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Re-Gifter Are you a Re-Gifter? When I first heard this word: Re-Gifter I was hor

  1. PurvisBobbi44 profile image80
    PurvisBobbi44posted 4 years ago

    Are you a Re-Gifter?
    When I first heard this word: Re-Gifter I was horrified.

    Could anyone really do that?
    I wondered what recourse one used if the party that received the gift wanted to return it for a different color or size depending on the gift. What is your opinion on the subject?
    (I might try it or not)

  2. fpherj48 profile image77
    fpherj48posted 4 years ago

    LOL....Bobbi, you're so funny...."horrified."   I know, the concept sounds really not-so-great.sad.....but, "yes," lots of people do this re-gifting.  I know I have received, as well as given "re-gifts."   
    I'll simply give you my own personal PERSPECTIVE, and you can take it from there.  OK?   After all, isn't everything, a matter of HOW we look at it?
    Let's say.....you give me a pair of gloves, as a gift.  I will love them, I'm sure and feel so special that you thought of me and be sincerely grateful...
    However, let's also say I have 4 pair of gloves, collected through the years and I wear NONE of them. 
    I have choices.....I can put these new gloves in the same drawer with the other 4 pair.....which some day, will probably all go to charity or on a Yard Sale Table (Heaven forbid!).  I could take the time & effort to return them for "something else," which is then, not the gift you gave me at all...or I could let my grandchildren stuff them with tissue and paint faces on them and make colorful Rooster Puppets...(and make damned sure they are hidden, should you stop by!)
    But instead....I wrap them and give them to my Daughter-in-law as a gift because I know she loves gloves and wears them all the time.   Technically, it's as though rather than gloves, you gave me $money$ as a gift.....and I spent that money to "shop."   (BTW....if you're giving me a gift....I LIKE money, thanks).......So, it all seems to be fine, don't you think?    It's not at all like you're passing a gift you don't LIKE, on to someone you don't LIKE.   The sentiment (thought) is there in both cases, wrapped in love.....
    Warning:  If you choose to join the ranks of the re-gifters......always keep the givers name with the gift.  One year for Christmas, I gave my mother the sweater she had given me the year before.  Since my mother, of all people, knew her daughter as an air head.....she loved it!
    Well, there ya go, Bobbi.....that's MY take on this!

    1. PurvisBobbi44 profile image80
      PurvisBobbi44posted 4 years agoin reply to this

      I think I just might try it. I makes more sense to have the gift used by someone else than sit in my closet.
      Thanks Paula for your comment.

  3. DzyMsLizzy profile image96
    DzyMsLizzyposted 4 years ago

    I go with my mother's philosophy on the topic:
    You GAVE them the gift.  It is now THEIRS, and they may do with it as they choose. No strings should be attached, and you should not be offended if they 're-gift' it, return it, donate it to charity, or whatever.
    Once you have given it, it is no longer any of your business.

    1. PurvisBobbi44 profile image80
      PurvisBobbi44posted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Hi DzyMsLizzy,
      I called some of my girlfriends and family members, and they all have re-gifted at one time or another. They were not surprised I just learned about it this year and they had re-gifted for years. I need to wake-up I suppose.

  4. Sunshine625 profile image94
    Sunshine625posted 4 years ago

    I have re-gifted and I have received re-gifted gifts. I only re-gift if I know for sure that someone else would enjoy and appreciate the gift. I appreciated the thought, but at times I didn't have use for the gift. Even when I received re-gifted gifts it's because I would use the gift more. That's my theory on re-gifting smile

    1. PurvisBobbi44 profile image80
      PurvisBobbi44posted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Hi Sunshine625,
      I am delighted to be enlightened and instead of just putting gifts I cannot use in my closet---I now know what to do with them. At least they will be enjoyed.
      What savvy women you are on HubPages. A country girl just keeps learning.

    2. fpherj48 profile image77
      fpherj48posted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Hey girl!  IMHO...."Country Girls," are the quickest learners and the smartest around!!  We listen better than those City chicks!!  LOL

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    sheilamyersposted 4 years ago

    I personally don't re-gift. I'm one of the people who will return the item in order to get the right size or color. If the item is something I really don't need, I'll return it and get something else. When it comes to gifts I give other people, I try my hardest to find out what they need or want along with sizes and colors if it's clothes. If they decide to exchange it for something else or give it to someone else, that doesn't bother me at all. As others have said, once I give them the gift, it's no longer mine.