When the Entanglements of Love Hurt
Romantic relationships were an area of challenge most of my life. There were times when I thought I was in love and stayed too long in relationships that did not honor me or no longer served me. I have since come to learn that these relationships were merely unconscious entanglements instead of consciously co-committed loving relationships.
The following poem expresses a former experience in my life that if sounds or feels familiar to you, will be an indication that you are in an entanglement and may need to make a different choice.
When Love Hurts
For years you said you loved me
and when I needed you, you would be there;
But when the time came for you to prove it, your actions showed you did not care.
When I went through a stressful period, you said you were available to help me move;
But you kept me waiting whenever I beeped you, it seemed you’re talk was cheap and your love was not true.
You treated me like I was desperate,
you made me feel like I had to beg you
for the help and support you repeatedly offered, for the things you could, but would not do.
I was very hurt and disappointed
to experience how you must have really felt.
After many years you still took me for granted, if this was love
what a poor hand I’d been dealt.
Why couldn’t I let go and close the door
and move on from what we shared in the past
when the friendship that you offered
broke my heart and could not last.
Learning to love yourself and heal life issues are critical to experiencing a healthy consciously loving co-committed intimate relationship. God is love and demonstrates unconditional love through the gift of His son, Jesus Christ, to redeem and reconcile us into right relationship with Him. Learning to know and receive the love of God helped me to identify what love is not, and empowered me break free from non-loving entanglements. Thank you God!