Ls it possible to possess an average or better social intelligence, and yet seem

  1. stanwshura profile image73
    stanwshuraposted 5 years ago

    Ls it possible to possess an average or better social intelligence, and yet seem awkward or inept?

    TI'm not even gonna try to be coy.  I am, of course, reflecting on my own reality and circumstances.  I KNOW the right "answers", the right things to say.  I am not loud or boorish, nor (after a LOT of hard and painful work), do I twiddle my thumbs in the corner anxiously waiting "for the party to come to me", so to speak.  I know very well what not to do, and compulsively (and discreetly!) check my pants zipper.  I ace those pop magazine/ online surveys on the subject, usually thinking "duh!".  But in real time I am inevitably stymied by indecision, unassuredness and anxiety.  What gives?

  2. meloncauli profile image96
    meloncauliposted 5 years ago

    I would say that confidence is the root issue. Not wanting to do or say the wrong thing can stop us in our tracks. We can be intelligent and affable but still find social situations difficult.

  3. Scorpio21 profile image78
    Scorpio21posted 5 years ago

    yes it is possible i think, it can be a different matter in the heat of the moment, even if you know the answers/what to do etc.

 
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