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Hosting A Valentines Day Tea Party

Updated on February 2, 2013

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A variety of foods is tantalizing to your guests
A variety of foods is tantalizing to your guests | Source

Why a Valentine's Tea?

Following the excitement of the December and January holidays, February is one of those months that could be considered dull. However, Valentine’s Day is a cheery day to look forward to break up the last of winter’s cold. Do you recall your grade school days when the bright red hearts with silly sentiments were passed around? Well, one way adults can celebrate it with friends is to host a Valentine Tea honoring their friendship.


What color scheme to use for your tea?

Red, pink and white are the colors associated with Valentines, so you want to include those in your theme. Along with displays of floral teapots, cups and saucers, you can add lacy tablecloths, pink cloth napkins, and small vases of rose buds in various shades of pink, white, and red.

Have enough space in the sitting area so guests can move freely without chairs or elbows bumping into another person. A long, formal table may work if you have a large home. Smaller square tables gathered close together, such as card tables, may also work with a nice tablecloth over it.

Foods to serve:

If your guests have not attended a tea party before yours, you will want to serve recipes that are elegant, but familiar. Depending on how much time you have to prepare you can make these recipes yourself or buy the pastries from a reputable baker. Personally, I like to make my own.

A variety of foods, keeping your guests special needs in mind, are what makes a tea party interesting. Foods that they would not necessarily make for themselves, and keeping the servings small, and easy to handle, are two important points to consider. Certainly, if you are aware that a guest is vegetarian, you won’t want to exclude some delicious vegetable choices. Seafood, such as smoked salmon or shrimp, is a good choice however, it is important to keep in mind that many people have allergies to crustaceans. Remember: the food can either be served at the table or set up buffet style.

And, on the subject of allergies, be sure to let your friends know what ingredients are made with some of the other more common food allergies, such as wheat, or nuts.

Sugar bowl with creamer
Sugar bowl with creamer | Source

Buffet of foods:

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Place a slice of roast beef onto a baguette; top with mushroom and tomato.Fresh tomato, mushrooms, bread and left over roast beef.Ingredients for Cucumber shrimp appetizerCucumber with shrimp salad.Salmon baguettesChicken cherry salad in phylo cupsPuff pastry cut into 3 different sized hearts.Strawberry StacksA plate full of Valentine sugar cookiesBottom of My Heart Valentine Cookies
Place a slice of roast beef onto a baguette; top with mushroom and tomato.
Place a slice of roast beef onto a baguette; top with mushroom and tomato. | Source
Fresh tomato, mushrooms, bread and left over roast beef.
Fresh tomato, mushrooms, bread and left over roast beef. | Source
Ingredients for Cucumber shrimp appetizer
Ingredients for Cucumber shrimp appetizer | Source
Cucumber with shrimp salad.
Cucumber with shrimp salad. | Source
Salmon baguettes
Salmon baguettes | Source
Chicken cherry salad in phylo cups
Chicken cherry salad in phylo cups | Source
Puff pastry cut into 3 different sized hearts.
Puff pastry cut into 3 different sized hearts. | Source
Strawberry Stacks
Strawberry Stacks | Source
A plate full of Valentine sugar cookies
A plate full of Valentine sugar cookies | Source
Bottom of My Heart Valentine Cookies
Bottom of My Heart Valentine Cookies | Source

Make a menu and plan ahead

The best part about having a tea is that you don't have to cook separately from feeding the rest of the family. Without good organization you can have regular family meals, but in larger quantities about a week ahead of the party, tuck away the leftovers in the refrigerator, and then start preparations by thawing these foods the day or two before the party.

For my main menu I included:

(Leftover) sliced roast beef on toasted, sliced baguette with mushroom and tomato slice.

Chopped shrimp salad on cucumber slices.

Smoked salmon on toasted baguette.

And, mini phylo cups with leftover roast chicken made into a salad with chopped cherries.

For my dessert tray I made:

Valentine shaped sugar cookies-an easy cutout recipe from a Betty Crocker package.

Strawberry Stacks using a frozen puff pastry and fresh strawberries.

Bottom of My Heart Valentine Cookies.

And, Orange Cranberry Muffins with a marscapone topping.

Most of the ingredients were easy to find in the grocery store and what I could not, I improvised. I changed some of the traditional recipes, such as a chicken salad, and added a fresh cherry and walnuts to replace chopped celery.

When you are the host of the party you have the opportunity to serve both traditional foods and something new. That's what makes attending a tea party so never know what you will be experiencing.


What type of tea?

There are so many types of tea, the sky is the limit. You can take into consideration your guests preferences, if you happen to know what they may be; or, you can set the tea selection-bagged or loose, as a buffet and allow them to choose. I would include a Breakfast Tea, an Earl Grey, herbal selections, and a green tea.

If you happen to be lucky enough to have someone from the family act as a server, that is an ideal situation-then you can also sit back and enjoy the party. Another way to handle serving, is to designate, or ask for volunteers, at each table. Of course, as hostess you will be overseeing the process for fresh water, sweeteners, and cream.

Pachelbel's Canon

Music or conversation?

It's always more enchanting, I believe, to attend a tea party with live chamber music. In most cases, unless your affair happens to be a bit more formal. But, music and conversation go well together and it certainly is just as easy to add some quiet, background music to the room. It helps to break up the lull between talk, and it acts to soothe any jitters there may be.

Select a nice classical CD or perhaps soft jazz. Put the player out of the way of the guests, in an area that won't become a nuisance to get to when changing CD's.

Does hosting a tea party for friends appeal to you?

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A beautiful and cheery, floral tea pot
A beautiful and cheery, floral tea pot | Source


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    • Denise Handlon profile imageAUTHOR

      Denise Handlon 

      6 years ago from North Carolina

      You don't need to enjoy tea, just enjoy being at a tea and eating (delicately, mind you, lol) the nice food. :) Thanks for stopping by.

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      6 years ago from north miami FL

      Interesting concept for Valentines Day. I wish I enjoyed tea. Good hub

    • Denise Handlon profile imageAUTHOR

      Denise Handlon 

      6 years ago from North Carolina

      Hi DDE I hope you are inspired to have a tea party with some friends. It's a great way to just relax and make an ordinary day special. :)

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      Devika Primić 

      6 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hosting A Valentines Day Tea Party is an awesome idea and this sounds a great way to make this day special but in a different way.

    • Denise Handlon profile imageAUTHOR

      Denise Handlon 

      6 years ago from North Carolina

      Hi Dianna, I love putting on teas and little parties...actually, I have never really entertained anyone here in NC, although I would love to have the opportunity. Hope you take this little tea one step at a time to put something together.

      VVanNess-I noticed that you have a wedding planning business, how very fun! I would love to have places to set up my tea ideas. Any questions you may have feel free to give me a shout via my email address. :) Enjoy your new role, mommy.

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      Victoria Van Ness 

      6 years ago from Fountain, CO

      I love this idea! We are always having friends over for dinner parties and get togethers. I would love to have more ideas like this to prepare for them when they come over. Great job pulling this together!

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      Dianna Mendez 

      6 years ago

      I would love to have a Valentines Day tea some year. I love your opening photo buffet of treats. It would be fun to have friends over to enjoy the holiday in this fashion. Thanks for the idea.

    • Denise Handlon profile imageAUTHOR

      Denise Handlon 

      7 years ago from North Carolina

      Oh Elle-that is funny...a pizza at a tea is NOT usual menu fare, is it? lol

      It would be wonderful to have a tradition such as this until the daughter outgrows it, right? lol (But just for a little while...they always come back to it). Thanks for sharing your experience. :)

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      7 years ago

      Brings back lots of memories for me. My mom used to host Valentine's Day Tea parties for my sister and I and our friends every year. The first year she tried to go fancy/traditional tea and none of the kids liked the food so we ended up ordering a pizza. After that she kept it more kid friendly (which I think involved skipping the food part and just sticking with dessert, tea and hot cocoa). We always had so much fun, and it is definitely something I hope to do with my own daughters someday (God willing).

    • Denise Handlon profile imageAUTHOR

      Denise Handlon 

      7 years ago from North Carolina

      Hi Vicki-thanks for your comments. It was so fun to put the food together, or even set up the menu! I think a Mother's Day Tea would be an excellent idea. Let me know if you do one. Gracias for the votes. :)

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      Victoria Lynn 

      7 years ago from Arkansas, USA

      Lovely hub! What wonderful delicacies! This would be fun anytime of the year with a group of girlfriends.It would also be fun for Mother's Day! Many votes!

    • Denise Handlon profile imageAUTHOR

      Denise Handlon 

      7 years ago from North Carolina

      Hi Genna-I had a lot of fun putting this hub together. I cooked, baked and sampled! lol Thanks for your comments.

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      Genna East 

      7 years ago from Massachusetts, USA

      Delicious, inviting and colorful ideas to celebrate Valentine’s Day Tea, Denise. What fun and such innovative creativity. :-)

    • Denise Handlon profile imageAUTHOR

      Denise Handlon 

      7 years ago from North Carolina

      Hi Tim-I'm glad you found this useful. I will think happy thoughts for you in the weeks ahead planning your tea. :) Feel free to email me with any additional questions.

      Hi Vinaya-How wonderful that your brother owns a restaurant. I don't like doing dishes either, so my nephew does them most of the time, ha ha. Well, a lovely 'paper plate' that is decorated nicely may do for dishes, but you'd still have tea cups, saucers, and pots and pans to clean up. Thanks for reading.

    • Vinaya Ghimire profile image

      Vinaya Ghimire 

      7 years ago from Nepal

      I'm planning a small friendly gathering in a restaurant owned by my brother on V D. However, I also loved this idea. My only fear is I don't like doing dishes.

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      Tim Mitchell 

      7 years ago from Escondido, CA

      This is a nice idea for sure. More so ideal for that special day. Thank you for sharing Denise. I like roses of various colors in a plain pitcher of late, not sure why. I think the idea of offering what each is of with all the allergies and diet restrictions for some is darn smart.

      Why just today I was attacked by four beautiful girls of adoring smiles. Seems cookies was that theme. They thought I odd I read each label. One asked why? I shared diabetes and finally said, "I want as many cookies at one time as I can, so I'm counting carbs." Seems those mint delicacies just don't suit, the peanut butter will do.

      Thank you for that indulgence to share. Yet, much more the idea of a tea gathering. I look forward to that setting down the road a piece. I am now acquainted with more of a how to today, thank you . . .


    • Denise Handlon profile imageAUTHOR

      Denise Handlon 

      7 years ago from North Carolina

      Hi Stephanie-I'm so glad this hub inspired you to have another tea party. Enjoy! Thanks for the Vote up :)

      Hi Justsilvie-thanks for the vote and share. I'm so glad you enjoyed it.

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      7 years ago

      This is lovely idea! Voted up and sharing.

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      Stephanie Henkel 

      7 years ago from USA

      It's been so long since I've hosted a tea party, but this is inspirational! Your food suggestions are great, and seem quite easy to put together. I love getting out my good china cups and saucers, pretty tea pots and lace tablecloths...maybe this Valentine's Day is the day to do it! :) Voted up all the way!

    • Denise Handlon profile imageAUTHOR

      Denise Handlon 

      7 years ago from North Carolina

      Hi Ruby-me too! :) I hope you enjoy. Thanks for stopping by.

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      Maree Michael Martin 

      7 years ago from Northwest Washington on an Island

      I LOVE tea parties. I am so going to try some of these ideas. Awesome.

    • Denise Handlon profile imageAUTHOR

      Denise Handlon 

      7 years ago from North Carolina

      Om, I couldn't agree with you more...besides the wonderful tea, the bite sized food is what excites me, lol. Thanks for visiting.

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      Om Paramapoonya 

      7 years ago

      Your menu sounds wonderful. I really like hosting a tea party although I don't have time to do it very often. It's just a lot less stressful than arranging a real dinner party, I think. Also, bite-size foods just look so cute!

    • Denise Handlon profile imageAUTHOR

      Denise Handlon 

      7 years ago from North Carolina

      Thanks Vellur-the food is delicious, and it's always fun to have tea with good friends. Thanks for the vote. :)

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      Nithya Venkat 

      7 years ago from Dubai

      Your Valentine's Day tea party must be awesome. Great ideas and tips, thanks for sharing. Voted up.

    • Denise Handlon profile imageAUTHOR

      Denise Handlon 

      7 years ago from North Carolina

      It's fun...and, if you haven't noticed-I love food, lol.

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      Natasha Pelati 

      7 years ago from South Africa

      That would be a great idea!

    • Denise Handlon profile imageAUTHOR

      Denise Handlon 

      7 years ago from North Carolina

      Hi Prasetio-thanks! A Valentine's tea is always fun. I hope you enjoy. Thanks for the vote. :)

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      7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Hi, Denise. You have wonderful hub here and I love your tips. I can't wait to celebrate the Valentines Day with tea party. Thanks for share with us. Voted up!


    • Denise Handlon profile imageAUTHOR

      Denise Handlon 

      7 years ago from North Carolina

      Hi Amanda-I'm so glad you enjoyed the hub and were inspired to think of that tea room-so...don't tell me you have no one to invite? Tell me more...

      Oh, girishpuri-that would be a wonderful treat for both of us to meet. ha ha. Thank you for commenting. :)

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      Girish puri 

      7 years ago from NCR , INDIA

      It sounds so good, it means i have to be in north Carolina on Valentine's Very delicious hub, God bless.

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      7 years ago from Michigan, United States

      Ah, I would just love to do this if only I knew who to invite! I even know the perfect little tea room, able to be rented out for small parties, that I would choose to bring my treats to and invite my guests to. Lovely hub!

    • Denise Handlon profile imageAUTHOR

      Denise Handlon 

      7 years ago from North Carolina

      Generally speaking, Sid, I invite my grandkids, ha ha. Seriously, I have another hub about having a 'tea posy tea party for tots and tweens'

      I have never been to a tea with men, (only boys as stated earlier), so the answer is 'women'. I would certainly invite men, or couples, however they don't seem to be as interested. Perhaps it's the size of the sandwiches that are usually served at teas, lol.

      Thanks for dropping by, I appreciate your question.

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      Sid Kemp 

      7 years ago from Boca Raton, Florida (near Miami and Palm Beach)

      This is a really fascinating idea - do you generally invite women, men, or couples?

    • Denise Handlon profile imageAUTHOR

      Denise Handlon 

      7 years ago from North Carolina

      Hi Barb-thanks for stopping by and I hope this has inspired you to plan a tea with your friends. :)

      Hi Sharkey-my thoughts exactly! I don't have that special someone in my life anymore, but I sure do have some dear friends. Thanks for your comments.

      Hi Eddy-Thanks for the vote and share. ((Hub Hugs))

      moonlake-you are always welcome to come over anytime, ha ha. If you show up on my doorstep we will most certainly have tea. :) Thanks for your comments. The really gorgeous creamer and sugar bowl, as well as the large tea pot, belong to my sister. She was kind enough to email me some photos, ha ha. All of my good stuff is up in Michigan.

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      7 years ago from America

      Can I come? It all looks so beautiful. I love your dishes. Voted up.

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      7 years ago from Wales

      What a wonderful idea Denise;I vote up and share.

      Enjoy your weekend.


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      Jayme Kinsey 

      7 years ago from Oklahoma

      Such a beautiful hub. what a great idea too, a Valentine's Tea party! Its a great way to expand the holiday to represent more than just love between romantic partners. The day should be used to show love for family and friends as well!

    • yogawithbarb profile image


      7 years ago from Tennessee

      I like this idea. Looks like fun and you're right, February is kind of dull but this would brighten it up.

    • Denise Handlon profile imageAUTHOR

      Denise Handlon 

      7 years ago from North Carolina

      Hi Janine-thank you! I hope you enjoy your tea party-drop me a line when you have your gathering to let me know how it went.

      Hi Danette-definitely, we'll do tea. BTW-it wasn't super quick! I spent a couple of w/e's baking/fixing appetizers/snapping photo's lol. Thanks for your comments and definitely tea! :)

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      Danette Watt 

      7 years ago from Illinois

      Well, next time we're together we'll have to find a tea to go to so neither of us has to do the work! But this seemed easy enough to pull together, especially with finger foods which are more fun to make than whole meals, in my opinion - they leave room for more creativity. Voted up

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      Janine Huldie 

      7 years ago from New York, New York

      Denise, loved this idea and pinned it to try in the future. Thanks for sharing this here!!

    • Denise Handlon profile imageAUTHOR

      Denise Handlon 

      7 years ago from North Carolina

      Hi Ishwaryaa-thanks for your feedback. This article has been a long time in putting together-a couple of weekends of cooking, photographing and eating, ha ha! I'd love to sit down to one of YOUR teas-the food sounds great. :) Thanks for the votes.

      Hi Tashonthetown-thanks for your comments. Wouldn't it be fun to visit other hubbers for tea in their country?

      Hi europewalker-it's a fun occasion for sure. BTW-the Valentine cookies are really yummy! Like Lays potato chips-you can't eat just one. Thanks for your feedback and yes, try the recipe, it's easy and the results look so elegant. :)

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      7 years ago

      What a lovely idea. Those Valentine cookies look delicious, will have to try the recipe.

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      Natasha Pelati 

      7 years ago from South Africa

      what a great idea and it looks delicious!

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      Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 

      7 years ago from Chennai, India

      An engaging hub with amazing ideas & wonderful photos! I have given a tea-party for friends a couple of times. I had made Indian snacks and laid out shop-bought Indian sweets. Once again, an interesting hub. Well-done!

      Thanks for SHARING. Useful & Awesome. Voted up, pinned & shared

    • Denise Handlon profile imageAUTHOR

      Denise Handlon 

      7 years ago from North Carolina

      You're amazing! I just finished tweaking it with the rest of the photos, ha ha. Thanks-the food was sooo good! I'm still finishing off the rest of those muffins. You've got to try the food, even if you don't share it with anyone at a tea party, but bring it into work. You'll get rave reviews. :)

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      7 years ago

      Looks yummy!


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