Why Being a Loner Is Actually Good
I'm writing this post as I'm tired of every day looking at articles online emphasizing the importance of being a people's person. As if meeting people every day the only way to succeed. These articles seem to be similar to each other but the relevance they place into building relations simply does not consider all personality types. It makes people like me, a loner, feel neglected, pressured and anxious. In this post, I'll highlight the benefits of being a loner and why I think there is enough world to be successful just being yourself.
What is success?
First, let's start defining what success is: Success is simply achieving your purpose and goals. Therefore, to have success in your life, you just need to have a clear understanding of what do you want to accomplish in life, set your mind in the correct state to work for your goals, and accomplish them.
What does being a loner means?
Being a loner means enjoying time alone and not be actively looking to establish relations all the time. We usually feel the need to "escape" and have some quiet time with ourselves. It does not mean that we don't like social reunions or that we don't enjoy time with our family and friends, it just means that we need more time alone than other people and we don't enjoy socializing with every single person in the world every single day.
Being a loner, as I mentioned before can be pretty good, below the reasons why:
We get to know ourselves
We tend to spend so much time alone that we get to deeply know ourselves. We know exactly what we want, like, dislike or care about. We constantly talk to our inner self and fuel our intuition with knowledge which later helps us to make incredibly accurate decisions based solely on intuition. It's almost like if we had another person inside!!
We focus strongly
It is easier for us to focus on a particular thing. We don't get distracted by any friend calling us to go out or any outside noise and once we set up to do something we accomplish it! We tend to over-accomplish because of that ability to follow our interests no matter what.
We value friendship and family
Being a loner does not mean we are all alone all the time. In fact, we are incredibly caring and empathetic with our friends and family. We like to keep a few but strong friendships forever and are always willing to help when it's needed. I tend to be the kind of person who might not call every week but always have the people I love in my mind. If someone I love needs me, I could be at the end of the world but I'll for sure be there instantly to help and support.
We are creative
Good ideas come from a focused and healthy mind. Because of our focused mind, we tend to easily analyze information to create ideas. We are also very analytical and we can think of multiple outcomes and possibilities for any idea.
We are great listeners
Listening is the best quality we have. We can carefully listen and understand anyone or anything for long periods. Because of this, people tend to look for advice from us, we look wiser just because we know how to listen, and then give good and concise advice.
This is not intended to be a full list of the benefits of being a loner or introvert. but the intention is more as a brief list against all the posts that say that the only good thing is being a people's person or work every day in building new relationships. I strongly agree that in this world we have to do what we love. If you love being alone, why follow what other people love??
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