Worry Too Much. Learn How To Stop Worrying A Lot About Little Things.
Worrying is feeling fear, doubt and sadness while thinking something unpleasant has happened or will happen. To make someone feel worried is to make them feel unhappy. Worrying can be useful. It can cause you to take actions that protect you and the people you love from danger and loss. For example it could get you to wear safety equipment like a seat belt, life jacket or helmet.
Being worried does not always inspire people to take actions that help them. People have a habit of worrying too much. They worry about things they have no control over, things that are not worth worrying about and things that probably will never happen. Lots of unpleasant things might have happened or could happen in the future. That does not mean you should be worried all the time.
Peace of Mind
People that worry a lot torment themselves with disturbing thoughts. They cause unpleasant things to happen. The opposite of worry is peace of mind. It is thinking about pleasant things and being confident. Instead of thinking about all the bad things that could happen you are thinking about the good things that are happening or could happen. People feel better, make better use of their time and are more successful when they are thinking positive thoughts.
Predicting Your Future
You don't need to be psychic to predict your future because you control your thoughts and actions. The best way to predict the future is to have realistic goals and takes steps to accomplish them. I predict that I am going to workout tonight. I also predict that I am going to be better at doing handstands by the end of the month. When you worry you are making a prediction that something bad is going to happen. You are setting a goal. The goal may not be accomplished. Your prediction could be wrong but you spend time and energy trying to make the prediction come true.
If you worry a lot then you spend a lot time on energy focused on things you don't want. Worry about losing and you are focused on losing. Worry about embarrassing yourself and you are focused on embarrassing yourself. When you are worried about missing the net you are thinking about missing the net. When you are worried that you are going to fall you are thinking about falling. People that worry a lot give themselves bad luck. They sabotage themselves and attract outcomes they don't want.
People that are worried tend to have more bad habits. They do things that are bad for them like eat a lot of junk food, drink too much alcohol, smoke a lot, avoid exercise, bite their nails or pull out their hair. When a worried person can't do anything useful to fix the problem or potential problem they think bad thoughts and give into bad habits. Worrying can also make you feel sick and tired. It speeds up the aging process, makes the person look worse, makes them feel bad and it can lead to the person being addicted to something.
Worrying can easily become more of a problem than the situation you are worried about. The worst part is often waiting for the bad thing to happen. It is like reliving the bad experience over and over again in your mind and exaggerating it so it is even worse than the actual event. Instead of enjoying the time you have before the bad thing happens you make yourself feel miserable in anticipation of the moment you are dreading. For example feeling sick to your stomach all day because you need to read a speech that you wrote to a group of people.
Non productive time is idle time. Time passes you by but you don't accomplish anything useful. People tend to worry more when they are not being productive. They have time to think and they use it to think about things they don't want to happen. If you are not making good use of your time then you are wasting it. If you are not thinking about what you want then you are thinking about things you don't want.
How to Worry Less
What are you doing to fix the problem or the unpleasant situation? If you can't or won't do something to make things better than there is no reason to worry. Worrying when there is no good reason to worry is bad for your health, your appearance and your happiness. How does making yourself feel bad help? If you are taking steps to fix the problem then there is no reason to continue to worry about it. After you have recognized the problem and started working on a solution focus on the solution and the results you want.
Are you procrastinating? Take action to fix the problem as soon as possible to reduce the amount of time you spend worrying. It is common for people to worry about a lot of little things. They make a big deal about things that don't really matter, they worry about things that are out of their control, they procrastinate and they create problems. Why Worry? Worrying should be useful. Does worrying make you happier and more successful? Probably not.
Playing a video game is a good way to stop yourself from worrying. So is exercising. One of the reasons I exercise a lot is because it helps me relax. When I am thinking about the exercise I am doing I am not thinking about other things. Keeping your body busy is not enough. You need to keep your mind busy. Focus on the moment most of the time. Any worry I have disappears when I am really focused on what I am doing. Keep busy or work towards a goal.
You can worry less by asking questions, telling yourself things like "If it does not help then it hurts." and by staying focused. Practice getting rid of your worries and you will get better at it. Guided meditation and healing exercises like tai chi, qigong and yoga can teach you to be more aware of your thoughts, feelings, body and your environment.
© 2014 Michael H