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What is Anger? Techniques to help you control anger.

Updated on March 29, 2016

What Is Anger?

Anger is the act of being displeased, a strong feeling of grievance. It an emotional act that is being experience by both children, teens and adult all over the world, no matter your status or personality. The way people react to anger differs, some people like to keep to themself, and some becomes aggressive, abusive, and harmful. Getting angry is easier than dealing with the situation. This is bad since anger does not solve anything. Once it settles, the problem remains the same.

People get angry due to different situation or problems; it may be due to stress. We may feel stress when we are very busy, people get angry when a spouse or family member dies, divorce, imprisonment, losing one’s job, and major personal disability or illness.

Sometimes I imply that pride and anger go together or are related. Individual who think they are superior easily gets angry by what others have done to them. An employee is likely not to get angry with his boss when insulted, but if the employee insults his boss at work, then he will be get fired.

Anger has robbed many of their happiness, success and has caused many the greatest defeat at the most crucial times in their life. It is hard to be in control or to reason right when angry. During the time of anger, one tends to say things that are offensive to a fellow man or to whom has offended him. Ander can make you do or say things that even you yourself could not imagine yourself doing, probably things you will regret later when you calm down. Just as Laurence J. peter quoted, he said, “Speak when you are angry—and you'll make the best speech you'll ever regret.”

Since anger, affect so many people, from childhood to adulthood, in the globe. Then it is important to create techniques and teach anger management skills that would be effective for everybody.

Signs of Anger

This happens when one is angry.

1) The heart pounds.

2) The rate at which your breath changes

3) The muscle get tensed.

4) There is knot in the stomach.

5) The face becomes red.

Anger management

Dealing with anger is considered anger management. There are different type of anger management strategies. They are programs made specially to help those with anger issues.

Are you easily provoked? Then the methods below could help you manage it. Anger management is a way to teach you techniques, which prevent you from getting angry as often or for very long. It helps you have a better quality of life.

  • I recommend you ask God to help you, because he said in the holy book (bible) that he that is soon angry dealeth foolishly. Even Chinua Achebe stated, "An angry man is always a stupid man”. Johanna Spyri also quoted "I must acknowledge, but anger makes us all stupid”.
  • Try to forgive people who has offended you, even your enemies, and those who are not sorry for their action. Holding on to anger will only affect or hurt you not them.
  • Go on a vacation is another method to help manage anger. Make time to be alone in a different place, town or country Removing yourself from the environment which seems to aggravates and provoke you may be a good plan. With this, you will be able to think rightly and look at things differently. However taking a time-out is also a healthy management strategy. Removing yourself from a situation or person that makes you feel angry. It might be to listen to a music, go on a walk, or even watch movies.
  • Deep breath taking can help you manage anger, when those rage comes, when your mind start boiling, that time when you feel to heat someone or say abusive things. Consider taking a deep breath, count down from 50-1 to reduce your way at which your heart rate beat. This method helps you calm down and reduce the chance of doing some strange things that you will regret.
  • Some people when they become angry they are incapable of seeing the other side of the problem or thinking right. Talking to someone may help by sharing his or her side of the story. A friend or family member may be able to help you sort out the issues and make you look at the situation from the other side.
  • Writing down your feelings and emotions can help you manage anger. When an individual writes about the situations, which upset them, it helps to get the negative thoughts and emotions out of their head. Using this method as an anger management may also help in the future when trying to find the causes of the anger. Beingses of the anger. Being able to look back over the words written down may provide you with reasons for your anger through reading about related incidents.
  • Rubbing the chest or back could be another way of managing anger. Massaging the body when feeling tense and upset, causes an individual's energy to move around their body, which results in relaxation.
  • Taking on an exercise routine can help to balance bodily functions and contribute to a greater sense of wellbeing. It is proven that exercise have a positive impact on an individual's mood. Exercise can help an individual to decrease any negative feelings they might be encountering in their daily life.
  • Wearing a vibrating object like bangles or a tinkling watch that alarms you when you are raged or furious could help you control your anger. This tip works for people who gets angry excessively and are unable to control their anger.

It will be difficult for an individual to use all of the anger management skills stated above, however finding one that works may mean trying each of them at least once. When an individual is trying to gain control and remove the negative feelings normally dictating their life, exploring anger management techniques would be necessary to find one, which works for them.


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      Ezaka Charity 21 months ago

      Yea writting down your feelings when angry is really an effective means in getting rid of the negative thoughts in our mind. I also make use of it when my anger starts getting out of hands.

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      Denise W Anderson 22 months ago from Bismarck, North Dakota

      I have found that writing down my feelings when I am angry helps me to work through them. When I put what is happening down on paper, I am able to see the distorted thought patterns that are feeding my anger and change them to more rational thinking. As a result, my anger is diffused and I am able to deal with the presenting problem more productively.