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Why the Law of Attraction Doesn't Work for Everyone
The Big Part Feelings Play in your Prayers
To look at something and to look for something involve completely different dynamics and will give different results. However, having said that not everyone seems to realise this.
If I spend hours watching baseball everyday then I would be looking at the activity and as such it wouldn't necessarily result in me becoming a better baseball player.
I think most people would accept that to become a better baseball player I would need to do something more than simply look at the game being played for hours on end.
There are many people who say they want to be wealthier but they feel poor. They never seem to make any connection between the feeling of poverty and the poor condition they find themselves in. No matter what a person says they want their condition betrays how they feel and what they are subconsciously motivated to achieve.
A wealthy person doesn't feel poor and a poor person does not feel rich. It is the feeling that dictates the condition you wish to create. Bottom line is, if you seek wealth then persistently feeling poor is ultimately going to sabotage what you consciously desire.
James Allen & Rhonda Byrne
There are many people who have read the book and watched the movie, The Secret by Rhonda Byrne but who have been unable to achieve their goals using the Law of Attraction described by the author. In this article I seek to explain why these people have failed and explain how their misunderstanding can explain why we don't always get what we pray for.
I would also highly recommend the book, As A Man Thinketh by James Allen because The Secret is based on the ideas put forward by James Allen in his book published in 1902. The ideas you will find in both of these books are not new and have been around for thousands of years to even before the time when Jesus uttered the words, “Seek and you shall find.”
Implementing the The Law of Attraction
In order to create what you want or to achieve your goals The Law of attraction requires that the following three basic elements be employed in your prayer:
Firstly, create what you want, clearly in your mind's eye, in as much detail as you can. That which you desire must appear real and as if you can see, touch, hear, smell and even taste it right now.
Secondly with your desire in your mind's eye, conjure up the feeling of expectancy. This is the kind of feeling you once felt as a child going to bed on Christmas Eve expecting to wake up in the morning to presents from Santa.
Thirdly, while keeping the goal in your mind's eye and the feelings of expectancy you must now add to this mix a feeling of thankfulness, the way you would feel after you have received what you have asked for. This is a very important ingredient and requires some practice to conjure up feelings of gratitude as if you have already received what you asked for.
All three ingredients are necessary for the cake to turn out properly.
Expectancy in everyday life
I often go jogging with my children and when we do we bring our 10 month old dog Bella with us. I was recently out on a run with my girls and Bella along the old Douglas to Peel railway line and it was Father's day. The girls wanted to run further so I headed back and waited for them at the entrance to the run.
I noticed that as they approached there was no sign of Bella. When I asked them where she was they said she was just behind them and had stopped to play with another dog. I told them to go back and look for her. When they returned with Bella I explained to them how they had made the same mistake many people do in relation to expectancy and the part it played in the Law of Attraction.
My girls had learned to expect that the dog would always eventually follow them. What they had failed to realise is that they were imposing expectancy on a completely different dog and one who had not yet learned to support their reality. The dog before Bella also didn't always follow in the beginning and it took time for him to learn to live up to their expectations of him.
I explained that Bella would also have to be taught to follow and until she did they had to be vigilant and not allow their minds to drift when she was out with them. Until such time as Bella proved that her behaviour fit what they expected they had to keep consciously focussed on the task.
The Effort Required to Create Change
Our minds wander if we don't give it something to do. This in itself is not negative except that a wandering mind tends to be drawn to old ways of thinking which then in turn attract old feelings associated with these thoughts. It is the feelings we feel that ultimately attract the people and experiences that create the old reality.
So when we are in the process of creating a new reality it is imperative to keep your eye on the ball or in other words keep consciously focussed on dwelling on the new thoughts that you know will conjure up the feelings that will attract the people and circumstances to create the new reality.
There is mental and emotional effort involved and that is something many people are simply not willing to invest. It is one thing to plant an apple tree and it is something else to then pray for a harvest of oranges. We get what we seek though what we seek is often times subconsciously driven and therefore we end up getting the old reality over and over again.
The Importance of Gratitude
I have written a separate article dealing with gratitude and how it is impossible to be unhappy while feeling grateful. You Attract What You Think About Most.
Gratitude is another very important ingredient if you wish to use the Law of Attraction to create your heart's desire. Gratitude is a feeling that comes after you receive something that you have been seeking. To deliberately conjure up feelings of gratitude before you have even received what you pray for creates the environment for receiving what you seek.
You can create the feelings that draw to you what you want regardless of whether you have received it or not. Imagining you already have received what you asked for is the key and the mind doesn't care whether it is in your hand or in your heart the feelings for both will be the same and if it isn't in your hand those feelings will ensure that is.
Fantasy to Reality
It is not enough to simply visualise what you want, you must add the all important ingredients of expectancy and gratitude to the mix for the Law of Attraction to work for you.
Visualising what you want is the act of looking at your desire. By visualising your desire you are creating the fantasy but the fantasy will remain in your mind and never be manifest in your reality if you do not actively seek what you want.
To seek what you desire you must explode outwards from you the image you have created within. To do this you must apply expectancy and gratitude.
Prayer to St Anthony and Original Prayer
Whenever, I can't find something I say a prayer to St Anthony and I have always found it. The reason I always find it is because I apply all all three ingredients of seeing what it is I am looking for, expecting to find it and feeling gratitude for finding it.
This was how prayer was originally taught but somewhere along the line people have forgotten to actively seek what they desire and do not explode outwards from their internal fantasy what it is they seek and so it remains as an unanswered prayer in the hearts of many today.
Missing Piece of the Puzzle
This article is not for everyone but for those of you who have tried using the Law of Attraction and have failed perhaps it may be the missing piece of the puzzle and you now use the fabric of the illusion we live in to create whatever your heart desires.
Life is a game but unless you know the rules it is going to be anything but fun!