullah javed, I thank you, sir! I think we all have walls. How strong we make them determines how much love we allow into our lives.

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      muhammad abdullah javed 2 years ago

      The concept of building a wall as a safeguard against the ill attitudes and traits is unique Bill Sir, true the stone laid down in the childhood and their consistent continuation ensures a strong wall as strong as a lead-soaked one. Thanks for a delightful share.