Mom's Final Lesson Part II Sagittarius Doesn’t Forget
My mom knew that anything she said, or did, at the end of her life would be something that I would truly take to heart. I would like to note that my mom’s final lesson was about me being able to forgive; mom didn’t say a word about me having to forget, and there’s a reason why.
The story in the Bible of Jacob receiving his new name, Israel, from the nameless angel (Man), is a reference to Sagittarius (My mom pointed that out to me). The angel wrestled with Jacob, and put Jacob’s hip out of its socket, just before sunrise. The hip is the part of the body that Sagittarius rules, and being at dawn (Meaning that Jacob’s day was beginning in Sagittarius) tells you that Jacob’s birth sign was Sagittarius.
When Jacob’s first born son, Reuben, slept with Jacob’s concubine, Bilhah, the Bible said that Israel (Jacob) heard about it, but that’s all it says. Until years later, when Jacob was on his death bed, it was then that Jacob told Rueben that he would not excel because he went up to his father’s bed, and defiled it. Jacob never forgot what Reuben did to him, even after so many years had gone by.
This is a Biblical insight into the nature of Sagittarius, and I have proudly used this example many times, because I’m a Sagittarian, and I know that I have a difficult time forgetting what people have done to me. When I figured out that not forgetting was part of Jacob’s Sagittarius nature, I was elated, because now I had an excuse, and it was Biblical no less. My new phrase became, “I’m a Sagittarius, I don’t forget (What people do to me) and that’s Biblical!”
My mom knew that she could ask me to be forgiving of others, and I would be able to do that. However, she didn’t expect me to be able to forget, because she knows my nature. Somehow, saying that I’m a Sagittarius, I don’t forget, and that’s Biblical, doesn’t mean as much anymore. What I used to be so proud of, now I’m a little ashamed. It’s like being that person in someone’s life whom they don’t expect much from, that way you don’t let them down.
Mom was a pretty smart ol’ gal. She knew eventually that I would understand the underlying lesson about being able to forget, as well as forgive, and that it would begin to bother me to think that she couldn’t expect more than that from me. Even in death, mom is still trying to help me to be better.
I have a problem with not forgetting what people have done to me, but because I’m a Sagittarius, I’ll be able to overcome it. Thanks Mom!
March 2014: One Year Later
Looking back, it’s obvious that my mom didn’t forget that I had said something hurtful to her years ago, and I’m glad she didn’t, because I would have missed out on one of the most effective lessons I’ve ever been taught, had she of forgotten what I did.
I’ve actually spent a lot of time thinking about this over the course of a year, and I’ve come to the conclusion that forgetting about an offense isn’t always in your best interest. Remembering things that people do can help protect you from the offense (Or something similar) being repeated. Think about something that has happened in your life that you would never want to let happen again; more than likely it won’t, because you remembered the offense.
Remember the Amalek
The Sabbath before Purim is the second of four special Sabbaths leading up to the month of Nissan. The special reading for this Sabbath is Zachor (Remember!) in which God commanded the Children of Israel to remember the Amalek and not to forget!
“Remember what Amalek did to you on the way as you were coming out of Egypt, 18 how he met you on the way and attacked your rear ranks, all the stragglers at your rear, when you were tired and weary; and he did not fear God. 19 Therefore it shall be, when the Lord your God has given you rest from your enemies all around, in the land which the Lord your God is giving you to possess as an inheritance, that you will blot out the remembrance of Amalek from under heaven. You shall not forget.”
Purim: The Book of Esther
Purim is the holiday on which the events that took place in the Book of Esther are commemorated. Synagogues all over the world will celebrate and retell the story of how the wicked Haman’s plot to destroy the Jewish people, was completely foiled. Purim is celebrated so that the Jewish people will never forget what Haman (The Amalekite) tried to do, but was unsuccessful.
“So they called these days Purim, after the name Pur. Therefore, because of all the words of this letter, what they had seen concerning this matter, and what had happened to them,27 the Jews established and imposed it upon themselves and their descendants and all who would join them, that without fail they should celebrate these two days every year, according to the written instructions and according to the prescribed time, 28 that these days should be remembered and kept throughout every generation, every family, every province, and every city, that these days of Purim should not fail to be observed among the Jews, and that the memory of them should not perish among their descendants.”
To Forgive and Forget
To forgive, is a choice you have, but you can’t forgive someone who isn’t sorry or doesn’t admit that they did anything wrong. Biblically, forgiveness comes only after repentance.
To forget, on the other hand, is out of our control. Memories do tend to fade with the process of time, but sometimes there might be little things happen to reinforce a memory, and that is so you won’t forget.
Celebrate and have a joyous Purim! This Sunday, March 16, 2014
Quote: Paulo Coelho
“Forgive but do not forget, or you will be hurt again. Forgiving changes the perspectives. Forgetting loses the lesson.”
― Paulo Coelho
Mom’s been gone more than a year, a year I’ll not forget
A lesson taught before she left of words I now regret
I see the pain of a word in haste and the damage that it does
I’m thankful mom did not forget and just leave me as I was
This year has been a time to search within my inner me
To come to terms with painful thoughts which crowd my memory
But then I think of all the times those memories have been
Protection for my heart, defending from such hurt again
The Amalek and Haman’s, transcend the hands of time
They’re in every generation, including yours and mine
They’re the people bent on hurting you, and hurt repeatedly
But remembering is power, to overcome that enemy
So as the days approach when we will celebrate anew
Take the time to think about what God has walked you through
And I will long remember, without feelings of regret
That I’m a Sagittarius and Sagittarians don’t forget!
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