One Moment In Time

What are the moments we remember?

First Date

First Kiss

First Love

First Romance

First Heartbreak

All the firsts can set the benchmarks for all those meaningful moments that follow. I wonder how many first moments were so perfect that nothing else could compare.

Or is it the last moment that gives us that lingering memory.

Last Date

Last Kiss

Last Love

Last Romance

Last Heartbreak

All of the lasts also give us a benchmark for meaningful moments. I wonder how many last moments give us bittersweet lingering memories.

I’ve found the answer in the lyrics of a favorite song. But, it’s not just one moment but many that as the song puts it have me racing with destiny. I have very little musical talent and am tone deaf. With that said, my use of the song is not for the texture of the song (which is great), but the lyrically of the song that not only makes it suitable for singing but also for living. Let’s take the musicality from the song and add life. The lyrics I wish I had written, but they’re not mine and I have taken liberties in presenting them. They offer answers to my question.

A day to give

The best of me

When I’m more than I thought I could be

When all of my dreams are a heartbeat away

There has been more than “a” day to give the best of me. The best of me was all the firsts. It, however, wasn’t a first kiss, dance or even a love. It was a heartbeat! The best of me was the first day of my marriage listening to my husband's heartbeat as I lay in his arms. This was only surpassed by hearing the heartbeat of each of my children for the first time. These were the days that I gave the “best of me”, even the best of us. These moments in time were my wishes and dreams that made my heart race. Moments that will never happen again but moments I will always have to remember again and again.

And the answers are all up to me

Lay the chance right here in my hands

When I'm racing with destiny

My finest day is yet unknown

Moments in our marriage and the raising of our children were the precious moments when we did hold destiny in our hands. It’s hard to see from moment to moment. Our finest were always a moment away. And, I realize now that is the way it should be. A moment of regret belongs in the past for the future should not be less.

You're a winner for a lifetime
If you seize that one moment in time
Make it shine

My regret is that it took a lifetime to realize that I let precious moments pass me by. Carpe Deim, truly the way to live to feel like a winner for a lifetime. For in one moment of time, a heartbeat away, we can feel eternity. Losing a love in a moment can feel like eternity from that moment on. Moments never happen again.

My celebration of joy – the heartbeat of a marriage and a family. It was A Moment In Time that will never happen again but made me more than I thought I could be. Not a simple answer, but the first moments that were more than I dreamt possible.

Five years later, I find myself searching for memories of my finest moments. It is remembering some of my finest moments that I know they will never happen again and that makes them so very precious. I realize the moments that bring me regret are also important. All memories are important for they show us our strengths and weaknesses. I am strong. I am weak. I have room to improve. I love the all the moments that were my firsts but, my finest is yet to come because that's not all there is. A moment will someday be a memory that brings us pleasure or causes us regret. Live each moment so that it is our gift in the future. Carpe Diem!