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Winter Memories/Hub Page Challenge

Updated on May 28, 2019
Exactly how that snowy hill looks in my mind today.
Exactly how that snowy hill looks in my mind today. | Source
Actual house in my story, though many years later, minus the snow.
Actual house in my story, though many years later, minus the snow. | Source

I've found I get a bit emotional when I recall my favorite childhood memory. I wouldn't blame you at all if you found it trite, but one man's trash is another man's treasure. What makes anything special? It simply may be that thing doesn't come in abundance. A bowl of oatmeal is treasured by a child who has no food, and a warm bed is heaven to a homeless man.


I don't believe I could persuade you to shed a tear for my childhood. I lacked no material thing. My father was an executive at I.B.M. and my mother, a stay at home mom. We went to church every Sunday and Wednesday; solid folk, you could say. Don't be confused though, normal isn't the cure for dysfunction; I think it's safe to say we weren't perfect. It seems appropriate that my parents had nice homes because we had a lot of walls up in our house. Emotionally stunted might have been an apt description. We laughed though, quite a lot, but we seldom cried. You were allowed, of course, but it was strongly discouraged.


There I was full of emotion with no place to put it so I stuffed it down. Do you want to know what I craved more than anything? Intimacy. I wanted quality time; I wanted to connect with the people around me. I wanted to understand them and thereby understand myself, which caused me to become a very analytical person. To this day, I soak up human emotion and intention far more easily than I do the spoken word.


I loved that home in Danbury, Connecticut at Christmas time. I would come back from school to a roaring fire and a glowing Christmas tree. It was a picture worthy of Currier and Ives. Minivans hadn't been invented yet so no matter where we went we three kids were stuffed into the back of an LTD. That was the closest we ever got.


I was a lot younger than my siblings, the baby so I blamed the distance between us on myself. Why would anyone want to include the obnoxious kid always jabbering on about this or that? I just wanted to feel included, to be wanted. That constant feeling of rejection has followed me for a lifetime.


Then, in 1980, a young man came along and for the first time, I experienced everything I'd been missing. I was only twelve and he was eighteen and he liked my sister. She, didn't return his feelings, but this Christmas, at least; he would make his presence known. My whole memory comes down to one day. One day in my entire life singled out as my greatest childhood memory. And this is all it was...


We dragged a couple of sleds out of the garage and went to a little hill somewhere in Connecticut. I wore my snowsuit, and we all slid down the hill (way too fast) and trudged up the hill (way too slow) over and over again until it got dark. When we returned home we made french bread pizza, something that was new on the scene. Pizza you could make at home! A child's dream come true.



Afterwards, we all gathered in the family room, by the fire, and watched Towering Inferno; a terrible 80's miniseries about people stuck in... well, a towering inferno. The show was not meant for twelve-year-olds, but I didn't pay much attention to the content. I was included; I was a part of something. There were presents by the tree, hot cocoa, and people all around me. I couldn't imagine a day more wonderful if I had designed it myself. That's it; that's all. Silly, isn't it? Sledding, pizza and a bad T.V. show, but it meant the world to me.


Author David McRaney said, "Reality isn't a vacuum where you objectively survey your surroundings. You construct reality from minute to minute with memories and emotions orbiting your sensations and cognition; together they form a collage of consciousness that exists only in your skull."


You have your own special memories too. Maybe they're even more simplistic than mine, or maybe they're so powerful, they could move mountains! It doesn't matter just remember this, no one can take them away from you; they're yours and yours alone. No matter what happens, treasure these memories for as long as you can. They are a part of what makes you who you are, and that makes them worthy of remembrance.

© 2014 Elisabeth Ellis

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    • Sed-me profile imageAUTHOR

      Elisabeth Ellis 

      4 years ago from Nashville, TN.

      Audrey, you are so obviously a writer, because I wanted to hear more about each of those stories you touched on. I do find ppl's stories endlessly interesting. Maybe you will take the winter memory challenge as the weather begins to cool later in the year. :)

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      Audrey Selig 

      4 years ago from Oklahoma City, Oklahoma

      Sed-me I can remember little incidents that were so important in my life. A compliment from a teacher, tipping over in a boat with my boyfriend. my swing in the barn. Your experience mattered, because you felt like you belonged. Your family sounds like my family, except we did cry. Your hub has sentimentality. paints a picture, and tells a poignant story. Thanks for sharing. Blessings, Audrey Sharing

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      Elisabeth Ellis 

      4 years ago from Nashville, TN.

      That was lovely. You almost had a hub of your own there. You ought to expand it a little and write your own. Very touching. :)

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      Caleb DRC 

      4 years ago

      Not silly at all, Sed-me. "Sledding, pizza and a bad TV show." It seems those simple memories are the most cherished, and most remembered. Morning coffee with my Dad , hot chocolate with my Mom, winter walks with my girlfriend, my lovable dog chasing his tail, and greeting me when I came home, moonlight reflecting off the waters of Ketchikan, Alaska, soft music with candle-light, hiding the spatula from Debbie, root beer floats after bucking bails in the hot sun all day, Becky walking to class with me on miserable winter days; tug-of-war with my dog, Pearhead; my sister's pigs-in-a-blanket with frozen hot dogs in the middle, and burned at the ends . . . well, the list is endless, but they all have something in common: simplicity, tranquility, and a touch of melancholy.

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      Elisabeth Ellis 

      4 years ago from Nashville, TN.

      Thank you Suzanne. :)

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      Suzanne Day 

      4 years ago from Melbourne, Victoria, Australia

      I enjoyed reading about your childhood and while I haven't experienced the joy of sledding myself, the pizza and dorky TV shows of the 1980s are fond memories for me too. Voted a "beautiful" piece!

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      Elisabeth Ellis 

      4 years ago from Nashville, TN.

      Thank you Ed. I know if anyone has pockets full of memories, it's you!

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      ahorseback 

      4 years ago

      It is so often these moments of grace , mercy really for some of us , that can actually save us from ourselves ! I have a fairly new friend , a younger woman who works in a medical office , seems to like venting to me about her love life , somehow over a couple of years now we have become friends . I just love to listen to her and she seems to look forward to our occasional visits . It actually does my soul good . Anyway it just feels good to think I'm doing a good thing . Thanks for the reminder ! Awesome memory !........Ed

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      Melody Lassalle 

      4 years ago from California

      I enjoyed reading your memory. It's funny how sometimes it's the little things you remember. Thanks for sharing!

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      Elisabeth Ellis 

      4 years ago from Nashville, TN.

      Thank you Jodah!

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      John Hansen 

      4 years ago from Queensland Australia

      Thank you for sharing this story of your 'special day' Beth. That was a simple yet touching story and a wonderful memory to have. You met the challenge well. Voted up.

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      Elisabeth Ellis 

      4 years ago from Nashville, TN.

      Thank you Phyllis. So sweet of you to comment. :)

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      Phyllis Doyle Burns 

      4 years ago from High desert of Nevada.

      What a lovely memory for you, Beth. It show us that the simple things in life can mean so very much. Yet, this was not a simple thing, it was a day of love and joy for you to treasure always, and that is wonderful. Thank you for sharing that special day with us.

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      Elisabeth Ellis 

      4 years ago from Nashville, TN.

      You're exactly right Lorelei! It's the emotion attached to the situation. Thanks for your comment!

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      Lorelei Cohen 

      4 years ago from Canada

      I love your favorite day memory. To a kid some things are just extraordinary and that is all there is to it. The emotion rather than the situation.

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      Elisabeth Ellis 

      4 years ago from Nashville, TN.

      My pleasure!

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      Faith Reaper 

      4 years ago from southern USA

      Yes, you did it! Oh, thank you for also linking my hub about my mother. You are so kind to do that!

      God bless you.

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      Jackie Lynnley 

      4 years ago from The Beautiful South

      You got it; just takes practice. You can get the link from the top of the page too; I do, seems easier to me.

      Now maybe we can get more winter memories rolling. I have several promises of some so am sure they are working on those.

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      Elisabeth Ellis 

      4 years ago from Nashville, TN.

      Thank you Faith, Im trying to figure out the linking thing right now. :)

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      Faith Reaper 

      4 years ago from southern USA

      Oh, thank you so much for sharing of your winter memories here in Jackie's Winter Memories Challenge! Your story is truly beautifully written and I can relate too. When we feel truly part of something, even our family, it is a wonderful feeling and such memories never leave us. I do understand about some families not showing too much emotion, such as crying. I held in a lot too growing up.

      Keith seems to have been like a breath of fresh air for you and your family to loosen up a bit and just have a bit of fun and be carefree. I am so glad God sent Keith into your family that winter, and that it made a lasting impact in your life.

      Beautiful share.

      Up ++++ tweeting, pinning, G+ and sharing

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      Elisabeth Ellis 

      4 years ago from Nashville, TN.

      I appreciate your kind words so much. Thank you Oceans!

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      Paula 

      4 years ago from The Midwest, USA

      Hi Beth, I really liked your story of the memory of fun in the snow, and time with others. That is awesome! I don't think it weird or strange at all, and understand. You share some transparency too, that is neat because we all have families with their own faults. Life is precious and short, and full of all kinds of things. Your story is inspiring, thanks for sharing it. It sounds like a really fun and special time. It makes me smile, that it makes you so happy! Loved it. :)

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      Elisabeth Ellis 

      4 years ago from Nashville, TN.

      Thank you Mary! I do hope you'll write your memories.I think they make the best stories. I would love to read yours.

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      Mary Hyatt 

      4 years ago from Florida

      I loved your story! I have wonderful memories, too. I had a wonderful childhood full of love. We were poor in money, but rich in other ways. I am still thinking of writing a winter memory, too, if I can find the time.

      Voted this UP, etc. and shared.

    • Sed-me profile imageAUTHOR

      Elisabeth Ellis 

      4 years ago from Nashville, TN.

      Oh, ok... thanks so much. And thanks for the idea. It's nice to remember.

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      Jackie Lynnley 

      4 years ago from The Beautiful South

      oops and I will link you on my challenge so all who do it will be there and you are the first as far as I know!

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      Jackie Lynnley 

      4 years ago from The Beautiful South

      A very beautiful memory, Beth. I often will have a memory pop in that means absolutely nothing but somehow emotionally it must have and I don't recall that part. I would guess this was an emotional day for you and perhaps your first for things to be out of the norm and as you say; you were included as a part. Maybe a first step at growing up?

      Thanks so much for sharing and I will share this too for many to read and enjoy! Maybe they will share their story too!

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