Valentine's Day and the Married man
Love is in the air
Valentines Day
When you are young free and single Valentines Day is a simple affair a card, a red rose, a meal for 2 at a nice restaurant and home to watch a Movie on TV and hopefully at the end of the evening you have romanced your partner enough to have a little loving.
A simple formula that works year in and year out for many horny young men.
When you are married it becomes a whole different ball game especially if you have Children.
A married man not only has a few complications thrown into the works but he has a wife that knows him better than he knows himself, and she knows every move he will make on Valentines day simply because he does the same thing every year.
Romantic Gesture
Valentine's Day and the Married Man
Lets Face it, to a married man Valentines day is only really special because he knows that if he plays his cards perfectly all day it will lead to an unforgrettable night of passion in the bedroom with the love of his life. nothing more nothing less.
The problem is though that after a couple of years marriage, we begin to forget the meaning of romance and fall into a routine of buying a card and some flowers, and nothing more, we take our wife's for granted and assume that they will be so overjoyed with these wonderfully thought out gifts that her knickers will fall to the ground in an instant and she will ravage your body where you stand.
It Aint Gonna Happen Man
5 Minutes of your time and 0.1 percent of your imagination and spending a couple of dollars will leave your wife feeling worthless, dejected and unwanted, and your chances of getting her into the bedroom for a night of loving will fall faster than the Dow Jones Index. more than likely you will end up sleeping on the sofa with the dog sniffing at your ass all night long.
Valentines day is a day to sweep the love of your life off her feet, to make her feel special and feel loved, to let her know that she is the most important person in your world, Valentines Day is her day and if you play it by the rules it will be your night.
General Husband
Setting the Mood
Getting it right on Valentines day takes careful planning and imagination especially if you have children, during the week on the run up to the big day you must become a General and come up with the perfect plan that will 1, sweep you wife off her feet and 2, keep the children out of the way whilst you work your magic. and most importantly come up with a plan B should plan A come a cropper.
Plan the whole day minute by minute, from morning till night, pamper your wonderful other half, you have the advantage of knowing things that she likes and what she dislikes, use that knowledge to your full advantage, Valentines day is like any other day it lasts a whole 24 hours not just the 5 minutes it takes to buy a card and some flowers.
By knowing what your wife loves, you can make the whole day a very special day for her, give her little treats at different intervals during the day, spend quality time talking and remembering romantic moments that you have shared between you before and after you got married, watch her favorite movie, listen to her favorite music, serve her favorite food, whisper sweet nothings in her ear, keep the romance flowing the whole day and the night will take care of itself.
A Point To Remember
Valentines day is a day of romance and love and sharing intimate moments with your partner but so is every other day of the year.
If you treat your wife like a doormat or talk down to her call her names or disrespect her in public or in private the rest of the year chances are that all your efforts on Valentines day will go down like a lead balloon, treat your wife the way she deserves not only on valentines day but every day of the year after all Love may be a powerful thing but if you dont look after it and protect it you can lose it in the blink of an eye.....
Comments
When I started dating my wife (obviously before she was my wife), I made it a practice to make a big deal out of valentines day. I like it because it isn't a holiday you have to share with the rest of the world, meaning, it's a day for you and your loved one.
The first valentines day, I hired a stretch Navigator Limo to pick her up from work, I had gone all over town to diffeent stores and purchased things for her, had them wrapped and left at the store for her. Each preent from each store had a not attached to it with a clue to the next place. She went to I think it was four or five stores and got little presents until finally the Limo took her downtown chicago to the Drake hotel where I was waiting for her. I had bought her clothes, toiletries and everything she would need to spend the night with me.
The second valenties day I surprised her with dinner, roses and an extra surprize, a King Charles Spaniel puppy named Cupid.
The Third Valenties day, I planned a spa get-away for us in Lake Geneva where we had a room for two days, couples massages and a facial for her.
The fourth Valenties day, Saturday, Feb 14th, 2004, we got married. Now we plan our Valenties day treats and get-aways together. This year we planned on going downtown to Texas De Brazil for dinner and staying at the Amalfi Hotel in the Luxury Suite and the next day having a couple's massage. Our 5 month old has a problem with anyone watching her while we are gone so we decided to got to dinner and skip the hotel. We are going to take turns getting massages and I get to experience a floatation tank for the first time.
I'm so bad. The first thought in my head when I read your title made me wonder what a man might give his mistress for Valentine's Day.
Yes you are correct that it is difficult to convince and surprise your wife as she knows all about you and what moves you are gonna take on the valentine's day. But there is one positive point, if she knows you top to bottom then it is same for you too. Now if you know about her then you should also be knowing her likes and dislikes and what turns her on. Hence married men must use this knowledge to properly plan the day very minutely as mentioned my you Jimmy.
Thank god I am not married yet.
It's good to know there are still male romantics among us! Thanks for all those great pointers and reminders of the Day we celebrate once and always with gratitude. SeanA
Very good advice! Hope my man reads this! :-)
thanks I find it helpful for a spark
Thanks for sharing your ideas!
jimmythejock ...I think Valentine's Day is a beautiful day ...and you did a great job of floating the thought of love in the air. Thank you for sharing a man's thoughts!
To me, everyday is St. Valentine's Day with that special woman whom I have dedicated my life to.
All I can say is your wife is one lucky lady! :D
"I feel sorry for those that don't celebrate V-Day, only because even though a woman says she doesn't care about the day, you know deep down she'd be upset if she wasn't to at least get some acknowledgement on the day."
You are wrong - to me it's a commerically-inspired event, not a real one.
My [now] husband has been getting me flowers, a stuffed animal & candy, then taking me out for a nice dinner on Valentine's Day for the last 4 years. He doesn't have to top it each year and he certainly doesn't have to do all that he does. He makes me feel special everyday and that's what's important. I feel sorry for those that don't celebrate V-Day, only because even though a woman says she doesn't care about the day, you know deep down she'd be upset if she wasn't to at least get some acknowledgement on the day. But hey, I hope I'm wrong..
What a romantic guy! I hope your day...and night....on the 14th are great.
Karen
the flaw in all male thinking manifests in the first paragraph:
"at the end of the evening you have romanced your partner enough to have a little loving."
What you mean by "a little loving" is actually "sex". Let's call a spade a spade!
Loving is all that warm fuzzy stuff that (hopefully) happens the rest of the time. Sex is a side effect of the loving. Women say this over and over and over and men just don't get it. We aren't just a tap you can turn on for sex even if you are married. The loving has to keep coming after the wedding. Deep down we know you are just doing it to get the sex, but the better you are at fooling us that you actually like us and care about us and you're not just doing stuff to get sex, the better sex you're likely to get. We are willing to be fooled but we aren't fools. Having a special day to focus all this is kind of stupid because, as you so aptly point out, if you are an asshole the rest of the time, don't think that even spending lots of money is going to make our knickers drop.
My wife and I got married on Valentine's Day so we kill two birds with one stone. Typically we go out or I make her a special dinner. I also try to get the kids involved in making her a nice picture, making her breakfast, making her favorite cookies or cupcakes. My only problem is that every year I need to top what I did last year.
I'm with LondonGirl. It may sell cards, flowers and candy, but we laugh about it at my house.
Ach, Jimmy, you're such a romantic. You make me wish I was married. And this just after reading about 101 benefits of being single. Sheesh!
But it's a great hub. I might just buy a rose for all the ladies that live in the small apartment. A yellow, friendship rose, not a crimson, passionate one. What do you say?
Best!
We don't do Valentine's Day - massive hassle avoided!
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