LETTERS TO YOU: “How to start thinking positively?”
Positive thinking is one of the most important contributors to success, even more valuable than luck & fate, because unlike the latter, positive thinking can be controlled! Have you ever met someone who didn’t believe in himself and achieved great results? I haven’t! Negative thinking is the road to depression, anxiety and failure. If you are blaming everyone else around you for your miserable life, maybe it’s the right time to stop and think what you can do to start thinking positively. If you are a person, who WILL NOT want to start thinking positively, then you have to change your attitude. If you are a person, who simply CANNOT start thinking positively because you don’t know how to, then you have to learn a new behaviour pattern. Either way, the time you realise that your life cannot continue being miserable, you will have two options – 1. Accept your life as it is or 2. Change something. So, how can you start this change? Here are some tips for you to consider and decide – Do I want to stay miserable for the rest of my life or do I want to start the change here and now?
- The first step to positive thinking is to recognise all the negative thoughts that occupy your head. Out of thousands of thoughts that run through our head during the day, more than 80% are negative & destructive. Practise this – start writing down all your negative & positive thoughts on the paper for at least a week. Then take some time to analyse which areas of your life require the most of your attention. If it’s a relationship area of your life that you think about the most – write down what feeling are associated with it, why you think its happening and what the ideal situation for you is. Control your emotions, do not let your emotions take control over you and affect the other areas of your life – be it a career or social life.
- If at the specific moment of your life you feel down, don’t try to find comfort in people who feel down too. It will only make you feel worse. Instead, try this – hang out with happy & satisfied people, who think positively and move on with their lives. Observe their behaviour and notice what you can learn from them. After all, new behaviour pattern can be practised and adopted with a great pleasure. Avoid people who only complain and do nothing about changing life around. Don’t waste your time and energy, it will only harm you.
- Give a meaning to your life! Think of all the important people and things in your life – be it photos of your happy moments, trophies, postcards from friends and family or your first ever payslip. Recognise that not everything is bad in your life. Start appreciating what you already have and be grateful for it. Gratitude will add a big value towards positive thinking. It will spark good memories, positive thoughts and give you motivation to move forward.
- Be inspired by someone else’s success. There is no point to be jealous if someone else is happy and you are not. Jealousy is destructive! Instead, talk to successful friends and colleagues and find out every detail of who helped them on a journey to success and how they have achieved this outcome. Replicating someone else’s model of behaviour can bring you closer to your own success; it will give you an inspiration that everything is possible and contribute towards positive thinking.
- Avoid people that don’t believe in you and always challenge you to do something. It’s not them you want to prove wrong, it’s you that you want to prove right. Every action you take must have a positive agenda behind it. And every action you take must be done for your benefit, not for someone else’s.
- Learn to ask for help! There is nothing to be ashamed of. If you don’t know how to do something, find an expert in the area and ask for help. People will be moved by your strong desire to succeed and will be more than happy to be useful in your journey towards goal.
- Remember that you always have a choice when you wake up – you can either be happy or unhappy that particular day. If you think that breaking a glass in the morning is a big tragedy and the day will be bad, then you have already programmed yourself to a bad day. Learn to get over small unimportant things like breaking a glass or accidently stepping on your cat in the dark. Whatever happens, learn from it and move on with ease.
- Starting to think positively is a very important step. Just practise it daily. It will help you maintain your positive thinking and start attracting exactly what you want in your life. It’s not about just knowing “the law of attraction” and watching a movie “Secret” a few times, it’s about recognising that the journey towards positive thinking requires work. What you put out in the world comes back to you – only ten times more!
Be healthy, happy and wealthy.....and Remember: “The only place where success comes before work is in the dictionary.”
Always by your side,