Lying... Who Are These People That Feel the Need to Lie?
Why, Why, Why Lie?
by Terri Mackinnon
In my fifty years of life the number one question that I have asked myself over and over again is WHY? Why do people feel the need to not only make others think that they are right, but to lie about what they have done and try to convince others they are telling the truth.
Most liars are convincing. They get a high on getting others to believe that they are not only right but others may even be wrong.
When is a lie a lie? Our parents taught us that there were "little white lies"... in other words if it doesn't hurt anyone then it's forgivable. How many liars have also been told that if you go to church and confess well then you are forgiven? But are you?
Forgiveness in church might allow you the peace of mind that is required to go through life knowing that you no longer have to carry it in your subconscious. For some this might help them be able to sleep at night.
What about the one that you have deceived? Are they to just forgive and forget what you have done to them? Just because it might not hurt someone directly, what gave us the right to do it in the first place?
What gives a person the right to deceit anyone? What allows someone's conscious not feel that is has any remorse? Is it a conscious decision or just outright part of what someone becomes? White lies or not....there still lies.
Continually in my life I have been told lie after lie by friends and even worse family. It's almost like what they say is gospel. A true liar convince even themselves once they say it then it has to be true. There are many times you even know what they are telling you is total BS, yet you smile and shake your head when they leave.
I especially love the "of course I will help" knowing full well that they would not be around or that they even wanted to "help". If they had they just been truthful to start off with you could have had your "True" friends jump in to assist.
What gives someone the right to feel they are able to deceive? How does one go to bed and be able to close their eyes and sleep. How are they capable to look you straight in the eye and tell you that they were not responsible for spreading such vicious rumors about you or your family?
Lying seems to be the essence of our world. Each person is capable of having to twist that truth ... of course when they need it to work to their favor.
The so called friend who feels that their feelings are more important then yours and lets not forget the family member that a good Psychiatrist would say is "Psychopathic or a Psychopath". This is the liar of liars who remains totally unremorseful and always looking for the next victim. This type of pathological liar is unstoppable and unbeatable. Recognizing who they are and removing yourself from the psychotic behavior is the only way sanity can remain in your own life.
For years I have tried to defend myself against lies that others felt the necessity to place upon my life. Today I just don't really give a crap what is said and what others feel the need to spend their minimal little lives trying to spread to others.
Remember those who play the lying game are only really lying to themselves. The person that you should feel the most fear -- the one that continually says "Believe me" ..or "it's true".. or my ex husbands best.. "Trust NO ONE!!!" , I just didn't know he meant him.