Your Happiness is Within You, so where is the road?
Life is difficult sometimes but Fortunately, there is some moment of happiness.
For some people, love is true happiness, but for others, it's money or power or maybe both. then, what is happiness?
It seems like an odd question, but is it?
It seems strange to talk about happiness during a pandemic, but is it?
We're stuck at home, but many of us sense an opportunity to think about his life. In this world, we rarely get the chance to stop and consider our happiness and our purpose in life.
How often you said, " I want to be happy?".
People don't really understand the definition of happiness. Many people think that happiness is having fun, good food, the passion of sex, or the excitement of the new experience in life.
For them, these are happiness but in reality, it's just the definition of pleasure.
So, what is happiness?
As Mahatma Gandhi said about happiness: “Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.”
Definition Of Happiness from the Oxford Advanced Learner's Dictionary
First, let's take a look at the definition of happiness. The Oxford Advanced Learner's Dictionary definition of "happiness" is: "the state of feeling or showing pleasure".
So, happiness is a state of feeling or showing pleasure. From this definition, we can understand some point about happiness :
- it's a state. it means that it isn't something constant forever
- it's a feeling.
Here's another definition:
Happiness is simply the ability to find gratitude and satisfaction at the moment that you have right now.
For my entire life, I've been watched a lot of movies and a documentary about happiness, and after watching them for a long time, I concluded that happiness is how we deal with ourselves, and others.
Talking here about " The Art of Happiness", Here are five secrets to happiness :
First: Be Optimistic
To be optimistic means that you believe in your ability to succeed, and to learn from your mistake and implement new strategies to achieve your goal and finally achieve your happiness.
There is a book, an excellent book that I came across and I recommend you to read it. This Book Called 'Learned Optimism: How to change your mind and your life' by Martin Seligman.
In this Book Seligman highlights three different way or As I prefer Called them, Three attitudes:
- Believe that it will pass
- Don't blame yourself
- it's just a part of your life when things go wrong.
- express gratitude.
Remember, Never be afraid of taking action to achieve your happiness.
“Optimism is a strategy for making a better future. Because unless you believe that the future can be better, you are unlikely to step up and take responsibility for making it so.”— – Noam Chomsky
Second: Don't Be a Slave To Your Past
If you want to be happy, you need to get over your past. Indeed, if you stick with your past, you will just end up suffering in your life and you will not achieve true happiness.
Yes, it's difficult to forget bad memories but remember we didn't tell you to erase them, you need to get over them if you want to live a happy life.
Here some tips to help you let you go :
- Replace the bad with the good ones
- be gentle with your self
- Surround your self with people who love you and fill you up
- Talk about your past or write it in a piece of paper and burn it to let it go.
“Be not the slave of your own past - plunge into the sublime seas, dive deep, and swim far, so you shall come back with new self-respect, with new power, and with an advanced experience that shall explain and overlook the old.”— ― Ralph Waldo Emerson
Third: Enjoy Life
Life is precious and unfortunately, we only have one life to live and we don't want to waste. So how do you start to live more at the moment and savor the good things that life has to offer?
Here are 4 ways to enjoy your life:
- Focus on Yourself
- Replay Happy memories.
- Make time to relax
- Build a moment of enjoyment in your daily positive life.
- Meet new people.
- Explore new places.
- Try new things.
- Celebrate small wins.
- Allow yourself to feel happy.
- Make time for gratitude and appreciation.
Here some quotes about enjoying life and to get you back on track of happiness :
“The purpose of life is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for a newer and richer experience.”―— Eleanor Roosevelt
Fourth: Stay Close To Your Family And Friends
Family is one of the important things in our lives. Indeed, The basic connection between family will always be love.
If you fill up your life with the love of your friend and family, I guarantee you will be live a happy life. Then, you achieve true happiness.
There are so many reasons to stay close to your family! family is so important in our life. Let's talk about some of the reasons to stay close to your family.
- Family is always there for you, no matter what happens.
- They are family, it means no conditional love.
- They are a support system.
- It is an important connection in this life.
Focus on helping others and living with meaning.
Here are 8 ways to make your family closer :
- Be the leader of your family.
- Establish Family Values.
- Be present.
- Create the culture in your home.
- Control your schedule.
- Plan whit purpose.
- Remind often.
- Have fun.
“Happiness is having a large, loving, caring, close-knit family in another city.”— –George Burns
“You don’t choose your family. They are God’s gift to you, as you are to them.” –— Desmond Tutu
Fifth: Happy People Take Care of Themselves
Self Care is so important in life. it's so important to make sure you take good care of your body, mind, and soul.
Here are 6 ways to get you started with self-care:
- Sleep well.
- Eat right.
- say no to others, and say yes to yourself.
- Read a book.
- Take a trip.
"Happiness is within you, Not From others".
“Don't forget to appreciate yourself.”— ― Debasish Mridha
3 Videos That Explain Happiness
If you're interested in learning and understanding about happiness, there are few videos you might want to check out
Positive Psychology: The Science of Happiness
The surprising science of happiness | Dan Gilbert
How to Be Happier – Happier by Tal Ben-Shahar, PhD
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.
© 2020 Moudden Achraf