For some humans, life has become boringly routine, but for others, the daily grind of surviving the harshest of realities has become unbearably unpristine. So which kind would you rather live?
You create your own reality. It is not so hard to be happy, the hardest part is to realize that you are in control of how you feel.
Am I happy? I am so stuck, yet, I am hopeful, because I realize that my happiness is my responsibility, nobody can make me happy. Nobody but I.
Routine, habits? There is an expression that "habits are given to us from above, they are a substitute for happiness." I agree, yet I believe in being proactive. If you ask the question, if your routine(s), your rut no longer satisfy you, I would assume it is the beginning of the end of those routines.
You post excellent observations specially about being in control of your feelings, but I would like to put my own caveats. Total control of our emotions is obviously what we all aim for, but we must always be wary and in fact cognizant of the fact that control may become illusory or worse delusional.
I fully agree that we are responsible for our own happiness; however on days when we find ourselves in the "dump", good friends and a bar of dark chocolate( with all theirs endorphin releasing powers) could minimize or ease the "pain".
Habits/routines are just that, they give us a sense of calm and continuity, but nothing more. Which does not give much comfort to those who have never known and experienced peace and tranquility in their lifetime ( i.e. the poverty/war stricken people in sub-saharan africa). On the other hand are the hedonists amongst us who are never quite satisfied with their lot so they continue to pursue "happiness" whatever the cost might be to their psyche or their pocketbooks.
I agree that happiness is a tricky business. It is hard to generalize or it is, in fact, easier to generalize or to make "one size fits all" conclusions.
When I was expressing thoughts on the subject I was referring to the hubpages community. People from the developed countries with the internet access, knowledge of English, educated.
If you ask me whether I want to live in rural Africa that is plagued with war, hunger, disease, ... Well, you don't even need to ask.
The trickiest part of happiness is that we take what we have for granted. One simple example. I looked up your profile, you are a doctor, so are my parents.
Health is the most important factor for the quality of life. I don't have it. When I was born, I was the kind of child that was not meant to survive. It was the country, the medical care and mostly my parents who made my existence possible. Life is a struggle for me. Low blood pressure and the next to nothing level of energy. Am I happy? I understand that good health is not a given.
On top of that, I have a bipolar disorder. Most of my life I was depressed with the first episode at the age of ten. Moods seem to define existence and it is so hard to distinguish where moods end and I begin. It took me such a long time. I don't take anything for granted anymore.
But on bad days... Am I being comforted? I do crave comfort, support, but I rarely get it, therefore I tend to turn to other sources. Physical exercise, well, mostly dancing for me. I love it.
That is what I meant. Most people still believe that either someone MUST come and make them happy, or they are just unaware of their own limitless resources. Habits? It depends on what kind of habits. Make good ones and they will provide the backbone of your happier future.
Wishing everybody to have better days & lots of chocolate!
Thanks your thoughtful replay. I do empathize with your daily struggles due to medical conditions that were beyond your control. I have seen several of my patients have similar issues, and I know how difficult it is for them to go through the daily grind... but nothing that a good family and friends cound not assuage at least in part.
Please don't take my initial comments to your post as an affront---they were not meant to be.
I was not taking it as an affront. I was thinking. There is a Russian expression "to comprehend and rethink (or to re-comprehend) life experiences". My ex used to make fun of me because I thought too much.
But I truly believe that life experiences without comprehension are useless.
So, I was JUST thinking...
I Live The Ordained ...
For there is little, I can do, but Live, The Ordination.
Perplexing thoughts... care to elaborate?
Villa:
What do you mean "unpristine?"
The word doesn't exist in English.
I understand "pristine.
" ( pris·tine (prstn, pr-stn)
adj.
1.
a. Remaining in a pure state; uncorrupted by civilization.
b. Remaining free from dirt or decay; clean: pristine mountain snow.
2. Of, relating to, or typical of the earliest time or condition; primitive or original
What thought are you trying to convey when you use the undefineable term "unpristine/"
Ty.
Qwark
Hello Qwark:
I should have consulted you ( the compleat dictionary that you are) when I typed the word un-pristine, but was so jet-lagged to bother.
Life on earth has , as you know, become very messy, and chaotic, and corrupt and dirty. It has become not only un-primitive(oops is there such a word) but consumptive as well.
In the general context of the topic I posted, you know that you know what I meant by the word.
un-pristine would mean not being in the original state - a major cause of unhappiness - it is the well documented state of life that has no home because it is always trying to get back to a non-existent origin - always unhappy because it can't get back home.
Happiness is being at home with yourself, comfortable with who you are - and although the OP says it is not about religion it clearly is. It is religious indoctrination that instils yearning for the unattainable and is part of why the religious folk here are clearly so unhappy and uninformed.
Thanks China:
I understood that and agree with what you say.
A mundane response didn't seem to interest me.
Have a good evening....:
Qwark
Hello China Man:
So how is the orient treating you lately? Hopefully well.
Your anti-religion rantings is so totally not you... or is it? A pity that a post about the current sad/happy affairs of humanity you interpret as having some religious derivation. Nothing mundane about that one so I guess, Qwark liked your explanation more than the one I gave him.
Sorry you feel that way. We are pretty happy here. Pass the chocolate please.
Two scoops of regular to one scoop of cherry flavor!
Happiness is what everyone should aim for, but sometimes, no matter how much one tries, it just doesn't come as easily as it does for others. In situations where one finds himelf devoid of any reason to smile or laugh about, the company of good friends ( and of course chocolate) could assuage the pain. Friends and chocolate, now that's what I would call two major endorphin releasers.
Abraham Lincoln once said that "Most folk are about as happy as they make up their minds to be..."
A statement that should be taken in the context of President Lincoln's reported "depression" all throughout his presidency. Understandably, managing a civil war could be a downer on anybody's psyche.
More chocolate please! Life is a big cup of delicious chocolademelk (this is Dutch for cocoa). Enjoy it!
Happiness is subjective. I prefer good company, hot chocolate, warmth and laughter. My ex-husband much preferred things, objects, money.
I suppose he believes he has everything - in terms of financial reward. I have nothing comparatively - other than what I mentioned (intangibles). Who's the happiest?
Hard to say. I know I'm happy.
Thanks for dropping by.... this is neutral territory for both of us ( religion or non-religion be damned), so I'm glad that we at least agree on some things. I know I tend to be a bit rascally/prickly when I am defending my faith and belief systems, but that is just who I am.
Not column A. Not column B. I like column C. Everyday is a mystery, a new adventure, a new revelation. I live in a dynamic place that always has a new surprise, just around the corner, a perfect place which runs perpetually, whether I pay attention or not. Cause and effect. No accidents, and no coincidences. Straight up Domino Theory.
"No Accidents, and no coincidences". But always with consequences. Any movement that does not cause any effect is just noise... and we all know what happens to noise... it dissipates into the ether and never echo and re-echo- and re-echo.
If I could just kill that creature inside me, I could be happy...
HomeGirl:
Actually there is more to life than being happy. Jus ask, Marcus Aurelius, the supreme stoic, if there ever was one.
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