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Put Your Phone Down

Updated on June 14, 2017
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I am a mother of 3 wonderful adult children. I am a born-again Christian, I share my personal experience, Hubpages helps me to do that.

How to Get A Person to Stop Texting & To Start Talking

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How to Get A Person to Stop Texting & To Start Talking

Grant it texting and phone calls are necessary sometimes, but not to the point where it takes the place of getting to know someone and spending time with this person. Or perhaps staying in touch with someone you already know such as family members and/or friends.

Where have our 'real life relationships' gone in this day and age? Everyone wants to either text or just leave you a voice message on your cell phone. No one has the time to have that personal time speaking with each other anymore. They are either to busy texting or being on the computer.

I am told by my own children. "Mom just text me. I am busy I can't talk right now". My response is " OOOOk if that is the only way to stay in touch I guess I have to take what I can get". I hate texting it takes me forever to type those little letters lol. A sister sends me a text because they can't chat and they are 'too busy'. Nobody has time anymore. We have to take a stand and guard against letting technology replace face to face communication. Sadly it is more evident in our teens and next generation.

The home was once a place of refuge where families could talk and build strong bonds after long days at work and school. But you just don't see that any more.

The majority of teens today has very limited communication skills. They have lost the ability to build true friendships with peers around their age. Teens with their older contacts makes it a lot tougher for these kids to learn lessons from those who are older and more experienced, for example; their grandparents or parents for that matter.

My daughter and I can be in the same room but there still isn't any communication because for her; the computer is her communicator. So instead of making her want to spend time with me I resort to getting on my own computer, when in fact I should try to find ways to communicate with her but I am finding that when you do it is like your interrupting their space.

When in public if you watch the kids of this generation you will see that they are too busy texting someone else, even when they are with their other friends. There are a few exceptions but the majority are constantly on a digital device.

I have gone to restaurants only to see couples top busy texting or talking on their cell phones rather than talking to each other. We have lost the true art of really communicating and spending genuine time together, really taking the time to listen to the other person next to you or sitting across from you. Put that phone down, and give that person your undivided attention.

Put Your Phone Down You should really watch this it is soooooo true! There's a message in this for all of us!

Technology is good, but not to the point where it has replaced the lost art of true communication. This is often found among the younger generations of today's world. But I am also seeing it with all generations in modern times.

Couples are they really being heard by their significant other

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Couples Need To Spend More Time With Each Other

As I stated before that I observed couples in a public setting and watched many of them spending more time with their cell phones then with each other. Sad but true.

I read, that they did a study with couples. They discovered these couples didn’t really know each other. They had them spend ten minutes of their time with just chatting. What was discovered in this test was having each one share their feelings. The couples who met for the first time and interacted with casual conversation having their phones with them in sight felt a lower quality interaction therefore having a less prudential of a deeper meaningful relationship because the very sight of the cell phone made them feel as though they weren’t getting the other persons undivided attention.

On the other hand, the couples who have spent ten minutes in conversation without their phones felt that there was a much better connection for a more meaningful conversation, and perhaps down the road a deeper relationship.

The conclusion: The presence of a cell phone can sometimes have a negative effect on personal relationships. By not keeping your phone in the other persons sight and ditching this device can possibly lead to feelings of closeness, trust, and more meaningful conversation.

Cell phones in my opinion are necessary but when you are spending quality time with someone then the best thing is not to let this device interfere with the person and/or persons that you regularly spend your time with.

My Son and I At Dinner

I was spending quality time with my son. He was spending quality time with his phone. "Excuse me Adam, Can you please put your phone down"?

U.S. Young Adults Admit Too Much Time on Cell Phones, Web Overall, Americans most likely to say television occupies too much of their time

 
18 to 29
30 to 49
Using your cell phone 27%
58%
30%
Using social media websites, such as Face Book
48%
17%
Doing email
20%
15%
Watching Television
26%
33%
These results are based on answers to questions included in Gallup Daily tracking interviewing conducted April 9-10, asking Americans if they spend too much time on five activities involving "screens" -- using cell phones or smartphones, doing email,

Even in Church

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A Very Embarrassing Moment Thanks To My Cell Phone

I remember being so embarrassed one time because I went to a service and thought that my phone was set to silent. I showed up late (for some reason I can't recall), something I really hate to do. To top it off the pastor just got through reminding everyone to please shut off their phones. Shortly after he was giving his message,about five minutes later my phone rings and it is on loud ringer. I couldn’t find that dang phone well I slightly panicked and began digging in my purse. Finally it stops ringing only for it to start up again, this time the pastor is staring at me.

So I get up being almost in the front of the church with my phone still ringing, struggling to find it in my purse as I was walking out with everyone staring. I finally get outside (this is at night), and it was the wrong number. I disrupted the entire message and service because I took my cell phone into church without silencing the device.

I have watched others in church while they are busy texting on their phones. Isn’t that awful that we feel that we have to be with our cell phones, even in church? I was so embarrassed and rightfully so I should of been, that was very rude on my part.

Come on people, what did we do before the cell phone existed? I don’t see much of the good ole' fashion way of communicating anymore. Grant it there is a need for a cell phone in necessary circumstances. But when it becomes a replacement for one- on -one, face to face talking, and not allowing for interruptions with this gadget. It is like a matter of life and death if we can’t have our phone with us 24-7. It has become like someone stated our DNA.

I fear for our younger generation who only know how to communicate this way; via through texting, email, Twitter, Facebook, and any other social media you can name. I hope the art of communication isn’t lost entirely.

Important!

Do Not Text While You Are Driving!!! There are more accidents texting with your cellphones then there are drinking and driving. Take it seriously and STOP doing that while you are driving. I can't stress that enough!

Is Texting While Driving More Dangerous Than Drunk Driving?

According to one DWI attorney in Houston, the answer is yes. “In 2014, 3,179 people were killed and 431,000 were injured due to car accidents involving distracted drivers and the number is rising every year. Drunk driving claimed 9,967 lives in 2014 and was responsible for only 290,000 injuries, a number that decreases each year.”

By http://distracteddriveraccidents.com/author/kiernan/

Having A Cellphone

The majority of us have a cell phone if you leave the house without your phone. What do you do?

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    • lisln profile imageAUTHOR

      LorLinda 

      3 years ago from Denver Colorado

      Ha ha tell me about it very embarrassing to say the least but well earned for not keeping my phone in the car.

    • DLeighAlexander profile image

      DLeighAlexander 

      3 years ago

      Thanks for writing this story. I think many times cell phone usage is extreme. I remember when talking on the phone was only done at home or on a pay phone. My how things have changed!

      How embarrassing for your cell phone to go off in church. I can feel your pain. Getting a wrong number can really be a problem.

      Good thought provoking input.

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