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12 Communication Types To Avoid

Updated on October 17, 2016

Most of us communicate with others every day. Whether it's in friendship or business, conversation keeps us intertwined and interesting. Some people are easier to talk to than others. Since we are all individuals with unique personality traits how we share is part of who we are. Unfortunately there are those who, unwittingly or not, make conversation a trial. They causeĀ us to cringe, to rollĀ our eyes, to take a step away. The bad part is they don't seem to know just how annoying they are.


Everyone knows or has met one of these too close for comfort people. They have a habit of getting right in your face when they are talking to you. They know no boundaries where personal space is concerned. You can smell their breath and read the lines in their face. Stepping back doesn't seem to do any good. They move in and crowd you even in an empty room. They appear taller than they are, bigger than they are and much too friendly. Space invaders don't know where to draw the line when it comes to proximity. The best you can do is throw something very large between you and them and fast.


There's something about pointing that's insulting. It is a gesture of blame. No matter that the person you're talking to is using his finger for emphasis, it still feels like an accusation. It disrupts conversation because you can no longer listen. The pointing finger looms large and you can feel unfounded anger creeping in. You want to grab the finger and twist it but you don't. You have the urge to point back. The pointer is probably unaware of your antagonism as he continues to look like he's berating you. The best you can do is walk away.


Somewhere in our subculture there are individuals who think they know everything. Communicating with them is like sitting in the back of the class near the coat rack. Whatever you have to say doesn't matter. They know more than you, have done more than you, and are definitely better than you. A conversation with this type is like a one upmanship. You can try but you'll never win. The best you can do when talking to the know-it-all is say nothing and adopt a dead eye glazed look.


This is the person who makes you want to go to a doctor to check your hearing. You tilt your head towards them with your best ear forward and still you can't make out a thing they are saying. Asking them to speak up doesn't seem to help as their top volume is drowned out by the sound of breathing. They are quiet souls and very annoying to converse with. The best you can do with the whisperer is nod your head often and say things like "I know what you mean" and "uh huh".


The spitter is likely unaware that they are spraying you when they talk. These germ spewing communicators probably can't help it but it's wise to prepare evasion tactics. Stepping aside at the right moment is good. If you have previous experience talking with this person you might be able to calculate the distance of the spit projectile and step back just enough. Repeating "say it, don't spray it" will just embarrass them. The best you can do is learn practical dodging techniques.


This is the person who tries so hard to be funny all the time that they're not. They are the master of puns and could find humor in a war zone. Talking to the joker about anything serious is futile. They'll dig deep in their mind to find a way to entertain you. You will never really get to know this person. They may be fun to be around if you're drinking beer and watching people but don't bother to try a real discussion. The joker's humor usually borders on sarcasm. The best you can do is not expect much.


The starer takes eye contact to a whole new level. They seem to have lost their ability to blink. When talking to this person you lose your train of thought. You feel a little spooked. You want to wave your hand in front of their face to see if they are in a trance but you don't. No one wants anyone listening to them that intensely. You start to wonder if you have a booger or if your make-up is running. The best you can do when talking to a starer is wear sunglasses.


The interrupter is impossible to have a conversation with. They talk at the same time as you are talking. They seem to know what's in your head. They assume they know what you are going to say before you say it. Then they jump in with "hey, I've got an even better one than that". The most annoying interrupter will even finish your sentences for you. They'll answer their cell phone or barge in on your thoughts like a bull. This communication type is rude and a bully. The best you can do is avoid them.


This person is similar to the pointer only they touch you. Emphasis is sought with this communicator but the poking finger is darn right antagonistic. It's like they are picking a fight with you and you get the urge to slug them. This is not like a Facebook poke through cyberspace. This is real body contact poking. The poker needs to be aware that this conversation device will not be viewed as playful. The best you can do is grab their finger, shake your head and give them the evil eye.


The yawner apparently doesn't want to talk to you. You can make excuses for them that they're only tired but it's probably not true. They are likely bored. This communication type will often sneak a peek at his watch. You feel like they can't wait to get away from you. Yawning seems contagious and you have to stifle yours. Maybe you are boring yourself. The best you can do is try to be more interesting or continue to stare at the yawner's tonsils.


This person may have different reasons for repeating everything you say. They could be making fun of you. Or maybe they are only trying to acknowledge that they heard you. You say "It's on Main Street". They nod and say "Main Street". You say "The Patriots won". They say "Ah, the Patriots won" It can be irritating. If they say it in a funny voice, it's likely sarcasm. The repeater may not have an original thought. It's hard to say. But talking to them is like talking to yourself. The best you can do is talk very fast.


Unlike the pointer or the poker, the backslapper means no harm. They are congenial people who like to touch. They are friendly types who appear to enjoy talking to you. It is the chronic backslapper that makes you suspicious. They start to act like politicians and you wonder if they are being sincere. They often smile too much. The backslapper may be congratulating you or manipulating you. It's hard to tell. The best you can do is keep a reasonable space between you.

"I disapprove of what you say, but I will defend to the death your right to say it." Voltaire (1694-1778)

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    • Bijosh profile image


      7 years ago from from the cosmic sea, sustaining life and radiating purity.

      Dear Caroline Chicogo,

      I liked reading your hub. It was useful, informative and innovative. I would like read more of this kind of articles. Keep writing.

    • azure_sky profile image


      7 years ago from Somewhere on the Beach, if I am lucky :)

      What a great hub!!! Got me to laughing as well! I am a starer....after all those years of getting into trouble when I was younger, and my Dad yelling at me..."Look at me when I am talking to you!!!", I come by it honestly :) Lol Voted Up, Useful and FUNNY!!

    • Journey * profile image

      Nyesha Pagnou MPH 

      7 years ago from USA

      This is great:) Thanks for writing!

    • lilyfly profile image

      Lillian K. Staats 

      7 years ago from Wasilla, Alaska

      I like this one! My boyfriend is a know it all, and an interupter. He doesn't know I have earplugs in! Haha! Thanks again! lilyfly

    • WillStarr profile image


      7 years ago from Phoenix, Arizona

      I have met them all and I sincerely hope none of them are me.

      Voted up and awesome!

    • suziecat7 profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from Asheville, NC

      Happy New Year to you, Deepthought. I'm glad you liked my Hub.

    • Pente profile image


      7 years ago from Planet Earth

      I thought I had mastered staring until I watched your video. Now I know that I am just an amateur. I can't even make my eyes glow, much less incinerate anyone with them. I won't give up though. Practice makes perfect. So if you see anyone on the street staring so hard that their eyes are starting to bulge, don't worry, it's just me working on my "Death Star Gaze."

    • deepthought profile image


      7 years ago from In the middle of nowhere and worldwide but still that T.O.kid from da north of America

      Great hub suziecat7, well written as always and so true. that I got a smile on my face right now

      because I just had a conversation with one of those know-it-all today or should I say I listen to one... so thanks for this hub and happy new year

    • suziecat7 profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from Asheville, NC

      Thank you all for your comments.

      Epigramman - you flatter me - thanks.

    • epigramman profile image


      7 years ago

      ..this is so epic in its humor and wit that I must award you with an Epigramman top ten:


      10. funny

      9. and so true

      8. you are perceptive

      7. and wise

      6. you are a psychology major

      5. and you have the thesis here to prove it

      4. essential for all classrooms

      3. because kids will grow up and soon identify these people

      2. you are a teacher

      1. and my idea of a most wonderful classic hub!!

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      Caroline Paulison Andrew 

      7 years ago from Chicago, IL

      Great list! My mother is a pointer. I lover her dearly but boy can that finger get waving! Unfortunately, I think back in my twenties that I was an interrupter. However, I believe I got over that in my thirties. I hope. Again, great list!!

    • suziecat7 profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from Asheville, NC

      K.L. Potter - Don't you hate it when you recognize yourself? Thank you so much for your comment.

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      Alfreta Sailor 

      7 years ago from Southern California

      Suziecat7, I loooved it. I actually know most of those people, I might even be one of them. I am going to bookmark this one. Thumbs, or rather rated up. I'm even going to Digg it.

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      Denise Handlon 

      7 years ago from North Carolina

      Oh Suzie, this was hilarious reading. Thanks for a hearty chuckle. Your info was right on. I voted it up. Thanks again...

    • suziecat7 profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from Asheville, NC

      Brandon - haven't we all. Thanks for reading.

    • suziecat7 profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from Asheville, NC

      Sheila - I work with the public and the whisperer can make my job hard. Thanks so much for stopping by.

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      Wayne Brown 

      7 years ago from Texas

      And how about the old "Subject Changer" matter the importance of what you are talking about, they step in and immediately take the conversation in a totally different directions...rude! WB

    • Nicky Bantham profile image


      7 years ago

      Thoroughly enjoyed reading your hub!!A very accurate assessment of the various types of communicators. Well done!!Love the elements of humour!!Nicky

    • Kim Lynn profile image

      Kim Lynn 

      7 years ago

      Great hub and spot on!



    • Tammy L profile image

      Tammy L 

      7 years ago from Jacksonville, Texas

      I realized I am an interrupter a couple of years ago and I am trying to break the habit. I hope I'm succeeding. Great hub. Thanks.

    • Trinsick profile image


      7 years ago from Cali

      One of the best books on communication I've read is how to win friends and influence people.

    • liswilliams profile image


      7 years ago from South Africa

      awesome, that's a lot of personalities you have there

    • suziecat7 profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from Asheville, NC

      Abdromida - the truth is often the funniest thing of all. Thank you for reading.

    • NCBIer profile image


      7 years ago

      I really enjoyed this hub, so very many laughs. I'm sure I will think of this hub in the near future when I'm talking to one of these people and I will try not to laugh during the conversation, at least not out loud. Rated up. Thanks!

    • saddlerider1 profile image


      7 years ago

      Great hub and so true in all cases. I can't stand the one who invades your space and the others who want to touch you in your space. Ewwwww. I disappear as quickly as I can from most of the ones you listed. I had a smile on my face reading this hub..thanks for sharing.

    • suziecat7 profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from Asheville, NC

      Akirchner - I always think I'm going deaf. Thanks for your comments.

    • suziecat7 profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from Asheville, NC

      Sarah - You're right - nobody likes a know-it-all. Glad you enjoyed.

    • suziecat7 profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from Asheville, NC

      Daydreamer - thanks for stopping by.

    • K. L. Potter profile image

      K. L. Potter 

      7 years ago from Chicago

      Had a great time reading this. Um, I may be a little bit of a couple of these!?

    • brandonfowler66 profile image


      7 years ago from EveryWhere USA

      I enjoyed reading this hub, everything you stated so very true, I have met every type.

    • sheila b. profile image

      sheila b. 

      7 years ago

      I think I've met them all - and when you wrote about the whisperer, I remembered that's the one who most annoyed me. There's something strange about a person who always whispers. I remember I got away from that one real quick.

    • suziecat7 profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from Asheville, NC

      Jake - thanks for reading!

    • suziecat7 profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from Asheville, NC

      Nellieanna - Great to see you. Thanks for reading and I'm glad you enjoyed it.

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      syras mamun 

      7 years ago

      Very interesting and funny hub, but your analysis is so true.I really don't like the know-it-all type people.Thanks :)

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      Audrey Kirchner 

      7 years ago from Washington

      Well done! We always had to (still do occasionally) always remind our legally blind son about 'personal space' because he just didn't get that people didn't like him in their 'personal space'....he only did it because he couldn't see them but we had to visually illustrate to him how far away was appropriate. And our daughter I think is the whisperer.....I think half the time I'm going deaf!

    • Sarah Masson profile image


      7 years ago from Melbourne, Australia

      haha this is all so true. What a great hub! I especially can't stand the know it all type.

    • suziecat7 profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from Asheville, NC

      Koffee - So glad you enjoyed. Thanks for taking the time to comment.

    • daydreamer13 profile image


      7 years ago

      This is an entertaining hub! What a wonderful read!

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      Jake Gene Barnes 

      7 years ago

      Very funny Hub! I enjoyed it thoroughly.

    • suziecat7 profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from Asheville, NC

      Prasetio - Yes, my friend, it's best to avoid them if possible. It's always great to see you here.

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      Nellieanna Hay 

      7 years ago from TEXAS

      really a good article, well written and a reminder of what to NOT be oneself! Great list and so funny too!

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      Susan Hazelton 

      7 years ago from Sunny Florida

      I love your list. It's funny , you do run across so many of these different type of people in your daily life. What's really bad is if your boos is a combination of types. There's no way to escape them. I think for me The Space Invaders combined with the Know-It-all is a nightmare. Funny stuff, rated up and funny.

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      7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Wow....I never knew about this before. I hope I can avoid these communication. Honestly, I learn much from you. Thanks for showing me about this. Good work,my friend. Rating up!

      Blessing and hugs,

    • suziecat7 profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from Asheville, NC

      Hi Darlene - Always nice to see you. I have met them all myself and still do. Thanks for your kind words and taking the time to comment.

    • Ingenira profile image


      7 years ago

      So funny and so true at the same time. I had a good laugh. You are a great writer indeed !

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      Don A. Hoglund 

      7 years ago from Wisconsin Rapids

      I've run into most of them. The one I used to hate was the one who thought a handshake was a contest.

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      michael ely 

      7 years ago from Scotland

      Hi suziecat7, A really good hub with a lot of interesting examples. Funny stuff. Thanks. Michael.

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      carolina muscle 

      7 years ago from Charlotte, North Carolina

      I think I'll cop to be the Joker guy.. I laugh at anything.

    • Darlene Sabella profile image

      Darlene Sabella 

      7 years ago from Hello, my name is Toast and Jam, I live in the forest with my dog named Sam ...

      Oh how I laughed, this is for real reality of being in a crowd or party of any kind, I abhore these types, and have experienced them all. I now don't like to share my personal space that is why I am retired and love to write and I always love to read your hubs. rate up and awesome...

    • suziecat7 profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from Asheville, NC

      Giselle - I'm so glad you enjoyed. Talking to a poker will definitely raise your hackles. Thanks so much for stopping by.

    • suziecat7 profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from Asheville, NC

      Drbj - Thanks for commenting - I'll check out your Hubs.

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      Giselle Maine 

      7 years ago

      Hilarious! - but so true. I loved this hub. I'm glad to see you included the less-typically-seen Poker (I've only met a Poker once but once was enough!)

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      drbj and sherry 

      7 years ago from south Florida

      Great classifications, susie. The know-it-all is not so bad when he or she is a genuine know it all and knows what they are talking about.

      What can be deadly is the bogus-know-it-all who thinks they know it all but are mistaken about most everything. You can find out more about them on my 4 hubs: "Dealing with Difficult People."

    • suziecat7 profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from Asheville, NC

      Hi MA - Yes, that would be the know-it-all. Thanks for stopping by. It's always good to see you.

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      Mentalist acer 

      7 years ago from A Voice in your Mind!

      There's also the,I did it better than you,a person who does everything thing that you state better than you,lol;)


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