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Using Self Talk to Raise Your Self Esteem

Updated on October 28, 2015

Self esteem is commonly thought of as how we see ourselves. Others say that is self worth, and self esteem is how we perceive others see us. Either way, feeling bad about yourself is too common a thought these days. It is time to start seeing ourselves for what we truly are inside. Look in the mirror and see the bold, proud, strong you today.

Self esteem is a delicate thing. Minor things like running late make it decrease, while a kind word can make it go up. The smallest things can have a great impact on it leaving it going up and down like a yo-yo, and get carried to extremes at any step.

Even though you may already realize just how essential nuturing your self esteem is, you may not have any idea of the best way to go about doing this. Self talk is a great way to do this. The way you talk to yourself is often what makes all the difference between your success and your failure.

Your Own Worst Critic

We can often times end up being our own worst critic. And then you can end up being really tough on yourself, even for little things that you would let slide for other people. This doesn't have to be the way you treat yourself.

Focus on saying things you would like to hear when you talk to yourself. Concentrate on saying things you want to hear when you talk to yourself. When your self-talk is positive, your self-esteem can soar and you can maintain a healthy self-esteem through anything life can throw at you.

Do away with Anything Negative

Examine the self talk patterns that you currently have. What are you currently saying to yourself?

Identify the situations where you are negative. Perhaps you keep telling yourself that you are not capable of actually doing something. Perhaps you have been beating yourself up over something that you did. Maybe you are always being discouraging to yourself. Now is the time for you to begin treating yourself lovingly.

Getting rid of your negative self talk is vital to raising your self worth. Give yourself the benefit of the doubt, and have patience with yourself. Learn to look at what you have accomplished, rather than what hasn't been done

This will put an end to your history of feeling frustrated with yourself, and you will begin to see yourself in a completely new way. This will help you become more comfortable with who you are, as well as bring you more happiness.

Maintain Positivity

After you have found where in your life you are being negative, you can begin to focus on the positive areas first. This will help you to start treating yourself better immediately. Opportunities are always occurring for you to be good to yourself. Make the most of them and begin using positive self talk.

This is also the first step in positive thinking. Positive thinking will help you build up your self worth and feel great about yourself. It will also help you stay strong in the face of adversity, and attract more good things into your life.

Three Easy To Use Ideas

1. Praise yourself for every job accomplished. For each task you finish, remember to congratulate yourself. Congratulating yourself on a job well done can be a very encouraging way to keep yourself going. Do you notice how good it feels to be congratulated? How different do you feel because of it?

2. Try saying affirmations. A great way to create more positivity in your thoughts is by saying positive affirmations. It is important to always state affirmations in the present tense and in a positive manner. Use them to boost your self esteem by reminding yourself how wonderful you are.

*Affirmations can influence your mind in a powerful way, and should be practiced each day to give your self esteem a tremendous boost.

3. Believing in yourself is vital. If you do not believe in yourself, it won't matter that someone else tells you that you can accomplish something. It is the belief that you have in yourself that motivates you , and picks you up if you trip.

* Failures will often teach us valuable lessons. And from that lesson we may learn to succeed. wouldn't that be a blessing in diguise?!

Day by Day

Take time each day to notice the positive things in your life, and be patient with yourself. In this way you will dramatically increase your self esteem. By allowing yourself to make mistakes, and focus on what you have acheived, you will get much further in life.

A healthy self worth is not that hard to accomplish, it just takes practice and dedication.

For more support and tips visit 2Create Your Life.

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      shazy bee 6 years ago from London, England

      I agree with jite, very informative! Our inner critic is our worst enemy that can practically ruin our self esteem if it has us 'on its side', if you know what i mean :)

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      Cate 7 years ago from Chandler, AZ

      Thanks for stopping by and leaving a comment Jite!

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      jite 8 years ago from delhi

      very informative hub


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