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Time Came To Visit

Updated on March 17, 2013

Time came to visit this morning. It said it could not stay but that we could sit for a bit and share a cup of coffee. It was an unexpected visit, as Time has not been much of a friend lately. We have not visited for quite a while and it is clear, from that first awkward moment between us, that our friendship has suffered.

So Time looked me in the eye and said, “What is it that we need to talk about?”. I thought for a moment and said simply …”you”.

There was a quiet pause, and then Time said “Do you have a problem with me?”. And I replied respectfully…”yes, I guess I do”.

Then explain it” Time said.

So I began to speak. “There is never enough of you. All my life I have planned for this time in my life. I thought there would be so much more of you to spend with friends and family. I have looked forward to pursuing hobbies and exploring new ones. Along the way I dreamed of sitting with sunsets and following tracks in the woods. My dreams were filled with the smiling faces of those I love and beautiful landscapes of places I would go.

Again, Time looked at me and said “So, what’s the problem?

The darker side of me

For a moment, I felt the hostility rising and I stared Time in the face and said “None of that is my reality. The reality is that the time I spend with family and friends is hard. It’s hard to watch your parents fade away and your friends hurting. What part of that do you not understand? And hobbies? What hobbies? There is too much to do now to enjoy hobbies. Look at the world. Don’t you see what is happening? It wasn’t supposed to be like this. Everywhere I look people are suffering from disease, poverty, abuse, or oppression. And, while I’m at this, what about my dreams? Were they so too much to hope for? Did I expect too much, so much that you felt you had to punish me by speeding up, making it harder all the time?”

Time just looked at me and waited.

The wisdom of Time

A few minutes passed with neither of us speaking and when it seemed we had both become comfortable with the silence. Time said…

“I have not changed, in spite of what you think . I am the same today as I was yesterday. I am the same as I was twenty years ago. And, I will be the same tomorrow. What you do with me is up to you. Having enough of me is all about attitude and priorities. So, if you are not satisfied with me, you only need to adjust yourself. You see, I am you. You call me “Time” but I am really “you. You can control me if you choose to.


If there is not enough of me for you to spend time with friends and family, perhaps you should turn the computer off a few hours earlier. When you feel there is no time for hobbies you should ask yourself when did they become less important? If they really mattered you would be doing them because you are a person of passion. Have you considered that your hobbies may have changed when you weren’t looking? For as long as I have known you, you have said you wanted to make a difference in the world. Did you really think that was possible while you were spending time in those pottery classes? You know you weren’t any good at it. What about all that needlepoint you used to do? You never thought it was good enough to give away and I bet it’s all still sitting in the closet. What purpose did that serve? Sooner or later I had to show you that crafts were not your forte. God knows it took you long enough to see it.

You say your dreams are unfulfilled. Well, is it worth getting the cleaning done if it means missing the most beautiful sunset or finding that elusive track in the woods? Dreams are fine and necessary but you have to chase them. They don’t just come to you on a silver platter.


Your dreams have changed too, in case you haven’t noticed. I did that to you and I did it with purpose. Your heart is good and your family instilled certain values in you that made you malleable. I knew you had the heart for the fight and so I created opportunities for you to witness the struggle of others in the world hoping you would be moved in the direction of becoming the voice of those that had none. Yes, I have changed things and you are only beginning to realize it. Now, stop resisting and do what you can to make things different. You see, I am you and you can be me, for others in the world.”

And then, Time simply walked out the door and left me with myself.

The Lesson

I am Time. How I spend me, is my choice. I can waste me or I can use me. I have 1,440 minutes in every day and I can use them in ways that matter or I can use them in ways that I will not remember tomorrow. I think Time is my friend after all.

© 2012 Linda Crist, All rights reserved.

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“For what it’s worth: it’s never too late or, in my case, too early to be whoever you want to be. There’s no time limit, stop whenever you want. You can change or stay the same, there are no rules to this thing. We can make the best or the worst of it. I hope you make the best of it. And I hope you see things that startle you. I hope you feel things you never felt before. I hope you meet people with a different point of view. I hope you live a life you’re proud of. If you find that you’re not, I hope you have the courage to start all over again.”―Eric Roth,The Curious Case of Benjamin Button screenplay

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    Sherri Tuck 4 years ago from Virginia

    You are so right. We spend so much time trying to get things done and always thinking that we will enjoy ourselves when our work is caught up. The truth is we never catch up and miss out on wonderful opportunities.

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    Jim Higgins 4 years ago from Eugene, Oregon

    This is thoughtful truth and a good reminder of how time moves along so fast in our lives. Our choice to squander or use productively. Your time was well-used here.

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    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Hello sherrituck. Thanks for your visit today. This was a lesson for me too today. I think it's important to show our own vulnerabilities in our writing and this one caught me by surprise. It wasn't at all what I had planned.

    :-)

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    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Hi Jim. Thank you for the thoughtful response to today's channeled lesson. I am always amazed and grateful when a hub goes it's own direction in spite of me and, teaches me something on the way. I needed this, as much as anyone.

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    Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

    Wow! You are a powerful writer with a powerful message. Thank God there was enough time to write this message. Sharing of course, but more importantly, I am taking your message to heart. Brilliant piece of writing, Linda. I am in awe right now; this is one of those moments when, as a fellow writer, I am humbled. This is, by far, your best work to date.

    love,

    bill

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    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Bill, that is the greatest compliment ever. This piece had a life of it's own. You would laugh if you could see what I started with. It is nothing like what I ended up with. There is magic when I get out of the way. :-)

    Another lesson here for me is that I have to stop writing for the world and write what I am given to write about. That, will take some more practice.

    Big hugs to you. Your comment made the sun shine brighter. Oh, it's been sleeting here all day. I could have sworn I saw the sun. :-)

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    epigramman 4 years ago

    ...well my fabulous Linda I am so glad to have spent this valuble time with you and what a stunning creative read this was and it so inspired the epi-man who is always pushing boundaries in the poetic genre with new ideas so he definitely loved this.

    Hope your holidays have gone over well so far and I am extending my warm wishes to you and your family for continued health , happiness and prosperity in the new year - lake erie time canada 4:29pm I just returned from a walk in the beginning of a snow storm here by the lake - it looks like a good night to stay in and listen to some fine jazz -

    Ella Fitzgerald

    Eartha Kitt

    Anita O'Day

    Sarah Vaughan

    Chris Connor

    Blossom Dearie

    K D Lang

    Kate Bush

    Joni Mitchell

    ......and they are just the ladies .... lol lol

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    Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

    There is a lesson that took me seemingly forever to learn....get the hell out of my own way and let life happen. :)

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    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Epi, you have warmed my heart on this frosty day here in the East. That is quite a collectin of ladies you are spending your evening with. Behave yourself. :-)

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    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Bill, I am still and will continue to be a student of life, because I am stubbor and hard-headed. lol

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    Shauna L Bowling 4 years ago from Central Florida

    Linda, what an awesome perpective on life. I actually saw the light bulb come on during this read. You've outdone yourself my friend!

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    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Shauna, what a gift to me you are. Your words made me cry. lol

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    Martin Kloess 4 years ago from San Francisco

    There you go! This was what I was talking about. Follow your words and you will know how long a minute can be. Life is really long if one knows how to live. Thank you for everything.

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    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Oh MH, I'm a little slow sometimes, aren't I? lol

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    Gypsy48 4 years ago

    Very inspiring hub. Time is a priceless gift, yet so many of us tend to to waste it. To me time is like a blank canvas, it is up to us how we paint our lives. Voted up and awesome.

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    Margaret Perrottet 4 years ago from Pennsauken, NJ

    Linda - this is a spectacular hub, wonderfully written with such a powerful and insightful message. Voted up++++, and I will share this with enthusiasm.

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    lovedoctor926 4 years ago

    A very powerful lesson here. I'm going to write that quote on an index card and place it on my wall as a reminder. Time is precious my friend. A very thought-provoking piece. voting up!

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    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Hell Gypsy48. Thank you for reading my hub and sharing a great perspective on life and time. I love the analogy of the canvas.

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    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Hi Margaret! Your generous comment made me feel so good and means a lot to me. This one took on a life of it's own and I learned a great lesson from writing it. Thank you so very, very much.

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    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Hello lovedoctor9226! I really appreciate your visit to this one. It was an important lesson to me as it really wrote itself. :-) I'm glad you found it worthy of further reference. Thank you so much!

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    MizBejabbers 4 years ago

    Oh, Linda, I see the point of your hub, but you know what? Time lied to you. Lied in several ways. First, any metaphysician will tell you (and science is now backing them up) that time actually sped up and continued to shorten exponentially, I’m not sure how many years ago it started, but as of Dec. 21, 2012, what was a 24 hour day when we were children has now become the equivalent of a 16 to 18 hour day. So you see, you really don’t have as much time as you had in the past, nor do the rest of us. We have to get our work done faster, our visiting done faster, and sleep faster. I really think that is one of the reasons we feel frustrated so much of the TIME. So, tell Time to go butt a stump! Ha!

    The good news is that time was to have reached a zenith on Dec. 21, 2012, and started slowing back down. In other words, that date is supposed to be the shortest day in our lives because time is now slowly reversing itself. At our age, we probably won’t notice it unless we live another 20 or 25 years, and truthfully, I’m not sure that I want to.

    No, I'm not missing the point of your hub, and it is a beautiful and valid one. The other thing I want to say is that all those crafts you have sitting idle in the closet gave you pleasure while you were doing them, didn’t they? I think that was their purpose, and you should do them again if they give your pleasure. We can’t all do everything with perfection. My mother liked to draw and paint, and she was no Rembrant, but now that she is gone, the cousins are asking for her paintings to hang on their walls. I am sure that she is sitting on a cloud somewhere smiling at the pleasure her efforts are giving them. So I guess I’m saying that while you take time to spend with your family and friends, be sure to set aside some to share with yourself. If you don’t take care of yourself first, you can’t take care of others.

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    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    MizB - always looking after me. :-) Ok, so, first, this piece was never intended to be taken literally. It did not turn out at all like I had planned, therefore, the lessons in it were mine. I spend far too much time on this computer. I do that because I can't see well enough to read anymore (macular degeneration). But, I also love nature and don't spend nearly enough time outdoors. That...is going to change. Also, my time with my Dad is so precious right now. I wake up every day knowing that this could be the last day he speaks or, remembers me. I want to spend more TIME (lol) with him. He is still teaching me, even in his fog. So, this piece was more conceptual that literal. :-)

    Crafts...oh how you made me giggle. I was a miserable potter. I dreamed of being a potter. Finally, I signed up for a class. I was horrible. In fact, I was so bad, I was funny. And, it wasn't nearly as sexy as it was in my favorite movie (Ghost). The needlepoint is impossible now, like reading.

    I am still very active in native American issues and that is a passion just as the family research and writing, all of which give me immense pleasure. So, I am fine. No worries.

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    Nancy Yager 4 years ago from Hamburg, New York

    They older that I get, the less that I feel the need to fill my time.

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    MizBejabbers 4 years ago

    OH, Linda, I'm not trying to chide you. I just want you to take time for yourself and do what makes you happy. Your family can't be happy when you are not happy! I certainly empathize with some of your issues. I gave up needlepoint years ago because of visual problems. Just when I had corrective surgery and thought I could do it again, I developed macular degeneration, too. My time working is limited now for the very same reason. I have a Kindlefire so I can enlarge the print to read. I don't know how long that will last. I always swore I would take piano lessons when I turned 60 because we can go to state universities tuition free at that age, but now I know it would be needless. The arthritis in my hands would allow me to play some, but I would never know if I had any talent. The pottery, yeah, I don't think I would do that either. But I really do dream of when we can buy a place and do more of the outdoors.

    Cherish every minute with your father. I lost mine in 1985, but my mom died in 2008. He was middle age when I was born but mom was only 22. It makes me think about the children of all those people who wait until middle age to have their children. They will not have as much time to spend with their parents.

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    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    MizB, I didn't take it as chiding at all. I always love your metaphysical perspective. It too was a passion of mine many years ago but I have lost touch with the current philosophy as the practitioners in my area died off or moved away. I used to listen to Art Bell but started sleeping through his early morning show years ago. lol

    Today, I am a happy old crone who loves life and cherishes every minute. I have so many blessings that I should feel guilty but I don't. :-)

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    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Hi Lipnancy. I'm with you. I don't need to fill my time either but I want to spend it differently than I have in the past. Thanks for reading.

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    Pamela Oglesby 4 years ago from United States

    This is a terrific message and certainly got my attention. This is an awesome hub that makes some very good points. Voted up and shared.

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    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Thank you Pamela. I appreciate your reading it and sharing it.

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    Jackie Lynnley 4 years ago from The Beautiful South

    This is a real masterpiece, I was impressed from the start to the end. Up and sharing.

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    deergha 4 years ago from ...... a place beyond now and beyond here !!!

    Nice piece of message about the perspective of time in life. Thanks for sharing this one. I am sharing also. Votes all up way.

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    Bill Blackburn 4 years ago from Twentynine Palms, California

    This read was definitely worth the... time! Excellent!

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    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Hi Jackie. Gosh, I'm blushing. Thank you so much!

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    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Hello dghbrh! Thank you for the visit and nice comment. I appreciate the votes and the share.

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    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    web0we - LOL...I loved your comment. Thanks so much for stopping by.

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    Gypsy Rose Lee 4 years ago from Riga, Latvia

    Voted up and awesome. Wonderful message. It is what we make of each minute of every day that counts. Life was meant to be lived to the fullest. Passing this on.

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    Angela Blair 4 years ago from Central Texas

    Absolutely magnificent work -- and I'm re-evaluating what I'm doing with my time because of this piece -- thank you. I had a friend some years ago that was dying with cancer -- and the most profound words he ever said were "I've spent my whole life swimming upstream. Things being as they are now I've decided to just stand in the middle of the stream and let life swirl around me and choose the parts I like best." Again, thank you for the head's up -- you've got me paying attention! Best/Sis

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    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Hi Gypsy. I am so happy that you liked this piece and if it helps you find more balance, then that's even better. I appreciate the vote and share.

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    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Good morning Angela! You ohave given me the warm fuzzies again. I am thrilled that you liked this one. It is one that really required no effort to write. It wrote itself. I think your friend had it figured out. Isn't it sad that something has to smack us in the face before we listen? I will be striving for the balance in 2013 too. I wish you success in your restructuring and hope the New Year will bring you many blessings.

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    Eiddwen 4 years ago from Wales

    A wonderful share and here's to so many more to come. Have a great day and I vote up plus share around.

    Eddy

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    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Eddy, thanks for the visit, the vote and the share too.

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    Shauna L Bowling 4 years ago from Central Florida

    I hope it was a good cry, Linda!

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    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Shauna, the pity party ended quickly. :-)

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    Shining Irish Eyes 4 years ago from Upstate, New York

    Very powerful article here. I commend you for writing it from such an original point of view. You have so much on your plate and I can sympathize. We have walked a similar road. It is sooo hard to watch our loving parents lose their health. I do my best to take the time and cherish those special moments when there isn't something to be taking care of.

    You are such an insightful and talented writer.

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    HLPhoenix 4 years ago

    You've done something here that very few people have ever done... you have left me speechless. You are an amazing writer...

    "You see, I am you. You call me “Time” but I am really “you. You can control me if you choose to... Brilliant Hub.

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    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Becky, thank you so much. It's a hard road but I wouldn't trade this time with anyone else on earth. Even in the struggle there are memories being made that I will cherish, as you said.

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    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Hello HLPhoenix - wow, I am humbled by your compliment. Thank you so very much.

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