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Why do men cheat?

Updated on September 21, 2008

Men or Many?

I think the correct question here should be why do spouses cheat? It is becoming more and more known that the infidelity rate of women are on the rise as well. Rather than blaming one specific gender, I think we would better benefit to address infidelity from both sides.

I have seen so much emphasis today put on making the most important thing in maintaining a relationship on the sexual activities. I honestly think that it is this strong emphasis on sex in todays society that enfluences and breeds infidelity. All you see in the media is the importance of being sexually active. Before you begin to throw stones at me, let me explain what I mean by that statement.

There used to be a day when infidelity, whether it was by the male or by the female, was severely frowned upon as being totally unacceptable behavior in society. As years have passed, we have gone from this point to the stage of "oh, it's just a phase of life" to flat out making excuses for this type of behavior. I have heard every excuse in the book from boys will be boys to oh, someone at home isn't taking care of "business" to it's mid-life crisis.

Give me a break! Here is the plain honest facts. People put so much emphasis on physical attraction today that they are totally oblivious to all the other wonderful aspects of marriage! They are so concerned over how many years they will be able to be sexually active that they never see all of the "little things" that come along with a relationship.

So, why do people cheat? Because they fail to see the overall picture of "til death do us part". No matter who you are, no matter how sexually active you are, no matter how great the sex life is in the beginning of a relationship, over time, that phase of your relationship will slow down and there darn well better be something else in your relationship that is more important or the marriage is doomed!

If couples put half as much effort into love, respect, trust, honor....building a long-lasting relationship full of wonderful memories than they do on keeping their sex life alive, the divorce rate would plummet!

Don't get me wrong, sex is a wonderful thing. But if it is made to be the most important thing in your relationship then when it is no longer living up to your expectations, you will forget about all of the other important things in your marriage and seek "greener grass" in another pasture!

Infidelity is not a disease. It is a choice. Until people begin to take responsibility for their own actions instead of making excuses for it and start choosing to focus on what is more important to a longer lasting relationship then the divorce rate and infidelity will continue to spread faster than the spam Viagra and Cialis emails that plague my inbox by the hundreds! It is time to focus on building true, lasting relationships rather than worrying about how many more "rolls in the hey" you have left in this life!

Bonnie Ramsey


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      alyssa 6 years ago

      It really is amazing how much sex is brought up I have run though so many relationships because it seemed like it was all sex I love sex don't get me wrong but even at 20 sex gets old many ppl my age just are sex sex sex I find myself going for older men that are ready to settle down and think about walks and building family and a home and doing things together. Ppl thing sex is the glue I have learned its kids glue it sticks but can be pulled apart I'm glad I have found the super glue before things turn for the worst

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      Bonnie Ramsey 10 years ago from United States

      I must certainly agree with MrMarmalade! Thanks for stopping by!


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      MrMarmalade 10 years ago from Sydney

      I think you are very correct in thinking about taking commitments seriously.

      Lots of people do not know whate commitment is

      Thank you

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      Bonnie Ramsey 10 years ago from United States

      Thanks to all for your comments. I have been a victim of infidelity in the past so I know the damage it can do for your self-esteem. Especially when you have people all around you insinuating that it is your fault. I believe if people took their commitments more seriously this would help many marriages last. Just my humble opinion.

      Thanks again!


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      Prince Maak 10 years ago from Just Above the EARTH and below the SKY

      Excellent, a gud hub indeed.

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      Compu-Smart 10 years ago from London UK

      So it's not a disease!!:P

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      Whitney 10 years ago from Georgia

      "Infidelity is not a disease. It is a choice" I LOVE that quote!