ArtsAutosBooksBusinessEducationEntertainmentFamilyFashionFoodGamesGenderHealthHolidaysHomeHubPagesPersonal FinancePetsPoliticsReligionSportsTechnologyTravel
  • »
  • Holidays and Celebrations»
  • Common Holidays

My Mother's Gifts

Updated on October 17, 2017
Nancy Owens profile image

Nancy is an everyday woman with a love for staying active, participating in sports, and outdoor activities.

Flowers Create Good Memories

Snap Dragons were always in my mother's gardens
Snap Dragons were always in my mother's gardens | Source

A Mother's Gifts Keep on Giving

Gift 1: Flowers Every Spring

Although my mother is no longer with us, her flowers remain.

Throughout my adult life, every spring Mom would divide up flowers and other plants and distribute the starts and bulbs among her three daughters. At times, I saw this gift as being just another chore to do, because Mom would just unexpectedly show up with a box of starts that needed to be planted right away.

At times, I would just plant them haphazardly, so I could get on with things I thought were more important at the time. Little did I know then, how her perpetual flower growing was working to grow me as an individual, professional, daughter, and mother.

Now that she is gone, I am so grateful to have those flowers, bulbs, and raspberries. Every time I look out into my yard, I see my mother's flowers, and the memories and feelings they evoke comfort me and provide encouragement to keep persevering when times get tough.

A strong work ethic is a gift from my mother.

Keep your career gears turning by having a strong work ethic.
Keep your career gears turning by having a strong work ethic. | Source

Gift 2: The Gift of A Strong Work Ethic

My mother was a great example of a strong work ethic. And she expected her girls to follow that example--in our jobs, but also as children when we were doing our chores.

She expected honest effort from us in the tasks she assigned, and when we didn't deliver, we got in trouble!

At the time, her expectations did not feel like gifts. When I was a child, I behaved as a child, and often resented having to do something over again because my slap-dash effort did not meet the standard for quality.

Now, as a working professional, I am grateful for this gift, because it molded me into someone who is able to produce quality work, even in unsupervised situations. Her gift molded my character, and gave me some strength in my backbone.

Great Food, Great Cooking Make Great Memories

Healthy Meals
Healthy Meals | Source

Home and Family Matters

Gift 3: Being a Good Hostess

Attention to social niceties was important to my mother. When people visited our home, it was important to her that we all made an effort to make our guests feel welcome, to offer a beverage, and to express interest in the visitor.

Mom always gave visitors her time and attention. She made each one feel as though they were the most important person at the moment. She focused on what they were saying, gave feedback, and was truly interested in what was important to each one.

Gift 4: Cooking With Great Ingredients

The love of cooking was something Mom shared with all her girls. It was important to her to add variety into the food she cooked for her family buy using spices to enhance flavor and color. She took pride in using fresh vegetables and other healthy ingredients to come up with her own spin on a variety of recipes.

She passed the skill on to her daughters, and our households all benefit from her creativity.

Mom was known in our community for putting on a good spread when she hosted gatherings for holidays and special events. Her table was always a sparkling array of color and texture. The table decorations always meshed with the color and texture of the menu, so that her tables were a visual feast that fed both the body and soul.

Traditions are Important

Decorating can be a family tradition.
Decorating can be a family tradition. | Source

Respect for Family Traditions

Gift 5: The Gift of Comfort From the Past

Another gift Mom gave all of us is the comfort we receive from relying on the traditions we created in our own family unit, but also maintaining cherished traditons from generations that have gone before us.

During holidays and family gatherings, a sense of routine can be comforting. Putting up familiar decorations that have become cherished family heirlooms, the smells of our favorite holiday foods, and activities the entire family participates in, whether it is a board game, or a family outing, brings a sense of security and belonging that lingers long after the holiday has past.

Sharing the Gifts our Mothers Gave

As we go through life, the gifts our mothers shared with us are, in turn, shared with the others we we meet along the path of life.

In going forward, climing the ladder of success, raising our children, and participating in our communities, we can bring honor to our mothers by sharing the gifts she gave to us by becoming a living example of the values she shared.

Sometimes this can be done by sharing a story with a friend, or carrying on a family tradition. In this way, we can give comfort to others and brighten their day in some small way. We can use these gifts to improve our own character, and to instill important values in our children.

This Mothers' Day, why not let your own mother know how much you value the gifts she has given you over the years? In addition to the cards and flowers and other gifts we typically give on this precious holiday, a word of thanks from you could be the icing on the cake for her.

Take a few minutes from the busy day to call her aside and tell her how much you value all she has done for you, and how her everyday gifts to you have enriched your life and helped you to become the person you are today.

© 2013 Nancy Owens


Submit a Comment

  • Nancy Owens profile image

    Nancy Owens 4 years ago from USA

    Hi Careermommy! It is nice hearing from you again. Thank you so much for the praise. It was very nice of you to say. There is so much that I learned from my mother, but when I started to write it out, it was a little harder than I thought it would be.

    My mother was a career woman, not by choice, but by circumstance. Even though it wasn't her first choice, she embraced working for a living, gave it her best effort, and was promoted through the ranks. She retired from a position of authority in a mostly male vocation, yet retained her feminine demeanor and interests. I am very proud of her success.

  • Nancy Owens profile image

    Nancy Owens 4 years ago from USA

    Thank you, bridalletter! Sorry to make you cry :) I like that it is working in reverse with you and your mom. Plants are such a great thing to pass among family members. It is pretty common to hear of moms and daughters sharing things like recipes, crochet patterns and craft ideas, but I wonder how many others share plant starts, and even baby animals, guppies, or other things that might be passed down through the family.

  • Careermommy profile image

    Tirralan Watkins 4 years ago from Los Angeles, CA

    Wow, what a heartfelt tribute to your wonderful mother. I'm sure she would be proud of all that you learned from her, and how generous of you to share with us all.

  • bridalletter profile image

    Brenda Kyle 4 years ago from Blue Springs, Missouri, USA

    Brought tears to my eyes. Wonderful idea, my mom is still here. I have actually been the one giving her seeds, plants and items for the garden. It is nice to see the receiving end and how much it means to that person, even if it seems like work. It does have its reward. Very nice to read. Thank you.

  • Nancy Owens profile image

    Nancy Owens 4 years ago from USA

    Shampa, I am very glad that this hub reminded you of good things. Our mothers are such a big part of our lives. I like to think that my mother is happy where she is, and that she is checking on us from time to time, to see how her flowers are growing and to see if we are being mindful of her teachings.

  • Nancy Owens profile image

    Nancy Owens 4 years ago from USA

    Thank you so much for the kind words, Stephanie. When I miss my mom, all I have to do is go outside to touch something that she grew with her own hands and passed to me. You are right: I was very lucky to have such a strong mother who was so willing to give of her time and energy.

  • shampa sadhya profile image

    Shampa Sadhya 4 years ago from NEW DELHI, INDIA

    Voted up and awesome!

    I loved reading it and got reminded of the gifts she gave to me and my siblings, also to all the other dear ones and even to the strangers. I felt that all her materialistic gifts were richly wrapped in with her selfless love and without saying her non-materialistic gifts were examples of true emotions. Now, when she is in heaven I am left with only one option. I feel proud to bask in the wonderful memories of her. Sharing and pinning!

  • Stephanie Henkel profile image

    Stephanie Henkel 4 years ago from USA

    What a very nice tribute to your mother and a reminder to us all of the many lasting gifts we've received from our mothers. You were lucky indeed to have a mother who passed on so many of her best qualities to you and your siblings!

    Voted up and shared!