- Mental Health
What are you Thinking - Bad or Good Thoughts?
Good and positive thinking
Thinking is good. No, thinking is bad. You should think positively. Why are you thinking negatively? The more negative you think, the worse your life will be. Don't think bad thoughts. Think only good thoughts.
...and the advice just keeps pouring in...
You have probably read and heard so much about good thinking vs bad thinking that sometimes it may make you scream, "Enough! I just don't want to think at all".
Actually, that may not be a bad thought after all!
What are your predominant thoughts - Negative or positive?
Not thinking at all may be good for you
Yes, sometimes, it pays not to think at all. How? Well, meditation, relaxation activities, physically active sports can distract your mind from that constant flow of thoughts that seems completely unstoppable.
It can especially be useful if you are specifically distressed about a certain thing in your current life. In distressful situations, the mind constantly keeps throwing one thought after the other making the situation further worse.
Giving your mind a break from this continuous mental chatter can help look at the situation from a fresh perspective and allow you to take an actual tangible step. Steps that can end the distress associated with the situation and turn a negative event into a positive one.
The choice is, of course, yours. Do you want to stay stuck in your incessant useless thoughts? Or do you want to choose to stop these, choose the right ones, and follow them up with an appropriate step.
So, the question that you need to ask yourself is what are you thinking about?
You can't stop your thinking forever
True, you can distract your mind for a while. A wonderful session of mindfulness meditation or any activity that you think brings peace of mind will allow you to cut down on your thoughts for a while. However, your mind will keep throwing thoughts at you even during these sessions.
So, ultimately you have to come back to thinking and make a choice between the so-called bad thoughts and the good thoughts. The question is that are you choosing the bad ones or the good ones?
Good vs Bad thoughts
Thoughts are responsible for the way you feel. If you are afraid, you focus on your thought and you will get the reason for your fear. If you are happy, you know what you are thinking.
An impending interview can generate excessive anxiety in one candidate. You think you will be late for the interview. You do not look perfect. What will happen if you fail to answer that important critical reasoning question? If you don't get this job, how will you support yourself and your family? The thoughts can go on and on.
On the other hand, there may be someone else who has a completely different attitude. He is calm, confident, and has an attitude that exudes positivism. An air of confidence that not even the interviewers can avoid noticing. Again, it is the thoughts.
It is the thought that determines his or her positive attitude. This one is well-prepared and knows that he is. He has already planned the time he is going to arrive at the interview, probably a half-an-hour early. He knows that as long as he does his best in answering any tricky question, he will be fine.
Even after a fantastic interview if he does not get the job, he knows that there is probably something better waiting out there for him. Simply said, nothing can bring such a man down.
As far as results are concerned, the chances of the latter acing the interview are probably higher than our former jittery friend. The choice again is yours. Who do you want to be? Are you going to be the jittery one or the calm one? What is your choice? What are you going to think about?
What are good thoughts?
Once you realize that it is your thoughts that are responsible for the way you react to a situation, you know what to do. Yes, choose the good ones. But what are good thoughts?
Probably, the best way to differentiate the good ones from the bad ones is to focus on how you feel. If you feel confident, calm, as if everything is in the right place, the thoughts are in the right place. If you feel anxious, emotionally exhausted, depressed, your mind is coming up with something that is probably not right for you.
Simply said, your emotions are the best indicators of the kind of thoughts you should be experiencing.
Good thoughts will have a positive outlook towards life. Even in negative situations, good thoughts are about turning the event into a positive one. These are about doing well for others as well as yourself.
You have a purpose in life, you want to achieve your goals, and you know the road you are going to take. However, at the same time, you also know that it is not going to be at the cost of others.
You may appreciate someone else's success but you are not jealous of it. Instead, you are focused on how you can learn from the success of the other person and use it for your own betterment.
What are bad thoughts?
Hurting someone else's prospects deliberately to achieve your goals and attain your happiness is not good thinking. Thinking that the only way to be someone's equal is to bring them down is not good thinking.
Thinking that the only way you can attain peace of mind is by taking revenge on someone can never be a part of a good thought. Thinking about how you can steal someone else's plans and pass them off as yours to get that big project is not a good thought.
Similarly, if you think that you can never achieve the success of your friend, you will never be able to do it as well. If you think like a failure, you will be a failure. Of course, your friend may have talents that are completely different from yours. The idea is to focus on your talent and achieve success and not on your friend's talent.
You also cannot forget your fears and anxieties. If you are afraid of heights and you dream of being a pilot, then you can either choose to give up your fear of heights or your dream of flying.
Again, the choice is yours. Do you want to focus on the thought that you are afraid of heights? Or do you want to fulfill your dream, do something about your phobia, and take that first step towards your first flying experience?
The choice is yours. Will you choose the good thoughts or the bad ones?
Do the world a favor by choosing good thoughts
What most of us don't realize is the impact that our thinking can have on the whole world. We need to understand that an increase in the number of people indulging in good thinking will lead to more and more people doing good for others. Simply said, by managing your thoughts, you will be doing a big favor to the world as well.
Yes, what are you thinking? It is time to ask this question. Focus on how you feel and go deeper and find out why you feel this way. Listen to your thoughts. What are they telling you? Are they serving to move your life towards a better future? Or are they responsible for why you are stuck?
Always remember, good thoughts will make you feel good about yourself and your life. They will help you focus on doing good things for yourself, others, and the world in general. They will determine your goals and the paths that you need to take to move towards these goals.
Bad thoughts will make you feel not so good about yourself and the events of your life. They will be about taking revenge. They will focus on other people's success and being jealous about it, making you spend time in behaviors such as backbiting rather than doing something to achieve your own kind of success.
Again, as always the choice is yours. What do want to think about? Are you going to choose good and positive thinking or bad or negative thinking? The choice is completely yours.
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