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What is Happiness Really?
The hardest thing to define...
Happiness is one of the hardest words in our language to define. It's a word, it's a feeling, it's a thought, it's a motivation.
I can't answer the question any better than the next philosopher. Though I can offer you my perspectives and experiences. From there, you'll have to decide from yourself what happiness really is and how to achieve it.
A Dictionary Definition
According the Dictionary.reference.com...
1. The state or quality of being happy
2. Good fortune, pleasure, contentment or joy
The quiet moment when the sun first begins to rise....
....Seeing the moon shining down on you on a cloudless night...
....Putting on a brand new pair of socks....
....Realizing you are still in love that person sitting next to you...
....A new hair cut...
....Scoring a goal...
....Quietly watching the sun set...
....Realizing that you have a lot of things to be happy about...
....Cold chocolate ice cream on a sweaty hot night...
....Looking at pictures of your oldest friends when you were both young...
....Imagining what your happy future will look like...
....Taking a nap with your dog or cat...
....Doing something you wanted to do, simply because you wanted to do it...
Happiness is Happiness.
Quotes About Happiness
Here are some of my favorite quotes. I enjoy reading them again and again, especially when I need a boost or a bit of inspiration.
"What would our world be like if we ceased to worry about "right" and "wrong," or "good" and "evil," and simply acted so as to maximize well-being, our own and that of others? Would we lose anything important?" - Sam Harris
"No one is in control of your happiness but you; therefore, you have the power to change anything about yourself or your life that you want to change." - Barbara de Angelis
"Each morning when I open my eyes I say to myself: I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy today. I can choose which it shall be. Yesterday is dead, tomorrow hasn't arrived yet. I have just one day, today, and I'm going to be happy in it." - Groucho Marx
"Make one person happy each day
and in forty years you will have
made 14,600 human beings happy for a little time at least."
- Charles Wiley
"The Constitution only guarantees the American people the right to pursue happiness. You have to catch it yourself." ~Benjamin Franklin
"The best way to cheer yourself up is to try to cheer somebody else up." ~Mark Twain
""Well," said Pooh, "what I like best," and then he had to stop and think. Because although Eating Honey was a very good thing to do, there was a moment just before you began to eat it which was better than when you were, but he didn't know what it was called." ~A.A. Milne
"Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be." ~Abraham Lincoln
What is Happiness?
To be as simple as possible: Happiness is an Energy.
It's an energy that was manifested from a word that someone coined one day, when they wanted to explain how they felt or how they wanted to feel. It came out of their mouth one day as a strange sound and manifested itself into a whole new energy. An energy that become a state of mind, an emotion, a quality, a choice, a path...
Happiness is the choice to do what makes us feel good, regardless of logic or obligation.
What happiness is not...
Happiness is not a permanent state of being. It's not a utopian world. It isn't a set of events that come upon a person at random. Happiness isn't luck. It's not usually born into a person and it isn't something you can buy.
Happiness is not an application that you can strap onto your brain. It can't be found in a substance outside the body, nor can it be set on circumstances (such as being in a relationship). It's a feeling, an energy that must be maintained if it is to continue to grow.
How to attract true happiness
Like attracts like.
That is the first rule to meditation, manifestation, the law of attraction and success.
Step 1: Choose Happiness
If you truly want to attract real happiness into your life, you must first decide that it is really what you want. You have to choose happiness, because it won't choose you until you do. This can be deceptively hard to do until you work through some personal issues, but when you practice reminding yourself daily that you desire to be truly happy, then you will be better able and more interested in overcoming your issues, which will bring about true happiness. The more you say it and think about it, the more of your energy will go into being happy, and the more happiness you will get back. After a while you will start to really believe that you want to be happy, that you will start really feeling happy. This will send out more positive energies into the universe, to bring more positive energies back to you.
Step 2: Practice being a person who is deserving of true happiness.
What kind of person deserves true happiness? The person that genuinely believes they deserve it!
This is easier said then done, as many of us have subconscious memes that constantly tell us we aren't deserving of happiness, wealth or even good health. You often won't even notice how often you sabotage yourself through thoughts of not deserving thing, until you make a conscious effort to believe you really do deserve true happiness.
Step 4: Do What Feels Good
Stop worrying about whether or not what you're doing is right, wrong or weird. It really doesn't matter that much. The only time you cross the line is when you harm another being. Short of that, even space isn't your limit.
Do things that make you feel good. Read a book, take an afternoon nap, sleep in, take a sick day, paint your nails, play video games, gab with your friends, make funny faces at people driving by in cars, go shopping, listen to music, write poetry. Doing things that make you feel good, will help attract more thing that help you feel good. It will also get you out of the habit of continually doing things because it's "right" or proper.
Step 5: Do things to make other people happy
Now, I'm not going to tell you to do good deeds with expecting anything in return. That's just unnatural and unnecessary. There are only two conditions. The first is that the only thing you will expect to get out of it, is more opportunities to help others be happy and more opportunities to be happy yourself.
The second condition is that if they offer to do something for you or to give you something, you are not allowed to refuse. Much of society is under the misconception that we should do good things for others and refuse any compensation or return of the favor. The truth is, that when you deny a person that chance to do something for you, you deny them the chance to be happy, and that lowers your chances of being truly happy.
So don't expect more than good energies from the deeds that you do, but don't turn away good things that come your way. Allow them to come and gracefully except everything you can, even if you feel like the other person doesn't have much to give. Let them give you want they can anyways, you'll be allowing them to receive more happiness and teaching yourself to freely receive happiness as well as freely giving it.