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Walking Away from Depression

Updated on April 13, 2015

Getting Over Depression - A Momentary Low or Something more Serious?

Low feelings are common on long dark, rainy days or deep into a cold winter. Sadness after bereavement, divorce or physical accidents is normal and usually begin to lift within a year. However, if it doesn’t lift and is accompanied by loss of concentration, lack of appetite, loss of sleep, frequent crying, social withdrawal, loss of pleasure in the things that used to make you happy, not caring about yourself, then sadness or grief may have progressed to depression.

First, realise that you are not alone, recent mental health reports find that women aged 45 - 64 suffering from this often debilitating illness, have increased by one-fifth in the last 15 years. Also that, one in four women over 35 years old has experienced depression, and between 5 - 12% of men will be clinically depressed in their lifetime. The tenuousness of job stability and the flailing economy does not help either.

Although it may feel like a life sentence to sufferers, with the right help four out of five people do get better.

Dealing with Depression or just Burned Out - Alpha M

Health Issues

Depression can also be caused by genetics. If your parents or siblings suffer with depression, you are at a greater risk. Lastly, if there is no obvious reason for depression, it can be caused by Biochemical factors, of which there are many.

There are a number of combined physical, social and psychological pressures put on women which can put them at particular risk. More women are seeking help as their children grow and don’t need hands-on care, biological change in menopause and of course the recession may have contributed to the rise in depression.

Women over 40 are known as the sandwich generation - as they are caring for children living at home sometimes well into their twenties, they are often working women, and may also shoulder the burden of caring for elderly parents. Woman facing these pressures may feel angry, but when that anger isn’t expressed it often turns inward and can manifest itself in medical problems such as depression. Typically, it is only strong, reliable people with a high sense of responsibility that will get stress related depression.

Depression Symptoms in Men

Men, particularly high-achievers, prefer to ignore depression and behave in a contrary way, as they hate to feel 'not in control' and may react by denying anything is wrong.

  • Has the drinking gone for one in the evening, to possibly three before Dinner. This is one to watch as you may end up battling two problems instead of one?
  • Has the performance in bed suddenly become very important, and bedding anyone who will, despite your previous monogamy, could be indicative of depression.
  • Have you suddenly taken up a dangerous sport, or traded your investment broking job for one in the opening a new nightclub? Trying to prove to yourself and whoever else is looking, that you are invincible could well mean you really should look for help.
  • Have difficulty handling emotions, whether it is unreasonable anger because someone took a park you wanted, or did not complete the job the way you thought they should, to feeling nothing at all about anything. Pushing away those closest to you in order to deny the sadness or pain you feel.
  • You cannot accept compliments, you don't believe them or perhaps think you are unworthy of warmth, is a classic sign of depression.
  • Avoidance: if you become a chronic seeker of human company, while a normal amount of socialising is healthy, being with people at all time in order to avoid thinking about what bothers you and how you are going to solve your problem, is extremely unhealthy.
  • Lack of concentration is another telling sign, as are unhealthy dreams of impossible achievement in life such as desk jockey today and astronaut tomorrow. You can of course make healthy changes in your life with a clear, achievable plan of getting there.

6 Must know Signs of Depression - Kati Morton

How to Beat Depression

If depression is ruining your life, therapy and medication is very successful. The Royal College of Psychiatrists in the UK reports that 80% of people recover from depression in around six months with or without treatment. However, that leaves one in five still depressed two years later. If you have one episode of depression, you are 30% likely to get another, if you have three or more, you’re likely to continue having depression throughout your life if you don’t deal with it through therapy and possibly taking anti-depressants.

Treat the first episode of depression properly and you will be far less likely to have a recurrence.
Getting over Depression - assist the therapy by doing the following:

• Get out into the fresh air - go for a walk everyday, this helps your body clock to adjust and work properly, take off your sunglasses and help your body regulate it self.

• Take Omega - 3 fatty Acids, and a good multi vitamin with the accent on B vitamins - latest investigations reveal that Vitamin D is always low in those who are depressed - so replace this vitamin - Tuna Fish is good and yes, sunshine about 20 minutes everyday, your body can manufacture it from sunshine.

• Exercise perhaps dance or aerobic will involve you.

• Ensure you have a good sleep routine. Low lights, read a book, listen to radio, a tired body and a calm mind induces good sleep.

• Socialise with good friends and family. It can be simple, a museum visit, the movies, watching sport.

• When you have negative thoughts - talk to yourself as an adult would to a child - and put them away. Write the thoughts down and your answers, trigger points too will help. This is going to give you a good picture of where, how and why you are where you are. Strength is in knowledge.

Where to go for Help

Your GP is best first port of call. Clinical psychologists will tell you that, in moderate or severe depression, anti-depressants can lift the mood in order that people become able, to once, more engage with life and start getting better.

If you are feeling suicidal, please stop everything now and ask for help. You will get better, life will be worth living, but first you need to ask for help you cannot do it by yourself - let someone help you please.

Don't let money be a problem, use clinics or your church to get help.


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      Shelley Watson 5 years ago

      Old Cashmere, thank you so much for your comments, really appreciate your votes as well.

      Becky Bruce, Becky thank you so much, and quite right you are about men, I have seen it so often.

      Momster, I'll be so glad if it could help in some small way. The heat can be very draining, sapping your energy and then tiredness creeps in. Take care of yourself, with the cooler weather, you will be able to sleep better too!

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      momster 5 years ago

      Very helpful information. I am dealing with this issue now. I have been trying to change my daily activities so that I do not feel like everything in being repeated. School is about to start soon, I will be having more activities with the kids and sports. It has been a long hot summer and being stuck indoors has brought me down. Brighter days are coming. Great hub and I will put some of those examples to work.

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      Becky Bruce 5 years ago from San Diego, CA

      Good job highlighting depression in men shelley! Too often men think they are "too tough" for depression but they are just as easily affected as women, if not more so because of denial that can come into play. Voting up!

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      Olde Cashmere 5 years ago

      Thank you CyberShelley for writing this helpful and positive article on this issue. This will be of great benefit for those battling depression. Voted up, interesting, and awesome :)

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      Shelley Watson 5 years ago

      Stars439, Thank you so much for the comments. You are so right and I appreciate you visiting.

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      stars439 5 years ago from Louisiana, The Magnolia and Pelican State.

      Thank you for sharing you're thoughts, and information on depression. A lot of people suffer from depression. As a young man, and a man I feel I lived with it all my life. Unfortunate life circumstances that bring feelings of insecurity I believe contribute to depression. If there is a money shortage in a home. If there is a food shortage in a home. If bad news comes into a home, I believe there are many things that can set it off. A key to coping with it comes in an understanding that you can get threw a bad situation. What helps is when others encourage a depressed individual as well. Great hub. God Bless You.

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      Devika Primić 5 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Depression affects many people and most of them don't realize how depressed they are until it is too late.

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      kumar24894 5 years ago from Fuck of HUBPAGES

      There are some more symptoms about men. When I get depressed I always want to hit someone because of hanger. I want to hurt myself. But nice hub. Thanks for sharing. Voted up !

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      Maria Magdalena Ruiz O'Farrill 5 years ago from Borikén the great land of the valiant and noble Lord

      Great share and is just like your quote: " You can't do anything about the Length of your Life - - but you can do something about its Width and Depth." Blessings!

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      Shelley Watson 5 years ago

      I haven't been down that road either but I have had to deal with it when counselling, we are both lucky people!

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      Rebecca Mealey 5 years ago from Northeastern Georgia, USA

      Resilience and stubbornness are the keys for avoiding depression for me. I am sure this will help many! Great job!

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      Shelley Watson 5 years ago

      Hello poshcoffeeco, so glad you stopped by. I am glad the vital support and medication are there - I wish you well, you seem to have a strong handle on what you need, and very aware of what sets off an episode. All strength to you!

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      Steve Mitchell 5 years ago from Cambridgeshire

      I have had a couple of episodes of Depression over the last 10 years. First one was really debillitating and I coulddn't work for 7 months. Second time around I have managed to keep it under control with the right medication and support. Will be reducing the meds soon hopefully. Mine first time was stress at work related and second time around was more to do with S.A.D.

      Great article full of good information.

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      Shelley Watson 5 years ago

      Hi John, glad you dropped by. I quickly checked up on the Vitamin D and depression and am surprised the findings are so conclusive. You wouldn't think that a Vitamin your body can produce from the sun, would be so effective. The article I read said that the Researchers aren’t sure whether low levels of vitamin D cause depressive symptoms, or whether depression decreases vitamin D levels. Either way, if Vitamin D does the job - that's great news and a leap forward. Thanks for letting me know.

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      johnwindbell 5 years ago from - the land of beards and buggies

      Nice hub, CS, but I disagree with the percentages you state for the success of medical treatments. Synthetic anti-depressants are much worse than the depression itself, and have led to suicides, school shootings, and all sorts of violence. Vitamin D works better, and so does MMJ. I know, I was there.


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