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Following FlyLady's BabySteps: Day 2

Updated on May 11, 2011
She wants me to wear WHAT?!?!
She wants me to wear WHAT?!?! | Source

Empowered by our shiny sinks, my friend and I felt ready to tackle Day Two of FlyLady‘s BabySteps. Not sure what to expect, I hesitantly clicked on Day Two. “Get dressed to lace up shoes.” The instructions were simple, get up and get ready to go first thing in the morning, shoes and all. We had to laugh. This was something we both felt pretty confident that we could do.

I was curious as to why she used the word “lace up” when describing shoes. Luckily for me, I found the answer pretty easily by just perusing her website.

“Putting shoes on your feet that lace up are better than slip-ons or sandals, because they are harder to take off. Instead of kicking your shoes off for a quick snooze on the couch, you actually have to go to a bit more trouble. Maybe in that short instant you will realize that there is something more that you can do. With shoes on those feet of yours, your mind says "OK", it's time to go to work.” ~FlyLady

Ok, I can understand that concept. She also goes on to say that with shoes on your feet, you are ready to go in a moments notice. If you get a call from your child’s school to pick them up or a friend wanting to have lunch, you are ready to go, shoes and all. Whoa! She really lost me there. My inner skeptic was creeping in again. There is not a chance I would EVER, and I mean EVER wear lace up shoes in public. Here’s what FlyLady says about why wearing shoes is important.

“Several years ago I worked for a direct sales cosmetics company. One main rule for that company was that you could not make a single phone call in the morning unless you were totally dressed, and I mean really dressed! All the way to dress shoes. The reason behind this duty was that you act different when you have clothes and shoes on. You are more professional. The customer can tell when you don't feel good about the way you look. Even when you think you do. So if getting dressed makes that big of an impression on someone that can't even see you, then what is going to happen to those that can see you. Mainly yourself.” ~FlyLady

If the shoes are supposed to make me act different and feel better about myself, wearing lace up shoes is not going to do it for me. Let me break this down a bit. When I think of lace up shoes, I think of tennis shoes, nursing shoes, or orthopedic shoes. Since I am not a nurse or person in need of orthopedic shoes, I would be stuck with tennis shoes. UGH! I don’t wear tennis shoes. I don’t like the way they look. I think that the shoes make the outfit, and tennis shoes really don’t compliment any outfit.

This is my personal preference, but in an effort to give this program a chance I decided to do a little experiment. Maybe I was wrong, maybe you could look put together wearing lace up shoes. For all I knew, the whole world was running around in lace up shoes, and I was the freak. So, when I went to our local discount store to do my grocery shopping, I took 20 minutes before I walked in the store to people watch. I saw 122 women walk in the store in that time frame. Keep in mind, this was on Saturday afternoon when most people are dressed as they pleased, not for work. So…what did I learn?

  • Contrary to what I believed, yes, people can look put together when wearing lace up shoes.
  • At least 90% of the people wearing lace up shoes were wearing T-shirts or sweatshirts. Its not my style, and I’m sure its not the style of many women out there.
  • I also saw that over half of the women did not have lace up shoes on their feet. So, I‘m not the only one who chooses not to wear laces.

Can I continue on with these BabySteps with out lace up shoes? I guess we are about to find out…..

This time of year, flip flops are more my style, but I settled for some knee high zip up boots.
This time of year, flip flops are more my style, but I settled for some knee high zip up boots. | Source


I rolled out of bed at about 8:30. Before I did anything else, I showered, got dressed, did my hair and make up, and then I had to decide on my shoes. I don’t own any lace up shoes, so I opted for my knee high boots. I figured it was a comprise. FlyLady said that lace up shoes were not as easy to take off, and these boots would not be come off with out an effort. Quickly zipping up the boots and giving the mirror a grin, I realized that I was ready to go. Go where? I thought. Downstairs, I guess.

I have to admit, I was pretty excited to go downstairs to see my shiny sink. So, it goes with out saying that I felt disappointed to walk into the kitchen to find my sink littered with breakfast dishes. I didn’t hesitate though, I threw the dishes in the dishwasher and shined and dried the sink. I didn’t do it because I was wearing shoes though, I did it because I wanted to see the sink.

I texted my friend to make sure she was up and dressed, she was already out “dishing” with her family.

When we talked that night, we both were excited to tell the other that we still had shiny sinks. We agreed that even though the steps themselves may not seem that much, we felt a sense of accomplishment. Day Two complete!

Looking at the second day of BabySteps, I understand what the FlyLady is trying to accomplish with these first simple steps. Getting up and getting ready, DOES make you feel ready to tackle the day. A shiny sink, DOES give you a sense of accomplishment. Who knew?

The real question is….am I going to run out and buy some lace up shoes…absolutely not!


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    • Krysanthe profile imageAUTHOR

      Kathy Hull 

      9 years ago from Bloomington, Illinois

      @grounded flylady. What I love the most about FlyLady's method is that she breaks all housework done into small steps that are easy to manage. It helps keep me motivated. Its easy for me to spend 15 minutes a day managing my clutter, but for me to just walk into a room and say..."I'm going to clean this"...Well that would overwhelm me. I recommend trying the BabySteps, they are truly wonderful.

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      grounded flylady 

      9 years ago

      I hate to vacuum- it takes very little time/ but I hate to vacuum... growing up we had to move every stinking piece of furniture, and vacuum behind them. even moving the TV!!!! of course all the knick knacks had to be washed and put back... this meant hours... why can't I just seem to find the time to vacuum for 15 minutes with out dreading this soooo much... I know I am weird... How do I get motivated??? got to go to work... and there are piles in my living room... paper piles... my husbands- how do i get around them- they make the whole house look messy... the whole downstairs is one huge room...

    • Krysanthe profile imageAUTHOR

      Kathy Hull 

      10 years ago from Bloomington, Illinois

      LOL Moms-Secret. I was to intimated to look into the future when I started. I never could get into the lace-ups, but I do rock my boots or flip-flops all the time.

      I will NEVER have a sparkling mansion, but I'm like you I want a home where people can drop by and I don't feel humiliated by the mess.

      I think being overwhelmed with house work tends to put a dark cloud over you. Sometimes so much that I don't know where to start, so I do nothing. The one thing both my friend and I have noticed since we've started these BabySteps is that we can get what we "have" to do done pretty easily, feel like we've accomplished something and then if we want, do nothing the rest of the day. But we don't...we each do a little bit more than required. Seeing results makes us feel better, and its contagious, we want to do more.

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      10 years ago from Central Florida

      I rock my shape ups. They are a lace up but they don't behave like sneakers and they are good for your butt! Awesome bonus!!

      I admit, I cheated. I read 1 and 2 the same day, BUT I am off to shine my sink and I have to chaperone a school trip early tomorrow. 2nd grade requires lace up! So technically, I am right on track.

      I don't want a sparkling mansion, but if people dropped in, I'm skrewed! Am I allowed to say that here? Anyway, I am not the complexy type, so I would get over it, but I do not want the clutter anymore. It was fine when I worked but I stopped late last month.

      You ever notice how housework frustration seems to just pour out of you? Long comment... :) If this works, they are bound to get smaller...I hope.

    • Krysanthe profile imageAUTHOR

      Kathy Hull 

      10 years ago from Bloomington, Illinois

      FlyLady would love you...they lace up.

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      10 years ago

      I'll stick with my lace up steel toes, thank you very much!

    • pandora99 profile image


      10 years ago from Charles Town, West Virginia

      Of course...I have very good taste.

    • Krysanthe profile imageAUTHOR

      Kathy Hull 

      10 years ago from Bloomington, Illinois

      Oh my! They so better be cute...just sayin'

    • pandora99 profile image


      10 years ago from Charles Town, West Virginia

      LOL...I am so sending you lace up shoes for a present. :)


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