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Bringing in the New Year - Superstitions, Resolutions, Aftermath, New Beginnings

Updated on January 2, 2012

Out With the Old, In With the New

New Years day brings in a fresh start, a new beginning; at least it's suppose to.

Much like the day to day superstitions we have about things, like: exit the way you came (if you enter someone's house via the front door, exit through the same door if you intend to visit again), or another favorite of mine: don't make changes to your house for a day if you want your visitor to return, many of us hold New Year superstitions as well.

Take me for example. I believe that if you want the new year to bring certain things, you must be prepared for those things, and actually come into the new year prepared. It's the reason so many New Years resolutions go nowhere, find themselves in the dustbin before one can blink an eye.

New Year Resolution Note:

While you may not identify with the exact situation I'll be sharing here, I know that you all have a New Years resolution story. You all have a hope, a dream, a resolution. You all want to believe in yourselves, and so you should. Not everyone is going to understand where we come from, or why we believe or feel the way we do. Not everyone is going to have the same hierarchy of importance. Not everyone is going to feel the same gut feelings. Certainly life will not always be smooth sailing. It is, however, up to us to stand up for ourselves. It's up to us to do what's best and believe that yes we can, yes we will.

I'd like this article to be one of the readers' own reflection and hope that my story rang a bell of familiarity with someone and gave some sort of reason to celebrate oneself.

  • Make that New Year resolution.
  • Be ready for it - prepare in advance, and know that being ready and prepared may not matter one iota.
  • Make sure it's one you want and that has meaning for you more than it does for anyone else, because if it doesn't have meaning, chances are, you won't achieve it, especially if the only support you have is yourself.
  • Don't give up.
  • Make sure it's a resolution that is within your means to achieve on your own or that you DO have someone who is on your side for better or for worse, whether it be to just let you about your way or someone to offer a helping hand, or one who can be right in there with you.
  • If you don't succeed, know that you tried your best and find ways to understand why things may not have panned out.
  • Know that you ARE as important as anyone else, no matter what anyone else says.

My Story Starts Here

About five years ago, I noticed the neatness of my house begin to fall apart a bit due to growing children who were becoming more and more independent, doing more and more on their own. Unfortunately cleaning up after themselves on a larger, but doable, scale, was getting harder to accomplish.

It may be a silly superstitious thought, but in the quest for a more peaceful, smooth sailing life for the whole family, I believed with all my heart that if all was clean as a whistle by the time the clock chimed 12 midnight January 1st, it (my house) would be the home of peace and tranquility, that keeping things beautiful would be a piece of cake throughout the coming year. It would be easy for my children to adjust to keeping up with the responsibilities that came with their independent abilities. This would mean that instead of cleaning, I would actually have time to enjoy a magazine or juicy book, now and again.

A superstition is a superstition if you believe in it. Its effects are stronger psychologically, when your heart is in on it.

Truth be told, I am not one for New Years resolutions in general. I figure if you want to change yourself or something about your life, New Years is not the only time to do it. It was always a bit of a laugh to me when I thought about people and their New Years resolutions; how those resolutions would probably never see themselves through because they were not really planned for before hand. You really have to be out with the old, in with the new for a change to really take place. Because really, what is New Years Day but a new day... another day. Like all those before and all those to come. The action of resolving and following through comes from within ourselves. The day is not the energy we need to accomplish our resolutions, that energy lies within our own selves.

So, here I was, with something a bit more than a New Years resolution - I had planned a decently cleaned and organized home, and I was executing. There was GOING to be an out with the old and in with the new all in time for the New Year's Eve kiss. Everything was going to go as planned. Everything was going to be perfect. I was elated.

Like with almost everything, however, there was a "but".


What happens when other people that affect and effect your life have resolutions of their own? What happens when you come up against a wall and can't move it? What then?

I have discovered something else about New Years resolutions, another reason they don't work, and it has taken me this long to discover why. It has taken me this long to separate my feelings of defeat and anger (yes Frieda gets angry, however quiet an anger it may be, it's there), to see the real truth of it all.

The reason New Years resolutions absolve themselves before ever getting off the runway is sabotage. Call it what you will. I call it sabotage. I call it someone bigger and stronger than you cutting your importance short.

If you had full support in your plans, your dreams, would they not come to fruition? One has to believe that they are as important as the next person, as capable, as valuable. But are we really? When we want and need something with all our heart, and we express that want and need verbally and through action to all those around us at the most crucial of moments, don't we deserve to be understood and supported? Especially when we've called shotgun before anyone else had the chance to realize that they could?

I am a believer of myself. I believe that if you want to get something done, you need to expect that you will have to get it done by yourself, and if you're lucky, someone is going to come along and help you, but don't count on it. This is not a pessimistic form of thinking, but rather an elating one and quite optimistic because it is truthful and you are able to figure out not only where you stand, but can set your limits based on how much you feel you can attain on your own.

I also believe that giving yourself more than you can handle realistically, is not a good thing.

And I believe that where there's a will there's a way.

I should rephrase the last belief. It should be in past tense. I used to believe that where there's a will there's a way, because sometimes there just isn't. Sometimes when you go against the grain, rub up against another's present comfort for a future of finer comforts, you're rubbing against the bark of the wrong tree. Simply put, some people just don't have the power to make others believe that the world is round.

On this particular New Year's Eve, my sister was over to celebrate with us. My husband was there. The children were in bed. The shampagne was chilled. The house was almost almost clean. My sister had her own problems. Cleaning and organization was never a forte of hers. My husband could care less if there was a mess until it got in his way. Both knew my goal and the reason, though, and they also knew how much this meant to me, yet not a finger was lifted to help me in any shape or form. And that's okay, it was my resolution, not theirs. That said, may I also say that I love them both dearly and that I have long since come to terms with the fact that a frying pan to their heads will change nothing of their convictions or abilities, or beliefs.

The minutes were coming close. I was almost done. Either way, I had done my best and would share in a glass of shampagne and would have my New Year's kiss. I put my mop down. I had been told to do so for the last half hour, no one understanding. But I had not put it down because I was told to, I put it down because it was time to. Because I was ready to. Because while I was flustered that I was alone on this resolve of mine where the New Year was concerned, I had followed through, gave myself a chance and a deadline, and that deadline was there.

I gathered close. I don't remember what was said or laughed about or otherwise. I don't remember anything but happiness and pride that I, at least, had done my best. I looked pretty, I felt pretty. I had a smile on my face. Cross your fingers for the New Year to bring the best of comfort and happy faces and times to be together doing cool stuff because all was well.

Here's what happened.

I was smiling.

Shapagne was handed to me.

10-9-8-7-6-5-4-3-2-1- HAPPY NEW YEAR!

Glasses were raised.

Toasts were made.


And just before drinking, a final toast was given:

"I wish my wife would chill out."

How could anyone drink to that? How could my beliefs, convictions, devotion, be dismissivly placed in a pot of such muck! Cast aside with the baby water. My previous actions that evening had been settled on for anal retentiveness. Where was the pride? The job well done?

I cried.

So how did things end up?


I let someone else's words eat through me. I let my anger get the best of me. I played the "I'll show you" card, dropping caution to the wind, giving up my sense of pride and blamed others for my lack of strength and hurt feelings, only to have myself deemed as lazy.

Oh sure, I have since tried to make amends, to start over where my resolution began, but not to any avail. Why? Because each time I gave up. Because each time I felt like the perfect home that I was accustomed to for so many years was now an anal retentive dream that could only be achieved by the young and I was now tired and too used to lazing about. I had found other things to occupy myself with. Things that allowed me to stop at any given moment with longer lived visual achievements.

To be honest, I felt like the person with the crappy house driving the BMW. What good is a BMW if you can't drive it home?

My New Years Plans and a Bit of Resolution Advice

These past couple of years have been filled with many accomplishments for me. And all from starting with nothing but an idea or two, a question or two, a what if, a what can be. All on my own. From scratch if you will. None of these accomplishments could have been achieved without belief in myself, my own belief in myself, my own determination. I took chances I would not have before. I ignored any and all unsporting words and thoughts, and never once took for granted the words of belief, most from strangers no less. I have taken my own advice time and again. Along the way, I've seen others from all parts of the world do the same. They have been a huge source of inspiration and I admire each of them greatly.

Now if we could achieve so much from mere determination and self conviction, touch so many, reach so many. Couldn't I then try again with past dreams and hopes that have failed? With all I've learned, couldn't I this time succeed? Couldn't I continue where I left off in my own home, my own space, my own surroundings, my own family?

Yes. Yes I can. And yes I will.

HAPPY NEW YEAR! And cheers to me... and cheers to you.

Fact is we all go through times like these and it's up to us to pick ourselves up, wipe ourselves off, learn something about ourselves and those around us, and move on.

Life is great. It forces us to be strong. It forces us to believe in ourselves to survive. Make the most of your new year and embrace it.


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      Keely Deuschle 4 years ago from Florida

      Oops! Sorry! I got confused! I'm feeling like a dork now! :)

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      Keely Deuschle 4 years ago from Florida

      Frieda, Happy New Year and congratulations on HOTD! I have often felt what you felt, and have chosen to believe in myself! Plus, a few good clonks are good now and again! Thank you for sharing!

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      joanna elizabeth 6 years ago

      Thanks Frieda, I am going to make this year the most meaningful of my life and am looking at all the things you say about people and going it alone and deep down it is really very good to know that I'm not alone you put this out there for me to read and share

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      Dolores Monet 7 years ago from East Coast, United States

      Well, Happy New Year to you again, Frieda! Actually, we cleaned our house top to bottom for the new year, thinking it a great way to start 2011. Then we promptly left for several days. I just like to be off to a fresh start!

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      Frieda Babbley 8 years ago from Saint Louis, MO

      Oh yes, many good clonks, lol. I think I've straightened the both of us out! Thanks so much for the read, Tony.

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      Tony McGregor 8 years ago from South Africa

      Sorry to only come to this Hub when the year is almost halfway gone! It must have been a shattering experience and I hope you are over it by now and have given the man a few clonks on the head with that heavy-bottomed frying pan I know you have! LOL!

      Brave lady - thanks for sharing and no blah-blah!

      Love and peace


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      De Greek 8 years ago from UK

      No bla, blah... BUT I had a similar experience when I was 8 and I rememeber that I acted the same way as you did. I am assuming that you are older than that... Let things fo in a timely manner :-) Good luck :-)

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      Frieda Babbley 8 years ago from Saint Louis, MO

      Thanks Dolores! Sorry, there must have been a glitch because I didn't get notified of some of my comments. I know what you mean. Thanks, and I hope so. =D

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      Dolores Monet 8 years ago from East Coast, United States

      Happy New Year, Frieda! Personally, I don't make New Year's resolutions. I don't want to feel like a failure when I forget about them. Congratulations on winning the best nonfiction hubber! Who needs resolutions when you have awards. You must be doing something right!

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      Frieda Babbley 8 years ago from Saint Louis, MO

      Of course, Michael. I don't think it's ever too late to say Happy New Year. And thanks for the Hawaiian Happy New Year lesson. I'm going to practice and use it. Awesome. Hau'oli Makahiki Hou!

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      Michael AngelOh 8 years ago from Hawaii

      Aloha Frieda... Hope it's still not to late to wish you a Happy New Year..! or as we say in Hawaii:

      "Hau'oli Makahiki Hou"

      (pronounced how-oh-lee ma-ka-hee-key ho)

      ..Happy New Year..

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      Frieda Babbley 8 years ago from Saint Louis, MO

      Lol. Well, you know TG, it's never too late to wish someone a Happy New Year. Here's to a wonderful one ahead. Cheers!

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      TattoGuy 8 years ago

      Ooopps, I fell asleep watching tv, what can I say lol ; )

      Have a great 2010 my friend !

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      Frieda Babbley 8 years ago from Saint Louis, MO

      You're welcome, and thanks for reading Ladybird33. I'm glad it got you thinking. A most Happy New Year to you.

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      Ladybird33 8 years ago from Fabulous USA

      You are truly a gifted writer. This hub was very thoughtful and provoking in which it made me think about my goals, life works, and many other thoughts running through my mind. Hope you have a wonderful year, thank you for this hub.

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      Frieda Babbley 8 years ago from Saint Louis, MO

      Hi Keith. Thanks so much. Glad you liked it. Happy New Year to you too!

      shayari, great to see you here. Thanks and you're welcome. I think most that believe in certain superstitions do so because of tradition. So many of them, so many reasons why they're still around. So many really don't care. Sometimes it's just fun. And of course they only mean something if you believe in them. Happy New Year shayari. May it be your best one yet!

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      shayari 8 years ago from Austin, TX

      Another nice hub from Frieda! Thanks for those pictures as well. I personally don't believe in superstitions, but during some weak moments, I did believe in some of them especially when confidence level was low.

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      Keith Schroeder 8 years ago from Wisconsin

      Woderful hub. I enjoyed it very much. Keep us the good writing and Happy New Year.

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      Frieda Babbley 8 years ago from Saint Louis, MO

      Happy New Year C.C. Hope you had splendid fun. I think this year is going to be a fabulous one.

      Nicks, I think you're absolutely right. Happy New Year to you. And thank you so much for taking the time to read and comment here.

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      Nicks 8 years ago

      Perhaps we should concentrate upon starting every day as if it was the start of a New Year - that way all of us would continue the optimism of January 1st thoughout the year. Is that not the answer?

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      ralwus 8 years ago

      Well my pretty Greek Goddess, I hope the New year was better than this one you told us about. Wise words from a wise lady and all too familiar to me. My house gets messed up all too frequent. Hugs CC

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      Frieda Babbley 8 years ago from Saint Louis, MO

      Happy new year TG! Thanks much. I think it's already New Year where you are? Cheers!

      Hi Sheila. You've got one too? I'll check it out after the festivities. Happy New Year!

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      Sheila Wilson 8 years ago from Pennsylvania

      Good topic for a Hub. Great minds think alike. ;)

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      TattoGuy 8 years ago

      I haven't forgot my promise Frieda and although I posted my comment as BadCompany I will be here at 11:58 New Years Eve to wish you a Happy New Year, you are a lovely and remarkable person, don't you ever forget that !

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      Frieda Babbley 8 years ago from Saint Louis, MO

      Hey there marco. wonderful to see you. Hope your holiday season has been splendid so far. Cheers to 2010! If I had an olive branch, I'd be doing the very same thing. What a wonderful superstition.

      Thanks for the kind words. I think we've all been there in one way or another. I have to say it still feels great that I shared this my own way and that it is appreciated by so many. It helps to put ones own life into perspective when we get to read about another's.

      A most happy and wonderful New Year to you! Good to see your fabulous face. =)

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      marcofratelli 8 years ago from Australia

      We have similar superstitions in our culture to the ones you mentioned at the start. It's also the time of year where mom keeps up with old traditions like putting a small green olive branch on every door so the following year will be green :)

      I agree that you need to believe in your new year's resolutions 100% and resolve to achieve them no matter what. At the same time it sucks when you don't get the support that keeps you focussed that extra bit longer. I know you're not looking for validation but I couldn't help but be moved by this hub.

      Hope you have a fantastic 2010. x

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      Frieda Babbley 8 years ago from Saint Louis, MO

      Hi Lita. My teachers did the same. I think this is the first time I got it right, lol. And certainly not what they would be expecting. I'm so glad you enjoyed this. Thanks greatly for the read and the thoughtful comment. Happy New Year!

      Thanks ccycle. Happy New Year to you. Cheers!

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      ccycle 8 years ago from beijing

      Would like to wish you a happy New Year and good luck.

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      Lita C. Malicdem 8 years ago from Philippines

      Since the time writing New Year's Resolution was introduced to me by my former teachers starting from the elementary grades, I regarded this as a "theme writing" lesson I carried on even in my active teaching days. Reading yours makes me guilty for treating this topic the way I did, a routine writing, that most often ended to changes only in the mind. Because you write so well, it amazes me how it can become a venue for welcoming the new year in a most positive outlook. It is a very warm and friendly hub. Thanks for sharing.

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      Frieda Babbley 8 years ago from Saint Louis, MO

      Thanks Peggy. I see what you mean about new Year's resolutions being a reawakening of one's desires. I think that if people understood the desires, they would probably be able to find a resolution that would fit and work better. I'm going to have to ponder your thoughts; they'll probably make life easier. Thanks for the read, Peggy. Cheers to a Happy New Year!

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      Peggy Woods 8 years ago from Houston, Texas

      I absolutely loved the graphics in this hub! New Year's resolutions are perhaps a reawakening of one's desires...hopefully ones that can be attainable. Cheers to a Happy New Year ahead!

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      Frieda Babbley 8 years ago from Saint Louis, MO

      I'll make the sacrifice and eat chocolate if it means research on this topic. I hope Monopoly money will do for betting because it HAS been a very tough year, lol.

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      sytor 8 years ago

      Its a fact with the cigarette companies, I would give money to bet that the others do it to (well not real money lol cos its been a tough year)EG. chocolate and sweet companies-...will have to do some research. (which means eating chocoalte)

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      Frieda Babbley 8 years ago from Saint Louis, MO

      You know what, sytor? I hadn't thought of that. You're probably so very right. Perhaps not all are intentional. Some companies probably are merely following along because it has become the thing to do, not to necessarily break the public's resolve. Most probably at this point a vicious cycle put into motion by few and carried out by many. This puts another level to my point, thanks sytor. Great discussion starter.

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      sytor 8 years ago

      Keeping to the resolution is not always just about you...did you know for example that the cigarette companies expend 90% of their advertising budgets in JANUARY. Their aim is to BREAK YOUR RESOLVE so that you start smoking as soon as possible. I bet this is not isolated to cigarette companis!! what do you guys think?

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      Frieda Babbley 8 years ago from Saint Louis, MO

      Ah, you noticed that, did you. That was on purpose. He's doing well, thanks. I'll let him know. Hope all is well with you. And yes, Happy New Year. =]

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      Cris A 8 years ago from Manila, Philippines

      I'm not getting any younger and therefore have done away with resolutions as they only add pressure and takes away from the spontaneity of life. It may be the wrong approach but it's my life. Thanks for sharing this, I enjoyed the read.

      Btw, a pic above reminded me of papermoon. How is he anyway? Tell him I said hi :D

      Happy New Year ;D

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      Frieda Babbley 8 years ago from Saint Louis, MO

      Mini resolutions all year long is best, I'm going to have to agree with you there. Much easier to handle. And I totally know what you mean about the deadline issue; a horrible thing but true so often.

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      Janetta 8 years ago

      I haven't a doubt in my mind that if you set your mind to something you could achieve it, Frieda :) I think I make mini resolutions all year long that I don't stick to, so I skip the big one one New Years lol I think its the deadline issue. If I have to do it, it makes me not want to. :)

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      Frieda Babbley 8 years ago from Saint Louis, MO

      Well thank you Captain. I think I'd better go check out your newest hub now that you're sailing again. And a wonderful Happy New Year to you too. =)

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      Frieda Babbley 8 years ago from Saint Louis, MO

      Beautifully said, Jess. You're welcome. Thanks for the read.

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      Jess Killmenow 8 years ago from Nowheresville, Eastern United States

      Thanks for this thoroughly engaging take on resolve and consequences. I know that if you want it a thing, and you believe it can be, it will be. So I say believe with all your heart and look for the tools that will magically appear to make it so.

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      Frieda Babbley 8 years ago from Saint Louis, MO

      That is a great superstition motricio! Thanks for sharing. I'm DEFINITELY going to take that advice. Crazy that you wrote this when you did because I just received word of a possible opportunity to take a special trip that I wasn't sure would be feasible. So I take your comment as a major sign. Thanks.

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      Mauricio Rodriguez 8 years ago from Bogota DC, Colombia

      Great hub Frieda.

      By tradition in my native town, if you want to travel during next year you should grab your pack or bag and take out side during next year celebration, around 5 minutes before 12'.

      Worked for me! =)

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      Frieda Babbley 8 years ago from Saint Louis, MO

      Hi Maggie. Thanks for popping in for a read.

      Putz, I agree. Goal setting IS a good alternative. Different kind of pressure. (And thanks for the compliment, gave me a big smile.)

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      Putz Ballard 8 years ago

      You are such a great writer thanks for sharing. I try not to make resolutions but goal setting is a good alternative.

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      Maggie Butler 8 years ago from Little Ole' Iowa

      Wonderful Hub... Loved it!!

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      Frieda Babbley 8 years ago from Saint Louis, MO

      Hey there Money Glitch. You're right about that I think. And yeah, the engergy and belief level put into superstitions certainly do make a difference. I think that goes for a lot of things, don't you? Great comment. Thanks!

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      Money Glitch 8 years ago from Texas

      Some superstitions can be funny and yet some of them are really just common sense being recited. I think it is the energy and the belief level that we put into them that makes them sometime come true. Great hub, thanks for sharing!

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      Success247 8 years ago

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      Frieda Babbley 8 years ago from Saint Louis, MO

      James, thank you. Always a pleasure to hear from you.

      Raven King, thanks. I'm excited for you. Sounds absolutely perfect! Many many hugs!

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      Raven King 8 years ago from Cabin Fever

      Awe, Frieda you are inspiring. Yes, I am already working on my new year's resolutions and adding a rather comprehensive list that includes the physical, the artistic, and spiritual goals and the list keeps growing.

      Many (((HUGS)))!

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      James A Watkins 8 years ago from Chicago

      Other people have resolutions of their own. How true. I enjoyed your writing here. As always, it is crisp; and the pics are great, too. Thanks for a fine read.

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      Frieda Babbley 8 years ago from Saint Louis, MO

      Hi Feline Prophet. Isn't that sad. I see what you mean by that. And no, no magic wands. Wouldn't it be grand though?

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      Feline Prophet 8 years ago

      Most people don't take their New Year resolutions seriously - they've begun to believe the cliche 'resolutions are meant to be broken'! I agree that if you really want to change things you have to prepare for them...New Year doesn't bring with it any magic wands that will do the trick.

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      Frieda Babbley 8 years ago from Saint Louis, MO

      Might Mom, thanks. Yes, I learned that lesson long ago, myself, but that moment somehow took me by such surprise. I didn't expect it or its impact. But at any rate, it woke me up quite a bit... eventually, lol. I kept saying that to myself, "we can't control what other people say or do, only our reaction to it," and yet, I reacted. Perhaps if I had started with the shampagne before the clock struck twelve all would have been a different story. Thanks, Mighty Mom, for the read and the wonderful comment, because yes, you are so very right.

      @Hmrjmr1: Carpe Diem right back atcha! Thanks much. Cheers.

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      Frieda Babbley 8 years ago from Saint Louis, MO

      @dohn121: You have quite a point there. I have often thought that keeping ones mouth shut brings about a better return of success in any endeavor. It stops the green eyed monster short until it's too late, lol (another superstition, yes, lol). In this case, in retrospect, I wonder if it would have changed anything and am doubtful about that. I think it all happened for a reason, like it was suppose to. Strange but things do tend to turn out that way sometimes and we may never know why.

      Thank you so much. You're most welcome. And yes, Happy New Year in advance to you too.

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      Frieda Babbley 8 years ago from Saint Louis, MO

      @AEvans: Well said, we always want to have something wonderful to look forward to. You are so very right about that. Happiness and blessings to you and your family today and always.

      @Quill: Always a perfect idea, a time to sit and write a blessing to each that you love, no matter what time of year. Thank you so much for that.

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      Hmrjmr1 8 years ago from Georgia, USA

      Carpe Diem!! Great Hub!

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      Susan Reid 8 years ago from Where Left is Right, CA


      I found this a most thought-provoking read. I appreciate that you've been able to put into words the exact reason our resolutions so often fail. Sabotage can come from any direction-- inner or outer.

      I winced for you during that New Year's toast. But I've been schooled in the concept that we can't control what other people say or do, only our reaction to it. A bitter pill to swallow sometimes (like those morning vitamins that taste bad but actually help us).

      I will ring in 2010 with a positive outlook. Thank you for this reflection. MM

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      dohn121 8 years ago from Hudson Valley, New York

      Thank you for this very meaningful and thoughtful hub on the year that is ahead and the year that is almost past. Your superstitions that you mentioned are nothing in comparison to Lao and Asian superstitions!

      Year after year, I rediscover that life really is what you make of it and the worst thing that any one of us can do is to have a negative viewpoint of the world. Thank you for sharing with us a bit of your personal story.

      I really believe in keeping our New Year's resolutions to ourselves, because announcing it and telling others about it only brings unnecessary pressure to us. Each day we wake up is another chance for us to do something significant with our lives. We are given an opportunity every day we wake up. We don't have to count down to strike midnight to change our lives for the better ONCE a year. You brought up some valid points which should not by any means be taken lightly.

      Thanks, Frieda. Happy New Year in advance :)

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      "Quill" 8 years ago

      The old is always followed by the new, a time to reflect at what has taken place over the past year, a time to ponder at what you can do to become a better person but the best is a time to sit and write a blessing to each that you love.

      Thank you for the great hub, may this year open new doors with the words that write.


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      Julianna 8 years ago from SomeWhere Out There

      New Year's is just around the corner and I toast with you to a better New Year, yes all of us have our superstitions,beliefs, etc. but through all of that all of us are human and we always want to have something wonderful to look forward to. I wish you happiness, success and peace in 2010. :)


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