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Why am I Frustrated with Life?
Expectations and frustration
Frustration is a feeling that we have experienced so many times in our lives. In fact, it seems that the feeling of frustration is constantly on the rise. So, the question here is: Why am I so frustrated?
Well, that's a question only you can answer. However, one thing can be said for sure. You are frustrated because your expectations are not being fulfilled. Yes, the word "expectations" is the key word here.
You are frustrated because you expected something to happen. However, it did not happen. Your expectations were not fulfilled. So, you feel frustrated. You think that you did everything right. What else could you have done? There is nothing more you could have done in the situation. Then why did you not get what you wanted?
Yes, expectations and desires. You have done everything right to get the thing that you desire. So, why isn't your desire here yet?
Love is one of the biggest causes of frustration
You love someone. You expect to be loved in return. But you don't get it back. So, you feel frustrated. So, what should you do? Give up on love?
No, because that is not the solution. Firstly, love is best when it is unconditional. So, if you love someone, you love them whole-heartedly. Don't expect the other person to love you back. Unconditional love, that's what true love is. When you love unconditionally without expecting anything in return, you are free of frustration.
No expectation from the person you love. No frustration in the situation.
Of course, the situation changes when the person you love so deeply begins to consider your unconditional love as your weakness. He/she begins to use you. What should one do in such a situation?
Turn your frustration about love into something good
Frustration and anger are justified here. In fact, these feelings could actually be the turning point in your life. You are being used. Your love is being used. There is someone out there who deserves your love. So, why waste it on someone who does not care for it and in fact is using it for their own benefit?
Use your feelings of frustration to turn your life around. Recognize that your good heart is being used in a wrong way. Move on to something better. Here, frustration is telling you that you need to make a change.
Jobs are one of the biggest sources of frustration
You have worked so hard for your company and your boss. But you think that you did not get what you deserved. The question to ask here: Do you really deserve it? If you do, then what are you doing about it?
You put in so much work and yet you don't always get the appreciation and the money that you think you deserve. Question yourself: Do you need to do something here so that you do get what you deserve?
If you are already doing or have done what you needed to get that raise or that pat on the back, then frustration is justified.
Use your frustration about work to make a change in your career
It is time to move on. Look for another job. Maybe it's a sign from God to get into your own work. The painting, the writing, the creative work that you always wanted to do, maybe it is time to try it out.
If it's the money that is stopping you from taking this step, maybe you need to set yourself some goals. Earn and save enough in 2-3 years time so that you could begin doing your own business. That could be a goal.
The idea is to turn your frustration and anger with your job and career into something great. Take a step that could change your life forever.
Loss of a loved one is unexplainable and unbearable
Nothing and no one can replace the loss of a loved one. Death can be devastating for the family of the deceased. Grief is unbearable. It seems that no one and nothing can take away that pain.
True, no one can. You question God, you question life. You are just frustrated as to why the person you loved so much had to be taken away from you. You feel totally out of control.
Lack of control over a situation is one of the reasons for frustration. What can you do?
The only thing you can do is accept. Yes, acceptance is the only solution in this situation. It does not come easy. But it is an important part of the healing process.
Dealing with Death
Turn the death of a loved one into something positive that you can do for others
Agreed, no one can replace the pain of having lost a loved one. However, consider this. What if the person you loved died because of a deadly disease such as cancer? Maybe they died because they could not afford the treatment. Or because the place you live in does not have the requisite facilities to handle an accident victim.
This is the time to do something. Ask yourself: What can you do here so that you can reduce the chances of someone else going through the same loss?
Turn your grief and frustration into something great by taking steps to bring about an improvement in the facilities or work at making treatment more affordable.
Various reasons for frustration
Now, these are only three examples of why someone may feel frustrated. There are various other reasons of frustration. Why can't I become a mother? Why can't I find my ideal mate? Why am I not rich? Just keep asking and you will have thousands of reasons for your frustration.
Why are you frustrated with life?
To summarize, frustration may be a bad thing if you are expecting something that you may or may not get. However, if your frustration is because of an injustice, it is time to make some changes.
So, again, start by asking yourself: Why am I frustrated with life? Am I expecting too much? Can I turn my frustration into something great for me and my life? Surely, you will soon find an answer.
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